FlightView
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Post by FlightView on Dec 14, 2023 16:44:37 GMT -6
My stepmom collapsed at dinner Tuesday night, she vomited then stopped breathing. My niece did CPR and I called 911. She was taken to the ER and now she’s in ICU. Trying to figure out what happened. Their best guess right now is she aspirated from her vomit and ended up having a heart attack on the way in the ambulance. But they still don’t know what caused the vomiting in the first place.
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Post by angelashly on Dec 14, 2023 17:17:33 GMT -6
My stepmom collapsed at dinner Tuesday night, she vomited then stopped breathing. My niece did CPR and I called 911. She was taken to the ER and now she’s in ICU. Trying to figure out what happened. Their best guess right now is she aspirated from her vomit and ended up having a heart attack on the way in the ambulance. But they still don’t know what caused the vomiting in the first place. Omg! I am so sorry. I hope you get answers
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Post by icedcoffee on Dec 14, 2023 20:52:02 GMT -6
miawallace I tell everyone about those hospice pamphlets. They are so helpful and accurate. And comforting. There is also this hospice nurse I started getting content from in my YouTube algorithms (don’t ask me how or why - maybe because I watch lots of Swedish death cleaning content) and her stuff is amazing. She just wrote a book too. I was going to recommend this when I had a chance to you icedcoffee. This is her channel: youtube.com/@nursehadley?si=DNOXibPKqgclQFNn Thank you!
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Post by newspapers on Dec 15, 2023 7:51:26 GMT -6
I'm sorry to everyone struggling right now. Cancer sucks. I just found out two more friends' wives dealt with breast cancer in the past two years. I'm like, how many I know is that now? My god.
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Post by Wtfshouldmynamebe on Dec 15, 2023 8:12:12 GMT -6
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Post by newspapers on Dec 15, 2023 8:33:51 GMT -6
Here is a somewhat goofy one, but still frustrating because it's my own stupid fault. I spent all this time making another batch of Christmas cookies to give out at work and, in my haste this morning, forgot to put the gate up in the kitchen doorway. The doodle ate almost all of them and then, of course, puked them up. It's extra annoying because it really is my own inability to remember to put the dumb fence up every time.
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Post by ponyhairs on Dec 15, 2023 12:26:25 GMT -6
You all want to hear something so fucking ridiculous. My parents came down Tuesday. Weds AM my mom came into my room and said my dad needed to go to the ER because he was having massive kidney pain. So I dropped him at the ER, went to visit my H and then came back down to the ER to check on him before going to work. They did some scans, and he has ANOTHER FUCKING KIDNEY STONE on the other side, so they admitted him and he's now on the same floor as my H, but in an opposite wing. They placed another stent and when they were inserting the catheter, they scratched up his urethra so he's peeing blood and has now gotten 2 transfusions. They called my mom in the middle of the night and had to transfer him to the ICU because his blood pressure is so low from the bleeding. I called to check on my H just now and he's also having BP issues and will likely have to be transferred to the ICU again and I just want off this fucking ride you guys.
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Post by claudia on Dec 15, 2023 12:35:07 GMT -6
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Post by babybean on Dec 15, 2023 12:35:58 GMT -6
I’ve been dealing with health stuff the last year. I’ve gained a lot of weight, am losing my hair, have skin issues, digestive issues, cognitive issues, weakness etc. I’ve done bloodwork, tests, scopes, biopsies, seen specialists and nothings come of it so far so I remain in limbo. I don’t want to do anything or see anyone because my self esteem is so crap atm.
COL is crazy but my mental load is consuming me. My kids are the only thing keeping me going, but I feel like I’m surviving them rather than getting to enjoy them sometimes, and I hate for all of us. Pouring from an empty cup just sucks.
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Post by kayc on Dec 15, 2023 12:36:58 GMT -6
Fuck ponyhairs. I have no words. I’m so sorry you’re going through all this.
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Post by babybean on Dec 15, 2023 12:41:30 GMT -6
ponyhairs I’m so sorry. Can we help in any way with food delivery or items any of you might need to alleviate even a modicum of stress?
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Post by angelashly on Dec 15, 2023 12:47:26 GMT -6
ponyhairs I’m so sorry. Can we help in any way with food delivery or items any of you might need to alleviate even a modicum of stress? Yes this ponyhairs
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Post by angelashly on Dec 15, 2023 12:47:52 GMT -6
I’ve been dealing with health stuff the last year. I’ve gained a lot of weight, am losing my hair, have skin issues, digestive issues, cognitive issues, weakness etc. I’ve done bloodwork, tests, scopes, biopsies, seen specialists and nothings come of it so far so I remain in limbo. I don’t want to do anything or see anyone because my self esteem is so crap atm. COL is crazy but my mental load is consuming me. My kids are the only thing keeping me going, but I feel like I’m surviving them rather than getting to enjoy them sometimes, and I hate for all of us. Pouring from an empty cup just sucks. Omg I hope you get some answers soon. That has to be tough
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Post by ponyhairs on Dec 15, 2023 12:51:20 GMT -6
ponyhairs I’m so sorry. Can we help in any way with food delivery or items any of you might need to alleviate even a modicum of stress? You are so sweet. Honestly, I need a clone of myself so I can manage all of his stuff and still work. We aren't happy with the hospital he's currently at and we need to try and find somewhere else to take him and my MIL is like call this place and these people and I'm very much like ma'am, I AM WORKING, can you make a phone call. Lord.
