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Post by yianna on Feb 28, 2018 8:46:17 GMT -6
We are catholic so we will resume NFP and be very conservative with when we do have sex after baby.
Also I don’t get women even having a drive for sex before 6ww PP. aren’t they exhausted??? No thanks.
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Post by mattsgirl2004 on Feb 28, 2018 8:53:13 GMT -6
I'm getting tubes tied at my RCS. No more babies for us!
PP sex is always painful for me, plus exhaustion, extra baby weight, etc. There's no way I have any drive to be intimate during that time.
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Post by cp3 on Feb 28, 2018 9:48:53 GMT -6
Mh wants to get a vasectomy after baby is born. I'm almost ready to be done but not fully there yet. I was on the fence about one more but this pregnancy has been so hard compared to my first so I'm leaning more to being done. I told Mh I want to wait and see how I'm feeling once this baby is a year and if I feel our family is complete then he will get one. +1. We're waiting until the baby is 6mos for it and then we’ll get it done. I don’t mind having paragard in while BFing bc i don’t get a period but it came back around 10mos PP. I figure 4 months of paragard after the V will give us enough time to “clear the pipes.” Last time I did the mini pill and condoms which was ok but I think I'm going to try an IUD this time. I've never had one so I'm a little nervous but don't really want to do the pill this time around. |
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Post by cp3 on Feb 28, 2018 9:50:30 GMT -6
Yeah I was not one wanting anything sex related at 6 weeks ppm. And I was super nervous that it would be painful even though I had minimal tearing. It was a while before sex was comfortable for me again.
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Post by Rama on Feb 28, 2018 10:08:51 GMT -6
We recently started having sex again, like...in the past 2-3 weeks. Before that, I don't think we've done anything since first tri. I'm ace and he's definitely not, so it causes some friction, but he knows what my needs are and I'll oblige him in other ways. Something about the last few weeks has really made me want to have sex, though, so...*shrug* I take advantage of the opportunities I get.  |
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Feb 28, 2018 10:45:53 GMT -6
cp3 we are not responsible enough for the pill+condoms. Hormonal BC makes me a raging bitch with no libido so the benefits of paragard seriously outweighed the insanely heavy periods. I didn’t notice my cramps were any worse and it didn’t hurt to have put in or removed. 7/10, would recommend to a friend.
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Post by ovenrack on Feb 28, 2018 11:20:07 GMT -6
Mh wants to get a vasectomy after baby is born. I'm almost ready to be done but not fully there yet. I was on the fence about one more but this pregnancy has been so hard compared to my first so I'm leaning more to being done. I told Mh I want to wait and see how I'm feeling once this baby is a year and if I feel our family is complete then he will get one. +1. We're waiting until the baby is 6mos for it and then we’ll get it done. I don’t mind having paragard in while BFing bc i don’t get a period but it came back around 10mos PP. I figure 4 months of paragard after the V will give us enough time to “clear the pipes.” Plus always go back for them to test a sample after a month or two. ALWAYS GO BACK. |
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Post by ovenrack on Feb 28, 2018 11:22:38 GMT -6
This isn't sex, but I'm pretty psyched that I feel content with this being my last pregnancy. I used to hear friends talking about feeling "done" and I just... didn't. I know we're lucky to be able to choose. But after two kids, which is how many MH and I always said we wanted, our family wasn't complete.
I really am feeling happy about this babe completing our family. And it's such a relief, because part of me felt like that would never come...
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Post by shadesofgold on Feb 28, 2018 11:23:10 GMT -6
Add me to the roster of high libido ladies the last month or so. Even then we've only managed once a week or so with schedules and back pain and a toddler in the house. My midwives recommend orgasms as a way to "prepare the body." I am inspired to try different positions now though - thanks ladies.
MH is also getting a vasectomy after this. I've carried the BC burden for 13 years. Handing off the baton.
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Post by babybean on Feb 28, 2018 11:53:06 GMT -6
We DTD a few nights ago and I had prodromal labour soon after. (Thaaaanks, DH!)
