trtlcrzy
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Post by trtlcrzy on Feb 20, 2018 10:52:40 GMT -6
Also, I love Adam Rippon. He’s hilarious.
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sands42
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Post by sands42 on Feb 20, 2018 10:55:16 GMT -6
Thanks mwhip! I’m doing good so far- it’s been a busy day so that helps! And Gunner likes to comment on how squishy my belly is... 🤷🏼♀️ 73 degrees here! Super windy, but yet sun is out for the moment. I am also on pins and needles to hear about your offer guster!!! tgrimes Did you see how Sally Fields tried to set her son up with Adam Rippon on twitter 😂
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Post by dapostrophe on Feb 20, 2018 10:57:59 GMT -6
*poof*
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Post by tgrimes on Feb 20, 2018 10:58:04 GMT -6
Thanks mwhip ! I’m doing good so far- it’s been a busy day so that helps! And Gunner likes to comment on how squishy my belly is... 🤷🏼♀️ 73 degrees here! Super windy, but yet sun is out for the moment. I am also on pins and needles to hear about your offer guster !!! tgrimes Did you see how Sally Fields tried to set her son up with Adam Rippon on twitter 😂 Yes! She's hilarious.
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guster
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Post by guster on Feb 20, 2018 11:04:14 GMT -6
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Post by guster on Feb 20, 2018 11:05:52 GMT -6
I am also on pins and needles to hear about your offer guster!!! Apparently we're more money overall, but they're a bigger down payment. I guess it could go either way.
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guster
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Post by guster on Feb 20, 2018 11:17:42 GMT -6
dapostrophe, that's my italian family to a tee. I'm the same way, but without the volume. We talk about it, it's out there, and then it's done. MH is a thinker and a stewer and it takes him a lot longer to process the new feelings (good or bad) We've both learned to bend to the other. It's super hard for me to not react immediately, and it's also super hard for him not to hyper-ideate. I think it'll always be a work in process.
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Post by dapostrophe on Feb 20, 2018 11:30:39 GMT -6
dapostrophe, that's my italian family to a tee. I'm the same way, but without the volume. We talk about it, it's out there, and then it's done. MH is a thinker and a stewer and it takes him a lot longer to process the new feelings (good or bad) We've both learned to bend to the other. It's super hard for me to not react immediately, and it's also super hard for him not to hyper-ideate. I think it'll always be a work in process. I am with you, I don't do yelling. So, does your H eventually bring the issue back up when he's done thinking/stewing?
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Post by dapostrophe on Feb 20, 2018 11:35:35 GMT -6
trtlcrzy I am glad you got good news, but I can understand wanting more details. slenle Thanks for the light bulb help yesterday! I still bought all the lightbulbs, but ended with something similar to yours.
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Feb 20, 2018 11:40:08 GMT -6
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Post by wineallthetime on Feb 20, 2018 11:40:08 GMT -6
Great news, trtlcrzy! I've been worried about you.
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Post by wineallthetime on Feb 20, 2018 11:43:32 GMT -6
dapostrophe, that's my italian family to a tee. I'm the same way, but without the volume. We talk about it, it's out there, and then it's done. MH is a thinker and a stewer and it takes him a lot longer to process the new feelings (good or bad) We've both learned to bend to the other. It's super hard for me to not react immediately, and it's also super hard for him not to hyper-ideate. I think it'll always be a work in process. I am with you, I don't do yelling. So, does your H eventually bring the issue back up when he's done thinking/stewing? I'm an immediate reactor as well. I have a temper too and I get frustrated really easily. MH is a keep the peace type. He'll typically do or say anything in the moment to smooth things over. Every once in a blue moon he'll kinda snap and bring up stuff that's been bugging him for like a year. It's so frustrating! I just want to talk about it and move on!
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guster
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Post by guster on Feb 20, 2018 11:48:09 GMT -6
dapostrophe, that's my italian family to a tee. I'm the same way, but without the volume. We talk about it, it's out there, and then it's done. MH is a thinker and a stewer and it takes him a lot longer to process the new feelings (good or bad) We've both learned to bend to the other. It's super hard for me to not react immediately, and it's also super hard for him not to hyper-ideate. I think it'll always be a work in process. I am with you, I don't do yelling. So, does your H eventually bring the issue back up when he's done thinking/stewing? He does. And I don't ever mind talking about it again, but sometimes I think the extra talking just makes the situation come alive again.
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guster
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Post by guster on Feb 20, 2018 11:48:52 GMT -6
I think we lost the house. Our agent just called to see if we could put more money upfront and we can't. It doesn't sound good.
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Post by cagoldi on Feb 20, 2018 11:49:42 GMT -6
dapostrophe I can see that, although my Irish family probably doesn't fit that description. From what I've seen, Asian families are the same as white families in this regard.
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Post by tgrimes on Feb 20, 2018 11:51:30 GMT -6
I think we lost the house. Our agent just called to see if we could put more money upfront and we can't. It doesn't sound good. I'm sorry.
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Feb 20, 2018 11:52:00 GMT -6
Post by tgrimes on Feb 20, 2018 11:52:00 GMT -6
trtlcrzy I bet you're relieved. Hopefully someone will call you back with more details.
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Post by peachsmama on Feb 20, 2018 11:52:14 GMT -6
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Post by wineallthetime on Feb 20, 2018 11:55:49 GMT -6
Shoot, guster I hope there's still hope.
