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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2017 9:44:53 GMT -6
Good morning ladies. How's everything today?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2017 9:45:28 GMT -6
I have to hustle to a morning meeting, but I don't wanna.
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Post by misspeansmama on Jul 24, 2017 10:13:14 GMT -6
It's definitely a Monday. I am utterly exhausted. DD was up twice last night with her bad dreams, so each time I had to go in and lay with her till she fell back asleep (which both times was no less than 30 minutes). I think I may have to go the "tough love" route and stop going to her at night. I feel so bad doing that since she is legit scared. But I am not sure how much longer I can go on with the lack of sleep. Up until recently we'd never had issues with her waking in the middle of the night, other than the very early infant stage.
I'll take suggestions/recommendations on how to combat this if anyone has them.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2017 11:10:42 GMT -6
It's definitely a Monday. I am utterly exhausted. DD was up twice last night with her bad dreams, so each time I had to go in and lay with her till she fell back asleep (which both times was no less than 30 minutes). I think I may have to go the "tough love" route and stop going to her at night. I feel so bad doing that since she is legit scared. But I am not sure how much longer I can go on with the lack of sleep. Up until recently we'd never had issues with her waking in the middle of the night, other than the very early infant stage. I'll take suggestions/recommendations on how to combat this if anyone has them. I don't have any good advice about bad dreams, but if you need more sleep can she come into your bed? I'm able to stay asleep (or get back to sleep quickly) if DS hops in bed with us rather than me having to get up and go to him.
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Post by misspeansmama on Jul 24, 2017 11:51:44 GMT -6
It's definitely a Monday. I am utterly exhausted. DD was up twice last night with her bad dreams, so each time I had to go in and lay with her till she fell back asleep (which both times was no less than 30 minutes). I think I may have to go the "tough love" route and stop going to her at night. I feel so bad doing that since she is legit scared. But I am not sure how much longer I can go on with the lack of sleep. Up until recently we'd never had issues with her waking in the middle of the night, other than the very early infant stage. I'll take suggestions/recommendations on how to combat this if anyone has them. I don't have any good advice about bad dreams, but if you need more sleep can she come into your bed? I'm able to stay asleep (or get back to sleep quickly) if DS hops in bed with us rather than me having to get up and go to him. We've tried having her come into our bed. Unfortunately with the two of us, our large dog, and her it gets a bit cramped. Sleeping is just as terrible with her in our bed as it is with me going to her bed. The only thing that is kind of better is that she stays alseep...oh and DH gets just as crappy of a night sleep as I do...LOL!
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Post by yellowwallpaper on Jul 24, 2017 12:22:12 GMT -6
I'm sorry to hear your daughter is still having nightmares, misspeansmama. I'm sure the lack of sleep is hard on all of you.
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Post by yellowwallpaper on Jul 24, 2017 12:26:53 GMT -6
I just left my physical. It was been way too long since I've had one. I can't remember if I shared this already but I came here last week thinking my appointment was on the 17th. Slightly embarrassing but better than forgetting about it I guess! Physically he said everything looks good, I just have to go get blood work done.
I'm about to go to our local running store to see about possibly getting insoles for my shoes. Maybe that will help with the shin splints.
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Post by LED on Jul 24, 2017 13:26:43 GMT -6
I don't have any good advice about bad dreams, but if you need more sleep can she come into your bed? I'm able to stay asleep (or get back to sleep quickly) if DS hops in bed with us rather than me having to get up and go to him. We've tried having her come into our bed. Unfortunately with the two of us, our large dog, and her it gets a bit cramped. Sleeping is just as terrible with her in our bed as it is with me going to her bed. The only thing that is kind of better is that she stays alseep...oh and DH gets just as crappy of a night sleep as I do...LOL! What size bed does she have? Could you send your H to sleep in her bed? At least on occasion? What are her nightmares about? Maybe work with her during the day on ways she can calm herself down when she's scared? How old is she?
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Post by NamasteBirches on Jul 24, 2017 13:28:31 GMT -6
Last week of playground camp for DS. How in the hell did almost 7 weeks go by?! Summer is flying by. I'm kind of scared. He still has stuff coming up but he's thoroughly going to miss it so I'm probably going to hear him whine about it for a while I'm sure. Thursday is also the last speech/OT camp session. Everything is winding down!!!