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Post by cp3 on Feb 28, 2018 12:02:28 GMT -6
cp3 we are not responsible enough for the pill+condoms. Hormonal BC makes me a raging bitch with no libido so the benefits of paragard seriously outweighed the insanely heavy periods. I didn’t notice my cramps were any worse and it didn’t hurt to have put in or removed. 7/10, would recommend to a friend. I'm used to taking the pill since I've been on it since I was fairly young due to PCOS. But before I got pregnant my periods were all over the place even with it so I'm open to trying something new. And I heard it's pretty painless to get it put in after having a baby so I'm leaning more towards that option. |
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Post by leatherpants on Feb 28, 2018 12:15:04 GMT -6
We are catholic so we will resume NFP and be very conservative with when we do have sex after baby. Also I don’t get women even having a drive for sex before 6ww PP. aren’t they exhausted??? No thanks. Exhausted and still hamburger meat down below? Just me? |
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Post by leatherpants on Feb 28, 2018 12:17:00 GMT -6
Fuck the pill. That's where I'm at this go 'round. SO will be getting a vasectomy. And I would get an IUD before going on the pill again.
In my OB's office, there is a giant poster that is about all the contraceptive failure rates. HELLO! WHY DO YOU THINK I'M HERE?
I took a picture of it to laugh at.
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Feb 28, 2018 12:19:25 GMT -6
TBH after DH watched DD’s head explode out of me, I’m REAL surprised he wanted to have sex again so quickly.
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Post by whatsit on Feb 28, 2018 12:29:08 GMT -6
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Post by auri on Feb 28, 2018 12:29:43 GMT -6
I remember after DD was born, DH told me we should have another one right away. I told him let’s wait a year to make sure we could handle one kid before adding a second. After a year he was like....let’s wait a little longer. 🤣
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Feb 28, 2018 12:32:21 GMT -6
LULZ. DH will be getting a bag of frozen peas and a two day break from parenting. The end.
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Post by snowmoon on Feb 28, 2018 12:41:53 GMT -6
LULZ. DH will be getting a bag of frozen peas and a two day break from parenting. The end. This is where I'm at. |
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Post by ovenrack on Feb 28, 2018 12:47:59 GMT -6
And I was worried this thread would be dead.  |
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Post by leatherpants on Feb 28, 2018 12:59:56 GMT -6
lol ovenrack. You know your audience. My libidio and my physical body are very at odds these days. But I think I'm getting some tonight...with the assistance of pillows and maybe that positions link... |
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Post by sweetc129 on Feb 28, 2018 14:08:16 GMT -6
Oh. Also.... Midwife at my office said they've had people come in to their six week checkup already pregnant. 😳😲😱 including one of their nurses 😒😷 One of my friends from TB back in "the day" had 2 babies in 2013. Took them years to conceive so didnt' go back on bcp...oops. |
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Post by cornpop on Feb 28, 2018 14:11:46 GMT -6
LULZ. DH will be getting a bag of frozen peas and a two day break from parenting. The end. I think I'll get him a cake. Mostly just so I can have cake. But really a two day break from parenting? Is that necessary? I'm not going to get a two day break after popping this baby out. I told my H that I'll be as nice to him after his V as he is to me after I have this baby. |
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Post by Rama on Feb 28, 2018 14:14:12 GMT -6
Oh. Also.... Midwife at my office said they've had people come in to their six week checkup already pregnant. 😳😲😱 including one of their nurses 😒😷 One of my friends from TB back in "the day" had 2 babies in 2013. Took them years to conceive so didnt' go back on bcp...oops. See, I'm kind of in the same boat (it took so long and I'm not interested in going back on BC after birth), but we also don't really have sex, sooooooo. I'm really hoping I'm not going to have a March 19 baby, but I'm not too worried about it. I desire intimacy in the form of sex maybe three times a year, I'm doubting weeks after birth is going to be one of those times. |
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Post by ovenrack on Feb 28, 2018 14:14:31 GMT -6
