First week of April Randoms

[nuggetrn]

I am glad she passed the BPP tinyjoys!! Hope the Drs have good things to say and you get to pee soon!!

[katietopaz]

We just finished up at our 2-day post hospital checkup for baby. He’s 2oz above his birth weight and in even better news, the pedi was able to clip his tongue tie!! I’m so relieved we didn’t have to schedule a separate appt with an ENT. I love our pediatrician. I hope this makes BFing much less painful.

Glad baby passed, tinyjoys! Sorry you’re being kept on your toes so much.

Thinking of everyone struggling with sleep woes and little ones. Right there in the thick of it with you.

[auri]

The nurses and dr seem to think I had a stomach bug which led to me not keeping anything down last night. Also found out that DHs aunt, her granddaughter, and DHs cousin all came down with it too. I'm trying to keep my fingers crossed that DH and DD didn't catch it too. I am feeling a million times better, and keeping liquids down. They seem to think that I can try to eat solids for dinner tonight.

[auri]

tinyjoys I'm glad she passed!

katietopaz I'm glad you were able to get the tongue tie done at the pediatrician.

[ArielMermaid]

Shit, fingers crossed the rest of your family stays healthy auri.

[dizzycooks]

auri I hope you feel much better soon!
katietopaz I’m glad you got the tongue tie dealt with. That should make things easier.
Dh just called me from work upset about something that happened. He has been having a bad day at work daily for about a month. I’m kind of over it. I know that makes me a terrible person, but he has to stay until after we have this baby. It just makes me worry he’s going to get fired and then wth are we going to do? Sit down, do your job and quit caring that they don’t want to do what you’re asking. Management has decided they don’t want to make the changes!! Grr. Sorry. I’m frustrated. I’m much for of a a sit down, shut up and do what they say type person and as long as they pay me I do not care if they want me to make paper airplanes all day long.

[cornpop]

I'm really regretting eating like crap while I was pregnant now. I have so much weight to lose. And I can't even see how to fit working out in to my schedule with two kids. Ugh.

[smilesp]

I got a much-needed pedicure today. That was one of the last things I really wanted to get done before baby so I guess I’m ready whenever now...

[filingjointly]

T-minus 15 hours until my csection. Actually feeling a little (lot) nervous but I’m trying to just soak up time with my older two kids this afternoon.

[tinyjoys]

Oy.

I was released from L&D around 2. She did fine on the BPP. It’s only Mondays that she’s a pain & unreactive. She hangs out steadily in the 130s for her heart rate & just won’t accelerate, so it’s a steady line across the test strips.

[clementine]

Good luck filingjointly! Hope you enjoy this last little bit of time with your kids before baby!

smilesp I painted my toenails the day before I went into labor so maybe that’s how it will work for you too!

katietopaz glad the check up went well and the pedi was able to take care of the tongue tie. I hope it helps with nursing! I used a nipple shield for the first 2-ish weeks with L because he had a hard time latching. I was super worried he’d get dependent on it and we’d be using it forever. With some time and reassurance/encouragement from these wonderful MA18 ladies, we were able to transition away from the shield, but it was really nice to know that using it was not a huge deal. Fx for some relief for your nips!

[sunshinedaisies]

filingjointly good luck with your csection!!

My ILs got here this morning and I’m so not thrilled they are here. I’ve really been struggling with a wide range of emotions lately and I’m just not up for putting on a happy face with them here. Plus I have been struggling with nursing because L is such a lazy eater so I’ve been adding in pumps to try to help out. I’m just feeling overwhelmed and stressed and them being here is not helping. It’s going to be a long week.

[clementine]

For the past week, L has only been pooping once per day, but it’s been a near blowout each time. He went over 48 hours without pooping at the end of last week and then another 36 hours over the weekend. Both times, he was pretty fussy and wouldn’t really sleep in the hours prior to finally pooping. His belly wasn’t distended or really firm, but I guess now I know why he was extra fussy. Pedi said they wouldn’t be too concerned or do anything about it until it had been over a week or if he seemed really bothered by it. He’s eating well and has a ton of wet diapers. I know it can be normal for BF babies to go a bit longer between poops, but I really hope this doesn’t become a pattern bc I do not love the fussiness and I’m sure it’s not pleasant for L either. We did try using the rectal thermometer to see if that helped, but he didn’t end up going until the day after we tried that so I’m not sure that’s what did it.

