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Post by easternshoregirl on Feb 18, 2018 8:57:01 GMT -6
ajetter that describes me and my H perfectly. His parents are like that also...call in the morning to see if they can come spend the day with us. My mom and I work things out several days in advance. On my birthday his mom called to say she made me a cake and can they come have dinner with us. H and I fully recognize these differences and try to accommodate the other's family but it frustrates us both sometimes!
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Post by benandjerrys on Feb 18, 2018 9:08:24 GMT -6
H goes back to work tomorrow. How do sahm with working Hs handle sleeping arrangements? With my first I let him sleep and the baby and I slept in the nursery, but I'm not feeling so kind this time around. Up until now I've made him change diapers motn but now I guess I have to 😒😒. When do they stop pooping so much? When it's just pee I have no problem letting him sleep in a wet diaper.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 18, 2018 9:22:23 GMT -6
sarahh my bank account hates you for suggesting the HA/Boden BST FB page. I’m addicted to it now!! which bst group is this? I love Hanna clothes for DS but my bank account does not
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Post by Deleted on Feb 18, 2018 9:23:27 GMT -6
H goes back to work tomorrow. How do sahm with working Hs handle sleeping arrangements? With my first I let him sleep and the baby and I slept in the nursery, but I'm not feeling so kind this time around. Up until now I've made him change diapers motn but now I guess I have to 😒😒. When do they stop pooping so much? When it's just pee I have no problem letting him sleep in a wet diaper. H and I tag team in the middle of the night and probably will for a while. I pump while he feeds Ds2.
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Post by ajetter on Feb 18, 2018 9:23:31 GMT -6
benandjerrys I’ve been taking care of the baby on my own. DH has been sleeping in the basement but he is in charge of the other kids if they wake up at night. He is... not that useful MOTN and often less than friendly without meaning to be, so it just works best for us this way.
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Post by flippinchica on Feb 18, 2018 9:32:51 GMT -6
I feel like the motn pooping stopped at about 3 weeks. I'm not at sahm but am on leave now and I do most motn baby stuff. We ebf do there isn't much he can do. I don't go anywhere else and he does take the lead on toddler bedtime
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Post by amesie on Feb 18, 2018 9:49:19 GMT -6
sarahh my bank account hates you for suggesting the HA/Boden BST FB page. I’m addicted to it now!! which bst group is this? I love Hanna clothes for DS but my bank account does not it’s called Mini Boden & Hanna Andersson BST group
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Post by amesie on Feb 18, 2018 9:55:07 GMT -6
H goes back to work tomorrow. How do sahm with working Hs handle sleeping arrangements? With my first I let him sleep and the baby and I slept in the nursery, but I'm not feeling so kind this time around. Up until now I've made him change diapers motn but now I guess I have to 😒😒. When do they stop pooping so much? When it's just pee I have no problem letting him sleep in a wet diaper. I do all MOTN stuff now. DD1 was a lot harder of a baby so he definitely helped a lot with her MOTN. I would tag him in for a bottle feeding if it was a real rough night and i couldn’t stand nursing her. We also got down to a routine of side-lie nursing and he would change her diaper while she fed. It was pretty convenient actually. IMO just because you SAH doesnt mean you’re not working. You might not be “working” but it still requires you to have some sleep. Just bc MH works out of the home and I’m SAH for now taking care of the kids doesnt mean he can’t help!
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Post by rebeccabunch on Feb 18, 2018 10:20:57 GMT -6
H goes back to work tomorrow. How do sahm with working Hs handle sleeping arrangements? With my first I let him sleep and the baby and I slept in the nursery, but I'm not feeling so kind this time around. Up until now I've made him change diapers motn but now I guess I have to 😒😒. When do they stop pooping so much? When it's just pee I have no problem letting him sleep in a wet diaper. I do all MOTN stuff now. DD1 was a lot harder of a baby so he definitely helped a lot with her MOTN. I would tag him in for a bottle feeding if it was a real rough night and i couldn’t stand nursing her. We also got down to a routine of side-lie nursing and he would change her diaper while she fed. It was pretty convenient actually. IMO just because you SAH doesnt mean you’re not working. You might not be “working” but it still requires you to have some sleep. Just bc MH works out of the home and I’m SAH for now taking care of the kids doesnt mean he can’t help! I know that’s not what you are saying benandjerrys but I totally agree that being at home and taking care of kids/house is work. I’ve said this before, but I think taking care of the kids all day alone and getting everyone where they need to be is harder than my outside if the house job. When you are working outside if the house in most jobs (yes, there are exceptions) you get little mental breaks here and there. People may need you but you can exert some control over when you interact with them (again, yes, exceptions). I work with some jerks but they are so much easier to handle than both of my boys fighting at the same time the baby’s crying.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Feb 18, 2018 10:26:08 GMT -6
My H runs point on the older kids when he is home and I pretty much do everything for the baby. He does older boy bedtime, if they wake at night and older boy wake up. He holds the baby when he gets home to give me a break and I think I may start going to bed earlier and he can watch her from like 8:00-10 and I’ll snooze. I like to feed her at 10 as the last big feed before MOTN. I do get him up if it’s particularly bad night and then she does her not sleeping for more than 30 minutes after 5 am. He will take her and sit with all kids. ETA he’s also sleeping in the basement now ajetter! This works better for both of us. He can sleep all night so I don’t feel as bad if I hand her off at some point and I don’t have to see/hear him snoring away and sleeping soundly. He just takes the monitor down there.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Feb 18, 2018 10:32:06 GMT -6
DH just took the older three girls out to breakfast. In theory that’s great, his goal was to give me some ‘alone’ time. I won’t complain but it was a last minute decision on his part. I honestly would have preferred to go with them, and it magically would have timed out perfectly with feedings and naps. But it’s tough to be spontaneous with 4 kids and get myself ready. I would have had plenty of time to get ready this morning if I had any idea that he would want to go out. We are quite opposite in that I am a planner thru and thru, and he just isn’t. Wasn’t a problem when it was just us. Or we had just one kid. Now it drives me nuts. I can totally relate to this. 9 times out of 10 I’d rather not go and enjoy the house in peace or going wouldn’t work w baby’s schedule but I’d always want to be consulted!
