Post by sammysam on Oct 9, 2017 11:46:19 GMT -6
I don't really have anyone to talk to who understands so I'm hoping I can vent or something.
I had a MMC that was confirmed at 10 weeks. I started to actually miscarry at around 11 weeks. At 13 weeks I had a severe hemorrhage and almost bled out...which led to the ER, emergency surgery, 2 doses of misoprostal, a D and C a week long hospital stay and I finally stopped bleeding at would have been 15 weeks.
It will take 3 months for my hemoglobin and iron levels to start resembling something normal.
No one seems to understand what I'm going through.
My SO wants to start trying for another right away...but we have an almost 4 year old DD and there were moments during the hemorrhage when I thought I was never going to see her again and it terrified me. I don't know that I can go through that again. Plus I'm 38 and closing in on 39 so the chances of it happening again are higher.
Everyone else just wants to tell me stories of how they bled during pregnancy and how scary it was for them...but they all went on to have healthy babies...or they down play what happened.
I thought I was over the MMC but for some reason everything else that happened made the feelings worse. Maybe it's that I know I'm too scared to try again so I'm sadder now thinking about the baby we won't have because it is unlikely we'll ever try again...I don't know. But I'm sad. And it's not that I want another baby...I just want people to let me grieve in my own way on my own time but it's like everyone just expects me to be over everything already. And I'm not.
Sorry for the vent.
I had a MMC that was confirmed at 10 weeks. I started to actually miscarry at around 11 weeks. At 13 weeks I had a severe hemorrhage and almost bled out...which led to the ER, emergency surgery, 2 doses of misoprostal, a D and C a week long hospital stay and I finally stopped bleeding at would have been 15 weeks.
It will take 3 months for my hemoglobin and iron levels to start resembling something normal.
No one seems to understand what I'm going through.
My SO wants to start trying for another right away...but we have an almost 4 year old DD and there were moments during the hemorrhage when I thought I was never going to see her again and it terrified me. I don't know that I can go through that again. Plus I'm 38 and closing in on 39 so the chances of it happening again are higher.
Everyone else just wants to tell me stories of how they bled during pregnancy and how scary it was for them...but they all went on to have healthy babies...or they down play what happened.
I thought I was over the MMC but for some reason everything else that happened made the feelings worse. Maybe it's that I know I'm too scared to try again so I'm sadder now thinking about the baby we won't have because it is unlikely we'll ever try again...I don't know. But I'm sad. And it's not that I want another baby...I just want people to let me grieve in my own way on my own time but it's like everyone just expects me to be over everything already. And I'm not.
Sorry for the vent.