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Post by jewels on Apr 3, 2018 16:41:08 GMT -6
You poor thing. Can you do any puréed soups or smoothies? I made my dad some gazpacho that he really liked and an avocado smoothie. Yes, I can. Problem is that I’m annoyingly picky. So I’m limited in what I like. You should have someone bring you that Starbucks smoothie you live!!
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Post by lfig on Apr 3, 2018 16:47:14 GMT -6
Lol! I totally would.....but no chocolate allowed right now 😢 either. I’m going to make a banana and orange cream smoothie tonight. I hope it tastes decent!
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Post by tgrimes on Apr 3, 2018 17:20:53 GMT -6
You poor thing. Can you do any puréed soups or smoothies? I made my dad some gazpacho that he really liked and an avocado smoothie. Yes, I can. Problem is that I’m annoyingly picky. So I’m limited in what I like. Tell me what you do and don’t like. Let me see if I have any recipes saved that meet your criteria.
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Post by lfig on Apr 3, 2018 17:42:56 GMT -6
Yes, I can. Problem is that I’m annoyingly picky. So I’m limited in what I like. Tell me what you do and don’t like. Let me see if I have any recipes saved that meet your criteria. Lol! If it’s healthy I typically don’t like it! I’m a very plain person. I eat a lot of meat (chicken and beef) and potatoes and pasta. I don’t like vegetables (except corn) or most fruit. Bananas, honeydew and watermelon are about the only fruits I eat. I don’t like fish or seafood. I’m seriously the most annoying eater ever. MY poor H hates it! He is not picky at all.
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Post by lfig on Apr 3, 2018 17:49:27 GMT -6
cagoldi how’s the lil miss doing today?
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Post by klong11 on Apr 3, 2018 18:09:14 GMT -6
Just had to email the dc. Apparently some boy told Cadence repeatedly to pull down her pants and panties. Different boy than the one that showed her his butt and told Cadence to kiss it a couple weeks ago. I'm so over this type of behavior from these two kids. I've told Cadence to stay away from them. She said she kept telling him no and then went to tell the teacher, but she didn't think the teacher heard her because the teacher told her to just go play. Ugh.
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Post by mwhip on Apr 3, 2018 18:22:43 GMT -6
klong11 that is ridiculous...not something talked about at daycare. I hope you get this resolved.
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Post by chrisy01 on Apr 3, 2018 18:25:01 GMT -6
klong11 oh heck no. The school needs to do something. Not okay behavior and could be a sign of things being bad at home for those kids!!
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Post by klong11 on Apr 3, 2018 18:37:14 GMT -6
I got a response from the director. She called the teacher and it sounded like both boys were involved and she knew about it. They were all playing and both boys brought up pulling their pants down, etc.and the teacher stopped it immediately....supposedly. I honestly feel like if the teacher knew about it something should have been said at pick up. I feel like they are trying to not make a big deal out of it or that Cadence is making more of it than it was. I know she's only 4, but I believe her. These things aren't in her wheelhouse. She isn't going to say someone pulled their pants down and be lying about it, you know? She doesn't think like that. If she's going to lie about something it will be that someone hit her or took something of hers. Idk. Maybe I'm wrong, but I just really don't think so.
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Post by slenle on Apr 3, 2018 18:47:55 GMT -6
sands42, what do your parents think about you moving to fl?
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Post by peachsmama on Apr 3, 2018 18:48:49 GMT -6
I got a response from the director. She called the teacher and it sounded like both boys were involved and she knew about it. They were all playing and both boys brought up pulling their pants down, etc.and the teacher stopped it immediately....supposedly. I honestly feel like if the teacher knew about it something should have been said at pick up. I feel like they are trying to not make a big deal out of it or that Cadence is making more of it than it was. I know she's only 4, but I believe her. These things aren't in her wheelhouse. She isn't going to say someone pulled their pants down and be lying about it, you know? She doesn't think that. If she's going to lie about something it will be that someone hit her or took something of hers. Idk. Maybe I'm wrong, but I just really don't think so. In any situations like this, I'm firmly in camp believe her first, figure it out later. She is only 4 but these conversations are only the start of a lifelong conversation about what people can and can't ask of her. You being at her defense and trusting her means everything. Trust your gut.
