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Post by megrae12 on Jun 5, 2017 11:19:11 GMT -6
It's been a while and it got some good traction last time. So ask away, ladies. Whay do you want to know?
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Post by addymac on Jun 5, 2017 21:42:47 GMT -6
This is probably a heavy question / personal in how each person deals with it (obviously), but, how do you balance having a rainbow with honoring the rainbow aspect vs not making the baby seem like that's *all* it is? Like, DH is somewhat adamant about very little rainbow decor or anything for ours, because he doesn't want him to feel like that's his purpose in life- you know what I mean? Like he said if we do newborn pics he would want maybe one rainbow related picture but nothing more. And it's not that he's ignoring our loss baby, but he wants rainbow baby to be it's own person, and I do too, but I just feel the feels about not acknowledging his rainbow status. I don't know how to be able to balance or how to say this is our Rainbow and just leave it at that? Or what? Am I way overthinking this? Probably...
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Post by ajetter on Jun 6, 2017 6:28:13 GMT -6
addymac I've had a similar debate in my head. I'm so hoping this is our rainbow, and want to honor that fact, but at the same time I need to love this baby on its own. I've seen a beautiful persaonized swaddle blanket. It's calligraphy of the name in rainbow colors. It would look nice no matter what but might be a great nod to a rainbow baby. Or perhaps a singular subtle rainbow print for the nursery. Still a long ways off from truly getting to plan any of this though.
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Post by iheartbroccoli on Jun 6, 2017 6:48:34 GMT -6
addymac I am a lot like your husband. I don't use the term rainbow baby (for several reasons) and we don't have anything rainbow in the house. We do honor DS1 though. We included his picture and teddy bear in DS2's newborn photos, and I put a symbol of DS1 in DS2's nursery. Is there a symbol/theme you could use to represent your angel baby that your husband would be comfortable with? Like if stars represent your angel baby to you, you could include some stars in the newborn pics, etc. Maybe if your husband sees it as more honoring the sibling relationship between the two he would be more comfortable with it? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by Atpeace on Jun 6, 2017 8:52:46 GMT -6
addymac, I'm not exactly sure how I feel about the term rainbow baby. I guess to me, the rainbow signifies more of the journey I've been on, not the baby. I've connected to this from the sound of music: Climb every mountain Ford every stream Follow every rainbow 'till you find your dream A dream that will need All the love you can give Every day of your life For as long as you live
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Post by oldbaylover1024 on Jun 6, 2017 10:51:46 GMT -6
addymac - {{hugs}} That's a very personal discussion. I'm kind of the same as PPs in that I consider the rainbow more my journey than my actual kids. Yes, I refer to them as my rainbows, but we didn't do any rainbow themed stuff or photos. Not because we wanted to ignore any part of our journey or our losses, but the term 'rainbow' wasn't something we used a lot IRL. I don't see anything wrong with celebrating your rainbow and referring to your LO as such. But maybe YH is kind of coping in his own way. Perhaps he's not comfortable. IDK... I just know grief and loss hit folks differently. MH wasn't a huge fan of calling our kids 'rainbows' because he's not ready to talk to them about our losses. For him, the nickname opens the door to a much larger discussion that, at this point, we're not ready to have with our 4YO. I plan to tell her about our losses and the journey it took to have her, but we aren't ready for that yet. And neither is she. More {{hugs}}
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Post by readinglove on Jun 6, 2017 14:08:19 GMT -6
Anyone have experience with baby measuring behind with strong heartbeat? Went in for initial ultrasound today, and according to LMP should have been 7 weeks. Baby measured at 6 weeks 1 day with a heartbeat of 126. Doc is very happy and proclaimed baby normal. He asked for the refresher on previous losses, and with that information and me being on progesterone, he is confident and feels good. I know that this early on, measurements can be off; I wasn't tracking my cycle so have no idea when I ovulated; implantation could have been later; etc, etc, etc. Loss brain is giving me a hard time, and I'm struggling mentally right now. Gah. Trying to focus on the beautiful little blob and heartbeat we saw, and not on everything else, but that's proving challenging.
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Post by muscari on Jun 6, 2017 14:40:06 GMT -6
Should I be worried about the baby having the hiccups rather regularly? Only noticed this yesterday for the first time, but since I've noticed her having bouts of hiccups several times today. Prolly is nothing to worry about right, but I feel sorry for the little pumpkin!
