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Post by ovenrack on Feb 27, 2018 21:54:31 GMT -6
What the actual fuuuuuuuuuch?
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Post by ovenrack on Feb 27, 2018 21:56:34 GMT -6
Anyone else? I fully admit to abstaining for... quite awhile now. My midwife casually suggested it today, and I was all, okay! But whaaaaat. Maybe I didn’t attempt it last time I was this pregnant, or maybe I’ve blocked it. But that’s just way too complicated.
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Post by alwayscheese on Feb 27, 2018 21:56:37 GMT -6
Lol ETA this was at the original post. Will read sexing post now. I mean second.
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Post by alwayscheese on Feb 27, 2018 22:01:51 GMT -6
Yes to it being complicated. It's pretty scarce around here. Spoiler because I feel like I need to. Not used to discussing preferred positions LOL I've resorted to just laying on my side and he comes from behind. It's not very exciting but I use my vibrator at the same time and it's actually pretty good for what it is. 😅
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Post by ovenrack on Feb 27, 2018 22:12:50 GMT -6
alwayscheese that makes sense - tried something like that but it just kept not quite... working out. Maybe my pubic bone has, like, shifted? It kept... getting in the way? Oh well. We will have to try again another day. Lol. At least we laughed!
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Post by cp3 on Feb 27, 2018 22:24:38 GMT -6
My libido has actually been pretty high this pregnancy compared to last time when I didn't want Mh near me. We've had sex pretty much weekly throughout but the past few weeks have been getting uncomfortable. The most comfortable right now is me on my knees and Mh goes from behind.
I don't know if I'll be able to go until the end because I am getting more and more uncomfortable. But there is the old wives tale that it can jump start labor.
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Post by whatsit on Feb 27, 2018 22:26:40 GMT -6
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Post by whatsit on Feb 27, 2018 22:28:00 GMT -6
But there is the old wives tale that it can jump start labor. This^ but also the protein in semen is supposed to help ripen the cervix.
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Post by cp3 on Feb 27, 2018 22:30:43 GMT -6
But there is the old wives tale that it can jump start labor. This^ but also the protein in semen is supposed to help ripen the cervix. Mh swears it worked with DD1 because I went into labor the next morning. So he just keeps making comments about how he has the solution to start labor this go round. I had already started losing my mucus plug a few days before so it may just be a coincidence but he swears that's what started labor.
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Post by shellyr on Feb 27, 2018 22:52:40 GMT -6
I call it adult Tetris.
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Post by katietopaz on Feb 27, 2018 23:34:16 GMT -6
I'm LOLing at the gifs and empathizing with everyone. It has been awhile here, too, because finding a position is just...too complicated. Already overweight plus massive pregnant belly = *shrug*
Basically anything but p-in-v has been easier, but obviously that defeats the purpose of having sex to help things along.
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Post by yianna on Feb 28, 2018 1:07:26 GMT -6
All fours, pillow under belly.
Side laying is okay too - pillow under belly.
It’s not always fun but better than grumpy husband...
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Feb 28, 2018 3:21:34 GMT -6
Also, orgasming can jump start contractions *if* your body is ready. It’s not just an OWT.
I usually just get on top - super easy and allows me to have a lot of control. We’re having ST less than normal but usually at least 1x/week. It’s super important to our relationship and wonderful to be able to maintain that intimacy. He’s promised he’s not weirded out by my belly and does a great job making me forget it’s there.
You can also lay in the bed with your legs off the edge and have him stand - cushion with pillows until comfortable LOL.
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Post by polson on Feb 28, 2018 5:27:50 GMT -6
lol. nope. sorry h. i feel bad, but nope
also, while not 3rd tri related, the visit notes for my last appointment has all my info for induction and then the topic quickly switches to this being a good time to start thinking about pp birth control. i feel like this is some sick ob humor.
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Post by ovenrack on Feb 28, 2018 5:41:29 GMT -6
Our regular non-pregnant normal is 1x a week so I cannot possibly imagine anything more. I’m in the mood but the physics get in the way.
Glad to hear I’m not alone. I’ll try different more positions next time, lol. Mostly more pillows.
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Post by mattsgirl2004 on Feb 28, 2018 7:04:58 GMT -6
+1 to side laying position. At this point it's the only way I'm comfortable. We shoot for at least once a week, but that doesn't always happen.
