trtlcrzy
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Post by trtlcrzy on Feb 20, 2018 12:22:28 GMT -6
I got the pathology and it says the big lump is a cyst (doesn't specifically say what kind) and the other lump and calcifications are Fibroadenoma. The report says “resulted on 2/19/18” so I should have called and bugged them yesterday. Fuckers.
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trtlcrzy
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Post by trtlcrzy on Feb 20, 2018 12:22:42 GMT -6
I hope it works out for you guster
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guster
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Post by guster on Feb 20, 2018 12:24:21 GMT -6
They passed. 200,000 down payment. No way we could compete with that. They inspect this week and if anything changes we're next in line.
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Feb 20, 2018 12:26:15 GMT -6
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Post by wineallthetime on Feb 20, 2018 12:26:15 GMT -6
I'm sorry, guster. That really sucks.
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Feb 20, 2018 12:26:55 GMT -6
Post by peachsmama on Feb 20, 2018 12:26:55 GMT -6
Damn that sucks and so stupid on their part guster. I hope a better house comes up soon.
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Feb 20, 2018 12:28:17 GMT -6
Post by klong11 on Feb 20, 2018 12:28:17 GMT -6
*snip* They inspect this week and if anything changes we're next in line. That sucks. If the other people back out after the inspection, not sure you would want it either....
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Post by dapostrophe on Feb 20, 2018 12:30:13 GMT -6
That's the thing, this wasn't even a big blow out fight. Maybe more that it was a sensitive subject being ILs? So H gets upset, walks away to cool off and then acts nothing happened for the rest of the day. It's the total avoidance I don't get. I mean, we still have to make a decision about this weekend, so.....
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Feb 20, 2018 12:32:08 GMT -6
Post by peachsmama on Feb 20, 2018 12:32:08 GMT -6
*snip* They inspect this week and if anything changes we're next in line. That sucks. If the other people back out after the inspection, not sure you would want it either.... Not necessarily. We had buyers back out because we opted to lower their offer (the cost of the work) than replace all the outlets in the kitchen ourselves..
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tgrimes
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Feb 20, 2018 12:32:58 GMT -6
Post by tgrimes on Feb 20, 2018 12:32:58 GMT -6
That's the thing, this wasn't even a big blow out fight. Maybe more that it was a sensitive subject being ILs? So H gets upset, walks away to cool off and then acts nothing happened for the rest of the day. It's the total avoidance I don't get. I mean, we still have to make a decision about this weekend, so..... Is he like this every time you disagree? OR just when it's personal/sensitive subject?
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Post by tgrimes on Feb 20, 2018 12:33:48 GMT -6
guster NOOOOOOOO! I'm so sorry.
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Post by tgrimes on Feb 20, 2018 12:37:14 GMT -6
FWP: I have gap cash that I need to use. I wanted to get some jeans but they're out of my size. There were some booties I wanted. Guess what? They're out of my size. WTF GAP? Why won't you take my money?
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tgrimes
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Post by tgrimes on Feb 20, 2018 12:37:41 GMT -6
Between Gap and Tory Burch, I should just stop shopping.
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Post by slenle on Feb 20, 2018 12:37:53 GMT -6
@dapostroohe, I’m sorry for the fight. that’s frustrating.
But FWIW, I’m on your side! I would not want my mil to come to my house if dh is gone. Especially if he is going to be going to where she is, it totally makes sense to take a couple kids with.
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Post by wineallthetime on Feb 20, 2018 12:38:48 GMT -6
FWP: I have gap cash that I need to use. I wanted to get some jeans but they're out of my size. There were some booties I wanted. Guess what? They're out of my size. WTF GAP? Why won't you take my money? You are having terrible luck with this lately!
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inthekitty
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Post by inthekitty on Feb 20, 2018 12:39:34 GMT -6
Y'all....we have a high of 77 today! Wasn't expecting that! On a related note, does anyone else experience mood changes with nice weather? I've been dragging for months and attributed to lack of sleep and lagging post partum issues but today I feel very upbeat! Of course that also be due to the 3 day weekend. Happy Tuesday! Totally. I have way less energy when it's overcast. Don't move to Washington. You'll become immobile.
The cold front must be flip flopping and hitting the west because it's cold as shriveled balls here too--in the 20s which is a rarity.
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Post by dapostrophe on Feb 20, 2018 12:39:52 GMT -6
That's the thing, this wasn't even a big blow out fight. Maybe more that it was a sensitive subject being ILs? So H gets upset, walks away to cool off and then acts nothing happened for the rest of the day. It's the total avoidance I don't get. I mean, we still have to make a decision about this weekend, so..... Is he like this every time you disagree? OR just when it's personal/sensitive subject? I'd say this is fairly consistent for him, but it's become more frequent. We've started to explore how this is a pattern with his family, so maybe that's shining a bit of a spotlight on it for me. Hence why all the family culture stuff is coming up.
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guster
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Post by guster on Feb 20, 2018 12:42:02 GMT -6
*snip* They inspect this week and if anything changes we're next in line. That sucks. If the other people back out after the inspection, not sure you would want it either.... Exactly. Although, the real estate agent made it sound like if the buyers feel like they're getting nickeled and dimed over the inspection they'll pull out and go with us. I don't know anything anymore. I just want to cry.
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Post by tgrimes on Feb 20, 2018 12:55:02 GMT -6
That sucks. If the other people back out after the inspection, not sure you would want it either.... Exactly. Although, the real estate agent made it sound like if the buyers feel like they're getting nickeled and dimed over the inspection they'll pull out and go with us. I don't know anything anymore. I just want to cry. Real estate is so tricky & confusing. I would not want to do this as a profession.