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Post by megrae12 on Jun 6, 2017 14:57:35 GMT -6
Should I be worried about the baby having the hiccups rather regularly? Only noticed this yesterday for the first time, but since I've noticed her having bouts of hiccups several times today. Prolly is nothing to worry about right, but I feel sorry for the little pumpkin! Hiccups are normal! Do you bf? If so, if you let baby latch again, it will get rid of the hiccups. The magic of bf! |
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Post by muscari on Jun 6, 2017 15:03:28 GMT -6
Should I be worried about the baby having the hiccups rather regularly? Only noticed this yesterday for the first time, but since I've noticed her having bouts of hiccups several times today. Prolly is nothing to worry about right, but I feel sorry for the little pumpkin! Hiccups are normal! Do you bf? If so, if you let baby latch again, it will get rid of the hiccups. The magic of bf! Ahh baby is still an inside babyfor the next 10wks orso so not BFing (just yet.. I do plan on BFing though).  Definitely a good tip to remember! |
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Post by megrae12 on Jun 6, 2017 15:05:40 GMT -6
Hiccups are normal! Do you bf? If so, if you let baby latch again, it will get rid of the hiccups. The magic of bf! Ahh baby is still an inside babyfor the next 10wks orso so not BFing (just yet.. I do plan on BFing though). Definitely a good tip to remember! I knew that! I'm sorry. My brain. Just fyi pregnancy brain doesn't go away after birth |
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Post by muscari on Jun 6, 2017 15:08:56 GMT -6
Ahh baby is still an inside babyfor the next 10wks orso so not BFing (just yet.. I do plan on BFing though). Definitely a good tip to remember! I knew that! I'm sorry. My brain. Just fyi pregnancy brain doesn't go away after birth Hah that's okay And LOL MH keeps joking he can't wait for pregnancy brain to stop.. I told him it may well not but he's not buying it. He'll find out sooner or later ;-) |
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Post by ldubhawksfan on Jun 6, 2017 16:17:32 GMT -6
Should I be worried about the baby having the hiccups rather regularly? Only noticed this yesterday for the first time, but since I've noticed her having bouts of hiccups several times today. Prolly is nothing to worry about right, but I feel sorry for the little pumpkin! DD used to have hiccups all the time. She was totally fine. |
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Post by iheartbroccoli on Jun 6, 2017 17:00:57 GMT -6
muscari DS2 got hiccups all the time when I was pregnant, and he's fine. He does get hiccups a lot now that he's on the outside too, but that's probably just a coincidence. 🙂 Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by snowyowl on Jun 6, 2017 17:43:35 GMT -6
muscari DS2 got hiccups all the time when I was pregnant, and he's fine. He does get hiccups a lot now that he's on the outside too, but that's probably just a coincidence. 🙂 Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Ditto. Constantly hiccuping inside baby became a constantly hiccuping outside baby. Maybe you are in for that as well muscari |
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Post by snowyowl on Jun 6, 2017 17:45:51 GMT -6
Anyone have experience with baby measuring behind with strong heartbeat? Went in for initial ultrasound today, and according to LMP should have been 7 weeks. Baby measured at 6 weeks 1 day with a heartbeat of 126. Doc is very happy and proclaimed baby normal. He asked for the refresher on previous losses, and with that information and me being on progesterone, he is confident and feels good. I know that this early on, measurements can be off; I wasn't tracking my cycle so have no idea when I ovulated; implantation could have been later; etc, etc, etc. Loss brain is giving me a hard time, and I'm struggling mentally right now. Gah. Trying to focus on the beautiful little blob and heartbeat we saw, and not on everything else, but that's proving challenging. I knew exactly when I conceived and baby was still three days "behind." I definitely wouldn't worry if you weren't tracking and your doctor doesn't see anything to be concerned about. |
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Post by flippinchica on Jun 6, 2017 18:04:02 GMT -6
Should I be worried about the baby having the hiccups rather regularly? Only noticed this yesterday for the first time, but since I've noticed her having bouts of hiccups several times today. Prolly is nothing to worry about right, but I feel sorry for the little pumpkin! I think it is normal. DS had hiccups all the time in utero. |
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Post by addymac on Jun 6, 2017 18:48:03 GMT -6
Anyone have experience with baby measuring behind with strong heartbeat? Went in for initial ultrasound today, and according to LMP should have been 7 weeks. Baby measured at 6 weeks 1 day with a heartbeat of 126. Doc is very happy and proclaimed baby normal. He asked for the refresher on previous losses, and with that information and me being on progesterone, he is confident and feels good. I know that this early on, measurements can be off; I wasn't tracking my cycle so have no idea when I ovulated; implantation could have been later; etc, etc, etc. Loss brain is giving me a hard time, and I'm struggling mentally right now. Gah. Trying to focus on the beautiful little blob and heartbeat we saw, and not on everything else, but that's proving challenging. According to FF and when we had sex, I knew when I O'd and would have conceived, but this baby is measuring a full week behind (no I did not have sex thanksgiving weekend at my parents!!) but with a great hb at the first u/s. He was that way from the first u/s and I was convinced it was over bc of the size being off. But he's measuring perfectly on track for his "week delay" and we can only assume it was a delayed implantation. 🤷🏻♀️ So try not to freak out (I know, I know!!) bc it truly may mean nothing. *hugs* |
