mack
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Post by mack on Jun 4, 2018 8:59:45 GMT -6
I thought the reception was to celebrate the couple. It's their day, not your day. So if they don't drink, why would they necessarily spend thousands of dollars for their guests to? I am not sure why I am WKing this. I am team #openbar. I am just saying I can see how it would not be a priority for some. It is to celebrate the couple, but I think the ceremony is to celebrate the couples union and the reception is to receive the couple as married into society. Like the old school way. Anyways, the couple is the host of the party, therefore it’s their responsibility to provide the food and refreshments. Refreshments=/=booze
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Cher
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Post by Cher on Jun 4, 2018 9:00:16 GMT -6
The closest I came to a cash bar was a wedding in the south of France. Which, I know. L-O-L. I forget all the details because #drunk so jaidit can probably tell me what I’m mis-telling. But the weddings there go all night. So around 3am, they said they ran out of wine. At which point, my family and friends were basically throwing Euros at them. Then, surprise! More wine was produced. I’m pretty sure from that point until the morning, we bought bottles of wine. The French people at the wedding said that was pretty standard. So, just like a Midwest wedding, right?
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Post by pobre on Jun 4, 2018 9:00:20 GMT -6
I don't have a problem with a dry reception. No alcohol is available, no problem. I have a problem for guests paying for anything. Nah. I at least want the option to get hammered.
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Post by fancynewbeesly on Jun 4, 2018 9:00:36 GMT -6
Speaking of weddings we had the cocktail hour before the ceremony. It was open bar of course. It was the best. Of there were drunks at the ceremony. But I did like the order of it.
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Post by justbecause on Jun 4, 2018 9:01:17 GMT -6
A mom at preschool drop off was telling the teacher that she didn’t realize that she should put sunscreen on her kids while playing outside all day. To explain her severely sunburnt 2 and 5 year olds. Poor babies! Do not buy this. If it were your first kid maybe but you have two? Nope. My story would have to be either a) I was lazy or b) I forgot. These are her step kids. her two kids didn’t burn because “they never burn! So I never sunscreen them!” I guess it’s her first summer with the step kids and she never sunscreens her own kids so she just assumed that they would not need it either? The little girl was crying and had to go to the doctor from her sunburn.
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Post by Cher on Jun 4, 2018 9:01:33 GMT -6
I don't have a problem with a dry reception. No alcohol is available, no problem. I have a problem for guests paying for anything. Nah. I at least want the option to get hammered. This. If I have to, I’ll pay for my bad decisions. But if you’re not even giving me the option, I’m mad.
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Post by gussie on Jun 4, 2018 9:02:14 GMT -6
99% of the weddings I have been to have been for MH's side and they are all clones of each other. That venue won't even do a cash bar.
On my side, I've been to a dry wedding and a beer and wine only wedding. Dry wedding was not fun, there was no dancing and everyone left after dinner.
Eta. The venue they do the weddings at have premium open bar only is what I was trying to say.
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Post by pobre on Jun 4, 2018 9:02:55 GMT -6
God bless curbside grocery pickup.
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jaidit
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Post by jaidit on Jun 4, 2018 9:03:00 GMT -6
The closest I came to a cash bar was a wedding in the south of France. Which, I know. L-O-L. I forget all the details because #drunk so jaidit can probably tell me what I’m mis-telling. But the weddings there go all night. So around 3am, they said they ran out of wine. At which point, my family and friends were basically throwing Euros at them. Then, surprise! More wine was produced. I’m pretty sure from that point until the morning, we bought bottles of wine. The French people at the wedding said that was pretty standard. So, just like a Midwest wedding, right? See, this is why FIL was team all the wine at our wedding. At SIL’s wedding, the red wine ran out before the cheese course. His family still talks about, and shakes their head each time. It was 8 years ago 😂 We over purchased, but had drinks flowing until 6 am. Plus, we didn’t have to buy wine for 6 months after the wedding. So, win win.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 4, 2018 9:04:12 GMT -6
Our final girl scout meeting of the year was supposed to be today but we pushed it out until Saturday. The girls get to learn how to "camp" by setting up a tent and doing some other camp chores. I am so ready for this year to be over.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 4, 2018 9:04:46 GMT -6
The venue I held my wedding at had this awesome contract with a guy who supplied all the booze, you paid for everything that was open. But then he’s buy back the unopened bottles. It was perfect.
We took the opened bottles and had a party out on the deck adjacent from the hotel pool the next day.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 4, 2018 9:05:00 GMT -6
Do not buy this. If it were your first kid maybe but you have two? Nope. My story would have to be either a) I was lazy or b) I forgot. These are her step kids. her two kids didn’t burn because “they never burn! So I never sunscreen them!” I guess it’s her first summer with the step kids and she never sunscreens her own kids so she just assumed that they would not need it either? The little girl was crying and had to go to the doctor from her sunburn. Wow.
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Post by fosterlove on Jun 4, 2018 9:05:34 GMT -6
I've been to many Midwest weddings and none of them had cash bars. I've only ever experienced cash bar events at kids' birthday parties. I have been to a wedding where reception was 5 hrs, but cash bar the last hour! wut?? This could have happened at ours- We set an amount that we could afford for alcohol. So, they would come let us know when we went got to X amount. Luckily, by the time we got to X amount, we were drunk enough that we were no longer concerned with our budget. But in theory, we would have switched once we had spent a certain amount.
