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Post by GhoatMonket on Feb 22, 2024 12:19:39 GMT -6
The atmosphere as school was awful for a while since the other teachers were distraught and that was what bothered him most. He didn’t know either teacher well but he’s very empathetic and hates seeing others sad. This might also be a point worth mentioning- people are going to react to it differently and that's ok. Just because her emotions don't match someone else's doesn't make either of them wrong. |
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Post by sullivan on Feb 22, 2024 18:15:52 GMT -6
I don’t have any additional advice but I am so sorry. My heart is broken for their family, and your whole community.
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Post by mathrun on Feb 22, 2024 20:56:08 GMT -6
The atmosphere as school was awful for a while since the other teachers were distraught and that was what bothered him most. He didn’t know either teacher well but he’s very empathetic and hates seeing others sad. This might also be a point worth mentioning- people are going to react to it differently and that's ok. Just because her emotions don't match someone else's doesn't make either of them wrong. This is so important. We lost a classmate when I was in 7th grade. I didn’t know him well, but it was a small school so I’d had a class or two with him. Many of my friends were very emotional about it. I was not right away. I remember feeling like a “bad person” because I wasn’t sad enough. I so wish someone had told little mathrun it was OK to feel how I felt when I felt it. |
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Post by sudsy on Feb 23, 2024 18:41:04 GMT -6
Thank you to everyone who chimed in and all the kind words.
DD finally talked to me about it today because she came home sick and we were alone. She knew her but not well. Her bestie “L” was one of the girl’s good friends. I asked how she was doing and DD said she was ok because she didn’t know her as well as some people. Said her friend L was really sad at first but seems better. DD was super composed about everything. She said “I know the police are still investigating. I know that some believe it was an accident, some think it was suicide, and some are worried it was a TikTok challenge. That her mom was a single mom and that she had brothers and sisters.” I asked if she knew what suicide meant, and she said yes that “sometimes people are too sad and they kill themselves. But we don’t know for sure that that is what happened so we don’t want to spread rumors”.
I’m so proud of this kid. I asked if she had questions, and she said she didn’t right now. I told her if she had more later to come to me and we’d talk. I asked if she wanted to go to funeral services if they have any and she said no, but that some of her friends might go. I asked her if she thought we should do anything for the mom, and she said we “should tell her that everything is going to be ok”. 😭
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Post by AmyG on Feb 24, 2024 11:36:05 GMT -6
sudsy Your child sounds like her mom has given her a lot of knowledge and supports and this child of yours has her head on straight to handle hard things. Like there's adults who couldn't be that emotionally mature in this. I know you will keep an eye out as her emotions may still get away from her on this. Hugs
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