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Post by nellieoleson on Jan 22, 2018 22:34:24 GMT -6
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Post by nellieoleson on Jan 22, 2018 22:37:26 GMT -6
You guys. My H has only worked one week out of the last 6. HE IS DRIVING ME BAT SHIT!
Love the guy, and he is very helpful with a ton of things, but oh my god. I need my routine back.
In other news, it was dd2’s birthday today. We had a little party for her on Saturday and took her swimming this morning at her request. I seriously can’t believe our babies are TWO! It’s giving me a slight case of baby fever, even though I know our family is complete.
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Post by lollipop on Jan 22, 2018 22:47:19 GMT -6
I had many grand plans for M's birthday party (it's on Saturday). I've lost interest because she's most likely going to be the only kid there and the adults don't care if I have a theme or colour scheme or anything, so why bother? She also won't care very much, because she's 2.
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Post by nellieoleson on Jan 22, 2018 23:54:00 GMT -6
I had many grand plans for M's birthday party (it's on Saturday). I've lost interest because she's most likely going to be the only kid there and the adults don't care if I have a theme or colour scheme or anything, so why bother? She also won't care very much, because she's 2. I didn’t really bother with a theme, either. I asked her what kind of cupcakes she wanted (chocolate) and made sure they had Paw Patrol toppers on them because she is obsessed with Paw Patrol. We also got a bunch of helium balloons because that in and of itself makes it a wild and crazy party in the eyes of a little kid.
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Post by dizzycooks on Jan 23, 2018 8:31:25 GMT -6
nellieoleson yes to the helium balloons! I grabbed a half dozen at the last minute and they were obsessed! They thought those were the best thing ever. crimsonandclover the ear infections and flu situation sounds horrific. Break out the Clorox wipes and start the laundry. YUCK. We have another snow day here. I asked dh how this would be working if I were working. I just said, “so you’d be off tomorrow right? Bc I was home today.” His response - no, I can’t. Interesting ok. I then pointed out that I get ten days a year and I’d have used three of them THIS WEEK. for staff development and snow days, not illness. His response was to be mad at his employer, lol. Great but that doesn’t help. A simple, I’m glad we dont have to worry about it, would suffice. Off to entertain the troops...
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Post by nellieoleson on Jan 23, 2018 9:36:30 GMT -6
dizzycooks - yeah, I don’t know what we will do if/when I go back to work in the future. All snow, sick days, pick ups, drops offs, and extracurricular activities would fall on my shoulders, so how to find a job that is flexible enough to allow all that sounds challenging. If you were still working for the school district you would have a snow day too, right? And if you are working as a real estate agent/broker, I don’t think you ever really have to be in the office, so maybe it wouldn’t be as crazy to manage as it seems? ETA: you guys must have some crazy snow. I didn’t even think you HAD snow days there! We get snow days here when there is even a threat of a dusting of snow. Ha.
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Post by dizzycooks on Jan 23, 2018 9:52:32 GMT -6
dizzycooks - yeah, I don’t know what we will do if/when I go back to work in the future. All snow, sick days, pick ups, drops offs, and extracurricular activities would fall on my shoulders, so how to find a job that is flexible enough to allow all that sounds challenging. If you were still working for the school district you would have a snow day too, right? And if you are working as a real estate agent/broker, I don’t think you ever really have to be in the office, so maybe it wouldn’t be as crazy to manage as it seems? ETA: you guys must have some crazy snow. I didn’t even think you HAD snow days there! We get snow days here when there is even a threat of a dusting of snow. Ha. I work in a different district, one that’s closer into the city. They rarely close because their bus routes are so short. Our home district has some outlying rural areas it serves and so they tend to close because those routes are long. My dd1 is on the bus 30 minutes on a good day.
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Post by lollipop on Jan 23, 2018 11:18:44 GMT -6
I got some tulle and a ballerina cookie cutter for M's party.
