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Post by tbirdlove on Apr 30, 2018 11:34:23 GMT -6
Is anyone hoping or planning to tackle potty training before Sept/Oct?
Those of you who've BTDT any advice?!
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Post by tbirdlove on Apr 30, 2018 11:39:56 GMT -6
TL;DR: I'm thinking a LOT about potty training and I'm scared!
DS will be two in May. I still have 4.5-5 months before #2 comes, but I'd REALLY like for DS to be potty trained by then. I'm worried that if I don't do it before, then I'm going to be so busy adjusting to baby/toddler life for months that I won't be able to commit to doing it properly until next spring, when DS will be almost three. I also feel that the sooner I do it the better so that he has a lot of time to really get used to the potty situation.
But I'm nervous that maybe it's a little too soon. He seems to know what the potty is for. He's watched me use the potty forever. And I've seen him take his stuffed animals and sit them on the potty and make a "psssss" peeing sound. BUT the times that I've had him try to actually pee on the potty he kinda freaks out. I'm quite sure that he knows the feeling that the pee is coming because he starts getting really nervous and fidgety and crying before he goes. He cries before, during and after the release 😕 And when I try to leave him naked from the waist down he doesn't like it and will bring me a diaper to put on him!
Based on the Oh Crap Potty Training book I DO think that he's CAPABLE of learning this soon. And I think the crying about the pee and no diaper is just a fear and discomfort with something that is completely new to him.
So I already kinda feel torn and overwhelmed about the whole thing! I want to do it right and I want to be serious about it when I take the diapers away. But I'm worried that the crying over the pee and resistance to/fear of the potty is just going to make me too frazzled!! Which is a no-no for this to be successful! I know the only way to really know how it's going to go is to just dive in and do it. And I know that I have to commit to giving it at least a solid week of effort before freaking out about any lack of progress. I'm a SAHM so I have the ability to clear my schedule easily enough.... But.... I'm scared!
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Post by mirabelle on Apr 30, 2018 12:09:33 GMT -6
Mine just turned 3 in March and my goal was to try to get him potty trained before he goes to a preschool program in the fall. All formal programs in our area are setup where they have to be potty trained so we did but it has been a long process.
We started at about 2.5 with oh crap and a mini potty. He showed a lot of interest and was able to verbally tell me when he was wet or stinky. So we did a diaperless free 3 day and that had him going on the mini potty regularly at home. Then we progressed to a potty seat on the big potty and I just took that away at 3 and he goes on the big potty.
It’s been a progression and I’ve eased him into it. The oh crap is very cold turkey, I took the book very seriously, but we did go on outings with pull ups for quite sometime- I believe the book does not recommend pull ups at all.
I felt done changing diapers and he seemed ready and we weren’t fighting to have him go on the potty. If there was fighting involved I would have backed off and tried later. He hated to lay down and get changed. He loves the independence of the potty. Before even starting I would make it a point to have him come in when either me or DH were going and we would talk about going.
We read a lot of potty books, he’s very visual in that way so it helped connect some dots for him. We no longer do pull ups during the day just bring back up clothes everywhere. He also goes to a daytime program without me and stays dry there.
Also a point on dexterity for awhile I kept putting off potty training becaus my son didn’t have motor skills to even pull up and down his pants easily so if that piece is not there I’d start with working on him to get to a place where he can do that first.
Sorry for the word vomit, I just want to say it doesn’t happen over night, it’s been a lot of work, but it’s been worth it. And everywhere we go one of my first questions is: do you have to go potty?
Tl/dr: we started oh crap at 2.5 it took longer than 3 days and it’s been a progression. He is now fully day potty trained and that happened right before 3.
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Post by pixiepink24 on Apr 30, 2018 12:22:14 GMT -6
Here are my two cents:
I think PT before baby is not the best idea. There will be regressions for sure! Even with my DD who will have been potty trained for well over a year by the time baby comes, I expect regressions. I couldn't imagine trying to do it right before such a huge change.
With that said, we never used a book or anything and I trained two girls at the same time. My bonus girl (9months older than DD) struggled. She took much longer for it to click. DD picked it up rather quickly but took a month or so longer to figure out poop. My suggestion is to do bottomless around the house all day with small potty in living room. It worked great for us. Luckily I have tile floors so NBD for messes. We started out very small with just introducing the potty and never really pushed. She would ask occasionally To sit. Months later we did start asking if she'd like to sit and it clicked. I'd say it took about a full month to really get it down. I also used positive reinforcement with things like mini marshmallows for pee and big marshmallow for poop even though I'm not a fan of food rewards 🤷♀️. M&M's worked great too.
