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Post by CeeBug on Jan 25, 2018 7:06:02 GMT -6
We had this thread at one of the other boards, but let's revive it here!
What are the craziest/bold questions or comments that you have received thanks to your multiples?
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Post by CeeBug on Jan 25, 2018 7:07:43 GMT -6
I have been asked more times that I can count if my b/g twins are identical.
I had a gentlemen ask me last week which of the two is smarter. Then, he told me that he could tell that they are active because they are "thin." 😒😒
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Post by CeeBug on Jan 25, 2018 7:09:06 GMT -6
I have also had people tell me how sorry they are for me, and one lady stopped me in the mall to say, "Don't worry, honey. It will all be over soon."
I hope she meant that they would grow up soon and not something more ominous.
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Post by brewcitygal on Jan 25, 2018 9:36:29 GMT -6
My girls are very much fraternal and look quite different. People always comment, "really, are you sure they're twins? ". Half the time I just laugh and shake my head, because hello, I carried them, and also, why would I lie?
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Post by coffeandnaps on Jan 25, 2018 11:30:19 GMT -6
I get "they don't look like twins" a lot. Well, yes, they are boy/girl. They look like siblings. They just happened to gestate at the same time.
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Post by mb3 on Jan 25, 2018 12:51:42 GMT -6
I’ve gotten the “They don’t look like twins” and “are they identical?” Questions a lot. H and I are smartasses so for the identical question we always just answer “oh one is a boy and one is a girl”, about half the time people say “and? Are they identical?”
One that has always gotten to me is the number of perfect strangers who ask me if I breastfed them. Why? A) that’s a weird thing to ask any stranger and B) I know you’re trying to imagine the logistics of this and it’s creepy. One time I took them to a doctor appointment (for me, and not OB). I’m pushing the stroller away and this medical assistant chases me down going “are they twins?” “Yes” “Did you breastfeed?” Sometimes I’m just so taken aback by that that I just stare at the person and sometimes they pause and realize this is absurd.
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Post by mb3 on Jan 25, 2018 12:55:37 GMT -6
Oh. And when they were little (like 4 months old) my mom was visiting and took them for a walk so I could nap. She ran into a woman who asked all the usual “are they identical?” Questions. One baby dressed in a pink onesie with ruffles, the other in green and no ruffles. Mom explains no, they aren’t. Woman then looks closely at them and asks my mom “are you sure? They look alike”. Mom says no, definitely not identical. Woman: “Oh , I guess they can’t be since one has blue eyes and one has brown”.
That befuddled my mom more than anything since neither kid has brown eyes 😂
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Post by paperbagliz on Jan 25, 2018 13:09:41 GMT -6
Mostly I get sweet, not too invasive comments, but I have one negative one that stands out.
DH and I took all four kids to Lowes; he had the older two in a cart, and I had the babies in the stroller. They were all being angelic at the moment. This woman stared at us, made some comment to her friend, and said, "I don't envy you at all."
DH and I just kept walking, but we were ticked and wished we had a good comeback.
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Post by CeeBug on Jan 25, 2018 15:18:09 GMT -6
The breastfeeding question reminded me of a lady at Wal-Mart. She spoke very little English, and after seeing the kids she said, "twins?" When I told her yes, she then mimed cutting her stomach with her thumb and asked "c-section?"
I was taken aback.
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Post by pascal on Jan 25, 2018 20:33:19 GMT -6
I had one lady at the grocery store tell me all about how she always wanted to have twins. I didn't really know how to respond. I am not good at small talk, and while I love my boys to pieces, I was not excited to find out I was having twins. I hope this is making some sense. I mean they are five months old now, but when strangers gush about them I cannot relate. I love them fiercely, but I don't feel lucky per se? Does that sound bad? I think I will feel incredibly lucky eventually, I'm just not there yet.
And perhaps this is why I don't post much. I've gone off topic and written a novel of my rambling thoughts. So......hi.
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Post by pascal on Jan 25, 2018 20:34:38 GMT -6
Strangers must be excited when they ask if mine are identical, lol. Finally they can be right!