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Post by readinglove on Jun 6, 2017 19:57:05 GMT -6
addymac snowyowl Thank you! It's reassuring to hear similar stories from people I "know" and trust. Now to tell my brain to knock it off and shut the hell up... 🙂 Sent from my SM-G950U using Tapatalk
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Post by muscari on Jun 7, 2017 0:39:07 GMT -6
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Post by hawkward on Jun 7, 2017 5:53:44 GMT -6
Anyone have experience with baby measuring behind with strong heartbeat? Went in for initial ultrasound today, and according to LMP should have been 7 weeks. Baby measured at 6 weeks 1 day with a heartbeat of 126. Doc is very happy and proclaimed baby normal. He asked for the refresher on previous losses, and with that information and me being on progesterone, he is confident and feels good. I know that this early on, measurements can be off; I wasn't tracking my cycle so have no idea when I ovulated; implantation could have been later; etc, etc, etc. Loss brain is giving me a hard time, and I'm struggling mentally right now. Gah. Trying to focus on the beautiful little blob and heartbeat we saw, and not on everything else, but that's proving challenging. DS1 measured consistently about a week behind the entire pregnancy. At one point we were warned he might have dwarfism (nope, just short), and we were told he'd be really tiny at birth (nope, over 8.5 lb). |
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Post by oldbaylover1024 on Jun 7, 2017 7:01:36 GMT -6
readinglove - DD measured 9 days behind at our first visit, but gradually caught up. By the time we went for our 20w anatomy scan she was measuring a week ahead. She ended up being a bigger baby than they expected (8.5 lbs.). Huge {{hugs}}. Those early days are tough. muscari - DS had hiccups all. the. time. He still gets them! LOL I don't think it's anything to worry about.
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Post by readinglove on Jun 8, 2017 12:51:26 GMT -6
Anyone have experience with baby measuring behind with strong heartbeat? Went in for initial ultrasound today, and according to LMP should have been 7 weeks. Baby measured at 6 weeks 1 day with a heartbeat of 126. Doc is very happy and proclaimed baby normal. He asked for the refresher on previous losses, and with that information and me being on progesterone, he is confident and feels good. I know that this early on, measurements can be off; I wasn't tracking my cycle so have no idea when I ovulated; implantation could have been later; etc, etc, etc. Loss brain is giving me a hard time, and I'm struggling mentally right now. Gah. Trying to focus on the beautiful little blob and heartbeat we saw, and not on everything else, but that's proving challenging. DS1 measured consistently about a week behind the entire pregnancy. At one point we were warned he might have dwarfism (nope, just short), and we were told he'd be really tiny at birth (nope, over 8.5 lb). Good to know! Thank you for sharing! |
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Post by readinglove on Jun 8, 2017 12:55:47 GMT -6
readinglove - DD measured 9 days behind at our first visit, but gradually caught up. By the time we went for our 20w anatomy scan she was measuring a week ahead. She ended up being a bigger baby than they expected (8.5 lbs.). Huge {{hugs}}. Those early days are tough. muscari - DS had hiccups all. the. time. He still gets them! LOL I don't think it's anything to worry about. Early days suck. It was hard enough before hearing that at the scan appointment, and then this amped everything up a bajillion times. Gah. You'd think going through this once with DS would have made this easier. |
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Post by readinglove on Jun 8, 2017 12:56:56 GMT -6
readinglove , with both of my kids, I ovulated on CD 20/21, so it threw off early measurements and made everything look a week behind, even though really everything was right on time. With DD, it was a concern for the doctor, but not for me, and with DS, because I was going through IF treatments, everyone trusted that I'd been tracking my ovulation and we simply adjusted my due date. Most likely, you didn't have a 28-day cycle. It's a fairly small amount to be off by, and 127 is a great heartbeat for a 6-weeker. Sending lots of love and good vibes to you. When's your next u/s? Also, so happy to see you over here! Thank you so much. I'm not sure when we'll do another scan. I'm hoping sooner rather than later. |
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Post by agpjt413 on Jun 9, 2017 17:07:22 GMT -6
Ahh baby is still an inside babyfor the next 10wks orso so not BFing (just yet.. I do plan on BFing though). Definitely a good tip to remember! I knew that! I'm sorry. My brain. Just fyi pregnancy brain doesn't go away after birth TRUTH!!! 😜 And muscari - DD had hiccups all the time as well! |
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Definitely a good tip to remember!
