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Post by vvvvvfee on May 15, 2018 9:04:03 GMT -6
RE second kids- DS1 was/is incredibly high needs and basically did not sleep for the first year. DS2 was soooooo mellow and barely made a peep! of course he woke up to nurse several times a night but he would go right back to sleep after. so there is hope! also you will feel like an expert with your 2nd. it just doesn't stress you out the same way. so my mother's day was nice until the evening, when DS1 decided that he didn't want DS2 to get in our recliner (which DS1 wasn't even SITTING IN) and so he threw himself down with all his weight on DS2's forearm. DS2 immediately started grimacing, whimper-crying, and clutching his arm. we were really afraid he had broken it. of course all the urgent care places had just closed, so we had to go to the emergency room. luckily we were in and out in an hour. and luckily it was not broken. but he still wouldn't use his arm yesterday, so the pediatrician told us to follow up with an orthopedist-- who had to struggle not to roll his eyes about my toddler's hurty boo-boo, lol (it didn't help that DS2 was basically rearranging all the furniture in the room and giggling when he came in)... anyway, he needs time to heal but it's probably just a soft tissue injury. it is really sad watching DS2 do everything with one arm, though.
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Post by PennyCandy on May 15, 2018 9:04:14 GMT -6
My belly looks sunburned and it blistered at the edges where the tape was. It's itchy and sore. I guess I won't be doing that again.
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Post by sasam on May 15, 2018 9:20:42 GMT -6
I'm definitely scared of the newborn/baby stage. The lack of sleep is going to suck. I'm hoping I can actually make myself nap when he does. But in general I'm over here like "holy shit, what are we even doing??" 🤣 I've always wanted to be a mom, but we waited so long to try, now that it's actually happening I'm low key freaking out. This is me. I told DH yesterday that it will randomly all hit me at once that we will actually have a real, legit baby in August. There are times I don’t think about the real logistics of it all but then it’ll hit me and *cue panic*. I know it’ll be fine, but DH has had to talk me down several times this week! 😆
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Post by notmoose on May 15, 2018 9:26:55 GMT -6
I am oddly not worried about the newborn stuff. I am just excited. I love having a little baby. And I fully expect to have a shitty sleeper who has to be held 24/7 and is uber attached to me, just like my first 2.
I'm sure once I'm in the trenches I know I'll have moments where it sucks, but I also know it goes by so quick and it'll be all good.
Eta: Not saying anyone is wrong for being worried, this is strictly me and my feelings.
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Post by notmoose on May 15, 2018 9:27:11 GMT -6
Y'all help me decide.
We are supposed to go down to my mom's this weekend because MH and stepdad are going to race qualifications. I am waffling on staying home and sending them so I can have alone time. I won't get another chance to be alone like this until this baby is 1+.
The problem is the more pregnant I get the more attached to MH and kids I am and I don't like being away from them. It has a lot to do with my anxiety. But MH will be gone all day Saturday anyway.
Do I go or do I stay?! They would leave Friday around 6 and be home Sunday around 6. I had plans of painting the nursery, binge watching shows I can't watch with kids here, shopping alone, and just doing whatever I want. But I'm worried I'll be anxious without them.
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Post by pbandjelly on May 15, 2018 9:39:03 GMT -6
Y'all help me decide. We are supposed to go down to my mom's this weekend because MH and stepdad are going to race qualifications. I am waffling on staying home and sending them so I can have alone time. I won't get another chance to be alone like this until this baby is 1+. The problem is the more pregnant I get the more attached to MH and kids I am and I don't like being away from them. It has a lot to do with my anxiety. But MH will be gone all day Saturday anyway. Do I go or do I stay?! They would leave Friday around 6 and be home Sunday around 6. I had plans of painting the nursery, binge watching shows I can't watch with kids here, shopping alone, and just doing whatever I want. But I'm worried I'll be anxious without them. I wouldn't hesitate to stay home kid-free and relax.
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Post by goldenbird on May 15, 2018 10:25:14 GMT -6
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Post by potatocakes on May 15, 2018 10:26:45 GMT -6
DD is/was a total unicorn. She STTN by 8 weeks, and basically hasn't had MOTN wake ups since then. We are very much in trouble and do not have a system for dealing with a baby that doesn't sleep. I LOVED having a newborn, though - just a lump to take with me and cuddle wherever I was going.
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Post by goldenbird on May 15, 2018 10:28:16 GMT -6
The loss of complete free time & impact of being responsible for someone else is what's hitting me right now.
