ttcbabyj
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Post by ttcbabyj on May 31, 2018 9:45:57 GMT -6
Call it what you want...but it’s not cool to send a blank ‘thank you’ card. And you assumed they did it to be a jerk vs accidentally putting the wrong card in the envelope? She said “I didn’t have anything to say.” Trust me I know my family.
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Post by Bubblegum on May 31, 2018 9:46:19 GMT -6
Is RSVPing to an event unpopular now? Brought to you by the mom that sent out 15 invitations to a party and got zero replies. Unfortunately yes. I ran into a few parents at dropoff/pickup and basically cornered them into giving me a response. Does this mean no one from his preschool is coming? I assume no rsvp means not coming. I'm sad for my kid now.
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Cher
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Post by Cher on May 31, 2018 9:46:44 GMT -6
After what happened to my sister, I will never allow a house cleaner to be in my house alone. This is very much a true story. I mean ... this is gross. And very much the most special of circumstances. But if you’re afraid of housekeepers because you think they’re gaining your trust, waiting for the perfect moment to bang it out and bleed on your sheets, KOKO.
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Post by GhoatMonket on May 31, 2018 9:46:59 GMT -6
What you did is downright cunty. You are not a better person for what you did. But you think you are. I never said I was better person. You’re taking this way too serious. I would much rather call out a friend or family member than talk shit about them behind their backs. You’re right passive aggressive is much better. 👌🏾 LOL at passive. Your smug is quite clear. Only a holier than thou bitch would do what you did.
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Post by shadows on May 31, 2018 9:47:05 GMT -6
Is RSVPing to an event unpopular now? Brought to you by the mom that sent out 15 invitations to a party and got zero replies. This always happens here, and it is so frustrating. Do I need food for 5 people or 20? I don't know, so I end up with tons of leftovers. I think this is regional, though.
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Post by bobyn on May 31, 2018 9:47:21 GMT -6
And you assumed they did it to be a jerk vs accidentally putting the wrong card in the envelope? She said “I didn’t have anything to say.” Trust me I know my family. Yikes. Would you have been more upset if she didn't send anything at all?
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Post by tater on May 31, 2018 9:47:30 GMT -6
I graduate high school in 2002. Today on fb, a former classmate posted a throwback pic from high school writing “Back when everything wasn’t so goddamn political people didn’t get butt hurt over a few nasty words. The good times!!” And another girl quotes 2pac and that children weren’t growing up in such a hateful world then. I needed to retrieve my eyeballs from the next state over. Columbine happened our freshman year, kids dropped out left and right from bullying, and we were 98% white. So sure, maybe in your bubble it was all good times. It took everything in me to not respond and remembered why I’m not friends with anyone from my high school. Adults who post HS pics on FB are the wooorst. Why is that? Some people remember high school fondly.
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ttcbabyj
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Post by ttcbabyj on May 31, 2018 9:48:52 GMT -6
Cher I’m super serious about ‘thank you’ cards. I have been known to send back a horrible thank you card and write ‘do better.’ DH and my family knows they can get away with sending subpar thank you cards to everyone, but me. I guess I’m old school. 🤷🏽♀️ I would solve this easily by never inviting you to anything again. So your husband has to hand write you thank you cards? I could see doing it on occasion and it would be really sweet, but as a requirement I'm a little put off. That is fine. If you can’t find the time to write a decent thank card, I’m not missing out. That was a typo I meant DH’s family and my family. No DH doesn’t have to write me a thank you card.
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Post by RajahMD on May 31, 2018 9:49:13 GMT -6
Cher I’m super serious about ‘thank you’ cards. I have been known to send back a horrible thank you card and write ‘do better.’ DH and my family knows they can get away with sending subpar thank you cards to everyone, but me. I guess I’m old school. 🤷🏽♀️ This may be the most passive aggressive thing I've ever read here.
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Post by AnnPerkins on May 31, 2018 9:49:41 GMT -6
Is RSVPing to an event unpopular now? Brought to you by the mom that sent out 15 invitations to a party and got zero replies. people are generally the worst about this. I don't understand why.
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ttcbabyj
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Post by ttcbabyj on May 31, 2018 9:50:52 GMT -6
She said “I didn’t have anything to say.” Trust me I know my family. Yikes. Would you have been more upset if she didn't send anything at all? Actually no. It was just super lazy to send a blank card to everyone who brought gifts and came to celebrate with you.