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Post by marygracerich on Feb 18, 2018 11:33:55 GMT -6
H goes back to work tomorrow. How do sahm with working Hs handle sleeping arrangements? With my first I let him sleep and the baby and I slept in the nursery, but I'm not feeling so kind this time around. Up until now I've made him change diapers motn but now I guess I have to 😒😒. When do they stop pooping so much? When it's just pee I have no problem letting him sleep in a wet diaper. I handle all of the MOTN stuff this time around. MH is a pretty heavy sleeper and usually sleeps right through it. He drives for a living so he has to sleep. One of the big differences this time around is that in my old apartment all the rooms were on the same floor. This time around the bedrooms are on the second floor so if I take the baby out of our room I have to take him downstairs. No thanks to that so I just feed him while MH lays sleeping next to us. Then it’s back in the bassinet and back to sleep for me.
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Post by benandjerrys on Feb 18, 2018 11:47:14 GMT -6
H and I just finished our negotiations. Haha. So he will continue to change diapers motn on weekends. He will handle the toddler in the morning on weekends. 3 days a week (when DD has preschool) he will get her up, dressed and to school which means I will just have the baby until I have to pick her up at 12. That means I can nap so I will handle everything motn (during the week) in exchange for 3 days where I can stay in bed from 7:30-12
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Post by sarahh on Feb 18, 2018 11:50:49 GMT -6
sarahh my bank account hates you for suggesting the HA/Boden BST FB page. I’m addicted to it now!! I’m sorry! I bought like 8 things yesterday. I bet DH is ready for me to go back to work in a week and a half.
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Post by sarahh on Feb 18, 2018 11:53:46 GMT -6
sarahh my bank account hates you for suggesting the HA/Boden BST FB page. I’m addicted to it now!! which bst group is this? I love Hanna clothes for DS but my bank account does not I’m just catching up so not sure if anyone responded but there are a bunch on Facebook. My favorite is called Mini Boden and Hanna Andersson BST Group. They do “boutique fridays” where people post more brands and I find I get the best deals then
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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 18, 2018 12:40:21 GMT -6
sunfrogger you’ve got 10 days until the 28th. Don’t count yourself out yet!! I know but if I prep myself for the worst and she comes on her own i would be happily surprised!
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Post by helloerrbody on Feb 18, 2018 12:46:22 GMT -6
H goes back to work tomorrow. How do sahm with working Hs handle sleeping arrangements? With my first I let him sleep and the baby and I slept in the nursery, but I'm not feeling so kind this time around. Up until now I've made him change diapers motn but now I guess I have to 😒😒. When do they stop pooping so much? When it's just pee I have no problem letting him sleep in a wet diaper. Once my parents leave on Thursday and the guest room is free again, I will let DH sleep in there if he wants. Our bed is better so I'm not giving it up, lol. He can sleep elsewhere if he wants the quiet or not.
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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 18, 2018 12:47:31 GMT -6
I want to stalk you all since we're all joining this BST group.
Just kidding.
But DD1 is rounding a second season in some Disney PJ's and I'm not thrilled with how they've held up. There's a Hanna outlet down the shore.. I might need to check that out this summer.
Plus a Hanna store in a large mall not too far from me.
I'm hoping to catch a sale to get the girls matching spring PJs for their easter baskets!!
However I am that person who really prefers to buy new or nwt. I find even in really good condition things shrink and I don't get nearly the wear out of them that I had hoped for.
Qq for you Hanna fiends: if my DD is generally wearing size 4 girls tops (gap, carter's, gymboree) and 3T bottoms right now, but looks like some 4T may fit soon -ish in length, what Hanna size is that? I'm not doing the best at predicting her growth anymore since she's becoming a little rail.
Also would their XS undies fit us? I bought trainers on Zulily for when we do night time training but.
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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 18, 2018 13:05:31 GMT -6
Am I crazy? I'm thinking about taking DD1 to the zoo Tues or Wed assuming I'm not in labor. It's going to be GORGEOUS!