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Post by alwayscheese on Feb 28, 2018 7:26:06 GMT -6
Oh. Also.... Midwife at my office said they've had people come in to their six week checkup already pregnant. 😳😲😱 including one of their nurses 😒😷
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Post by auri on Feb 28, 2018 7:29:52 GMT -6
Oh. Also.... Midwife at my office said they've had people come in to their six week checkup already pregnant. 😳😲😱 including one of their nurses 😒😷 [b Do not want!!!! 😮
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Post by polson on Feb 28, 2018 7:41:00 GMT -6
yea i’ve heard stories about 6week check up pregnant women too and it just doesn’t compute. i know that thinking about pp birth control is something i should do, its just funny to me to mention it in the same breath as induction info.
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Feb 28, 2018 7:44:09 GMT -6
yea i’ve heard stories about 6week check up pregnant women too and it just doesn’t compute. i know that thinking about pp birth control is something i should do, its just funny to me to mention it in the same breath as induction info. Maybe not though - don’t some women who end up with a c-section elect to have their tubes tied then? I feel like there can never be enough BC awareness though LOL
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Post by polson on Feb 28, 2018 7:46:31 GMT -6
ahh yes i should have thought about the tubes tied option. my sil had that done even without a csection...i guess i am just not planning on that route at this point
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Post by dizzycooks on Feb 28, 2018 7:56:36 GMT -6
Lol. No. I’ve asked several times and dh is all nope nope nope. So he’s in his own until after his V is proven successful. I may require some to get labor going in a few weeks, but until then, I’m kind passed wanting to figure it out.
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Post by auri on Feb 28, 2018 8:04:03 GMT -6
I'm 99% sure I'm going to get my tubes tied. At first I wasn't considering it, but after how horrible this pregnancy has been I never want to risk getting pregnant again. As for sex, I can't remember the when the last time we did it was. I puked immediately after and h hasn't asked since. I feel bad cause I know he wants to, but I just don't have it in me right now.
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Post by mintyblueair on Feb 28, 2018 8:05:18 GMT -6
My libido has been ok this pregnancy, so we're still having sex once or twice a week. But the only position I'm comfortable in these days is on my knees.
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Post by sweetc129 on Feb 28, 2018 8:20:10 GMT -6
It had been awhile for us too, so last weekend I was all let's do this and ya it was a virgin Moby Dick scene. I mean we got the job done but it wasn't pretty and it sure as heck isn't going to happen again until at least 6w pp. auri, I am getting a tubal during this c/s. I talked to my OB last appointment and I'm not just getting them tied I'm getting my tubes completely removed.
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Post by ovenrack on Feb 28, 2018 8:29:49 GMT -6
As soon as this babe is out, my H is scheduling a vasectomy appt. That's right.
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Post by cp3 on Feb 28, 2018 8:33:03 GMT -6
Mh wants to get a vasectomy after baby is born. I'm almost ready to be done but not fully there yet. I was on the fence about one more but this pregnancy has been so hard compared to my first so I'm leaning more to being done. I told Mh I want to wait and see how I'm feeling once this baby is a year and if I feel our family is complete then he will get one.
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Feb 28, 2018 8:39:03 GMT -6
Mh wants to get a vasectomy after baby is born. I'm almost ready to be done but not fully there yet. I was on the fence about one more but this pregnancy has been so hard compared to my first so I'm leaning more to being done. I told Mh I want to wait and see how I'm feeling once this baby is a year and if I feel our family is complete then he will get one. +1. We're waiting until the baby is 6mos for it and then we’ll get it done. I don’t mind having paragard in while BFing bc i don’t get a period but it came back around 10mos PP. I figure 4 months of paragard after the V will give us enough time to “clear the pipes.”
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Post by smilesp on Feb 28, 2018 8:41:16 GMT -6
Oh. Also.... Midwife at my office said they've had people come in to their six week checkup already pregnant. 😳😲😱 including one of their nurses 😒😷 I literally cannot imagine this. The trauma to the area + the lack of sleep due to a newborn...it was a looong time before we had PP sex after DS.
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Post by cornpop on Feb 28, 2018 8:45:20 GMT -6
My libido was high earlier in the pregnancy, but now it's gonnnnnnnne. I may start doing it just to hopefully get labor going when we get a little closer but it's purely selfish at that point.
Post pregnancy, I am going to go right back on BC. It keeps my skin clear and helps my periods stay under control. I still really want my H to get a vasectomy though because DNW to risk having another baby.
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