things that give you anxiety or worry you with LO

[yellow711]

I thought it may be nice to help each other out by discussing things that may be bothering you, giving you anxiety or things that worry you.

It may be helpful to just talk about things, have people commiserate with you, give advice, etc.....

[yellow711]

^ oh my gosh... does that even make sense? Sorry if it doesn't...i am so f'ing tired!

[yellow711]

I am starting to worry about J's gross motor skills. My DD had a gross motor delay so I am very sensitive to this subject. She didn't start crawling until she was a few days shy of 1 year. She didn't walk until she was 16 months. We had her in physical therapy for a few months.

I know J is only 3 months but I worry. His neck isn't very strong and isn't even close to rolling over. I know he will do things when he is ready but it gives me anxiety.

I know I need to calm the f down...but it is hard. Anxiety is a bit(h.

[jessijean]

yellow711 DS2 will be 4 months on Sunday and nowhere near rolling here. He as rolled on to his side twice. I know it's easy to compare between children but we need to keep in mind every kid is unique. Easier said than done.

[pippiann]

First off hugs. One thing that I do will L that I feel like has helped him roll is I roll him on his side and let his body naturally roll front or back whichever comes natural to him. I also “show him the way” so to speak when he’s doing tummy time bc he is not every fond. I am not sure if this is “proper” but he likes it.

ETA: not

[sunfrogger]

👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻 this. I have a game I play. "Wiggle the baby wiggle the baby, shake the baby shake the baby!"

Its not like it sounds.

I hold her hips and gently wiggle her hips. Then I do longer movements that move her hips almost to the side on each side. I probably do that like 3-4 times. I usually end it with a roll trying to show her how.

[easternshoregirl]

Oh my gosh "shake the baby." That gave me a chuckle.

I feel like a lot of my anxiety is manifesting in worry over the toddler. I was crazy anxious about him playing outside at the ILs over the weekend bc their house is close to the road and people drive through really fast.

[sunfrogger]

This spit up / vomit / reflux business.

I know this kid is gaining like crazy. She was 14lbs when I weighed the difference between us yesterday. And from my DD1 I know this is the top of the growth curve.

But I still can't help but worry. Once I really started holding her upright for 30 min after she eats everything basically disappeared except for the occasional reflux that seems to really hurt her.

I just think in general my amnesia is really awful because I don't remember any of this.

[easternshoregirl]

As for the baby...since she had a cystic hygroma during pregnancy, I still worry she will be diagnosed with some major medical problem. Even though the hygroma disappeared and all tests were normal. And she's a normal little baby.

[sunfrogger]

Apr 26, 2018 4:35:04 GMT -6 easternshoregirl said:

Oh my gosh "shake the baby." That gave me a chuckle.

I feel like a lot of my anxiety is manifesting in worry over the toddler. I was crazy anxious about him playing outside at the ILs over the weekend bc their house is close to the road and people drive through really fast.

It was definitely conceived as a joke to "shake the baby"! It was one of my DDs favorite games we played.

I agree with toddler anxiety too. She's learned how to unlock the doors and I'm terrified one day she's going to wander outside. We need to get a hook latch high up, but. And she hasn't figured out the screen door locks. So. But our days are spent in our family room which is our lower level, almost basement, and not by the front door. So.

[Deleted]

I have a laundry list it seems like:
Why he slants to one side all the time
The amount of spit up and if it’s reflux or something else
If he’s honestly gaining enough weight...he’s so tiny and falling off the growth curve

[sarahh]

I'm not necessarily anxious about any developmental milestones but my PPA is worse some days than others.

There is an app that tracks what the girls are doing at daycare. For baby it's when she eats, naps, gets a diaper, etc. Some days they don't update it regularly like yesterday. Nothing between 9am bottle and diaper 2pm so during that time I am envisioning something bad happening. Another thing lately related to the toddler containment, is we are looking for land to build a new house. Some plots have water on them - stream, pond, etc. I get anxious thinking of little kids having access to water and something bad happening. After typing all that out it's clear to me that I need to get better about taking my medication because these are clear PPA reactions.

[pinkcat]

Apr 26, 2018 6:00:21 GMT -6 kbw said:

I have a laundry list it seems like:
Why he slants to one side all the time
The amount of spit up and if it’s reflux or something else
If he’s honestly gaining enough weight...he’s so tiny and falling off the growth curve

The amount of spit up and if it's reflux or not was going to be my answer too! I feel so clueless, I am not sure how much spit up is normal and how many times a day is normal. And, he does a weird cough/choking sound sometimes that terrifies me! 

[aprilz81]

My pedi has made me nervous about Faith's weight gain since her growth curve had slightly flattened between her 1 and 2 month appointments (she gained 15 oz in that month). Her eating habits are all over the place and we feed her on demand so I'm sure everything is fine, but I'm worried that they are going to slap a failure to thrive label or some other nonsense on her when we go back for her 4 month appointment.

[tiffrobot]

I’ve had this weird shift and my anxiety has come off of the kids and I’ve put it onto myself. I’m so much more worried about something happening to me lately and not being there for them for some reason that every little thing I go through I get into my head and imagine worst case scenario and then make myself upset about it.
It’s something I still need to talk to my dr about. I’ve never really talked to her about anxiety before, I’ve always found ways to calm myself down before when I overthink too much.