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Post by gussie on Jun 4, 2018 9:06:45 GMT -6
Our wedding venue had a price that included alcohol, but at the end of the night they tried to give us a higher bill because our guests drank so much. Luckily my dad lawyered that away on the spot.
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Post by Cher on Jun 4, 2018 9:06:51 GMT -6
jaidit oh ok, that makes sense. So the b+g buy their own wine for the wedding? Nobody was mad there but it was 3am and everyone was well on their way to destruction. I bet if it was earlier in the night, people would have burned it down too. This is one of my H’s cousins that live in Europe and our family likes to drink.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 4, 2018 9:07:17 GMT -6
Nah. I at least want the option to get hammered. This. If I have to, I’ll pay for my bad decisions. But if you’re not even giving me the option, I’m mad. Agreed. There are few weddings I could happily go to without at least a glass or two of wine. I respect the decision and all, but I am not going to be happy about it.
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Post by cribs on Jun 4, 2018 9:07:19 GMT -6
I had a ten minute ceremony and six hour open bar.
I bought the alcohol at wholesale and the caterer served it. Super cheap.
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Post by justbecause on Jun 4, 2018 9:07:28 GMT -6
My wedding was tacky but I have a giant family and a $6000 budget so it was what it was.
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Post by heybulldog on Jun 4, 2018 9:08:20 GMT -6
I have only ever been to one cash bar wedding. It was open for the first hour, I think. I can’t recall because I used all MH’s cash to get drunk.
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cribs
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Post by cribs on Jun 4, 2018 9:08:22 GMT -6
My venue cost 500. It was on a beach granted a great lake beach but if you didn't know you better it looks like the ocean
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Post by jaidit on Jun 4, 2018 9:09:25 GMT -6
jaidit oh ok, that makes sense. So the b+g buy their own wine for the wedding? Nobody was mad there but it was 3am and everyone was well on their way to destruction. I bet if it was earlier in the night, people would have burned it down too. This is one of my H’s cousins that live in Europe and our family likes to drink. All inclusive weddings really aren’t a thing here, they are more for tourists having destination weddings in chateaux or whatever. Most of the time, the reception is low key and you buy your own alcohol.
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Post by Cher on Jun 4, 2018 9:10:14 GMT -6
There’s a bunch of venues owned by the same group in Philly that’s basically a one stop shop for weddings. They do everything for you so it’s really attractive to people. Anyway, one of the things they usually do is a two hour cocktail hour. I always forget that ... until I’m 90 minutes into the cocktail hour and wondering when I can sit down.
Every time I go to a wedding there, it’s a disaster.
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Post by goldenbird on Jun 4, 2018 9:18:46 GMT -6
A mom at preschool drop off was telling the teacher that she didn’t realize that she should put sunscreen on her kids while playing outside all day. To explain her severely sunburnt 2 and 5 year olds. Poor babies! Wut. I am judging this mom.
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Post by Bubblegum on Jun 4, 2018 9:19:19 GMT -6
It's called cocktail HOUR for a reason. 90 minute cocktail time just doesn't have the same charm. Also hard pass on 90 minutes of standing around waiting for dinner.
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Post by Bookshelves on Jun 4, 2018 9:19:41 GMT -6
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Post by goldenbird on Jun 4, 2018 9:22:01 GMT -6
Do not buy this. If it were your first kid maybe but you have two? Nope. My story would have to be either a) I was lazy or b) I forgot. These are her step kids. her two kids didn’t burn because “they never burn! So I never sunscreen them!” I guess it’s her first summer with the step kids and she never sunscreens her own kids so she just assumed that they would not need it either? The little girl was crying and had to go to the doctor from her sunburn. Good lord. Even kids who don't get burned easily need sunscreen. That's terrible.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 4, 2018 9:24:14 GMT -6
It's called cocktail HOUR for a reason. 90 minute cocktail time just doesn't have the same charm. Also hard pass on 90 minutes of standing around waiting for dinner. Especially in heels.
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Post by goldenbird on Jun 4, 2018 9:24:50 GMT -6
We provided beer and wine at our wedding. It seemed to work out fine. We elected not to have any liquor because we weren't planning to party it up. We were gone by 8:30pm lol.
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Post by frantastic on Jun 4, 2018 9:25:27 GMT -6
It's called cocktail HOUR for a reason. 90 minute cocktail time just doesn't have the same charm. Also hard pass on 90 minutes of standing around waiting for dinner. A 90min cocktail hour was our solution for dealing with a Catholic gap.
But we had heavy apps and a fully stocked open bar.
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Post by Bubblegum on Jun 4, 2018 9:26:51 GMT -6
It's called cocktail HOUR for a reason. 90 minute cocktail time just doesn't have the same charm. Also hard pass on 90 minutes of standing around waiting for dinner. A 90min cocktail hour was our solution for dealing with a Catholic gap.
But we had heavy apps and a fully stocked open bar.
What is a Catholic gap?
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