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Post by peachsmama on Apr 19, 2018 13:06:00 GMT -6
My baby sitter wanted to pursue all other options before going to medication for her son. He's 9. She eliminated red dye and it was a night and day difference. Then she had blood work done when his sleeping went to shit and he was low on iron. One small iron pill a day and he sleeps great now. Just some things to think about trying. Her pedi told her if more parents push for these changes and knowledge from their doctors, so many kids could be off the ADHD and ADD medication. We definitely would cross all things off before going to medication. Apparently MH used to do a lot of work with kids with ADHD at Children's hospital. That information would have been useful a while ago by the way. But he was a treasure trove (?) of information last night with all sorts of behavioral interventions we should try. I was like, dude- you know I've worried about this since he was born, where the heck have you been?! He said he didn't think we were there yet since his parent-teacher conferences have been positive. But I think we should try these things before we get any negative feedback from school- KWIM.
ETA: my SIL was super against meds for her now 11yo. But nothing was working and after he started meds- I think he was 8- he became a much better human. They definitely have their place but I do agree they are jumped to a lot. There's a new documentary on Netflix I've been meaning to check out about the overuse of ADHD meds and how they've become performance enhancing drugs basically.
That's exactly what her pedi told her. But so many parents just assume they are the fix for it. And I definitely agree about working on it before you get the negative things from school. My brother was on meds for ADHD and my mom and his mom switched his pills for placebo pills to see if it was a mind thing once he hit a certain age and it was. He definitely needed them in elementary school but once he was in high school they thought it might not be needed anymore.
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Post by dapostrophe on Apr 19, 2018 13:07:40 GMT -6
wedding I fixed my tag in an earlier post (meant to tag you...not joelies). Glad to hear your H has some good insights! It's helpful to have a partner who gets it, since ADD/ADHD can be frustrating. It's certainly not the end of the world though, and there are so many accommodations these days. Hoping he's just high energy, but either way I know you will make the right choices for him.
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Post by klong11 on Apr 19, 2018 13:08:16 GMT -6
wedding, you might try implementing some of the things they might suggest once he starts school. Look into the districts 504 plans and what they are willing to do for children diagnosed with ADHD children. Some let them sit in special chairs similar to exercise balls, have taped off areas around their desk for when they need to get up and move around, so long as they say in that space it is ok and even a timer, that once it goes off, then you can get up and move around, but while it is on you have to focus on the task at hand, etc. When doing worksheets with Cadence, when I see her completely stop focusing or get frustrated, I have her stand up, walk around through the kitchen and come back, and I tell her to deep breathe while she does it, then when she comes back she can focus long enough to finish...sometimes... I let her decide which worksheets and how many to do (these all come in her "homework" folder from school). After completing one, she takes a short break, then comes back to finish the next one.
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Post by jewels on Apr 19, 2018 13:14:39 GMT -6
tgrimes , that’s horrible. I’m surprised the dentist would continue when she was like that. Normally they want to try and keep a good reputation with kids and not give them that impression. Hopefully she will be okay once she goes back for a cleaning and realizes again that they aren’t so bad. I’m sorry you both had to go through that. He asked me what I wanted to do when it got bad. I told him to finish. No point putting her threw that just to say never mind and make her return later. KWIM? I was going to say I would have continued at that point. You were already in the thick of it, why make her come back for more. I'm so sorry you went through that though. Ice cream for both you and M. And definitely some wine for you!
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Post by lfig on Apr 19, 2018 13:21:39 GMT -6
Well, in regards to ADHD meds, we started a med for ADHD last night after the Neuro appt yesterday. S has ZERO focus which is really impeding her learning. Her therapists often comment on her lack of focus making her sessions difficult. Her epilepsy and crazy brain waves of course make it quite difficult for her along with the amount of seizure medicine she is on. So the dr felt that starting this now, might help her to focus better and “catch up” better to her peers. It’s been an issue for a long time, but she wasn’t comfortable starting meds before now. She saw during the appointment yesterday how S doesn’t stop moving. I was so exhausted in that tiny room trying to keep S from destroying everything that I was sweating. Lol. She kept trying to climb on the table, stand on the chairs, pull the equipment hanging on the walls, ect. And it was non stop. No break from one thing to the next. So I’m hopeful that we will see some improvement. I’m most excited for the possibility of it helping her focus to learn and understand better.