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Post by misspeansmama on Jul 24, 2017 13:55:45 GMT -6
We've tried having her come into our bed. Unfortunately with the two of us, our large dog, and her it gets a bit cramped. Sleeping is just as terrible with her in our bed as it is with me going to her bed. The only thing that is kind of better is that she stays alseep...oh and DH gets just as crappy of a night sleep as I do...LOL! What size bed does she have? Could you send your H to sleep in her bed? At least on occasion? What are her nightmares about? Maybe work with her during the day on ways she can calm herself down when she's scared? How old is she? She has a double bed. So DH could definitely fit and he has slept in it in the past. This morning he did offer to take turns with me to go lay with her. I need to take him up on it. Mostly I just get up and go out of instinct esp since I am half asleep. As for what she is dreaming of, it varies. Sometimes it's bugs, one time last week it was sharks, sometimes she doesn't remember. As far as I am aware she doesn't watch anything that would even be considered scary. She is so afraid of things and has such an active imagination there are a lot of movies and shows I don't allow her to watch or if I catch a scary scene I will change the show. MIL says she doesn't watch anything scary at their house either. It's crazy that this has been going on for months and seems to be getting much more frequent...pretty much every other night. I've tried to tell her that when she gets scared she should close her eyes and think about fun things she likes to do or her favorite toys. I am not really sure what else to tell her to do to calm down. She says she knows her dreams are not real and that they can't hurt her, but it doesn't make her any less afraid. She is 5.5. She's been extremely emotional about pretty much everything lately. She always has been emotional but recently it's been to the extreme. This morning on our way to MIL's I asked her if she had seen or had anything scary happen that may be causing her to have bad dreams. She responded that she gets scared when she meets new people and they are mean to her. I asked who did she meet that was mean, because I am not aware of her meeting anyone new recently. She responded that no one has been mean to her, but she is afraid of it happening. Poor girl, I think is starting to have anxiety. Anyway, I wonder if this anxiety about these situations is playing into the nightmares...maybe the ones she says she doesn't remember.
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Post by NamasteBirches on Jul 24, 2017 14:06:11 GMT -6
misspeansmama does she have any lovies or stuffed animals that give her comfort that she goes to sleep with at night? If so, maybe reminding her that they are there could be a good reminder for her to self-soothe when she wakes up.
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Post by LED on Jul 24, 2017 14:21:12 GMT -6
misspeansmama, if it truly seems like it might be anxiety, I would really recommend taking to her pedi about seeing a therapist. Even just once for an evaluation. Plus, after talking to her, they may have better ideas on what you can try to help her cope. Anecdotal, but when I was little I had a lot of nightmares and the thing that helped me the most was turning on the light, not just a nightlight (the shadows they made made me more afraid), and distracting myself with something else for a while. I wasn't allowed to go to my parents room, but I shared a room with two of my brothers, so I would usually end up in my older brothers bed by morning.
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Post by misspeansmama on Jul 24, 2017 14:29:17 GMT -6
misspeansmama does she have any lovies or stuffed animals that give her comfort that she goes to sleep with at night? If so, maybe reminding her that they are there could be a good reminder for her to self-soothe when she wakes up. Yes, she does. I tell her that they are there to comfort her. She responds with "They aren't real mom. They can't keep me safe." :/
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Post by misspeansmama on Jul 24, 2017 14:32:20 GMT -6
misspeansmama , if it truly seems like it might be anxiety, I would really recommend taking to her pedi about seeing a therapist. Even just once for an evaluation. Plus, after talking to her, they may have better ideas on what you can try to help her cope. Anecdotal, but when I was little I had a lot of nightmares and the thing that helped me the most was turning on the light, not just a nightlight (the shadows they made made me more afraid), and distracting myself with something else for a while. I wasn't allowed to go to my parents room, but I shared a room with two of my brothers, so I would usually end up in my older brothers bed by morning. I plan to keep an eye on it. And if it doesn't get any better, it is definitely something that I plan to bring up with her pedi. I just don't know how much of it is normal kid worries vs real full blown anxiety. Maybe I will try letting her keep the light on. She has 3 nightlights and I usually turn the hall light on and keep the door cracked pretty wide open for her. But maybe just having the regular light will help. Or maybe I can get another large light but with a dimmer bulb so it's light in there, but not as bright. Thanks for the tip.
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Post by NamasteBirches on Jul 24, 2017 16:42:25 GMT -6
misspeansmama does she have any lovies or stuffed animals that give her comfort that she goes to sleep with at night? If so, maybe reminding her that they are there could be a good reminder for her to self-soothe when she wakes up. Yes, she does. I tell her that they are there to comfort her. She responds with "They aren't real mom. They can't keep me safe." :/ oy, these kids. On one hand I'd be like you & want to comfort her til no end but on the other I'd wonder if she may be using this as a ploy to stall going back to bed or having you nearby, etc. It's def a tough position to be in. :/
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Post by misspeansmama on Jul 24, 2017 16:49:14 GMT -6
Trust me NamasteBirches, that thought has crossed my mind. Sent from my SCH-I545 using Tapatalk
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Post by cupcake on Jul 24, 2017 19:14:34 GMT -6
We went to the beach today. It was cloudy and rained some so I didn't think about putting sunscreen on me. I did put it on DD but didn't reapply. She has her first sunburn and I feel so bad. Thankfully she isn't complaining. I on the other hand am fried!
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