Baby showers and baby shower dramas

[cali]

@starzia, that is a ridiculous request from your mil, especially for a random person you don't even know. I agree with you ignoring that one!

AFM, my baby shower is 6/24. It's at a restaurant and I'm not really involved in the planning but I think it will be nice. The only drama there has been (which isn't even drama, just annoying) is that my SIL sent out the invites but didn't proofread them and they had some major typos/incorrect info. I was kind of aggravated since I put so much work into every detail or hers but I think it's been worked out so I'm trying to let it go. I've received a few gifts at the house already from people who cannot make it, so now I'm getting paranoid that no one will be there! But I'm sure at least most of my family will come and that's like 30 people right there. I'm looking forward to it! It's coming up so quick.

[addymac]

I'm looking forward to hearing about everyone else's!

I will probably end up with a work shower bc that's what we do there, but I don't think I'll be having a personal one. I mentioned it before, my sister sort of offered to do one, but with a guest list of like, 5 people, I feel like that's just lame / sad and I don't think she even has the money to properly host ANYTHING, even something small that size, and I don't want to burden her. Oh well.

I do feel awkward though- we made a registry at BBB and on Amazon and we've gotten exactly 3 gifts. ☹️ I know it's still early but I was hoping we'd have people getting us more stuff now that it's the third trimester and it makes me wonder if my friends at work aren't planning anything, which will really hurt.

[mrshall1027]

It was originally set for this past Saturday but it got postponed until July 3rd.

My mom and MIL are hosting, but I'm not really sure how involved MIL has been. My mom has the tendency to take over things and not let anyone else help, so we'll see how it turns out in the end. It will be held at my house and it's co ed. I wish we didn't have to have it here, but it's the best option for several reasons.

The reason we had to change the date is because MIL forgot and booked a trip to NYC with SIL.


I think it's all going well so far. My mom asked me today for my input on the different games to play. She sent out the invitations a week or so ago but I'm not sure who all has RSVP'd. I'm sure most of my family and close friends will come. It'll most likely be around 45-50 people.



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[king26]

1. Are you having a baby shower soon ? I had my work one on May 25th. I have my family one June 17th.

2.What's the plan? My work one was just after work. We had cake, cookies, and gifts. It lasted about 30 minutes and was nice. My family one I have to drive to my parents house and then we are having it in my family's church. The plan is mom, cousin, and SIL are throwing it for me, I know they are getting food from a little Italian place, and I know that they spent 4 hours this weekend making stuff for it. That's about all I know.

3Any WTF's to share? No, I'm just happy I'm having 2 showers and hoping I get what we need. The people at work were very generous and we got a few big items and tons of gift cards.

4. What's going well?
Everything. I'm very easy going so I haven't asked much about the shower. I think there is only going to be about 15-20 people there so it should be small and not go on for too long. I've also received 2 gifts at home from people who can't come. At my work shower we got our Pack-n-play, rock-n-play, and kick-n-play piano which were all bigger things on the list and my parents bought us our crib so we're on our way.

cali, I was worried people wouldn't show up to my work one but almost everyone came.

[cwbh928]

I am personally not having a shower. This is my second baby and honestly we live way to far from family to even be bothered. It would require me to drive to them and honestly I don't feel like it.

I did a few registries for the coupons and whatnot, but I know my mom and my MIl passed the info along because I see things coming off. People want to buy/help cool, if not I am totally fine!

I have baby shower drama, but it isn't for me directly. It's more so my aunt and uncle. They are a train wreck.

[jt2378]

STM here so no shower for me.

OMG @starzia, that is the most ridiculous request from your MIL. I'm sorry your dealing with that.

[nutmeg]

1.Are you having a baby shower soon? Since this is my second, I'm not having a formal shower. However, My close friends are taking me out to celebrate. This is the best plan IMO.

2.What's the plan? I have no idea since my friend, @starzia, said it will be a surprise.

3Any WTF's to share? None. This is the baby shower of my dreams.

4. What's going well? Everything? I kind of thought that some family members would ask if there was anything we needed/wanted for the baby, but I was also planning on doing everything ourselves, so its NBD. I do have a couple of registries open for coupons and a BRU one that I put everything I buy for DD and this little one on for the registry rewards.

[jexxa]

No shower for me as this is my second. I'm not sure I'll even bother making a registry this time, I've already bought 99% of the stuff I need for this baby that I didn't already have/need a second of. I think work might be planning a little something but I'm really not expecting anything, and won't be bothered if they don't.

[unicornsparkles]

A few very close friends asked to host a shower which I was hesitant to consent to since this is our third, but we are having a girl (first two kids are boys) and they all know that this is our rainbow baby so they wanted to do something special to help us celebrate since it was not a fun journey to get to this pregnancy.

Shower will be on July 8th and we are inviting ~22 family members & close friends. They asked what theme I wanted and all I asked for is pink and floral. I've seen the invitations and they are super cute, that's all the info I know.