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Post by nenarene on May 31, 2018 9:50:56 GMT -6
Is RSVPing to an event unpopular now? Brought to you by the mom that sent out 15 invitations to a party and got zero replies. I don't think ignoring RSVP's is a recent thing. I've heard people complaining about this for years and years.
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Post by Bubblegum on May 31, 2018 9:51:18 GMT -6
Ok so no rsvp means not coming? Can someone confirm this for me please?
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Cher
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Post by Cher on May 31, 2018 9:51:35 GMT -6
What you did is downright cunty. You are not a better person for what you did. But you think you are. I never said I was better person. You’re taking this way too serious. I would much rather call out a friend or family member than talk shit about them behind their backs. You’re right passive aggressive is much better. 👌🏾 Meh. I’d rather vent to my internet friends, get a few hairpats that I’m ok in my feelings, poof and release it and love on my college BFF the next time I see her. I really try not to burn it down over the small stuff. She sucks at thank you cards, but she’s awesome at blacking out, talking in a British accent and telling people she’s a socialite visiting for the summer. The good outweighs the bad so I can’t get it up to throw down over the card, just be hurt over it for a few days and keep it moving.
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Post by lolacachia on May 31, 2018 9:51:39 GMT -6
I can't stand when people don't RSVP. I extended an invitation to you. Acknowledge it.
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Post by GhoatMonket on May 31, 2018 9:51:59 GMT -6
I would solve this easily by never inviting you to anything again. So your husband has to hand write you thank you cards? I could see doing it on occasion and it would be really sweet, but as a requirement I'm a little put off. That is fine. If you can’t find the time to write a decent thank card, I’m not missing out. That was a typo I meant DH’s family and my family. No DH doesn’t have to write me a thank you card. Clearly you think you are if you would send it back.
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Post by hufflepug on May 31, 2018 9:52:25 GMT -6
Cher I’m super serious about ‘thank you’ cards. I have been known to send back a horrible thank you card and write ‘do better.’ DH and my family knows they can get away with sending subpar thank you cards to everyone, but me. I guess I’m old school. 🤷🏽♀️ This is more rude than not sending a thank you at all. I guarantee if you did that it would be the last gift any person in your household ever received from me. I know I've said this here before but if you ar giving a gift to get a thank you note in return, you're doing it wrong.
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Post by smilesp on May 31, 2018 9:52:33 GMT -6
Adults who post HS pics on FB are the wooorst. Why is that? Some people remember high school fondly. That’s fine but they never post a picture of just themselves. Then they tag everyone in it. I don’t have necessarily bad feelings about HS but I don’t want a public pic of me at my most awkward shared on FB without my consent.
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ttcbabyj
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Post by ttcbabyj on May 31, 2018 9:52:44 GMT -6
Cher I’m super serious about ‘thank you’ cards. I have been known to send back a horrible thank you card and write ‘do better.’ DH and my family knows they can get away with sending subpar thank you cards to everyone, but me. I guess I’m old school. 🤷🏽♀️ This may be the most passive aggressive thing I've ever read here. No, passive aggressive is talking shit about the lazy thank you card.
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Post by lolacachia on May 31, 2018 9:52:45 GMT -6
I never said I was better person. You’re taking this way too serious. I would much rather call out a friend or family member than talk shit about them behind their backs. You’re right passive aggressive is much better. 👌🏾 Meh. I’d rather vent to my internet friends, get a few hairpats that I’m ok in my feelings, poof and release it and love on my college BFF the next time I see her. I really try not to burn it down over the small stuff. She sucks at thank you cards, but she’s awesome at blacking out, talking in a British accent and telling people she’s a socialite visiting for the summer. The good outweighs the bad so I can’t get it up to throw down over the card, just be hurt over it for a few days and keep it moving. You're lucky that you are such a fun drunk, Susan.
