cp3
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Post by cp3 on Apr 14, 2018 5:26:36 GMT -6
The baby was so fussy last night and didn't go down for the night until almost midnight. But she gave me a 4 hour stretch and I am so grateful. My boobs on the other hand were not so happy. Just as I finished pumping a little she is up again. I have to be up for the day in 2 hours and am so exhausted.
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smilesp
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Post by smilesp on Apr 14, 2018 5:32:12 GMT -6
I’m here. I have mastitis. So add me to the pumping club. Ugh, was not planning on getting that thing out so early. Feel better soon! Did you get antibiotics yet? Every time I've had mastitis, I feel worlds better after just one day on meds. Hang in there. Yes! I called L&D at 8 pm last night. The MW called it in for me and the pharmacy stayed open a few extra minutes to fill it. |
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Post by woodenshoes on Apr 14, 2018 6:46:49 GMT -6
I'm up and just checked the updated weather forecast and they're now calling for 15-20 cm of snow/ice. I'm so over it. We planned for a spring baby because I literally would not have survived winter with a newborn. I need sun! I need to see green things! I’m very annoyed we’re having to deal with his ice storm nonsense. I, too, was very much looking forward to (and needing) the better weather. I can’t imagine my mental state if I had a fall/winter baby, I’m kind of coping knowing Spring weather will arrive soon. (It will arrive, right? 😭) Stay safe this weekend! I also was excited to have a baby in March this time thinking it would be a shorter wait to get outside and walk. DS1 is a November baby and so I got major cabin fever with him. Our power went out at 5:30 this morning. My husband is going to start the generator for refrigerator and I guess we will be sitting be in the basement by the wood stove to stay warm. |
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Post by gldnbearz on Apr 14, 2018 6:56:14 GMT -6
Midnight feeding took about an hour and a half, including diaper change and supplemental bottle after. He didn't settle for a long time until he was snuggled with me and a pacifier.
I woke up at 5 and had to wake him up to feed. I'm hoping he takes enough through the nipple shield so I don't have to pump.
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Post by dizzycooks on Apr 14, 2018 6:56:54 GMT -6
I am not sure how to split the night with dh when we have the baby next to my side of the bed, need light to change him and he only wants the boob first. Dh was up with him until 11 and Again to change him at 4, but I was up every hour in between and now dh is sleeping in and I’m up with the big girls. He’s a good guy you guys, I swear, but I kinda want to kill him.
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Post by gldnbearz on Apr 14, 2018 7:11:59 GMT -6
Sounds like cp3 and my kiddo are in the same sleep club. smilesp, I hope the antibiotics kick in soon. |
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Apr 15, 2018 4:34:35 GMT -6
dizzycooks MH is on leave right now so he gets up to do the diaper changes during the night and if DS is taking too long to settle after his feed we tag. H gets up in the morning with DS1, takes DS2 out to lounge room with him then too (or when he wakes or finishes his feed). I sleep in for an hour or two. When he’s back at work I’ll let him sleep more but will tag him in when DS won’t settle after a feed. If it’s close to his alarm to get up for work time I’ll pass him off and H can deal with being up earlier than normal if he’s had a good stretch of sleep that night. I sleep in both mornings of the weekend since I deal with most of the MOTN stuff. H often has a nap on the couch in the afternoon or evening on the weekends. I’m not someone who can nap unless I’m sick for the most part. I’d work out a system ASAP with your H so you can catch up on some sleep
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Post by alwayscheese on Apr 15, 2018 6:57:18 GMT -6
nevertoomanyshoes I thought I was the only person who couldn't nap! 😐 I've cried tears over being tired but not being able to nap since DS was born.
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Post by clementine on Apr 15, 2018 7:28:41 GMT -6
I’m having trouble figuring out what’s fair for MOTN wake ups for H and me too. I obviously am getting up to nurse and put him back down, which usually ends up being an hour or so. H has been mostly handling all the rest of the wakeups since he’s sleeping out on the couch with L in the pnp. I feel guilty having him do all that since L is a pretty noisy sleeper and wakes up frequently. He’s not complaining, but he has to get up and go to work so I feel bad. And I get to stay home all day, but we all know that does not equal a relaxing days with naps.
