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Post by guster on Apr 16, 2018 9:01:21 GMT -6
guster I really understand your feeling, but for what it’s worth, imo that is not selfish in your part whatsoever. It is hard having kids and not having relatives nearby to fall back on. It is also hard to be around people that cannot/will not place themselves in your shoes, or see things from your perspective. I know they're not thinking at all about me right now, and they shouldn't be. I hope this isn't defensive, because I don't mean it to be that way at all. I don't think that they're not empathetic to my situation, but it just doesn't cross their minds to consider the details (even when things are going extremely well).
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Post by peachsmama on Apr 16, 2018 9:02:53 GMT -6
I'm so sorry guster! That's such a hard situation. I hope you can make it to see her.
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Post by peachsmama on Apr 16, 2018 9:30:57 GMT -6
Trying to get some work done before I have to take my grandma to the Dr. at 2. Then take her to the grocery. Which is painful. She can hardly walk anymore but will.not.give.in. to using the motorized carts because "I'm not an old woman!" Oooookay grandma. If I had to buy a new toilet because A threw away a washer.. I'd be so pissed! mwhip lol.
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Post by peachsmama on Apr 16, 2018 9:31:16 GMT -6
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Post by vino on Apr 16, 2018 9:40:54 GMT -6
We had an impromptu play date with neighbours across the street on Saturday, their oldest is the same age as B and previous to Saturday they would always be super shy around each other. They were besties that afternoon and now I cant wait for the summer so we can all hang out in the afternoons and let the kids run wild in our gated backyards while we sip on cold drinks. Another couple is moving into the crescent this week and have a 5 yo and 2.5 yo, they were posted here from out east so MH already has work in common with them. Should be a fun summer!
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Post by vino on Apr 16, 2018 9:41:16 GMT -6
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Post by mwhip on Apr 16, 2018 9:46:59 GMT -6
Trying to get some work done before I have to take my grandma to the Dr. at 2. Then take her to the grocery. Which is painful. She can hardly walk anymore but will.not.give.in. to using the motorized carts because "I'm not an old woman!" Oooookay grandma. If I had to buy a new toilet because A threw away a washer.. I'd be so pissed! mwhip lol. Oh, I'm not happy about it...but he's more pissed than I am. He dug through the trash, tried to find the replacement washer at HD, so he did exhaust his options. And he's talked about replacing the toilets anyway, so we'll just include it as part of our 'project.' It's weird, our house is only 15 years old, but the toilet is not a standard size. He said it isn't even found in the US anymore, I guess because of where they put the bolts for it? I don't know. I guess they built our house, then learned their lesson for the rest of the neighborhood? Although I would think whoever put the plumbing in, would have realized standard distance from wall for the bolts. I just want to get his bathroom complete and move on!
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Post by sands42 on Apr 16, 2018 9:49:49 GMT -6
On that sounds like it will be a fun summer vino! It’s always awesome to have nice neighbors and huge bonus if your kids are similar ages! I’m hoping we get lucky like that when we move!
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Post by cagoldi on Apr 16, 2018 9:54:17 GMT -6
You're reading my mind. I was thinking about her this morning.
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Post by cagoldi on Apr 16, 2018 9:55:51 GMT -6
FX for a good visit with the dentist, tgrimes. Hope it was just a filling.
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Post by cagoldi on Apr 16, 2018 9:57:54 GMT -6
Headed to a chiro visit this morning and I have to run to the grocery store this afternoon. Pretty quiet day. tallb how did you know when you had shingles? Did you go to the doctor? I have these painful blusters that popped up on my fingers and arm. Get don't seem to be spreading but I'm going to monitor.
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Post by tgrimes on Apr 16, 2018 10:04:23 GMT -6
Headed to a chiro visit this morning and I have to run to the grocery store this afternoon. Pretty quiet day. tallb how did you know when you had shingles? Did you go to the doctor? I have these painful blusters that popped up on my fingers and arm. Get don't seem to be spreading but I'm going to monitor. Dude. Go to the doctor, just in case. Especially because P could get chicken pox if they are shingles. Mine were on my inner thigh and down my side. Usually they're only on one side of your body.
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Post by tallb on Apr 16, 2018 10:19:35 GMT -6
Headed to a chiro visit this morning and I have to run to the grocery store this afternoon. Pretty quiet day. tallb how did you know when you had shingles? Did you go to the doctor? I have these painful blusters that popped up on my fingers and arm. Get don't seem to be spreading but I'm going to monitor. Hmm mine were patches on my back - shingles tend to be on the trunk and only on one side of the body. I doubt you did any gardening, but not poison ivy or anything, right? Doesn't sound like it since you said painful and not itchy. Hope it's nothing contagious..but prob should call doc just in case since p is so little.
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Post by yummeecookee on Apr 16, 2018 10:20:55 GMT -6
I’m here, I’m here! Thanks for thinking of me 😘 I’ve had some busy mornings at work the past couple weeks so having a hard time trying to jump in. We’re also finally having our house painted this week so I’ve been living on Pinterest and the sherwin Williams store. I miss everyone and the updates.
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Post by lahdeedah on Apr 16, 2018 10:21:31 GMT -6
cagoldi ditto to what tgrimes said. Go get it checked out so you can get meds if that is what it is. I had these weird pains/sensation down one side for a day or so then the blisters popped up on one side only. I had no clue what was happening and sure enough, shingles.