LULZ. DH will be getting a bag of frozen peas and a two day break from parenting. The end. I think I'll get him a cake. Mostly just so I can have cake. But really a two day break from parenting? Is that necessary? I'm not going to get a two day break after popping this baby out. I told my H that I'll be as nice to him after his V as he is to me after I have this baby. You should try to! I mean. The newborn will require a bit, but pass off the diaper changes, yo. |
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Feb 28, 2018 14:58:18 GMT -6
I think I'll get him a cake. Mostly just so I can have cake. But really a two day break from parenting? Is that necessary? I'm not going to get a two day break after popping this baby out. I told my H that I'll be as nice to him after his V as he is to me after I have this baby. You should try to! I mean. The newborn will require a bit, but pass off the diaper changes, yo. I know it’s a pretty minor outpatient surgery but I think it would be a nice gesture LOL. DH is really great during the newborn phase - I think I changed one diaper before she was two weeks old. I think I’ll allow the 48 hours post op to be spent hiding in his office playing video games and icing. He’s also a REAL BIG BABY when sick so this way I don’t have to deal with him! |
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Post by cornpop on Feb 28, 2018 15:00:32 GMT -6
I think I'll get him a cake. Mostly just so I can have cake. But really a two day break from parenting? Is that necessary? I'm not going to get a two day break after popping this baby out. I told my H that I'll be as nice to him after his V as he is to me after I have this baby. You should try to! I mean. The newborn will require a bit, but pass off the diaper changes, yo. My H just started his own business last year so he really can't take any time off. If he isn't working 2-3 days after I have this baby, I'll be super surprised. I just hope at this point it's not the next day! |
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Post by calendula on Feb 28, 2018 15:04:43 GMT -6
This isn't sex, but I'm pretty psyched that I feel content with this being my last pregnancy. I used to hear friends talking about feeling "done" and I just... didn't. I know we're lucky to be able to choose. But after two kids, which is how many MH and I always said we wanted, our family wasn't complete. I really am feeling happy about this babe completing our family. And it's such a relief, because part of me felt like that would never come... I feel that way too. Part of it wasn't our choice, because with our fertility issues and my endo it wouldn't be safe to ever TTC again, but honestly given everything we have been through its a nobrainer that this DD completes our family, and that sense of finality feels good anyway. For so long, what our family would look like was open ended, and now we get some certainty. It is a really, really good feeling. I don't know what I'm going to do about birth control though. H is fine getting a V, but I will probably consider some sort of hormonal BC to control my endo for a little while. I need to schedule a consult with my endo surgeon to see what he recommends. |
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Post by dizzycooks on Feb 28, 2018 16:22:53 GMT -6
Rama I am here to say this baby is the result of one of the three times we dtd this year. Dd3 is the previous result of less than half a dozen episodes. I have zero sex drive in general, but given our if history we didnt expect much. I have 4 kids (we had hoped to have 3-4 so it’s fine), I’m just saying I can count the number of tries on my fingers...dh is getting snipped.
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Post by ovenrack on Feb 28, 2018 16:24:28 GMT -6
You should try to! I mean. The newborn will require a bit, but pass off the diaper changes, yo. My H just started his own business last year so he really can't take any time off. If he isn't working 2-3 days after I have this baby, I'll be super surprised. I just hope at this point it's not the next day! Are you having a home birth or birth center birth? Will you be in the hospital for two days, at least? |
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Post by Rama on Feb 28, 2018 16:26:28 GMT -6
Rama I am here to say this baby is the result of one of the three times we dtd this year. Dd3 is the previous result of less than half a dozen episodes. I have zero sex drive in general, but given our if history we didnt expect much. I have 4 kids (we had hoped to have 3-4 so it’s fine), I’m just saying I can count the number of tries on my fingers...dh is getting snipped. Oh, I'm definitely aware I'm participating in risky behaviour. We do want to have another and if it happened to be in a year, c'est la vie. I'm just not counting on it and I'm expecting we'll have to go through more years and more thousands of dollars and more timed intercourse to have a sibling someday. But, hey, if I can do it without all that, I'll again take what I can get! |
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