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Post by pascal on Jan 25, 2018 20:35:22 GMT -6
I have also had people tell me how sorry they are for me, and one lady stopped me in the mall to say, "Don't worry, honey. It will all be over soon." I hope she meant that they would grow up soon and not something more ominous. That's so creepy. |
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Post by CeeBug on Jan 25, 2018 21:03:10 GMT -6
I had one lady at the grocery store tell me all about how she always wanted to have twins. I didn't really know how to respond. I am not good at small talk, and while I love my boys to pieces, I was not excited to find out I was having twins. I hope this is making some sense. I mean they are five months old now, but when strangers gush about them I cannot relate. I love them fiercely, but I don't feel lucky per se? Does that sound bad? I think I will feel incredibly lucky eventually, I'm just not there yet. And perhaps this is why I don't post much. I've gone off topic and written a novel of my rambling thoughts. So......hi. Release any guilt that you might have. You are still in survival mode at 5 months and even though you love your kids, it is tough! Each new stage of development brings challenges and joy. Hang in there! |
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Post by pascal on Jan 25, 2018 21:21:23 GMT -6
I had one lady at the grocery store tell me all about how she always wanted to have twins. I didn't really know how to respond. I am not good at small talk, and while I love my boys to pieces, I was not excited to find out I was having twins. I hope this is making some sense. I mean they are five months old now, but when strangers gush about them I cannot relate. I love them fiercely, but I don't feel lucky per se? Does that sound bad? I think I will feel incredibly lucky eventually, I'm just not there yet. And perhaps this is why I don't post much. I've gone off topic and written a novel of my rambling thoughts. So......hi. Release any guilt that you might have. You are still in survival mode at 5 months and even though you love your kids, it is tough! Each new stage of development brings challenges and joy. Hang in there! Thank you. So sincerely. |
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Post by brewcitygal on Jan 25, 2018 21:44:25 GMT -6
I had one lady at the grocery store tell me all about how she always wanted to have twins. I didn't really know how to respond. I am not good at small talk, and while I love my boys to pieces, I was not excited to find out I was having twins. I hope this is making some sense. I mean they are five months old now, but when strangers gush about them I cannot relate. I love them fiercely, but I don't feel lucky per se? Does that sound bad? I think I will feel incredibly lucky eventually, I'm just not there yet. And perhaps this is why I don't post much. I've gone off topic and written a novel of my rambling thoughts. So......hi. Don't ever feel guilty about your feelings. Before I ever got pregnant, I jokingly told my husband and some girlfriends that I would lose it if we ever had twins and I'd sell one. Obviously I was kidding, but my girlfriends would always tease me about that comment when they found out we were having twins. It made me feel like I was a horrible mother and I didn't deserve my kids. Obviously I adore my girls and have from the minute I found out there was 2 of them. Ugh, even typing this I feel bad. |
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Post by lastkiss on Jan 26, 2018 17:35:26 GMT -6
I had one lady at the grocery store tell me all about how she always wanted to have twins. I didn't really know how to respond. I am not good at small talk, and while I love my boys to pieces, I was not excited to find out I was having twins. I hope this is making some sense. I mean they are five months old now, but when strangers gush about them I cannot relate. I love them fiercely, but I don't feel lucky per se? Does that sound bad? I think I will feel incredibly lucky eventually, I'm just not there yet. And perhaps this is why I don't post much. I've gone off topic and written a novel of my rambling thoughts. So......hi. Release any guilt that you might have. You are still in survival mode at 5 months and even though you love your kids, it is tough! Each new stage of development brings challenges and joy. Hang in there! This. Mine are only 9 months but it has gotten so much better already. At 5 months, I still felt like we made a horrible decision transferring two embryos. |
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Post by lastkiss on Jan 26, 2018 17:36:02 GMT -6
This weekend we took the twins to my older son, Xander's hockey game. While waiting for H and X to come out of the dressing room this grandma comes up to me
Her: How sweet, are they a boy and girl?
Me: nope two boys
Her: how old are they?
Me: 8 months
Her: but they're not twins, right?
Me: ummm....Yes they are
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Post by pascal on Jan 26, 2018 19:31:20 GMT -6
This weekend we took the twins to my older son, Xander's hockey game. While waiting for H and X to come out of the dressing room this grandma comes up to me Her: How sweet, are they a boy and girl? Me: nope two boys Her: how old are they? Me: 8 months Her: but they're not twins, right? Me: ummm....Yes they are Huh. Not sure where that came from, lol. |
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Post by requiressnacks on Jan 30, 2018 10:17:31 GMT -6
My dad likes to ask me which twin I would save from a burning building. He's also a giant ass.
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Post by pascal on Jan 30, 2018 19:55:13 GMT -6
My dad likes to ask me which twin I would save from a burning building. He's also a giant ass. Oh geez. Yeah, lets not play hypothetical who would I save questions. |
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Post by happyfeet9 on Jan 31, 2018 5:23:44 GMT -6
A cable guy a few weeks back saw them and said they looked healthy. He then asked if I tandem breastfed?!!!
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Post by pascal on Jan 31, 2018 20:52:05 GMT -6
A cable guy a few weeks back saw them and said they looked healthy. He then asked if I tandem breastfed?!!! 😮 |
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Post by happyfeet9 on Jan 31, 2018 20:53:14 GMT -6
A cable guy a few weeks back saw them and said they looked healthy. He then asked if I tandem breastfed?!!! 😮 Yup that was my response too. |
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