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trtlcrzy
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Post by trtlcrzy on Feb 20, 2018 13:04:53 GMT -6
FWP: I have gap cash that I need to use. I wanted to get some jeans but they're out of my size. There were some booties I wanted. Guess what? They're out of my size. WTF GAP? Why won't you take my money? Sounds like you may have to actually go into the store. Super lame.
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trtlcrzy
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Post by trtlcrzy on Feb 20, 2018 13:06:11 GMT -6
I’m sorry guster. That sucks. Maybe something so much better will come up in the next week or two.
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Post by tgrimes on Feb 20, 2018 13:11:45 GMT -6
FWP: I have gap cash that I need to use. I wanted to get some jeans but they're out of my size. There were some booties I wanted. Guess what? They're out of my size. WTF GAP? Why won't you take my money? Sounds like you may have to actually go into the store. Super lame. Do they sell petite sizes in the store?
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inthekitty
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Post by inthekitty on Feb 20, 2018 13:12:26 GMT -6
Sorry it didn't work out guster . I hope you score your dream house.
tgrimes +whatever for a Adam Rippon fangirl right here. I love him so much. He almost has me convinced I need to get on the Twitter.
dapostrophe my husband totally shuts down with any type of fight so nothing gets resolved. I have made strides at trying to talk things out more because it's hard for me too, but will not touch with a 10-foot pole anything to do with his parents because he has major mommy and daddy issues and it'll turn ugly. I'm leaving that for therapy eventually when we have time. I'm sorry your husband is being a turd. I'm 100% team you for the record. No effing way would I want to be pregnant and trying to manage with 4 kids just for my husband to have fun one weekend. Nor would hosting my MIL in my house make it any easier (even if my MIL were normal and not batshit because I'd still be "hosting"). I think your offer of taking 2 kids is more than reasonable. Sounds to me like he just doesn't want any of the responsibility of the kids for a weekend which is not fair.
trtlcrzy, glad you got your results and nothing major wrong, but WTF to your medical team to not getting that info to you.
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Post by tallb on Feb 20, 2018 13:13:06 GMT -6
That sucks. If the other people back out after the inspection, not sure you would want it either.... Exactly. Although, the real estate agent made it sound like if the buyers feel like they're getting nickeled and dimed over the inspection they'll pull out and go with us. I don't know anything anymore. I just want to cry. Oof I'm sorry. I'm pretty sure we will only ever be able to do just 20%, so if anyone wants more cash than that they are out of luck. Well, more likely we will be out of luck. Do they do earnest money up there and pre-inspections? Those are some things that our realtor recommended for us to make us more competitive. I think the EM we should be ready to put down is 5%. Hoping something falls through and it comes back to you!
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Post by wineallthetime on Feb 20, 2018 13:13:29 GMT -6
Sounds like you may have to actually go into the store. Super lame. Do they sell petite sizes in the store? Yes. At least all the Gap stores I've been to do.
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trtlcrzy
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Post by trtlcrzy on Feb 20, 2018 13:14:34 GMT -6
Sounds like you may have to actually go into the store. Super lame. Do they sell petite sizes in the store? For some of the styles/washes. Usually not boyfriend jeans but I’ve been able to get skinnies and bootcut in store no problem.
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guster
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Post by guster on Feb 20, 2018 13:16:23 GMT -6
Exactly. Although, the real estate agent made it sound like if the buyers feel like they're getting nickeled and dimed over the inspection they'll pull out and go with us. I don't know anything anymore. I just want to cry. Oof I'm sorry. I'm pretty sure we will only ever be able to do just 20%, so if anyone wants more cash than that they are out of luck. Well, more likely we will be out of luck. Do they do earnest money up there and pre-inspections? Those are some things that our realtor recommended for us to make us more competitive. I think the EM we should be ready to put down is 5%. Hoping something falls through and it comes back to you! Connecticut does something called a binder. It has a good faith financial component to it Typically, it's just 1% , but we wrote a check for 5 just to show them how interested we were. I just got a Zillow Notification that it was pending. Booo!!
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Post by dapostrophe on Feb 20, 2018 13:31:47 GMT -6
inthekitty Thanks for the solidarity...it sounds like we have similar experiences. I get wanting to take space from a heated convo, but I truly do not understand the ostrich thing. You are wise to leave certain topics alone until you can bring in the big guns. Thanks everyone for letting me vent! It helps to write it out, have a few "ears" and hear your perspectives. And also helps to not feel like I'm the only one with an H who malfunctions from time to time 😉
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tgrimes
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Feb 20, 2018 13:33:48 GMT -6
Post by tgrimes on Feb 20, 2018 13:33:48 GMT -6
Do they sell petite sizes in the store? For some of the styles/washes. Usually not boyfriend jeans but I’ve been able to get skinnies and bootcut in store no problem. I wanted to try their high waist straight jeans. I guess I'll have to go to the store. augh.
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Feb 20, 2018 13:38:06 GMT -6
Post by joelies on Feb 20, 2018 13:38:06 GMT -6
tgrimes - I'm seriously wondering who in the universe is trying to stop you from spending money on yourself. Also in my mind you are not petite, you are my height. Actually everyone is my height. We can't ever meet now because it's going to really mess with my head.
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Post by joelies on Feb 20, 2018 13:40:05 GMT -6
I had the nicest long lunch with my girl friends. The baby didn't wake up so I didn't get to hold her but she's the cutest little peanut. She was doing that newborn smiling-in-her-sleep thing and it was making me feel things. Weird things. Also I'm now trying to decide whether I should propose a family trip to the UK in 2019 or 2020 to visit my other friend and her family. It's on our list of places to take the boys anyway and it seems like an easy option for our first international trip.
ETA: I clearly drank wine and ate too much, so GL to me for the rest of the afternoon...
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