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Post by dapostrophe on Apr 19, 2018 13:27:12 GMT -6
I will also say that I don't necessarily agree that lots of parents rush into meds. It is a difficult decision and there is still a lot of stigma around "drugging your kids" which causes lots of parents to hold off longer than they might have (I know I did). However, sometimes diet, excersize, cutting sugar etc., can only help so much because it's a nuerological disorder.
I think it can be harmful to perpetuate any type of judgement/shame around giving/taking meds for mental health reasons. I'm not saying anyone here is doing that, but I hear that a lot directed at parents of kids with ADHD. All of us prob feel a little judged at some point by someone when we go the med route. (Cough...my dad...cough) I can still remember him telling me that I was ruining my son's chances of ever being in LO by putting him on meds and why not just send him to military school instead. Um, ok.
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Post by cheeksmum on Apr 19, 2018 13:48:05 GMT -6
tgrimes, that’s horrible. I’m surprised the dentist would continue when she was like that. Normally they want to try and keep a good reputation with kids and not give them that impression. Hopefully she will be okay once she goes back for a cleaning and realizes again that they aren’t so bad. I’m sorry you both had to go through that. He asked me what I wanted to do when it got bad. I told him to finish. No point putting her threw that just to say never mind and make her return later. KWIM? Yea, I understand that too.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Apr 19, 2018 13:51:00 GMT -6
Hey! MIL took H this morning so S and I ran some errands. Now H is at school and S is napping. It’s 45 degrees so the snow is all melting, slowly but it’s happening.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Apr 19, 2018 13:51:36 GMT -6
Sorry for the rough appt tgrimes. I hope you don’t have to go through anything like that again.
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Post by dapostrophe on Apr 19, 2018 14:10:27 GMT -6
wineallthetime We got two skinny seats for Ev and Theo and did those along the back + the infant seat. Then I've got my son's bigger booster in one of the pilots and one pilot open for my oldest. It was crazy trying to figure out who's latch, who's seatbelt, who needs the tether, etc.
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Post by lfig on Apr 19, 2018 14:20:07 GMT -6
wineallthetime We got two skinny seats for Ev and Theo and did those along the back + the infant seat. Then I've got my son's bigger booster in one of the pilots and one pilot open for my oldest. It was crazy trying to figure out who's latch, who's seatbelt, who needs the tether, etc. That sounds exhausting trying to figure out! Lol. But glad you got it set and ready!
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Post by Sunny41 on Apr 19, 2018 14:24:30 GMT -6
I've been entering the Hamilton lottery. 2 weeks of no wins. 1 week left. Please please please!
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Post by jewels on Apr 19, 2018 14:28:36 GMT -6
wineallthetime We got two skinny seats for Ev and Theo and did those along the back + the infant seat. Then I've got my son's bigger booster in one of the pilots and one pilot open for my oldest. It was crazy trying to figure out who's latch, who's seatbelt, who needs the tether, etc. It's like a live version of tetris or something. I forgot how old your older one (the one above your N 13) is. How long will he be in the booster?
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Post by mwhip on Apr 19, 2018 14:36:23 GMT -6
I finally heard back for the phone interview I did 2 weeks ago. They told the recruiter I didn't sell my skills good enough and they didn't want to move forward with me. I don't know what more I could have said, the job was exactly what I do daily, except actually a step back and probably lower pay. So I'm not disappointed and I hope the person they hire sucks. Just kidding. Kind of.
I think it was more that I was over qualified for the position and the girl who would be my boss knew I could do her position as well.
At least that's what I'm going with.
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Post by chrisy01 on Apr 19, 2018 15:14:40 GMT -6
wedding is he learning at school/day care ok? Yes. If anything he might be bored at times which causes him to be more impulsive. We thought LO might have ADHD but she said since he is learning at school it's not that. He just is a very active little boy
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Post by chrisy01 on Apr 19, 2018 16:12:45 GMT -6
tgrimes I'm sorry the appointment went so rough.
