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Post by mrsmonogrammed on Mar 23, 2018 17:05:07 GMT -6
I definitely overdid it today moving things in the baby’s room. I’m getting impatient for everything to finally be put away and I want to start washing/organizing things when I’m done with work after next week! I’m currently riding in the car with the seat heater on my back (🙌🏻) and the air blasting on my face. lol
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Post by leatherpants on Mar 23, 2018 17:10:16 GMT -6
The baby had her follow up weight appt this morning and she lost half an ounce from Wednesday ☹. We had to do another bilirubin test and go back Monday for another weight check. I had a mini breakdown after because I feel like it's all on me to make sure she is eating and gaining and I'm failing. We went through this with DD1 but she had started gaining again by this point. Feeding and weight issues suck. But you aren't failing. You aren't. Its not about failing or not. You are doing the best you can and you guys have an obstacle you have to sort out. That's it. Be kind to yourself friend.
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Post by stardust84 on Mar 23, 2018 17:10:20 GMT -6
The cervidil has been in for two hours. I think I am feeling contractions but don't want to get my hopes up because it could be 36 to 48 hours before anything really happens. Due to the Verix I have to be inpatient. I might go stir crazy.
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Post by sweetc129 on Mar 23, 2018 17:17:40 GMT -6
The cervidil has been in for two hours. I think I am feeling contractions but don't want to get my hopes up because it could be 36 to 48 hours before anything really happens. Due to the Verix I have to be inpatient. I might go stir crazy. Good Luck!!
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Post by sweetc129 on Mar 23, 2018 17:18:16 GMT -6
leatherpants you aren’t failing, weight issues early is so normal. Hope your LO has gained by Monday ❤️
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Post by ArielMermaid on Mar 23, 2018 17:30:28 GMT -6
Feeding issues are a god damn mind fuck. Why is eating so hard babies? I’m dreading it. My DD and I had all sorts of problems.
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Post by sunshinedaisies on Mar 23, 2018 18:10:08 GMT -6
The baby had her follow up weight appt this morning and she lost half an ounce from Wednesday ☹. We had to do another bilirubin test and go back Monday for another weight check. I had a mini breakdown after because I feel like it's all on me to make sure she is eating and gaining and I'm failing. We went through this with DD1 but she had started gaining again by this point. This is totally normal so please don’t beat yourself up. This happened with DS1 and we are currently on trend with this for DS2 as well. As long as you are feeding your baby you are doing everything you can. And weight at this point is so fluid - depending on when you last fed and when she last peed, you could be off by a few ounces either way.
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Post by sunshinedaisies on Mar 23, 2018 18:13:43 GMT -6
I maaayyyyy have been influenced in naming this baby knowing it would annoy my MIL. When we were visiting over the holidays, someone mentioned DS2’s name and she said something akin to not liking it and please no. At that point it was on our list but we were like 75% set on another name. Well fast forward a few months and I changed my mind and pushed hard for this name.
I mean - I DO like DS’s name and it IS my favorite so I didn’t pick it just to annoy her. But that was definitely a bonus. I’m a terrible person 😂
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Post by cp3 on Mar 23, 2018 18:35:56 GMT -6
Thanks ladies I know it's normal I've just been super emotional these past two days so that is not helping. And the nurse called and her bilirubin levels went up not down ugh.
I downloaded a breastfeeding app and set a reminder to go off every two hours for feeding. She's so sleepy so we are stripping her down to her diaper to wake her to eat which has been working so far thankfully. They also want me to try pumping to see how much milk I'm making to make sure it's enough. I want to fast forward to next week and when we are hopefully over this. I forgot how hard the first week truly is.
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Post by auri on Mar 23, 2018 18:42:09 GMT -6
Someone please just put me out of my misery now. I just found out that my mil is coming for Easter. I hate that she's so freaking wishy washy...I've gotten that she's coming, not coming, and now she's coming today alone. But now it looks like a sure thing since my bil is going to give her gas money to come. I think I'm too pregnant to deal with her shenanigans, especially since I don't know how long she's planning on staying and DH is using all of his time for after the baby is born. I think this calls for a chocolate milkshake to drown out my sorrows.