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Post by ponyhairs on Dec 15, 2023 12:53:18 GMT -6
I’ve been dealing with health stuff the last year. I’ve gained a lot of weight, am losing my hair, have skin issues, digestive issues, cognitive issues, weakness etc. I’ve done bloodwork, tests, scopes, biopsies, seen specialists and nothings come of it so far so I remain in limbo. I don’t want to do anything or see anyone because my self esteem is so crap atm. COL is crazy but my mental load is consuming me. My kids are the only thing keeping me going, but I feel like I’m surviving them rather than getting to enjoy them sometimes, and I hate for all of us. Pouring from an empty cup just sucks. This is so hard and I'm sorry you are dealing with it and pouring from an empty cup is terrible. Do you have anyone to talk to? I know that making time for yourself is hard and can feel selfish, but honestly, I started seeing a therapist a few months ago and it's been amazing.
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Post by babybean on Dec 15, 2023 12:58:27 GMT -6
ponyhairs I’m so sorry. Can we help in any way with food delivery or items any of you might need to alleviate even a modicum of stress? You are so sweet. Honestly, I need a clone of myself so I can manage all of his stuff and still work. We aren't happy with the hospital he's currently at and we need to try and find somewhere else to take him and my MIL is like call this place and these people and I'm very much like ma'am, I AM WORKING, can you make a phone call. Lord. Ugh that’s so frustrating. Does your DD need anything for the holidays or to keep her busy? I will work on the cloning machine and get back to you.
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Post by kittyriot on Dec 15, 2023 13:03:57 GMT -6
ponyhairs, you have all the love I have… I want it to just wrap you in help, and be that clone you need.
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Post by cnf on Dec 15, 2023 14:51:49 GMT -6
Oh ponyhairs I am so sorry. I wish I had words that could truly help, but I am so, so sorry
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Post by angelashly on Dec 15, 2023 15:04:28 GMT -6
ponyhairs I’m so sorry. Can we help in any way with food delivery or items any of you might need to alleviate even a modicum of stress? You are so sweet. Honestly, I need a clone of myself so I can manage all of his stuff and still work. We aren't happy with the hospital he's currently at and we need to try and find somewhere else to take him and my MIL is like call this place and these people and I'm very much like ma'am, I AM WORKING, can you make a phone call. Lord. Can you do an FMLA? Just to give you some breathing room
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Post by ponyhairs on Dec 15, 2023 15:13:11 GMT -6
You are so sweet. Honestly, I need a clone of myself so I can manage all of his stuff and still work. We aren't happy with the hospital he's currently at and we need to try and find somewhere else to take him and my MIL is like call this place and these people and I'm very much like ma'am, I AM WORKING, can you make a phone call. Lord. Can you do an FMLA? Just to give you some breathing room Unfortunately I am literally 30 days into my new job. I just need to make it through next week and then we are closed until January 2 so I will have some time to breathe.
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Post by angelashly on Dec 15, 2023 15:26:11 GMT -6
Can you do an FMLA? Just to give you some breathing room Unfortunately I am literally 30 days into my new job. I just need to make it through next week and then we are closed until January 2 so I will have some time to breathe. That’s right! I do remember you were moving jobs.
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Post by YakkityYak on Dec 15, 2023 15:31:53 GMT -6
babybean I'm sorry I understand what you mean by pouring from an empty cup. I hope you get some sort of break at some point.
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Post by Wtfshouldmynamebe on Dec 15, 2023 15:33:35 GMT -6
ponyhairs, I'm sorry. That is too much for one person.
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AmyG
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Post by AmyG on Dec 15, 2023 16:18:49 GMT -6
love tits equals love and hugs from me but I can't do a love tit ponyhairsthat's just too much
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flojo
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Post by flojo on Dec 15, 2023 16:23:23 GMT -6
ponyhairs omg. The universe needs to give you a break.
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Post by Eagles on Dec 15, 2023 16:55:27 GMT -6
My stepmom collapsed at dinner Tuesday night, she vomited then stopped breathing. My niece did CPR and I called 911. She was taken to the ER and now she’s in ICU. Trying to figure out what happened. Their best guess right now is she aspirated from her vomit and ended up having a heart attack on the way in the ambulance. But they still don’t know what caused the vomiting in the first place. I'm so sorry. I know that nausea and even vomiting can be symptoms of a heart attack in women (and why we're diagnosed less frequently because men are more likely to have the classic "arm and chest pain" signs). I hope she's recovering.
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Post by Eagles on Dec 15, 2023 16:55:41 GMT -6
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Post by Sweetjane on Dec 15, 2023 17:25:42 GMT -6
ponyhairs I’m so sorry. Can we help in any way with food delivery or items any of you might need to alleviate even a modicum of stress? You are so sweet. Honestly, I need a clone of myself so I can manage all of his stuff and still work. We aren't happy with the hospital he's currently at and we need to try and find somewhere else to take him and my MIL is like call this place and these people and I'm very much like ma'am, I AM WORKING, can you make a phone call. Lord. Adding it to the spreadsheet MIL.....
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Post by ponyhairs on Dec 15, 2023 17:36:59 GMT -6
I really appreciate all of the kind words everyone. I know that things could be so much worse, so I am thankful for the blessings I do have. For a little levity I will tell you a story. My H was asleep and was awakened by someone in his room shouting, "help me, help me" and he opened his eyes to a robot watching him and shouting for help from the nurses because he had pulled his NG tube out. He said it scared the shit out of him because when he went to sleep, there was not a robot watching him.
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AmyG
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Post by AmyG on Dec 15, 2023 17:59:52 GMT -6
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