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Post by chrisy01 on Apr 19, 2018 16:14:12 GMT -6
Omg all things at work are going horrible...I think I might be working tomorrow....
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Post by wedding on Apr 19, 2018 16:25:49 GMT -6
Omg all things at work are going horrible...I think I might be working tomorrow.... Oh no. Do you really have to? I hope you are compensated well for all the time and dedication you put in.
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Post by wedding on Apr 19, 2018 16:44:29 GMT -6
I just wrote a huge vent about work but deleted. Tl;dr: I’m feeling undervalued and a bit taken advantage of right now and it sucks.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Apr 19, 2018 17:14:22 GMT -6
Is anyone else’s 4 year old obsessed with saying everything is boring? H told me she doesn’t want to eat supper because it’s too boring. Last night she told me the white noise was too boring so she couldn’t go to sleep.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Apr 19, 2018 17:15:24 GMT -6
I just wrote a huge vent about work but deleted. Tl;dr: I’m feeling undervalued and a bit taken advantage of right now and it sucks. I’m sorry since they fired your supervisor and expect you to pick up all of her work they should be increasing your pay.
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Post by klong11 on Apr 19, 2018 17:28:01 GMT -6
Is anyone else’s 4 year old obsessed with saying everything is boring? H told me she doesn’t want to eat supper because it’s too boring. Last night she told me the white noise was too boring so she couldn’t go to sleep. Mine keeps telling me I'm a mean boy and she hates both of us(me and mh). Want to trade? LOL
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Post by wedding on Apr 19, 2018 17:28:53 GMT -6
I just wrote a huge vent about work but deleted. Tl;dr: I’m feeling undervalued and a bit taken advantage of right now and it sucks. I’m sorry 😞 since they fired your supervisor and expect you to pick up all of her work they should be increasing your pay. They really can’t since we are government and our pay setting is odd so the next opportunity for me to increase is in October. I’ll fight that then. But since they can’t increase my pay, maybe now would be a good time to get me out of my 75sq foot closet of an office and put me in one of the three that have windows that are opening up. Instead new people get those offices. But they are officers and I’m just the person that pays them.
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Post by wedding on Apr 19, 2018 17:31:03 GMT -6
trtlcrzy C just got over the “its so boooring phase”. Now we are solidly in the “I wish I didn’t have a family” phase. Enjoy boring.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Apr 19, 2018 17:31:47 GMT -6
Is anyone else’s 4 year old obsessed with saying everything is boring? H told me she doesn’t want to eat supper because it’s too boring. Last night she told me the white noise was too boring so she couldn’t go to sleep. Mine keeps telling me I'm a mean boy and she hates both of us(me and mh). Want to trade? LOL Oh, I get my fair share of that too, although it’s not usually “mean boy”.
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Post by klong11 on Apr 19, 2018 17:39:57 GMT -6
Mine keeps telling me I'm a mean boy and she hates both of us(me and mh). Want to trade? LOL Oh, I get my fair share of that too, although it’s not usually “mean boy”. Yeah, she seems to think calling me a boy is the worst thing in the world.
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Post by tgrimes on Apr 19, 2018 17:53:29 GMT -6
I picked up H from daycare and e has fluid coming out of his ear. Again.
Like what the fuck universe?
I’m so tired of shit happening.
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Post by dapostrophe on Apr 19, 2018 18:08:26 GMT -6
wineallthetime We got two skinny seats for Ev and Theo and did those along the back + the infant seat. Then I've got my son's bigger booster in one of the pilots and one pilot open for my oldest. It was crazy trying to figure out who's latch, who's seatbelt, who needs the tether, etc. It's like a live version of tetris or something. I forgot how old your older one (the one above your N 13) is. How long will he be in the booster? It was! Especially since we only have tether hooks behind certain seats in the back row, etc. I think I've got everyone in their safest position, but I am going to have to double check the manuals. He's almost 6, but I need to weigh/measure him again.
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Post by chrisy01 on Apr 19, 2018 18:08:58 GMT -6
Omg all things at work are going horrible...I think I might be working tomorrow.... Oh no. Do you really have to? I hope you are compensated well for all the time and dedication you put in. I will get OT because I have to use my vacation yesterday.
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