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Post by sasam on May 15, 2018 10:52:20 GMT -6
I totally feel you on that too goldenbird! I’m also finding that I’m having a hard time with my need to mentally walk through every detail. DH is amazing at helping me pull back from that, but that is usually my natural tendency. When I talk to my friends that have had kids within the past year, they’re all at a point of getting through the tough newborn stage. They’re great about telling me that I’ll get through it and that we’ll be able to figure it out, but I’m like “I need detailed steps! Tell me what to do and how to do it and how exactly to deal, step by step!” Unrealistic, I know. 😄
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Post by pbandjelly on May 15, 2018 10:54:02 GMT -6
The loss of complete free time & impact of being responsible for someone else is what's hitting me right now. The loss of free time wasn't necessarily an issue for us until DS was around 6 months and was awake long enough that he needed to be entertained. Until that point, we just popped him in the car seat and took him with us everywhere and he was fine to just eat, sleep, and look around.
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Post by pbandjelly on May 15, 2018 10:56:51 GMT -6
I totally feel you on that too goldenbird! I’m also finding that I’m having a hard time with my need to mentally walk through every detail. DH is amazing at helping me pull back from that, but that is usually my natural tendency. When I talk to my friends that have had kids within the past year, they’re all at a point of getting through the tough newborn stage. They’re great about telling me that I’ll get through it and that we’ll be able to figure it out, but I’m like “I need detailed steps! Tell me what to do and how to do it and how exactly to deal, step by step!” Unrealistic, I know. 😄 I'm like this too, but every baby is different. It really is survival mode until you can start to get baby on an eating/sleeping schedule. For us, it was around 8-12 weeks. Until then, it was trial and error to find something that worked.
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Post by ohreally on May 15, 2018 11:27:43 GMT -6
The loss of complete free time & impact of being responsible for someone else is what's hitting me right now. The loss of free time wasn't necessarily an issue for us until DS was around 6 months and was awake long enough that he needed to be entertained. Until that point, we just popped him in the car seat and took him with us everywhere and he was fine to just eat, sleep, and look around. This is exactly what I was going to say. My babies have all been ok being lugged around in those early months. Like just sleeping through meals out and not requiring entertainment. It really helped ease into the change of routine with having a baby. Having DS2 in the infant carrier was so convenient at daycare drop off and pick up because I only had two kids to wrangle. Now I have all three who are running around and who knows where. Give me all the contained babies!
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Post by westiemom on May 15, 2018 11:46:17 GMT -6
RE second kids- DS1 was/is incredibly high needs and basically did not sleep for the first year. DS2 was soooooo mellow and barely made a peep! of course he woke up to nurse several times a night but he would go right back to sleep after. so there is hope! also you will feel like an expert with your 2nd. it just doesn't stress you out the same way. so my mother's day was nice until the evening, when DS1 decided that he didn't want DS2 to get in our recliner (which DS1 wasn't even SITTING IN) and so he threw himself down with all his weight on DS2's forearm. DS2 immediately started grimacing, whimper-crying, and clutching his arm. we were really afraid he had broken it. of course all the urgent care places had just closed, so we had to go to the emergency room. luckily we were in and out in an hour. and luckily it was not broken. but he still wouldn't use his arm yesterday, so the pediatrician told us to follow up with an orthopedist-- who had to struggle not to roll his eyes about my toddler's hurty boo-boo, lol (it didn't help that DS2 was basically rearranging all the furniture in the room and giggling when he came in)... anyway, he needs time to heal but it's probably just a soft tissue injury. it is really sad watching DS2 do everything with one arm, though. Oh no! I’m so sorry. I hope he feels better soon!
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Post by westiemom on May 15, 2018 11:47:22 GMT -6
Y'all help me decide. We are supposed to go down to my mom's this weekend because MH and stepdad are going to race qualifications. I am waffling on staying home and sending them so I can have alone time. I won't get another chance to be alone like this until this baby is 1+. The problem is the more pregnant I get the more attached to MH and kids I am and I don't like being away from them. It has a lot to do with my anxiety. But MH will be gone all day Saturday anyway. Do I go or do I stay?! They would leave Friday around 6 and be home Sunday around 6. I had plans of painting the nursery, binge watching shows I can't watch with kids here, shopping alone, and just doing whatever I want. But I'm worried I'll be anxious without them. I’d stay and enjoy your alone time!
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Post by westiemom on May 15, 2018 11:49:12 GMT -6
I feel like I’m winning at stay-at-home parenting today. I busted out the water table and blow up pool and dd went crazy with it for about an hour and a half. I was able to sit in a chair and read. She went down immediately when I put her down for nap so hoping it’s a good long nap because she has been whiny as heck today after a busy last three days.