The days off school and childcare in general is why I've been struggling to find a job. I can't find anything that will allow me to work around H's schedule. Most places either want me to work Monday to Friday days, or they want me to be available all evenings and weekends, which doesn't work because H works Sundays and doesn't get home until almost 7 on the other days he works. And we can't afford daycare, so we're kind of stuck
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Post by crimsonandclover on Jan 23, 2018 13:59:58 GMT -6
theoprah, when will you get the results from your betas back? Thinking of you!
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Post by dizzycooks on Jan 23, 2018 16:12:17 GMT -6
I will kiss the person who comes and brings me dinner or takes my kids on a long long walk. Mama needs a break. Knowing I have a volunteer shift (have to do 3 all year and I missed my second one last month) and work tomorrow is killing me. I fell asleep during naptime so I got nothing done. Obviously being that tired I wouldn’t have done much anyway. Dd2 was going for a sleep over at my dads, but the roads suck. Do not want to drive the normally one hour drive each way. I might not get home until midnight.
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jan 23, 2018 17:50:18 GMT -6
dizzycooks I wish I could come and take your kids off your hands for a couple days. You definitely need a break!!
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jan 23, 2018 17:50:37 GMT -6
theoprah, when will you get the results from your betas back? Thinking of you! +1
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Post by kcrkcs on Jan 23, 2018 20:49:24 GMT -6
So much ice here today. Bright side it was beautiful. dizzycooks I hope you got a little break nellieoleson when my hubs was off for a week+ around Christmas it was awesome but I was so happy when he went back to work and I got my routine back no way to 6 weeks!
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Post by theoprah on Jan 24, 2018 14:42:18 GMT -6
I realized I have been posting in the wrong weeks thread! My levels are low so it’s not looking good:( I will know tomorrow when I go back to see if they doubled. I am just so grateful for our little support network! I haven’t told any family/friends about this pregnancy yet so it’s nice to come here. Also - I posted on last week how I am scrambling to find a good preK for DS for next year. I am curious what you ladies have done. We will likely send him back to Nature preschool again next year since he loves it, but it’s only on Tues/Thurs mornings. I need to figure out where to send him the rest of the week! I think he has outgrown the in-home daycare where he goes now. It seems like most folks here have done some variations of part-time preK.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 24, 2018 16:29:28 GMT -6
theoprah sending you good thoughts. I’m sorry you are in limbo and I will be hopeful for good news for you. What about a full-time option like Montessori? I only have dd so not to pre-school yet but i feel like you’d be paying double to do a part-time pre-school + daycare on top of it and transportation seems hard.
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Post by theoprah on Jan 24, 2018 16:47:02 GMT -6
@kelltothekell - you read my mind - I actually emailed a full time Montessori school today and I am waiting to hear back from them. I think that DS would thrive in a Montessori environment. It would also make him more independent. So we will see. I am getting tired of all the running around with this nature program - I am only able to do it because I telework and am in a carpool.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 24, 2018 16:50:31 GMT -6
theoprah that’s great! Hope you are able to find an option hat works for you guys. All my friends that send their kids to Montessori love it.
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jan 24, 2018 21:02:22 GMT -6
theoprah I’m sorry you are still waiting on an update to your betas. It’s seriously the worst. I went through that with my first pregnancy. I second the recommendations doe Montessori. We did that for DS and it was fabulous. Dd will go eventually for preschool as well.
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Post by crimsonandclover on Jan 25, 2018 3:06:07 GMT -6
theoprah, I really hope you get good news with your second betas.
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Post by theoprah on Jan 25, 2018 12:02:24 GMT -6
Well unfortunately I received bad news. In Tues my HCG was at 368 and today it’s at 87. So my NP confirmed that it’s a miscarriage. It’s a major bummer- we’ve been trying since June. I have never had a miscarriage before and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. We are going to start trying again as soon as we can. DH and I are going to take a six weeks pregnant pic of me tonight and talk about other ways we can honor this little one. Thanks for all the T&Ps. I am also relieved to have the answer. Thanks for all of your support!!
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Post by theoprah on Jan 25, 2018 12:03:18 GMT -6
Can any of you offer advice or stories on success after miscarriage?