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Post by sarahh on Feb 18, 2018 13:20:21 GMT -6
I want to stalk you all since we're all joining this BST group. Just kidding. But DD1 is rounding a second season in some Disney PJ's and I'm not thrilled with how they've held up. There's a Hanna outlet down the shore.. I might need to check that out this summer. Plus a Hanna store in a large mall not too far from me. I'm hoping to catch a sale to get the girls matching spring PJs for their easter baskets!! However I am that person who really prefers to buy new or nwt. I find even in really good condition things shrink and I don't get nearly the wear out of them that I had hoped for. Qq for you Hanna fiends: if my DD is wearing size 4 girls tops and 3T bottoms right now, but looks like some 4T may fit soon -ish in length, what Hanna size is that? I'm not doing the best at predicting her growth anymore since she's becoming a little rail. Also would their XS undies fit us? I bought trainers on Zulily for when we do night time training but. I think she’d be in 100. DD1 wears 90 and it’s mostly big. I think 90 is technically 3T but I like to buy big so she can wear longer. XS undies may be too small. That’s what we bought for DD1 and although she hasn’t worn them yet I think they will fit her. Here is the clothing size chart if you need it
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Post by yellow711 on Feb 18, 2018 13:57:07 GMT -6
Hello. Happy Sunday!
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Post by benandjerrys on Feb 18, 2018 13:57:10 GMT -6
sunfrogger I am a huge fan of Boden PJs too. I find them to be better quality than HA. Both brands I usually size up and roll the cuffs and get lots of wear that way.
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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 18, 2018 14:19:25 GMT -6
Thanks sarahh! I saw the chart but you know how charts can be so I figured if your LOs wear it you'd have a better idea of what might fit! 😊
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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 18, 2018 14:20:37 GMT -6
I want to stalk you all since we're all joining this BST group. Just kidding. This was really not meant to be creepy. I promise. 😘
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Post by pinkcat on Feb 18, 2018 14:36:22 GMT -6
pinkcat yay! Congratulations! Can’t wait to hear more. Hope you are doing well. 💙🍾 Thank you so much! The baby blues have hit hard but mostly things are going very well 💙 I need to learn how to get over the insomnia I've been having because I'm running on only a few hours of sleep for the past week and am struggling! Hope all is well for everyone here!! I will get caught up again this week!
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Post by easternshoregirl on Feb 18, 2018 14:59:36 GMT -6
pinkcat, do you have someone you can talk to?
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Post by pinkcat on Feb 18, 2018 15:03:20 GMT -6
pinkcat, do you have someone you can talk to? My mom and DH have both been huge helps. I think if I could just get a few hours of sleep I would feel so much better!! Thank you💕
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Post by sunfrogger on Feb 18, 2018 15:48:39 GMT -6
pinkcat yay! Congratulations! Can’t wait to hear more. Hope you are doing well. 💙🍾 Thank you so much! The baby blues have hit hard but mostly things are going very well 💙 I need to learn how to get over the insomnia I've been having because I'm running on only a few hours of sleep for the past week and am struggling! Hope all is well for everyone here!! I will get caught up again this week! Please don't hesitate to reach out if you need someone else to talk to. I struggled a lot with baby blues and I think it borderline walked PPD. It doesn't hurt to ask for help. ❤️
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Post by easternshoregirl on Feb 18, 2018 16:12:11 GMT -6
pinkcat , do you have someone you can talk to? My mom and DH have both been huge helps. I think if I could just get a few hours of sleep I would feel so much better!! Thank you💕 Good, I'm glad you have some support! One thing I did when I had DS was that I would sleep in the guest room (with ear plugs) from 3am or 4am until like 7 or 8 on the weekends when DH didn't have to go to work. That gave me a chance to get a few hours. DH could give DS a bottle if needed and then I would pump when I woke up. I also highly recommend guided meditations if you can, it was the only way I could wind down for a nap during the day when DS was sleeping. www.tarabrach.com/guided-meditations/www.dartmouth.edu/~healthed/relax/downloads.htmlGood news...when/if you have another, you are just so exhausted falling and staying asleep is super easy! No, but really, first borns are really tough.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Feb 18, 2018 16:52:57 GMT -6
pinkcat you probably haven’t slept much since before labor started. I can’t imagine how tired you are. Eastern shore girl said it, but I’d suggest trying to get some sleep where you don’t feel like you’re still first person on duty. I do this now. I have an eye mask and ear plugs and H is first point on hearing everyone. You are also in that 5-7 day post partum range where there’s a huge hormone drop. Sounds like you have support and you are asking for help. Keep it up. If you haven’t watched it yet, in the season finale from Friday Paula sings a song about birth and legit says you feel great right after then feel awful for awhile due to baby blues! Feel free to PM me if you ever want to. I definitely went through something hormonal after my D&C last spring. How I was feeling was out of my control and it helped that I was super open about it with people in my life. I was having a hard time w everything and it was the first time I felt like I didn’t have control over how I was feeling.
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