TTCAL 1/30

[sammysam]

Trying to be on time this week!

The Trying to Conceive After a Loss thread is posted once a week (generally on Tuesday) for those of us who have unfortunately experienced a loss. No matter what type of loss you've experienced, from miscarriage to stillbirth to the loss of a child, it is heartbreaking. This thread is to help us commiserate, get support, and to try to navigate trying to conceive, after a loss, every week.

Out of respect to all the ladies here, please add a trigger warning if you decide to talk about any living children and please hide your signature if it contains pictures or tickers of babies or children. We also kindly ask for grads to refrain from commenting in this thread.


If you get a BFP, kindly either spoiler alert it or do not post it here at all.


**If this is your first check-in, and you would like to provide a gtky loss history intro go for it. If not, no worries!**



How are you doing?



Status (TTA, TTC, Benched):



Diagnosis (if applicable):



Updates/questions:



Debbie downer (a place to vent ) : 

[sammysam]

How are you doing? OK. Feeling hopeful.



Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): TTC...already on 4th cycle after our loss. Crazy.



Diagnosis (if applicable): NA



Updates/questions: Bought a CB advanced digital fertility monitor. Liking it so far so we'll see if it helps at all.



Debbie downer (a place to vent ) : Nothing bad. Looks like I'm heading for a CD 14+ O date which is good! More like my norm before pregnancy so I'm hoping this is a good sign. Fertility monitor has shown "high" for the past 4 days and I'm hoping for a peak reading tomorrow which should give us good timing. I have everything crossed. Maybe it's because it's the end of semester exams right now and a new semester is starting but I'm feeling good about this cycle.

[akwild]

How are you doing? Alright



Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): TTC



Diagnosis (if applicable):



Updates/questions:
My store only had the non digital Clearblue ovulation tests.... so far nothing. But my body (if I’m reading it right) says i should O soon.


Debbie downer (a place to vent ) : we’ve had better timing so.... I’m hopeful this month.

[sunshiney]

sammysam FX for a peak today for great timing! I hope the monitor works out perfectly.

akwild OPKs took me months to figure out what time of day my positives show, and just what a "positive" result looks like to me...I hope you have better luck with them!

How are you doing? Fine. Work is so busy and distracting, so that helps. Healthier eating and exercise has made a good difference in my mood.

Status: In 2WW of 4th cycle trying on our own. We're supposed to do testing/treatment if we don't have success by 6 cycles.

Diagnosis: At this point - just the fact that I had IF and losses with previous partner.

Updates/questions: I brought this up in the IF IUI/TI check-in too, but a 2018 vs 2019 baby has been on my mind a lot. Which is silly, considering I've had the same feeling every year ever since I was hoping for a 2009 baby instead of a 2010 baby lol! Trying to think about it more logically so I don't set myself up for a big letdown if we pass March without success. Do you guys worry about this too?

Debbie downer (a place to vent ) :

[charliefox]

How are you doing? Overall, okay.


Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): TTC


Diagnosis (if applicable): unexplained 2IF


Updates/questions: I said this the other day but I'll put it here too. Finally got the genetic results back from my MC and there was nothing. I am both relieved and upset about it, so I'm trying to process that. Also, still no AF in sight BUT I did get some EWCM today and I'm hoping that means O soon!


Debbie downer (a place to vent):

[charliefox]

sunshiney, totally on my mind too. I know in the grand scheme a few weeks or months doesn't make a difference but the idea of not getting a 2018 baby upsets me too. ((hugs))

[Yogurt]

How are you doing? Ok. Hopeful.



Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): ttc



Diagnosis (if applicable): none. Just a fluke that I had a CP



Updates/questions: I am going to stop using pre seed. I read stuff about how it can allow subpar sperm to get to the egg and increase chemical pregnancies. Anecdotal, but it makes sense.


Debbie downer (a place to vent ) : I hope I get pregnant soon and have a healthy baby! Stating the obvious? I struggle with so many pregnant women in my real and online life. They have nothing to do with me, etc, I just never thought I'd still be trying, which was foolish of me.

[sunshiney]

Yogurt Seriously? (re: preseed). I have not heard of this. We have used it a couple cycles. Now I need to go look into this.... Also, OPPs are the worst. There may not be a correlation between them getting KU and us not getting KU, but there is a well established causal relationship between them getting KU and us feeling like sh*t.

charliefox Yay for EWCM!

***TMI WARNING***

I still remember back in college getting all amazed about it, like, wow have I just never been this horny before? And I find it ironic that I would later be looking for any sign of it every month!

[akwild]

So I got a positive okp this morning.... does that mean I’ve ovulated or im about to? The package says to try for the next 48 hours..... I’m so confused and I’ve never used opks before.

[sammysam]

Feb 1, 2018 19:45:20 GMT -6 akwild said:

So I got a positive okp this morning.... does that mean I’ve ovulated or im about to? The package says to try for the next 48 hours..... I’m so confused and I’ve never used opks before.

After a +OPK you usually O 12 to 48 hours after...they say to try to go 3 days in a row, skip one, and do one more just in case you actually O later. But Yay for a positive!!!

And again...our cycles are almost exactly the same. I had peak reading yesterday and Wednesday (we had to skip yesterday though...but I wish we would have been able to fit it in) and we'll go tonight to keep our bases covered. I'm just going to keep going EOD until my temp shift.

[sammysam]

sunshiney I feel the same way too...I'm trying to let go of it though since we're already in the next school year anyways...so really what's the difference at this point...but I feel like I need to be pregnant before my EDD comes along.

[sammysam]

charliefox I hope O comes soon and that maybe you'll get out of here without even having to see AF.

[sunshiney]

akwild Yay for an OPK+! So exciting. That means your LH is peaking, which results in your egg being released from your ovarian follicle...the LH rises and falls from the morning to night each day anyway, so it's hard to know exactly when your egg will release, but it should be the day of your first OPK+, the next day (most likely), or the next day. It is possible for your body to rev up to O and produce enough LH for an OPK+, but then it doesn't actually O, so it tries again later, maybe in a few days or a week. So that's why it's a good idea to keep having regular sex (2-3x/week) up until AF if you aren't doing something that confirms ovulation (like temping). Women with PCOS or similar are more likely to have an OPK+ but not actually O within the next couple days. But typically, your OPK+ means you're going to O! Good luck!

[akwild]

Thank you sammysam and sunshiney! I was just so excited to see a positive yesterday. We will continue on the EODish route.