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Post by dizzycooks on Apr 15, 2018 9:05:45 GMT -6
alwayscheese I am not much of a napper either, but I’m trying to lay down for a bit when the kids nap. I do better going to bed earlier. Last might ds slept from 8:30-12:15 and I went to bed at 9 so that was a nice stretch.
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Post by gldnbearz on Apr 16, 2018 1:54:49 GMT -6
MH has been sleeping with the toddler to manage MOTN wake ups since we came home with #2. So I've basically been solo for all MOTN with baby. H gets sleep around 2-7:30 - whenever he goes to bed and wakes up with the toddler and gets breakfast started with her.
Tonight, I pumped and H bottle fed baby around 10 pm so I could spend some bed time with the toddler. I slept for an hour and a half or so before the midnight feeding. Let's see how the rest of the night goes.
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Post by sweetc129 on Apr 16, 2018 4:00:54 GMT -6
Feel better soon! Did you get antibiotics yet? Every time I've had mastitis, I feel worlds better after just one day on meds. Hang in there. Yes! I called L&D at 8 pm last night. The MW called it in for me and the pharmacy stayed open a few extra minutes to fill it. Hope you’re feeling better. That’s awesome they stayed open for you so no extra waiting. |
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Post by snowmoon on Apr 16, 2018 4:09:35 GMT -6
Up since 4. She just never wants to be put down after waking to eat at 3:45/4:00. So of course I get her back down and now all I can hear is plows and people scraping the ice off of cars and like yelling across the street to neighbours and making as much noise as possible.
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Post by snowmoon on Apr 16, 2018 4:10:53 GMT -6
And the toddler is starting to stir. SO is home today so he can get up and I can hopefully get another hour or two.
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Post by gldnbearz on Apr 16, 2018 5:10:14 GMT -6
Midnight feeding followed by a 2:30 feeding had lots of spitting up. Hadn't pooped all day and finally thought 4am was the perfect time for it. Now nursing to sleep. Or trying to.
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Post by nuggetrn on Apr 17, 2018 4:39:18 GMT -6
I am not having a good night. Baby hates sleep. I am exhausted and all alone. I am always so concerned about DH getting enough sleep so he can go to work but who cares about me and the sleep I need. All I am doing is taking care of a tiny human who is completely reliant on me. Why do I need to be well rested or sane?
I need help when DH gets home for work but he typically wants to go straight to bed. And I hate asking him to suffer but why not? Because I am.
This is me venting. I have been coping fairly well but I am just tired. 😭😭
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snowmoon
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Post by snowmoon on Apr 17, 2018 4:48:19 GMT -6
I am not having a good night. Baby hates sleep. I am exhausted and all alone. I am always so concerned about DH getting enough sleep so he can go to work but who cares about me and the sleep I need. All I am doing is taking care of a tiny human who is completely reliant on me. Why do I need to be well rested or sane? I need help when DH gets home for work but he typically wants to go straight to bed. And I hate asking him to suffer but why not? Because I am. This is me venting. I have been coping fairly well but I am just tired. 😭😭 It sucks. It's hard. I hate asking J to help because he gets up for work so early. Your wellbeing is important though! Even if he can take her for an hour so you can get some sleep. Are you getting out of the house during the day? I'm very introverted and a total homebody but leaving the house and seeing other adults is the only thing that keeps me sane. |
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Apr 18, 2018 4:12:21 GMT -6
I am not having a good night. Baby hates sleep. I am exhausted and all alone. I am always so concerned about DH getting enough sleep so he can go to work but who cares about me and the sleep I need. All I am doing is taking care of a tiny human who is completely reliant on me. Why do I need to be well rested or sane? I need help when DH gets home for work but he typically wants to go straight to bed. And I hate asking him to suffer but why not? Because I am. This is me venting. I have been coping fairly well but I am just tired. 😭😭 I’m sorry you aren’t getting any sleep, it’s just awful. Sleep deprivation is used as a torture tactic for a reason! But you both need sleep. Personally, I actually found it easier to go to work sleep deprived than I did staying home with DS1. When I went back to work, guess who still had to do most of the MOTN stuff? Yep me because breastfeeding and his preference for mummy cuddles (H was willing but if he went in there it just made it worse 😣) DS1 still nursed multiple times a night until he was 14 months and I went back to work when he was 8 months. Is your H more amenable to staying up later so you can get some sleep or would he prefer to get up earlier. Because really, he has to give up some sleep. You physically and emotionally cannot function without sleep, it’s not sustainable. Lots of hugs and vent away! But make sure your H knows you’re struggling, so he can help. |
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Apr 18, 2018 4:20:57 GMT -6
I don’t tend to get sick often but goddamn as soon as sleep deprivation sets in bam I’m run down and unwell. I have a cold that’s made my asthma flare and I’m over it.