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Post by elodin on May 31, 2018 9:52:47 GMT -6
I graduate high school in 2002. Today on fb, a former classmate posted a throwback pic from high school writing “Back when everything wasn’t so goddamn political people didn’t get butt hurt over a few nasty words. The good times!!” And another girl quotes 2pac and that children weren’t growing up in such a hateful world then. I needed to retrieve my eyeballs from the next state over. Columbine happened our freshman year, kids dropped out left and right from bullying, and we were 98% white. So sure, maybe in your bubble it was all good times. It took everything in me to not respond and remembered why I’m not friends with anyone from my high school. Adults who post HS pics on FB are the wooorst. I don't really talk to people I went to high school with beyond keeping up with them on FB. But I like it when they post old candid pictures of us. They've never been accompanied by a rant about how it was the good old days though. Because fuck that. I couldn't wait to get out of high school.
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Post by GhoatMonket on May 31, 2018 9:52:51 GMT -6
Yikes. Would you have been more upset if she didn't send anything at all? Actually no. It was just super lazy to send a blank card to everyone who brought gifts and came to celebrate with you. Maybe she just did it to you because they know about you.
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Post by Cher on May 31, 2018 9:53:27 GMT -6
I’m not going to allow the fear of someone having sex in my bed while they’re on their period hinder me from getting a cleaning lady if I can ever afford it. Nope, shan’t. Anecdote: my cleaning lady has never had bloody sex on my bed!
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Post by GhoatMonket on May 31, 2018 9:53:31 GMT -6
Why is that? Some people remember high school fondly. That’s fine but they never post a picture of just themselves. Then they tag everyone in it. I don’t have necessarily bad feelings about HS but I don’t want a public pic of me at my most awkward shared on FB without my consent. Stop projecting your own issues on the population as a whole.
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Post by tipsyturvy on May 31, 2018 9:53:49 GMT -6
Cher I’m super serious about ‘thank you’ cards. I have been known to send back a horrible thank you card and write ‘do better.’ DH and my family knows they can get away with sending subpar thank you cards to everyone, but me. I guess I’m old school. 🤷🏽♀️ nope nope nope nope nope A gift is sent with no strings, no expectations of anything....It's a GIFT ! a thank you acknowledgement should be sent to the giver, but you have NO right to judge how or if they respond! So it's okay for gift recipient to send back YOUR gift as unacceptable or "do better" if I follow your logic?
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Post by piratecat on May 31, 2018 9:54:10 GMT -6
I ran into a few parents at dropoff/pickup and basically cornered them into giving me a response. Does this mean no one from his preschool is coming? I assume no rsvp means not coming. I'm sad for my kid now. The few non-immediate-family we invited for my kid's first birthday party never responded but most of them were planning on coming when we texted them about it a couple of days before the party. Based on that one limited experience I wouldn't assume one way or the other.
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Post by nenarene on May 31, 2018 9:54:33 GMT -6
Why is that? Some people remember high school fondly. That’s fine but they never post a picture of just themselves. Then they tag everyone in it. I don’t have necessarily bad feelings about HS but I don’t want a public pic of me at my most awkward shared on FB without my consent. That's why I have my FB set up so that any tags or posts to my wall have to be approved by me first.
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Post by RajahMD on May 31, 2018 9:54:44 GMT -6
This may be the most passive aggressive thing I've ever read here. No, passive aggressive is talking shit about the lazy thank you card. Yeah, you can argue over terminology, but you're the on in the wrong here.
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Post by ttcbabyj on May 31, 2018 9:54:50 GMT -6
I never said I was better person. You’re taking this way too serious. I would much rather call out a friend or family member than talk shit about them behind their backs. You’re right passive aggressive is much better. 👌🏾 Meh. I’d rather vent to my internet friends, get a few hairpats that I’m ok in my feelings, poof and release it and love on my college BFF the next time I see her. I really try not to burn it down over the small stuff. She sucks at thank you cards, but she’s awesome at blacking out, talking in a British accent and telling people she’s a socialite visiting for the summer. The good outweighs the bad so I can’t get it up to throw down over the card, just be hurt over it for a few days and keep it moving. I wasn’t addressing my comment at your behavior. I was talking about how in my family folks would just talk about something they don’t like behind another person’s back. We don’t know your friend so I think it’s different to vent here.
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Post by RajahMD on May 31, 2018 9:55:05 GMT -6
I’m not going to allow the fear of someone having sex in my bed while they’re on their period hinder me from getting a cleaning lady if I can ever afford it. Nope, shan’t. Anecdote: my cleaning lady has never had bloody sex on my bed! Mine either! *high five*
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