Sorry for all the poop talk. Happy Monday!

[clementine]

Hugs sunshinedaisies! We had some nursing struggles and I had all the emotions too, and I was really worried about handling all of that with my ILs here. It’s so hard when you don’t have your house to yourself, but don’t be afraid to take some time for yourself and escape to your bedroom or wherever for a bit. Hopefully this week goes quickly!

[ArielMermaid]

I’m realizing how little I remember of the newborn phase with DD, reading these posts.

[calendula]

Apr 2, 2018 16:18:03 GMT -6 ArielMermaid said:

I’m realizing how little I remember of the newborn phase with DD, reading these posts.

Funny, isn't it?

DH and I have been doing a lot of processing and unpacking our experience with DS 6 years ago. We talked a lot with our nurses in the hospital and one mentioned that she suspected we had some PTSD related to those infant days. And the more we think of it, the more we agree. DS was such a difficult baby and it was so hard for so long. DD is so much easier and we are now realizing how DS must have been suffering from reflux or something because of how not normal it was. I wish I had known that at the time but it is allllll coming back to us now.

It's amazing how the mind blocks things out isn't it?

[ArielMermaid]

Apr 2, 2018 17:12:54 GMT -6 calendula said:

Apr 2, 2018 16:18:03 GMT -6 ArielMermaid said:

I’m realizing how little I remember of the newborn phase with DD, reading these posts.

Funny, isn't it?

DH and I have been doing a lot of processing and unpacking our experience with DS 6 years ago. We talked a lot with our nurses in the hospital and one mentioned that she suspected we had some PTSD related to those infant days. And the more we think of it, the more we agree. DS was such a difficult baby and it was so hard for so long. DD is so much easier and we are now realizing how DS must have been suffering from reflux or something because of how not normal it was. I wish I had known that at the time but it is allllll coming back to us now.

It's amazing how the mind blocks things out isn't it?

Your experience sounds really similar to ours. DD was just awful and we are basically living in fear of repeating that this time.

[sunshinedaisies]

Apr 2, 2018 16:08:40 GMT -6 clementine said:

Hugs sunshinedaisies! We had some nursing struggles and I had all the emotions too, and I was really worried about handling all of that with my ILs here. It’s so hard when you don’t have your house to yourself, but don’t be afraid to take some time for yourself and escape to your bedroom or wherever for a bit. Hopefully this week goes quickly!

Thank you! At first I was sort of annoyed I had to go hide in my own house to nurse but so far I’ve actually been grateful for the excuse to go take some time for myself. Overwhelmed? Oops I’m so sorry I have to go feed the baby now. Perfect excuse!

[sunshinedaisies]

Apr 2, 2018 16:18:03 GMT -6 ArielMermaid said:

I’m realizing how little I remember of the newborn phase with DD, reading these posts.

I have thought this so many times over the past four weeks. I feel like I forgot everything. Like I google shit about 6 times a day because I just don’t remember.

[calendula]

Apr 2, 2018 17:14:38 GMT -6 ArielMermaid said:

Apr 2, 2018 17:12:54 GMT -6 calendula said:

Funny, isn't it?

DH and I have been doing a lot of processing and unpacking our experience with DS 6 years ago. We talked a lot with our nurses in the hospital and one mentioned that she suspected we had some PTSD related to those infant days. And the more we think of it, the more we agree. DS was such a difficult baby and it was so hard for so long. DD is so much easier and we are now realizing how DS must have been suffering from reflux or something because of how not normal it was. I wish I had known that at the time but it is allllll coming back to us now.

It's amazing how the mind blocks things out isn't it?