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Post by ftwr on Apr 30, 2018 12:37:24 GMT -6
DD is almost 6 so I don't have experience with two closer in age. However, with DD, it was useless trying until she was actually ready (2 yrs 9 mos). Sure at daycare she had been sitting on the potty at bathroom time with the rest of the kids who were potty trained (started around 2yo) but she wasn't actually ready. Once she was ready it took like 3 days. Alternatively, my BFF forced her DD (13 mos younger than DD) into potty training shortly after DD finished and it was a long and arduous journey to get her there because I don't think she was completely ready.
So, I would say try and if it doesn't go well, back off and try again in a few months. Wait until he's actually ready.
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Post by Nymeria on Apr 30, 2018 12:43:24 GMT -6
DS won't be 2 until September so I wasn't even planning to try to tackle this yet. Good luck though!
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Post by tbirdlove on Apr 30, 2018 12:47:07 GMT -6
Add to my over-thinking that DS has been fighting diaper changes like crazy lately and I am over it! I can't imagine another year of dealing with that nonsense... I've had times lately where I feel like I'd rather deal with him peeing and pooping on the floor trying to potty train than try to fight to change his diaper.
We have some potty books and he's intrigued by those. That's how I've gotten him to pee in the little potty at all - by having him sit while I read the potty books to him.
Also, same here if I want him to be able go to a nursery school (they start at age three) a few days a week he'd need to be potty trained beforehand.
I expect a regression in many ways besides just the potty when baby comes, but it seems that maybe the potty regression aspect could be lessened a little if he's more well-versed in the potty by then. But I'm a FTM, so what do I know!! Haha!
If I give it a shot to see how it goes and if it's a total disaster, how detrimental to the process will it be to go back to diapers??
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Post by brenna on Apr 30, 2018 12:57:42 GMT -6
DD won't be two until after this baby is born so I think we'll for sure wait. She already tells me when she goes poop and pee and likes to sit on the potty but I don't want to force it to then have her regress after the baby is born.
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Post by ftwr on Apr 30, 2018 13:07:55 GMT -6
tbirdlove I don't think it will be detrimental. I think once you start you'll know if it's a worthwhile endeavor. We tried at least twice to PT before DD was ready and going back to diapers wasn't a big deal. We also used pull ups at daycare and when we were out of the house for a long time once she was PT just to avoid accidents. She didn't have any issues with that either. It was probably a few months before she was completely in underwear and maybe a few more after that before we transitioned to underwear at night. Night training can take longer so don't be shocked if that doesn't happen right away.
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Post by chriskoo on Apr 30, 2018 13:15:35 GMT -6
My DD turns 2 in June so I’m thinking I’d ideally like to try potty training in the summer sometime before her little brother comes along. I think she’s getting close to being ready (knows when she’s going pee and poop) and she’s very verbal so she can tell me when she has to go.
I have a question for those who have been through this before. Did you still use a diaper or pull up at night after potty training or do kids wake up in the night to go? DD sleeps great at night (12+ hours) and always wakes up with a SOAKED diaper. I can’t imagine she’ll be able to hold it all night any time soon and I for sure don’t want to jeopardize her sleep habits. Any advice?
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Post by tbirdlove on Apr 30, 2018 13:16:06 GMT -6
Thanks ftwr! I think I just need to relax about the whole thing and stop over-thinking it 😉
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Post by Dramaphile on Apr 30, 2018 13:16:25 GMT -6
I've contemplated it. Nugget will be 3 in November, and she shows some definite signs she is ready (holding it for long periods, tells us when she goes, sometimes fights wearing a diaper and can manage an hour or more diaperless before she pees on the floor), but then has never actually peed in the potty, so I'm hesitant to really put effort into it yet. We might try doing a weekend boot camp this summer, or just wait till after the baby comes and wing it. I'm very "meh" about the whole thing.
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Post by chriskoo on Apr 30, 2018 13:16:45 GMT -6
ftwr I just saw your post on how night training took longer and how that’s nbd. Makes me feel better!
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Post by tbirdlove on Apr 30, 2018 13:31:06 GMT -6
chriskoo from what I've read and heard from friends, you can definitely separate day training and night training and still use diapers/pull-ups at night.
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Post by tbirdlove on Apr 30, 2018 13:32:53 GMT -6
Dramaphile I need to be more "meh" about it too! Send me some of those vibes!
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Post by Dramaphile on Apr 30, 2018 13:34:16 GMT -6
Dramaphile I need to be more "meh" about it too! Send me some of those vibes! The idea of having to find and use a public restroom with my child while we're out is a main non-motivator for me...
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Post by tbirdlove on Apr 30, 2018 13:37:11 GMT -6
Dramaphile I need to be more "meh" about it too! Send me some of those vibes! The idea of having to find and use a public restroom with my child while we're out is a main non-motivator for me... Yes, that part scares me too..... 😕
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Post by pixiepink24 on Apr 30, 2018 14:11:25 GMT -6
chriskooMine wore pull-ups when she slept for a bit. She only did nap time pull-ups for like a month or two. I just make sure she goes pee before nap and bed. She doesn't wake up to pee at night, just sleeps all night with no issues and now wears underwear. Although most moms I know, their kids sleep in pull-ups for a long time. Most kids can't hold their pee all night.