[easternshoregirl]

sarahh, we have a stream. It does make me nervous. Basically we have to keep tabs on DS like a hawk when he is outside.

[maddisonrose]

yellow711 so many hugs on the recurrent worry. Every baby is so different. My first never ever rolled once on purpose. And he went on to crawl and walk. All you can do is to give them the opportunity to learn so your doing a fantastic job as is

[maddisonrose]

I worry about my kids all the time. But I have a history with GAD and panic disorder. My anxieties seem to Center around existential crisis. I worry constantly that something will happen to me and their life will be harder without me. I also worry about what happens after death. The unknown scares the crap out of me and I love my tiny babies sososo much that I want to be guaranteed that I will be with them after this life.

For the past three year this led me on a crazy woo woo spiritual journey lol but I’m more peaceful about it now after a few crazy things happened

[sunfrogger]

I worry a lot about myself too and missing out on their lives and all that. But I don't know how much of that is PTSD from my rush to the OR for the hemorrhage or what.

[benandjerrys]

sarahh, I think anxiety about water on your property is normal (to some degree). We have a pool and even though its fenced from the yard (fence goes between house and pool) I still get nervous. DD knows how to unlock and open the door now so thats scary.

I'm nervous about his shoulder/upper body strength. TBH, I'm really bad at remembering tummy time. But when I do he doesn't push up much. Are your babies holding themselves up on their arms yet? Or just their chests?

[dragonflyinn]

yellow711 my DD didn’t crawl until 11mo and didn’t walk until 16mo. Super normal!! Idk when DS will roll either, I put him on his side a lot & he will roll to his tummy or his back from there. I figure he will do it when he does it I guess?? I play the same “wiggle the baby” type of thing with him that sunfrogger l does.

I get anxiety over his flat spot on his head which feels like the dumbest thing because DD’s rounded out fine & it’s not even that flat. His head is just so round that the flat part just seems so obvious to me.

I also get a lot of anxiety surrounding my toddler. She is so curious & I’m always afraid she will run off in public or get lost or something. I’m hyper anxious about abductions & stuff like that. Also water...she fell in the pool once when she was 1.5 (my FIL had her sitting on the edge & he let go & stepped away & she reached after him & fell right in). Ever since then I can’t even breathe when we’re near any kind of water. So with summer coming I am just trying to keep it together.

[dragonflyinn]

Apr 26, 2018 11:46:34 GMT -6 benandjerrys said:

sarahh, I think anxiety about water on your property is normal (to some degree). We have a pool and even though its fenced from the yard (fence goes between house and pool) I still get nervous. DD knows how to unlock and open the door now so thats scary.

I'm nervous about his shoulder/upper body strength. TBH, I'm really bad at remembering tummy time. But when I do he doesn't push up much. Are your babies holding themselves up on their arms yet? Or just their chests?

I prop him up on his forearms and he can hold himself up there but idk if he would push himself Up.

[yellow711]

Thank you for the kind, encouraging words - I appreciate it.

Hugs to everyone - anxiety is such a mindfuc5.

[jessijean]

Add me to water fears. Even last year at the wading pool if DS1 losy his footing (when he could touch) he would thrash around like and freak out. It wasn't even a game and it makes me nervous that he will just panic if he ever does have trouble and I won't get to him. My MIL has a lake cabin and I'm like a hawk that he has to wear his lifejacket even onthe dock with an adult. How will I manage the pool with a baby while helping the toddler???

[benandjerrys]

Apr 26, 2018 22:02:49 GMT -6 jessijean said:

Add me to water fears. Even last year at the wading pool if DS1 losy his footing (when he could touch) he would thrash around like and freak out. It wasn't even a game and it makes me nervous that he will just panic if he ever does have trouble and I won't get to him. My MIL has a lake cabin and I'm like a hawk that he has to wear his lifejacket even onthe dock with an adult. How will I manage the pool with a baby while helping the toddler???

I plan to put baby in a water wrap so I can help the toddler in the pool.

[helloerrbody]

I have anxiety about baby's head since it still has 2 odd divets on the top from being so coned at birth. We did a skull X-ray and all is good; his pedi said it's just taking a long time to get to normal but I can't help but worry that it never will. It definitely is better, so that makes me feel a little less worried.

I have most anxiety about my older son's penis. Surgery #4 is June 4, and we are looking at possibly 1-2 more after that to get it "normal." Even after it's fixed, I know that he could have lots of issues later in life because of all of this, so I am constantly worried. =(

[Deleted]

How often do your lo’s poop? He’s still pooping easily 3-4 times a day which I feel like is a lot but H says not to worry.

[pinkcat]

Apr 28, 2018 9:13:03 GMT -6 kbw said:

How often do your lo’s poop? He’s still pooping easily 3-4 times a day which I feel like is a lot but H says not to worry.

DS is almost 11 weeks and still poops at least 3 or 4 times... sometimes even 5 or 6!

[sunfrogger]

This 👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻

[marygracerich]

At 4 months, the baby poops once or twice per day.