Your experience sounds really similar to ours. DD was just awful and we are basically living in fear of repeating that this time.

So many hugs. I'm actually struggling with this so much more than anticipated! While we were in it, I thought I just couldn't hack it as a new parent. Eventually I came to realize he was more difficult than most and that was a freeing feeling. But now I'm realizing that it was probably not his disposition to be so unhappy (he has been a very cheerful happy kid since 1.5). He was probably in pain undiagnosed with something. And we realize that more and more right now and I feel so horrible about it, more than I should.

Anyway. Back to you. If your experience is anything like mine, you will be tense those first days expecting the worst. But I hope your second is like my DD...a perfect angel who surprises us at every turn!

[smilesp]

I literally got up to pee every 1.5 hours last night. I hope that doesn’t happen again.

[smilesp]

I just went to the bathroom and had what I think is the start of bloody show (I hate that term, ick). I’m not having contractions or anything. What do I do? Just go to bed and see if anything happens?
ETA Google tells me to chill. I feel like a newb but I never had this with my first.

[nevertoomanyshoes]

Eek how exciting smilesp! I also painted my toes the day before labour started.

My show started the same time as contractions but it can be a few days too before labour starts. Hope you can get some rest before it’s go time

[katietopaz]

Apr 2, 2018 21:40:02 GMT -6 smilesp said:

I just went to the bathroom and had what I think is the start of bloody show (I hate that term, ick). I’m not having contractions or anything. What do I do? Just go to bed and see if anything happens?
ETA Google tells me to chill. I feel like a newb but I never had this with my first.

I think my OB wanted me to call if I had what I thought was my bloody show, but just to check in. I think you’re good to wait! Also, how exciting if this is the start!

[katietopaz]

Apr 2, 2018 16:18:03 GMT -6 ArielMermaid said:

I’m realizing how little I remember of the newborn phase with DD, reading these posts.

Man, I had blocked out a LOT. This baby is a little easier in some ways but that doesn’t change the insane hormone crash. Holy cow. Also, I know I’m only four days in, but he nursed almost every hour today which is the opposite of what I was hoping would happen when my milk came in, and nights are so massively unpredictable that I start crying from anxiety by the time it’s 6pm.

I just keep reminding myself that this is a phase, and it gets better.

[clementine]

Apr 2, 2018 22:49:29 GMT -6 katietopaz said:

and nights are so massively unpredictable that I start crying from anxiety by the time it’s 6pm.

I just keep reminding myself that this is a phase, and it gets better.

I was doing the same thing. Crying and getting super anxious in anticipation of the night. H couldn’t really understand why, but it can be so hard to go into the night not fully knowing what to expect, but knowing you are going to be up a lot and lonely. I think that is the hardest part for me. H got up to help me or even just sit with me while I nursed MOTN the first several days, but not anymore (which I understand, he has to work in the morning, plus I’d rather have him awake after nursing if L won’t go back down), but it can be so lonely to be up by myself. Sending hugs! I hope your night is going well!

Edit: messed up the quote somehow

[yianna]

Tough News: my 83 year old uncle took his own life sometime yesterday.

My dad is a wreck - he’s the youngest of 10 kids and has watched his siblings pass away - all from sickness - except this one - who he is exceptionally close with.

I’m close to having a baby but he needs to be there for the funeral - in Idaho. I’m in VA, he’s in Delaware. I have to find a way to tell him it’s fine for him to go - he needs to be there!! I wouldn’t be able to forgive myself if he didn’t - you know??

[smilesp]

I’m definitely in labor. Contractions are keeping me awake but not super regular yet. I’m just letting DH sleep for now. Of course today is his first day back to work after 10 days off. I guess we’ll decide what to do when he wakes up.

[clementine]

yianna I am so so sorry. What terrible news. Sending love and hugs to you and your family.

[mattsgirl2004]

I'm so very sorry yianna. Sending prayers for peace and strength.

smilesp Eek! Hope you can get a little rest while you're in the early stages of labor. Keep us posted!