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Post by kam3100 on May 15, 2018 12:36:55 GMT -6
I had my appt. with the 3D ultrasound. The pictures came out great. He said even though I have an anterior placenta there was enough fluid in front of her face that he could get some good shots. He estimates she is about 3 lbs. Also blood pressure was great and no protein in urine this time so last appt. was a fluke. Here is a pic that I took with my phone so it’s blurry. Once I get a chance to download from the cd the pics are clearer.
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Post by cornflakegirl on May 15, 2018 13:09:53 GMT -6
DD is/was a total unicorn. She STTN by 8 weeks, and basically hasn't had MOTN wake ups since then. We are very much in trouble and do not have a system for dealing with a baby that doesn't sleep. I LOVED having a newborn, though - just a lump to take with me and cuddle wherever I was going. I'm scared of this too😬 The first 2 months sucked really bad with cluster feedings but then by 3 months he was sleeping about 6 hours and then 8 hours by 4 months. It worked out perfectly because I would feed him at 5 before leaving for work, he would go back to sleep and it helped my supply. He's still a great sleeper and loves to nap and I worry how I will handle a child that doesn't sleep or wakes up early. H and I are not early risers and neither is DS. I hope it's genetic🙏🙏🙏
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Post by cornflakegirl on May 15, 2018 13:19:39 GMT -6
The loss of complete free time & impact of being responsible for someone else is what's hitting me right now. I won't lie, it was a big change. All of a sudden it's like what do you mean I can't take a shower, eat, watch tv or go somewhere? It's like you have to say goodbye to your former life and accept the new normal. It's a huge adjustment, at least it was for me, but the overwhelming love that you feel is like nothing else you've ever felt before. It makes all the sleepless nights so worth it. I think the best advice I ever received was to enjoy those midnight feedings because those moments are fleeting and they will only be this little today.
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Post by cornflakegirl on May 15, 2018 13:33:23 GMT -6
I took DS for a walk along the trails. We walked for over an hour and even though I need the exercise my pelvis doesn't feel the same way.
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Post by goldenbird on May 15, 2018 14:17:48 GMT -6
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Post by klw on May 15, 2018 14:24:36 GMT -6
notmoose I vote stay home and enjoy yourself. cornflakegirl DD will usually sleep in until 7:30-8 on the weekends. H is a night owl who likes to stay up and then sleep in. He thinks she gets up early. I'm like "dude, I have friends whose kids are up by 6 every day. Be grateful" Love it kam3100
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Post by goldenbird on May 15, 2018 14:27:14 GMT -6
Thanks for the encouragement! ❤ This a great group here on July/August!
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Post by klw on May 15, 2018 14:31:07 GMT -6
DD was a pretty good sleeper. She would sleep in the PNP from 8-11 while I slept on the couch. Then I would take her upstairs to nurse, swaddle her and put her in her crib. She would usually sleep until 4-5. I would feed her and then she would go back to sleep until H went and got her up for the day around 7:30.
At least now I know about cluster feeding. I remember when she was 2-3 weeks old that H took her to our sunroom and she would cry. He just shut the door while I slept. Figured she couldn't need to eat because she had just finished. Boy did I feel crappy about that one.
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Post by westiemom on May 15, 2018 14:39:32 GMT -6
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Post by cornflakegirl on May 15, 2018 14:46:28 GMT -6
notmoose I vote stay home and enjoy yourself. cornflakegirl DD will usually sleep in until 7:30-8 on the weekends. H is a night owl who likes to stay up and then sleep in. He thinks she gets up early. I'm like "dude, I have friends whose kids are up by 6 every day. Be grateful" Love it kam3100 I always feel guilty telling people how late DS sleeps in until because I know there are people who have kids that wake up with the roosters.
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Post by cornflakegirl on May 15, 2018 14:49:16 GMT -6
DD was a pretty good sleeper. She would sleep in the PNP from 8-11 while I slept on the couch. Then I would take her upstairs to nurse, swaddle her and put her in her crib. She would usually sleep until 4-5. I would feed her and then she would go back to sleep until H went and got her up for the day around 7:30. At least now I know about cluster feeding. I remember when she was 2-3 weeks old that H took her to our sunroom and she would cry. He just shut the door while I slept. Figured she couldn't need to eat because she had just finished. Boy did I feel crappy about that one. If it wasn't for TB and then TCF I would have been completely clueless. The wealth of information that I received from there was priceless!
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Post by kam3100 on May 15, 2018 15:46:10 GMT -6
Alright, I got to play a little bit. DD1 is on the left and DD2 is on the right.
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Post by cornflakegirl on May 15, 2018 16:35:10 GMT -6
All these cute baby photos! You guys are making want to get a 3D now😊
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Post by klw on May 15, 2018 16:40:43 GMT -6
The techs have always been super nice and turning on the 3D when I get my cervical length check. This was from today.
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