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Post by blurnette989 on Apr 30, 2018 15:08:27 GMT -6
I think it is always best to wait for your child. Ds1 was a breeze because we waited until he was ready. There is a 21 month gap between ds1 and 2. He trained at about 2.5. we went and bought cool underwear and every morning I'd ask him for you want a diaper or undies? He always chose diaper until one morning when he picked undies. Then we trained. Naked at home for 3 days to n the potty every 20 minutes. No treats or stickers.
At night we used 12 hr pull-ups and called them sleeping undies. Needed those for about 5-6 months before he started holding it all night.
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Post by akwild on Apr 30, 2018 16:29:36 GMT -6
M will be 3 in June.... we’ve started but are not pushing. She wears underwear about 1/2 the time a home.... but doesn’t really ask to go.... so we are ehhh about it and will put her right back in a pull up
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Post by knitty on Apr 30, 2018 16:31:42 GMT -6
I've been thinking about this too. L will be 3 in November and had the same thoughts about trying to make this change sooner than later, but I just haven't fully committed yet. She will pee on her little toilet and sometimes will tell us she needs to go, although she always tells us "no pooping" when she poops.
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Post by mirabelle on Apr 30, 2018 20:40:07 GMT -6
We are nap and day trained, but we still use pull ups over night. Not sure when I will night train him. Probably about the same time I’m up with a baby at night, but I might be over estimating my late night capabilities.
I was so worried about potty training and heard so many “horror” stories, especially about boys and none of it was true for us. They just figure it out.
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Post by getdownplease on Apr 30, 2018 21:03:14 GMT -6
DS1 was super easy because we waited (2 yrs 10mos). His school did most of the work, and there was definitely a social aspect to his readiness. We never did pull ups, and only did diapers overnight for about a month. Virtually no accidents, no method in particular.
DS2 (now 2yr 7mos) has to be trained by Sept before he can go into the primary classroom (3-5 y/o). He is getting there, but he’s just not quite ready. BUT we’re gonna try anyway in a few weeks because his teachers are basically insisting on it. I’m trying to be positive but i feel like it’s gonna be a disaster.
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Post by tbirdlove on May 1, 2018 5:50:03 GMT -6
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Post by Dramaphile on May 1, 2018 7:00:25 GMT -6
And MH asked about potty training last night because apparently he wants a break from changing diapers till the new baby comes (He's a SAHD). I told him to start putting her on the potty a couple of times a day if she has a dry diaper and see what happens, and if she starts peeing on the potty we can talk about doing the 3 day method.
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Post by swell on May 1, 2018 20:35:55 GMT -6
I’m in the “follow your kiddo” camp too. I’ve heard enough horror stories to be worried about pushing it months before a new little one. But if they’re ready, they’re ready!
My daughter turned 3 in April and has been potty trained for awhile, but it wasn’t worth the time or energy until she was ready. I spent a lot of time being annoyed about poopy underwear, let me tell you...
And we followed a pretty half-a$$ approach... diapers when convenient, underwear when convenient. No major drama and only a few accidents here and there. Fortunately, she was pretty easy and we didn’t have many hiccups. I think every kid is different- go with what works for you.
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Post by akwild on May 1, 2018 22:06:05 GMT -6
I’m in the “follow your kiddo” camp too. I’ve heard enough horror stories to be worried about pushing it months before a new little one. But if they’re ready, they’re ready! My daughter turned 3 in April and has been potty trained for awhile, but it wasn’t worth the time or energy until she was ready. I spent a lot of time being annoyed about poopy underwear, let me tell you... And we followed a pretty half-a$$ approach... diapers when convenient, underwear when convenient. No major drama and only a few accidents here and there. Fortunately, she was pretty easy and we didn’t have many hiccups. I think every kid is different- go with what works for you. This makes me happy to hear because we are in the middle of this half assed approach. I don’t want to be frustrated with accidents.
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Post by knitty on May 2, 2018 17:30:26 GMT -6
I’m in the “follow your kiddo” camp too. I’ve heard enough horror stories to be worried about pushing it months before a new little one. But if they’re ready, they’re ready! My daughter turned 3 in April and has been potty trained for awhile, but it wasn’t worth the time or energy until she was ready. I spent a lot of time being annoyed about poopy underwear, let me tell you... And we followed a pretty half-a$$ approach... diapers when convenient, underwear when convenient. No major drama and only a few accidents here and there. Fortunately, she was pretty easy and we didn’t have many hiccups. I think every kid is different- go with what works for you. This is exactly where we are right now.
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