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Post by lahdeedah on Apr 16, 2018 10:25:37 GMT -6
Morning. I scheduled the day off for a mental break from work. I’m currently getting my color done after almost a year. Oops! I usually go every 6 months, but work and baby got in my way. I’ve been here an hour and hope I’m out in another hour. I want to go home and do nothing except watch TV until the kids get home this evening. I’m taking this mental break thing very serious. 😏
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Post by yummeecookee on Apr 16, 2018 10:27:03 GMT -6
You're reading my mind. I was thinking about her this morning. How is P doing?? 💗
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Post by yummeecookee on Apr 16, 2018 10:30:19 GMT -6
guster, I’m really sorry to hear about your aunt. I am glad you were able to speak with her though. I’m a little irritated for you that your family is not being more understanding of your distance limits and other family obligations.
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Post by guster on Apr 16, 2018 10:35:15 GMT -6
guster, I’m really sorry to hear about your aunt. I am glad you were able to speak with her though. I’m a little irritated for you that your family is not being more understanding of your distance limits and other family obligations. I don't know if they will be -- it's a just a fear I have. Probably because I don't have the connection the other families share. And never in a million years would I have guessed that my cousin's husband was annoyed that I didn't attend his moms funeral. He waited five years to tell me!
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Post by yummeecookee on Apr 16, 2018 10:52:03 GMT -6
guster, I’m really sorry to hear about your aunt. I am glad you were able to speak with her though. I’m a little irritated for you that your family is not being more understanding of your distance limits and other family obligations. I don't know if they will be -- it's a just a fear I have. Probably because I don't have the connection the other families share. And never in a million years would I have guessed that my cousin's husband was annoyed that I didn't attend his moms funeral. He waited five years to tell me! I thought that too.... what a long time to carry that grudge! Although admittedly, I’m a bit of a grudge holder myself so who am I to talk. 😐
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Post by vino on Apr 16, 2018 10:54:06 GMT -6
I’m here, I’m here! Thanks for thinking of me 😘 I’ve had some busy mornings at work the past couple weeks so having a hard time trying to jump in. We’re also finally having our house painted this week so I’ve been living on Pinterest and the sherwin Williams store. I miss everyone and the updates. Oh fun! Painting all of the inside of your house, are you just changing it from the builders colours?
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Post by kim22 on Apr 16, 2018 11:04:15 GMT -6
guster I'm sorry your aunt is not doing well. DH left at 3 am for his flight then sat 2 hours on the runway. We had the worst rain ever overnight and all morning. I got drenched getting the kids to school then I had a doctor's appointment. The ride was terrifying, I can't believe they hadn't shut down the highway, the flooding was so bad.
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Post by sands42 on Apr 16, 2018 11:13:20 GMT -6
Paging joelies Did you just watch Des Linden win the Boston Marathon!!!! Ahhhh holy shit!!! (She’s the first American woman to win it in 30 years guys!)
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Post by tgrimes on Apr 16, 2018 11:18:41 GMT -6
Paging joelies Did you just watch Des Linden win the Boston Marathon!!!! Ahhhh holy shit!!! (She’s the first American woman to win it in 30 years guys!) Amazing!
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Post by tgrimes on Apr 16, 2018 11:30:07 GMT -6
My friend sent me this:
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Post by cagoldi on Apr 16, 2018 11:31:01 GMT -6
Headed to a chiro visit this morning and I have to run to the grocery store this afternoon. Pretty quiet day. tallb how did you know when you had shingles? Did you go to the doctor? I have these painful blusters that popped up on my fingers and arm. Get don't seem to be spreading but I'm going to monitor. Dude. Go to the doctor, just in case. Especially because P could get chicken pox if they are shingles. Mine were on my inner thigh and down my side. Usually they're only on one side of your body. Shit. Ok thanks.
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Post by cagoldi on Apr 16, 2018 11:34:01 GMT -6
guster maybe I'm an insensitive jerk but I think it was kind of weird of your cousin's H to be upset about it and then bring it up that much later. why? I'm sorry you're not going to get to see your aunt and you're worried about how the family is going to behave about the funeral.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Apr 16, 2018 11:37:18 GMT -6
guster maybe I'm an insensitive jerk but I think it was kind of weird of your cousin's H to be upset about it and then bring it up that much later. why? I'm sorry you're not going to get to see your aunt and you're worried about his the family is going to behave about the funeral. I also think it’s strange. Are you close with your cousin’s husband’s family? If not I don’t find it odd that you didn’t go to the funeral in the first place.
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Post by tallb on Apr 16, 2018 11:57:02 GMT -6
guster maybe I'm an insensitive jerk but I think it was kind of weird of your cousin's H to be upset about it and then bring it up that much later. why? I'm sorry you're not going to get to see your aunt and you're worried about his the family is going to behave about the funeral. I also think it’s strange. Are you close with your cousin’s husband’s family? If not I don’t find it odd that you didn’t go to the funeral in the first place. +1 this is bizarre to me. You sent flowers and a card!
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Post by flamingo on Apr 16, 2018 12:05:51 GMT -6
guster maybe I'm an insensitive jerk but I think it was kind of weird of your cousin's H to be upset about it and then bring it up that much later. why? I'm sorry you're not going to get to see your aunt and you're worried about his the family is going to behave about the funeral. I also think it’s strange. Are you close with your cousin’s husband’s family? If not I don’t find it odd that you didn’t go to the funeral in the first place. Yeah, I was "crunching the numbers" on this in my head...like, I don't think I've met *ANY* of my cousins' spouses' parents, even at their weddings! Obviously funerals are 'for the living', and it's nice if you can go to be supportive, but I think sending a card and flowers was very gracious and barring a really close relationship, more than appropriate. I certainly would not expect my husband's cousins and families to attend if the situation were reversed.
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