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jan 25, 2018 12:16:32 GMT -6
I'm so sorry theoprah. Big hugs. <3 My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage. I got pregnant with DS 2 months later, on accident! I was supposed to wait longer but I ovulated earlier than my cycle typically did. I will say miscarriage is the hardest thing I had ever gone through at the time because no one I knew had gone through it. I didn't understand what happened and it was devastating. So I totally get how awful it is. I ended up buying a rose bush to honor the baby I lost. Right before I found out I was pg with DS, I saw the first bud on the rose bush and I took it as a sign.
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Post by lollipop on Jan 25, 2018 12:38:04 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2018 12:45:21 GMT -6
theoprah, I'm really sorry to hear this news. Take all the time you need to feel the feelings and process this. I wish you comfort and hope during this time. I am so sorry. I know from research that a miscarriage does not affect your chances in the future. Sending you a big hug.
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Post by crimsonandclover on Jan 25, 2018 13:30:58 GMT -6
I'm so sorry, theoprah. I had a m/c between DDs 1+2, and as you know I went on to have 2 more healthy LOs. My m/c was actually right on DD1's first birthday, so over time it has been overshadowed by her celebration, and I'm ok with that. We got pregnant with DD2 on my first cycle after the m/c (It took forever for my HCG to get back down. I bled/spotted and had positive HPTs for 6 weeks.), and now when I think about the m/c I can't ever even really get into the "what if" in my head because if I hadn't miscarried that baby, I wouldn't have DD2, and that is not a reality that I want to contemplate. So yeah, it can be very rough emotionally, but it does not need to be any sort of indication about how future pregnancies will go. Take time until you're ready before trying again, though. Lots of hugs, lady.
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Post by theoprah on Jan 25, 2018 13:57:14 GMT -6
scorpioscuba - I am sorry to hear about the loss of your first pregnancy. Your story about the rose blossom gave me chills. I asked St Therese to pray for this pregnancy. She always sends roses when your prayers are answered. crimsonandclover - sorry for your loss and thanks for sharing your story. Maybe we can hang out in March? I will message you
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Post by kcrkcs on Jan 25, 2018 20:23:48 GMT -6
theoprah I am so sorry for your loss. Many hugs. Give yourself time to process and be kind to yourself. I had two miscarriages prior to L. For reasons there was a higher possibility for me than for normal people. It was devastating both times, and is the reason we won't try for another. We still talk about those babies, and we have done various things to honor them. When we finally move to our farm I will have trees planted for them. Over time the feelings have become less sharp, so it does get easier. It really helped me to talk about it, And it really helped me to connect with others who were or had experienced similar. I don't know what's left of our loss community, but we have a couple other moms from J16 who also experienced many losses before having their rainbows they are not active here but are on FB. You might try reaching out there too. In the meantime we are here for you many many hugs. Also + whatever to Montessori. L loves it.
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Post by dizzycooks on Jan 26, 2018 4:52:49 GMT -6
theoprah +1 to mc history. I am so sorry for your loss. We lost our first at almost 9 weeks and you just never forget. However, as you know, I’ve got 3 healthy girls and a boy on the way. Take time to heal and process what you’re going through. It takes time. Don’t be afraid to talk about it. You all inspired me to check out Montessori for dd2 next year, but it’s way to expensive for a pt option. Also, the 4 yo rooms all posted tv as a choice at the start and end of the day??
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jan 26, 2018 9:15:20 GMT -6
You all inspired me to check out Montessori for dd2 next year, but it’s way to expensive for a pt option. Also, the 4 yo rooms all posted tv as a choice at the start and end of the day?? Ummmmm.....what!?!? That is not normal! I would say those are not typical Montessori environments at all. DS’s never had tv. There wasn’t even a tv in the building. They had a special movie day once or twice a year before holidays and they did it using a projector on the wall.
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Post by lollipop on Jan 26, 2018 20:21:55 GMT -6
It's 7:15 here and I'm ready for bed. We ran errands, came home and deep cleaned the kitchen, then I made cookies and had to clean it again. Meanwhile H wrangled Kids, cleaned the living room and entryway,and got S to clean the playroom. I made some pom poms for M's party, then we had supper. Now we need to get the kids to bed, and H is going to clean the gerbil cage while I make a cake stand tutu.
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