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Post by joelies on Apr 3, 2018 19:00:55 GMT -6
I got a response from the director. She called the teacher and it sounded like both boys were involved and she knew about it. They were all playing and both boys brought up pulling their pants down, etc.and the teacher stopped it immediately....supposedly. I honestly feel like if the teacher knew about it something should have been said at pick up. I feel like they are trying to not make a big deal out of it or that Cadence is making more of it than it was. I know she's only 4, but I believe her. These things aren't in her wheelhouse. She isn't going to say someone pulled their pants down and be lying about it, you know? She doesn't think that. If she's going to lie about something it will be that someone hit her or took something of hers. Idk. Maybe I'm wrong, but I just really don't think so. In any situations like this, I'm firmly in camp believe her first, figure it out later. She is only 4 but these conversations are only the start of a lifelong conversation about what people can and can't ask of her. You being at her defense and trusting her means everything. Trust your gut. Agreed with this. She needs to know now and going forward that she can always come to you and that you're in her corner. Plus haven't they been less than forthcoming in the past? Or am I mixing up schools?
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Post by chrisy01 on Apr 3, 2018 19:01:51 GMT -6
Trust your gut klong11 I would talk with the director in person and discuss it again with the concerns you brought up with us.
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Post by klong11 on Apr 3, 2018 19:11:10 GMT -6
joelies yes, when the boy pulled his pants down a few weeks back they told me it didn't happen, when in fact, it did. I got the truth from the teacher and she got pissed when she heard the office had lied to me. Then, when I spoke to the office again they still tried to downplay it. I'm going to talk to the teacher tomorrow so I can compare what she says to what Cadence told me. I hate that at 4 I'm having to have these kinds of talks with Cadence, but we have always talked about private areas and bad touch, telling a teacher or parent, etc.
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Post by lfig on Apr 3, 2018 19:13:23 GMT -6
In any situations like this, I'm firmly in camp believe her first, figure it out later. She is only 4 but these conversations are only the start of a lifelong conversation about what people can and can't ask of her. You being at her defense and trusting her means everything. Trust your gut. Agreed with this. She needs to know now and going forward that she can always come to you and that you're in her corner. Plus haven't they been less than forthcoming in the past? Or am I mixing up schools? All of this from peach and joe! 1000% agree! You are doing the right thing. TW: One of our BFF’s 5 year old came home from 1/2 day Kdg one day saying she was tired of kissing boys and didn’t want to do it anymore. You don’t even want to know what that conversation led to them discovering. It was absolutely horrifying and the “boy” was the school bus driver. He went to prison, but not for near long enough. All that is not to scare anyone, but to say how important it is for our kids to understand that we are hear to listen to them no matter what and will take action when they are being treated in an inappropriate way, whether it’s someone being mean and calling them names or doing anything worse. So klong11 I think you are spot on in your reaction and instinct to know something wasn’t right and contact the director.
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Post by klong11 on Apr 3, 2018 19:14:56 GMT -6
lfig OMG! How horrible for that little girl.
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Post by cagoldi on Apr 3, 2018 19:41:22 GMT -6
Oh my goodness, lfig! klong11 Definitely agree with PPs. That shouldn't be happening and when it does, they need to handle it much better than they have been.
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Post by cagoldi on Apr 3, 2018 19:43:07 GMT -6
cagoldi how’s the lil miss doing today? I haven't been able to get there yet since I had my infusion, but the nurse said she was doing really great. I'm going to go for her 11 pm feeding and get another update. They said she's coming home soon, but I don't know what that means. Maybe Thursday at the earliest, I suspect.