Thankfully no drama. I made small registries on Amazon at Target because thankfully we don't need a lot of things, we still have all the big items from DS1&2. I'm excited to get to celebrate this little girl!

[muscari]

No baby shower for me, not a common thing in these parts.. So I hope you'll be sharing your stories (and some pics??) with us so I can live vicariously through yours

[muscari]

@starzia, wtf at your MIL.. that's just crazy. Sorry you gotte deal with that crap!

[happyfeet9]

1. Baby shower is this Saturday

2. It's at a small wine and cheese bar that has a nice patio area. I'm hoping the weather holds up.

3. People made a huge deal (esp DH's family) about making a registry so I added that we need for the twins. Less than 10 things have been purchased, which pisses me off bc creating those registries was a lot of work and we do not have the space to end up with 4 PnP, 3 swings, etc.

4. The big things have been coordinated which is nice and my cousin offered extra help.

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[addymac]

@starzia I would have been upset from the beginning. And moreso now. I'm sorry

[jexxa]

Jun 22, 2017 19:27:10 GMT -6 @starzia said:

I'm going to bump my own thread because I got to vent. I'm sad that my baby sisters chose not to come to my baby shower because my cousin is getting married they both live out of state and it was too much time to take off from work in a close period of time. Just announced my cousins wedding is canceled which is obviously so sad and unexpected and I feel terrible for her but now I'm angry at my little sisters decisions to choose her wedding over my shower. My shower is this Sunday it is too late to change any plans. I wasn't mad about it at all until the wedding got canceled. Hormones??

I definitely understand being upset but I think if I had been in that position, I would have chosen a wedding over a baby shower too (unless the wedding was of someone I'm not particularly close to). Are you sure it's too late for your sister to change plans?

[pepperpottsj]

I'm so sorry @starzia, you have every right to be upset!!!

[jexxa]

Jun 23, 2017 9:54:53 GMT -6 @starzia said:

Jun 23, 2017 7:39:01 GMT -6 jexxa said:

I definitely understand being upset but I think if I had been in that position, I would have chosen a wedding over a baby shower too (unless the wedding was of someone I'm not particularly close to). Are you sure it's too late for your sister to change plans?

I saw it as totally logical to pick the wedding. And told them it was ok. Being upset now is surprising me. That's why I'm blaming hormones. Shower is in 2 days just got told the wedding was canceled last night. Maybe they could surprise me. But airplane tickets have already be bought And time off approved so I think my family plans to just have a little vacation /beach weekend instead since the wedding would have been in 3 weeks.

Gotcha, I understand now. I was assuming the wedding was this weekend as well. Were you planning on attending the wedding as well? Maybe you and your sister could still meet up that way and do like a baby themed brunch or something.

[cali]

@starzia, I don't blame you. I think I would have been kind of pissed/hurt as well, especially now that the wedding is cancelled!

I actually have a vent of my own. I'm sooo mad right now because one of my friends who originally rsvp'ed that she was coming just texted me that she decided to go to Michigan with her bf last minute and won't be able to make it. The shower is tomorrow! Wtf?? That's so rude. Especially because my mom and SIL already gave the final count to the restaurant so they have to pay for her meal now. I mean if she doesn't want to come, fine but just RSVP no from the beginning. Don't text me the night before with the lamest excuse. She also made a huge deal when she heard I was having a shower about how I have to invite her because she definitely wants to be there. Really?? I'm so aggravated.

[cali]

@starzia, thank you. It makes me really question the friendship.

[addymac]

cali oh wow. I would be really pissed. I'm sorry. That's so crappy of her. People can really suck sometimes.

[king26]

cali, WTF? That is super rude.

[muscari]

Oh wow cali that is rude as F! Now if there had been a good reason why she had to skip last minute, okay, but to go somewhere else with her bf last minute and not giving a shit about your shower is just ... aargh. I'd be super pissed as well, so sorry you gotte deal with this. Don't let it put a domper on your shower though, I hope you will have loads of fun! Looking forward hearing/seeing more!

[muscari]

Aww @starzia I'm sorry your sisters won't be able to make it to your shower even though the wedding fell through. That's a shame! I understand you feeling upset, even of rationally you stood and stand behind the original decision etc. It still sucks though! I hope you'll have a most lovely shower today regardless! please do AW it somewhere!

[cali]

Thanks everyone. Despite that rude person my shower was absolutely wonderful and we had a great time. I seriously could not have asked for anything more and everyone was incredibly generous. I think we got almost everything we need. I'll AW some pics later.

[muscari]

Jun 25, 2017 7:30:37 GMT -6 cali said:

Thanks everyone. Despite that rude person my shower was absolutely wonderful and we had a great time. I seriously could not have asked for anything more and everyone was incredibly generous. I think we got almost everything we need. I'll AW some pics later.

This makes me so happy to read! :-) Can't wait to see some pics.