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Mar 23, 2018 18:44:47 GMT -6
Best thing some one told me about parenting: YOU CANNOT FORCE YOUR KID TO EAT OR SLEEP. You can do literally ALL THE THINGS and your kid still may not nurse/eat/gain weight/STTN/go long stretches. Formula/bottles/cosleeping/nursing/napping instead of doing dishes are all good things.
Are you trying whatever you can? Great. You’re fine. Is your kid safe and relatively healthy? Awesome. You’re fine. Are you giving yourself grace and forgiveness? 👍🏻 This needs to happen as much as possible.
Newborns are so hard but everyone seems to be doing such a great job. It’s (selfishly) making me feel better about my upcoming newborn struggles to see y’all really take the challenges head on.
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Post by snowmoon on Mar 23, 2018 19:47:02 GMT -6
Everything hurts right now.
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Post by stardust84 on Mar 23, 2018 21:18:06 GMT -6
The baby had her follow up weight appt this morning and she lost half an ounce from Wednesday ☹. We had to do another bilirubin test and go back Monday for another weight check. I had a mini breakdown after because I feel like it's all on me to make sure she is eating and gaining and I'm failing. We went through this with DD1 but she had started gaining again by this point. Don't blame yourself. My son took forever to gain weight. We were in the hospital a week after he was born because of RSV. They wanted to do weighted feeds so it was mainly formula and they came off as if they thought we weren't feeding him. It turned out to be due to jaundice, RSV and reflux. We had no control over the reasons.
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Post by clementine on Mar 24, 2018 2:04:38 GMT -6
My phone was on the armrest of the glider (the same side I’m using to hold the baby) and I couldn’t reach it with my other arm, so I turned the glider as if to get closer to it. Except the armrest is obviously attached to the glider and moved right along with it. I... am not getting enough sleep.
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Post by alwayscheese on Mar 24, 2018 3:49:57 GMT -6
Hugs cp3 we were there last week and it is so hard!
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Mar 24, 2018 4:18:09 GMT -6
Hugs cp3, also was there with DS1 and could have written your post then. I had to pump and give him a top up bottle after each feed because he was working too hard and tiring at the breast (turned out he had a tongue tie that was missed, at the time they thought it was because he was small and having trouble because I had flat nipples (?)). Your bubba will be ok, you are doing a great job. Please don’t feel like you aren’t.
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Mar 24, 2018 4:29:54 GMT -6
I’m annoyed somewhat irrationally. Actually if I’m honest it’s totally irrationally really.
When we had DS1, MIL wanted to buy a baby item for him, cool, thank you very much appreciated with all the crap needing to be purchased! But she couldn’t decide what to get. First it was a swing, then no, a car seat, but then no something he’ll use for a long time. We gave suggestions, no, she didn’t want to get that, procrastination etc. My mum gave us money to get the crib and change table, no, MIL didn’t want to give money, ok fine. So over the course of the pregnancy, we, two pretty organised people by nature, bought all we needed. The week before I was due she was like, so what do you still need? Well, nothing. We are having a baby any day now so we have everything essential. It’s all good, you don’t need to get us anything. Well. Did not go down well that there was nothing left for her to get him.
Fast forward to tonight. I’m now over due to have this baby (well, by one day but still). She texts MH, what do you need for the new baby that I could get him?
Me: ...............
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Mar 24, 2018 4:30:29 GMT -6
And to clarify, my MIL is pretty good overall. It’s just her indecisiveness can be so frustrating!!!
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Post by ArielMermaid on Mar 24, 2018 5:16:48 GMT -6
And to clarify, my MIL is pretty good overall. It’s just her indecisiveness can be so frustrating!!! Commiseration LT, I could have written that about my own. Just make a decision!!!!
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Post by yianna on Mar 24, 2018 5:23:57 GMT -6
I’m annoyed somewhat irrationally. Actually if I’m honest it’s totally irrationally really. When we had DS1, MIL wanted to buy a baby item for him, cool, thank you very much appreciated with all the crap needing to be purchased! But she couldn’t decide what to get. First it was a swing, then no, a car seat, but then no something he’ll use for a long time. We gave suggestions, no, she didn’t want to get that, procrastination etc. My mum gave us money to get the crib and change table, no, MIL didn’t want to give money, ok fine. So over the course of the pregnancy, we, two pretty organised people by nature, bought all we needed. The week before I was due she was like, so what do you still need? Well, nothing. We are having a baby any day now so we have everything essential. It’s all good, you don’t need to get us anything. Well. Did not go down well that there was nothing left for her to get him. Fast forward to tonight. I’m now over due to have this baby (well, by one day but still). She texts MH, what do you need for the new baby that I could get him? Me: ............... How about she gets you a magic pill that makes you go in to labor?! Seriously - newborn photo session?!