Why does my spawn have his longest stretch of sleep each day at the most inconvenient time so no sleep catch up for me?
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Apr 18, 2018 5:10:52 GMT -6
Now I’m doing that thing where you debate going to bed or waiting for the next feed that’s due any moment but could still be an hour or more away... I hear lots of farting coming from the bassinet so it’s looking more like sooner rather than later but still.
ETA: spoiler alert- he woke up as I got into bed.
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Post by gldnbearz on Apr 18, 2018 6:55:41 GMT -6
nevertoomanyshoes, of course he did. Babies can't tell time, but still know the exact moment to mess with us.
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Post by dizzycooks on Apr 18, 2018 7:35:07 GMT -6
Now I’m doing that thing where you debate going to bed or waiting for the next feed that’s due any moment but could still be an hour or more away... I hear lots of farting coming from the bassinet so it’s looking more like sooner rather than later but still. ETA: spoiler alert- he woke up as I got into bed. Of course he did. I swear they sense these things. |
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Post by ArielMermaid on Apr 20, 2018 0:55:08 GMT -6
I feel like poo. I’m up with digestive issues. MH was all freaked out because it’s like 2:30 and I’m up. Nah just diarrhea 🙄
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Post by sweetc129 on Apr 20, 2018 1:48:44 GMT -6
nevertoomanyshoes it’s the same here, between breastfeeding and baby wanting me MOTN falls on me 100% for a long time. With my first two he tried more often once 6 months came around if they didn’t need to nurse, but they would still scream until I went in. I am so tired I didn’t hear J screaming through the monitor, luckily DH did and got him but he still cried and cried so DH had to get me. He felt bad.
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Post by gldnbearz on Apr 20, 2018 2:01:33 GMT -6
Dear Baby, go to sleep. Thanks, your sleepy momma.
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Post by calendula on Apr 20, 2018 4:34:56 GMT -6
I am not having a good night. Baby hates sleep. I am exhausted and all alone. I am always so concerned about DH getting enough sleep so he can go to work but who cares about me and the sleep I need. All I am doing is taking care of a tiny human who is completely reliant on me. Why do I need to be well rested or sane? I need help when DH gets home for work but he typically wants to go straight to bed. And I hate asking him to suffer but why not? Because I am. This is me venting. I have been coping fairly well but I am just tired. 😭😭 Your husband has a new child too. It's not reasonable to expect that he will not sacrifice some sleep as well. He can send you to bed early and commit to an hour of chores or settling baby or take over a nighttime feed with a bottle. Please advocate for yourself. It's just as much about taking care of you as it is about establishing a good coparenting relationship that will last for years. Sending love and hugs. |
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Post by gldnbearz on Apr 21, 2018 3:52:37 GMT -6
We have come to the point of baby development where I can't just sleep feed at night without burping since he is now prone to spitting up. That just means more baby cuddles, I guess.
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Post by mattsgirl2004 on Apr 22, 2018 0:59:51 GMT -6
There's nothing quite like being totally effing exhausted, it's nearly 1 a.m., I still have yet to go to bed, and all 4 of my kids are awake. 😐
My oldest has been out with friends since he got off of work and has yet to come home. So, I've been awake this whole time waiting for him. In the meantime, and conveniently (you know, because why not), the 3 younger ones have decided to all wake up within 15 minutes of each other and are still all awake. 😐 I'm so, so tired.
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Post by alwayscheese on Apr 22, 2018 3:07:16 GMT -6
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Post by leatherpants on Apr 22, 2018 3:41:47 GMT -6
There's nothing quite like being totally effing exhausted, it's nearly 1 a.m., I still have yet to go to bed, and all 4 of my kids are awake. 😐 My oldest has been out with friends since he got off of work and has yet to come home. So, I've been awake this whole time waiting for him. In the meantime, and conveniently (you know, because why not), the 3 younger ones have decided to all wake up within 15 minutes of each other and are still all awake. 😐 I'm so, so tired. This makes me feel exhausted by proxy. Go to sleep children! |
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