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Post by tgrimes on Feb 20, 2018 12:00:34 GMT -6
I don't like confrontation or arguing. I feel like things get said out of anger that you may not mean and I need time to process what happened so I can get my thoughts/feelings together.
My father is the same way. My mother.......is not.
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Post by dapostrophe on Feb 20, 2018 12:01:05 GMT -6
guster I'm sorry, that's disappointing I'm sure. Do you guys have a back-up in mind or would you have to start over?
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Post by dapostrophe on Feb 20, 2018 12:02:47 GMT -6
dapostrophe I can see that, although my Irish family probably doesn't fit that description. From what I've seen, Asian families are the same as white families in this regard. My good friend, who is black, is married to an Asian guy and says the exact same thing. It has been tough for them to find the middle ground at times.
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Feb 20, 2018 12:03:19 GMT -6
Post by lahdeedah on Feb 20, 2018 12:03:19 GMT -6
UGH! guster I'm sorry it doesn't look good, but maybe there is still a chance. Glad it's benign trtlcrzy.
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mwhip
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Post by mwhip on Feb 20, 2018 12:04:56 GMT -6
guster, I'm sorry. I don't understand the more money up front being better than higher total offer. Isn't it just paying off your mortgage and making profit? I've never sold a house before, so I don't understand the process. trtlcrzy glad you got some good news, although you do need to have all your questions answered. Re fighting styles, H and I both let things simmer until they boil over. It's very unhealthy, we've discussed it with a marriage counselor and learned the proper way to communicate, which is easier in the counselor's office than in real life. Like our fight this weekend, it's still pretty much unresolved, because he doesn't see it the way I do. I came to the conclusion that I just need to move on, it takes so much energy being angry over something that the other person doesn't understand.
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guster
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Post by guster on Feb 20, 2018 12:05:25 GMT -6
guster I'm sorry, that's disappointing I'm sure. Do you guys have a back-up in mind or would you have to start over? We have one back up. MH doesn't like it as much as the others we've seen. We both don't like the road it's on and it's an additional 10 minutes for the commute. We don't have to lock into something til ~March 15th so we'll keep looking.
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Post by guster on Feb 20, 2018 12:09:20 GMT -6
guster, I'm sorry. I don't understand the more money up front being better than higher total offer. Isn't it just paying off your mortgage and making profit? I've never sold a house before, so I don't understand the process. trtlcrzy glad you got some good news, although you do need to have all your questions answered. Exactly. The real estate agent said that some people are just dazzled by a larger sum of cash. I just got off the phone with our mortgage guy and he's calling the sellers real estate agent because we went a step ahead of pre-approval and did an underwritten pre-approval, so there no delay in finding the loan. It's pretty much done. ETA: and, apparently, our offer is higher so ultimately they'd make more money on us
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Post by lahdeedah on Feb 20, 2018 12:10:25 GMT -6
dapostrophe That's interesting. Sorry you are fighting, sort of. MH doesn't have a mad bone in his body, but I'm afraid my blow-up ways have made him start to react a little like me. It's my fault because I need to find a different way to deal, but I hate that he has picked up some of my bad habits. I definitely say things out of anger that I regret the second I say them. And then I never apologize. Basically, I am the worst. I need lots of therapy.
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Post by peachsmama on Feb 20, 2018 12:11:29 GMT -6
guster , I'm sorry. I don't understand the more money up front being better than higher total offer. Isn't it just paying off your mortgage and making profit? I've never sold a house before, so I don't understand the process. trtlcrzy glad you got some good news, although you do need to have all your questions answered. Re fighting styles, H and I both let things simmer until they boil over. It's very unhealthy, we've discussed it with a marriage counselor and learned the proper way to communicate, which is easier in the counselor's office than in real life. Like our fight this weekend, it's still pretty much unresolved, because he doesn't see it the way I do. I came to the conclusion that I just need to move on, it takes so much energy being angry over something that the other person doesn't understand. Exactly. The real estate agent said that some people are just dazzled by a larger sum of cash. I just got off the phone with our mortgage guy and he's calling the sellers real estate agent because we went a step ahead of pre-approval and did an underwritten pre-approval, so there no delay in finding the loan. It's pretty much done. ETA: and, apparently, our offer is higher so ultimately they'd make more money on us I don't get the cash offer love. Like my buyer tried to low ball us because she was paying cash. I'm leaving the table with a cashiers check.. I don't care if it's from your bank account or your mortgage office. Just give me the check.
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guster
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Post by guster on Feb 20, 2018 12:12:24 GMT -6
Super frustrating, @peach.
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Post by tgrimes on Feb 20, 2018 12:14:34 GMT -6
guster , I'm sorry. I don't understand the more money up front being better than higher total offer. Isn't it just paying off your mortgage and making profit? I've never sold a house before, so I don't understand the process. trtlcrzy glad you got some good news, although you do need to have all your questions answered. Exactly. The real estate agent said that some people are just dazzled by a larger sum of cash. I just got off the phone with our mortgage guy and he's calling the sellers real estate agent because we went a step ahead of pre-approval and did an underwritten pre-approval, so there no delay in finding the loan. It's pretty much done. ETA : and, apparently, our offer is higher so ultimately they'd make more money on usHopefully, they'll realize this is the better deal.
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Post by slenle on Feb 20, 2018 12:17:45 GMT -6
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