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Post by yianna on Mar 24, 2018 5:26:12 GMT -6
So we have my company GALA tonight. Aka Adult Prom.
And yes, 36w pregnant me is GOING. We stay the night at the hotel - no kids. Sleep in. I’m so excited for that more than the party.
We also are finally getting around to the hospital tour...
Did I mention. NO KIDS.
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Post by cornpop on Mar 24, 2018 5:36:46 GMT -6
Elle has her nights/days mixed up so last night was... Not fun. Every half hour until 5am she'd cry then at 5 she finally passed out. I guess today I'll try and keep her up more to get her back on schedule.
But for right now... I'm exhausted.
Our toddler came up yesterday to meet her. It went really well! She marched right in and demanded "where's my little sister?". Then was so protective of her and only wanted me to hold her and when Elle cried she kept saying "it's okay little sister". Too adorable
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Post by ArielMermaid on Mar 24, 2018 6:09:13 GMT -6
My mom and I are heading into town today to get DD1 a summer wardrobe so I don’t have to do it in the trenches of newborn-ness. Then my dad decided he wanted to come to and they are going to take me to lunch. I can’t wait to go to a restaurant and hold a menu. I don’t get out much.
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Post by auri on Mar 24, 2018 6:20:31 GMT -6
nevertoomanyshoes Maybe she can get a box of diapers. Never can have too many of those. Although the picture session sounds like a good idea too.
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Post by mattsgirl2004 on Mar 24, 2018 7:00:44 GMT -6
We have family coming today and are staying through the weekend. They're my favorite BIL and SIL, so I'm looking forward to it.
I had some pretty uncomfortable contractions last night. They were consistent for about 2 hours and then went away. At one point, I really thought I was in the early stages of labor. I'm probably in the minority here, but I'm glad they went away. 11 days until my RCS and I'd like to make it to that point. Everything is planned around his arrival on April 4th.
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Post by smilesp on Mar 24, 2018 7:03:23 GMT -6
mattsgirl2004 I’m on your bench with the not wanting baby to come early. A few days is ok but I’d prefer not much more than that. DH is off all next week for spring break and we have so much stuff planned.
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Post by mattsgirl2004 on Mar 24, 2018 7:08:16 GMT -6
mattsgirl2004 I’m on your bench with the not wanting baby to come early. A few days is ok but I’d prefer not much more than that. DH is off all next week for spring break and we have so much stuff planned. FX both of our babies stay put until it's time. They tend to have a mind of their own though, so we'll see. 😊
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Post by nuggetrn on Mar 24, 2018 7:17:26 GMT -6
Sending you hugs cp3. Breastfeeding is hard. Even harder when you have an uncooperative baby. I hope she wakes up better for you. Also thank God for breastfeeding apps. How did mom's before this time remember when they did anything? My brain is absolute mush.
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Post by nuggetrn on Mar 24, 2018 7:26:05 GMT -6
nevertoomanyshoes my otherwise wonderful MIL did the exact same thing. And would not stop asking me what I needed. I kept telling her that if I didn't have it at this point I probably didn't know that I needed it. She hosted a baby shower for me with her family at almost 38 weeks and was upset she wouldn't have a big item to give me in front of her family. She has issues with thinking material items indicate how much She cares for you. She ended up buying me a cloth diaper pail that I had already researched and decided I didn't want to use and it is driving me insane because it is way too freaking small. But I feel guilty and don't want to not use it.
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Post by nuggetrn on Mar 24, 2018 7:30:55 GMT -6
Baby did not get a ton of sleep last night. I am hoping that she will take a nice long nap this morning because DH is off with his dad right now. After she sleeps for a few hours (hopefully) I need to run into town. Then my SIL is supposed to be here at 2 to meet the baby. So sounds like a busy day... I really need to be better about napping during the day but it's so hard to make myself lay down and sleep.
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