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Post by lahdeedah on Apr 3, 2018 19:48:18 GMT -6
Congrats on the house! sands42 klong11 Agree with PP. You are doing the right thing and for sure follow up in the morning to get the whole story. lfig How horrible for that little girl and her parents. I’m so sorry.
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Post by yummeecookee on Apr 3, 2018 20:06:15 GMT -6
Ugh I feel bad for her @klongoria, that this kind of stuff is already happening. I would be really bothered too if B came to me telling me stories like that. You are absolutely right to go w your gut instincts on this one.
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Post by vino on Apr 3, 2018 20:54:02 GMT -6
I agree with everyone else klong11, there is no reason for C to lie. definitely keep on the director; dont let up and give that teacher an ‘I see you bitch’. I’m fuming for you, I had all the same feelings when B had his incident at the old daycare, you can never go wrong with trusting your gut.
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Post by chrisy01 on Apr 3, 2018 21:15:38 GMT -6
Work went well. We got a lot accomplished. I still left S the things I set up for her so we'll see how that goes. I'm no longer going to help her with her projects until it will impact others. But once that happens it will show she's not capable of doing this job.
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Post by chrisy01 on Apr 3, 2018 21:16:13 GMT -6
Oh and J said he appreciated me coming in and would do the same for me if it ever happened to me. So my faith in him has been restored.
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Post by Sunny41 on Apr 3, 2018 21:18:55 GMT -6
klong11 we all agree it is not good. We recently had a former teacher arrested for child porn charges. It brought up a lot of questions and the school handled it well. I would require that the school complete an incident report and have it signed by you and the other parents. Our school gives each student separate reports so it is unknown who the other kids are. But a parent, teacher, and admin. And double check the accuracy of what they put in that report before you sign it since they seem sketchy. Eta I would also request information on how the teachers are trained/retrained on handling inappropriate body behavior.
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Post by klong11 on Apr 3, 2018 21:49:27 GMT -6
I trust the teacher, which is why I want to talk in person with her. It's the relayed information that I get from the office that I don't trust. The teacher tells them the whole story, the office reports to me a padded story. Incident reports have been done, according to the director, so I should see it tomorrow. If it isn't in her cubby, then I'll ask the office for it.
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Post by vino on Apr 3, 2018 21:55:15 GMT -6
I trust the teacher, which is why I want to talk in person with her. It's the relayed information that I get from the office that I don't trust. The teacher tells them the whole story, the office reports to me a padded story. Incident reports have been done, according to the director, so I should see it tomorrow. If it isn't in her cubby, then I'll ask the office for it. That’s so weird! Why would the office want to cushion the truth from the teacher. Usually it’s the other way around. IDK, hopefully they get on the same page with this. Keep us posted
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Post by Sunny41 on Apr 3, 2018 21:57:10 GMT -6
I trust the teacher, which is why I want to talk in person with her. It's the relayed information that I get from the office that I don't trust. The teacher tells them the whole story, the office reports to me a padded story. Incident reports have been done, according to the director, so I should see it tomorrow. If it isn't in her cubby, then I'll ask the office for it. I'm glad there is record. I hope the other kids have reports too. I hope it is accurate. And I'm really sorry this is something C and you have to deal with. I know I was very emotionally struggling with our creep a few weeks ago.
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Post by klong11 on Apr 3, 2018 21:59:37 GMT -6
I trust the teacher, which is why I want to talk in person with her. It's the relayed information that I get from the office that I don't trust. The teacher tells them the whole story, the office reports to me a padded story. Incident reports have been done, according to the director, so I should see it tomorrow. If it isn't in her cubby, then I'll ask the office for it. That’s so weird! Why would the office want to cushion the truth from the teacher. Usually it’s the other way around. IDK, hopefully they get on the same page with this. Keep us posted They don't realize that I have a relationship with all of Cadence's teachers and that I'll get the whole story from them. Cadence has been at that school longer than anyone in the office, including the director. Parents have better relationships with the teachers that have been there forever than anyone in charge.
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