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Post by klong11 on Dec 3, 2021 14:12:13 GMT -6
peachsmama thank you for posting that. It made me realize that something the girls were talking about in the car yesterday was too inappropriate for me not to email the counselor and principal about. Apparently some boys are spreading a rumor about another second grade boy and a second grade girl who "get naked and kiss". The girls were saying how gross that is and why would they even do that. I told them it was inappropriate and not ok to make up things like that about people. They just finished their counselor lessons on personal safety, so I felt the counselor needed to know. I included the principal since it spans across classrooms and Cadence's teacher probably wouldn't do crap.
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Post by wineallthetime on Dec 3, 2021 14:37:49 GMT -6
peachsmama I hope the issue is resolved soon because baby if it isn’t, I wouldn’t be so nice about it. inthekitty I don’t think you will regret it. That dipshit deserves to be called out about his unprofessional behavior. Please include receipts and then at least you know you tried if something doesn’t change. He needs a wake up call or to at least be demoted. All of this. I'm so angry for you both.
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Post by wedding on Dec 3, 2021 14:57:01 GMT -6
inthekitty, you should absolutely turn him in. He has been treating you unfairly for quite some time and this is just the proof you need that he singles you out.
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Post by peachsmama on Dec 3, 2021 14:57:44 GMT -6
So, I heard from the counselor. She clarified that she was not aware of this being said, she was aware of K and M having issues. Unfortunately, they ride the same bus, and the counselor does bus duty and has had to separate them in line. No fault of Matthew's. I asked. The little girl has regular appointments with the counselor because her anger and social interactions are not good. The counselor kind of hinted that there is an ongoing bullying issue and that M is her target right now.. Her mom is aware that this has been a problem in the past and I told her I wanted her notified about this specific incident and wording of what she is saying. The counselor said she would call her after busses leave today. I told her that I have discouraged the friendship to M but he is adamant about becoming her friend. The counselor asked if I wanted her to talk to him about being nice but not necessarily friends with everyone, especially when they are not friendly back. I told her yes, because he's not listening to me about it. Literally every day I ask him how his day was, and the first sentence is about K and how she felt about him today... So, she's going to do that on Monday. She also spoke to his teacher and told her to reach out to me so I'm curious if she does.
I'm not sure what I was expecting but I feel better now that I know she is seeing a counselor. We'll see what M says today. Heading to the bus stop now to get him.
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Post by mwhip on Dec 3, 2021 15:08:25 GMT -6
I'm glad the counselor was receptive to you peachsmama! I hope she can help get some resolution. klong11 At least the girls felt open enough they could talk about that in front of you. But holy shit...how do 7/8 year olds know about these things? I'm so not ready for those kind of conversations!
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Post by tgrimes on Dec 3, 2021 16:03:49 GMT -6
inthekitty Turn his fucking shitty ass in. The end.
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Post by guster on Dec 3, 2021 16:39:04 GMT -6
@peach, I'm glad to hear the little girl is talking to someone, and I hope all of the parties that they see how serious the situation is. I'm glad they're going to keep you informed from this point forward.
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Post by wedding on Dec 3, 2021 17:03:50 GMT -6
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Post by tgrimes on Dec 3, 2021 17:16:58 GMT -6
My boob hurts but it’s not bad enough to take a pain pill. Although I have been day drinking so…..
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Post by tgrimes on Dec 3, 2021 17:17:56 GMT -6
All the kids’ Christmas gifts are wrapped. I made 2 meatloafs and am currently making mashed potatoes and roasted green beans.
I should say drink more often.
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Post by lahdeedah on Dec 3, 2021 19:41:35 GMT -6
All the kids’ Christmas gifts are wrapped. I made 2 meatloafs and am currently making mashed potatoes and roasted green beans. I should say drink more often. So you’re telling me that you get this energy and motivation from day drinking?? Guess I need to pour up Monday when I’m not working.
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Post by lahdeedah on Dec 3, 2021 19:46:19 GMT -6
Glad there is a plan in place. peachsmama I’m sorry M isn’t being receptive to you suggesting he steer clear of her. Maybe they should try to keep them as separated as they can at school, but then I guess the kid may just set her sight on some other innocent child. Le sigh.
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Post by inthekitty on Dec 3, 2021 21:38:12 GMT -6
What a week.
There was a retirement party at work so I saw my boss then. He had the nerve to joke about the text to colleagues standing right next to me. Then he laughed and joked to me that's not what he meant to send. I just replied I figured as much. I really think he's dumb enough that he thinks I'm dumb enough that I bought the autocorrect lie. He's too dumb to realize he should be shaking in his boots because even without the "fuck" the text was still rude and inappropriate.
Then I found out the girls' bus was involved in a fender bender this morning and they never informed us! I found out when Cass mentioned something about getting checked out by the school nurse. WTF school.
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Post by mwhip on Dec 4, 2021 8:37:04 GMT -6
inthekitty I really dislike your boss! Im sorry you have to put up with that nonsense.
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Post by guster on Dec 4, 2021 9:25:30 GMT -6
inthekitty I really dislike your boss! Im sorry you have to put up with that nonsense. Me too! He sounds so unprofessional.
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Post by chrisy01 on Dec 4, 2021 9:29:22 GMT -6
[mention]inthekitty [/mention] you need to report him. Bring your evidence, and at this point you should mention that it’s been ongoing but the group text and the meeting crossed the line.
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Post by inthekitty on Dec 4, 2021 9:41:45 GMT -6
[mention]inthekitty [/mention] you need to report him. Bring your evidence, and at this point you should mention that it’s been ongoing but the group text and the meeting crossed the line. I am next week. I'm going to call HR or CPAC on Tuesday and if they need me to physically go in I'll go Friday. I talked to my work buddy, A, about it. A is in the same boat as me and used to consider our boss a friend but no longer does. A has said for a long time his biggest stress at work is what a moron our boss is. He's interested in going to HR too because this is utterly ridiculous. He's often described our boss as like a 10 yo boy with ADHD and he's spot on. A witnessed my boss laughing like moron about the incident and even said something to the effect of "yes, sometimes texts get sent to the wrong people, but this wasn't just an inoccuous message..." and our boss was completely oblivious. We've both noticed he was pathetic enough before telework, but after telework he's just gone completely off the rails lazy and worthless. He has zero accountability. I work hard and mostly just want to be left alone to do my work. It annoys me I have to take time out of my busy schedule to deal with drama my boss created when that moron does absolutely nothing to assist me at my job. He just makes it more difficult.
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Post by chrisy01 on Dec 4, 2021 9:49:19 GMT -6
[mention]inthekitty [/mention] you should file and your work buddy could be a witness or a collaborator. At this point your boss is not doing anything right.
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Post by inthekitty on Dec 4, 2021 9:50:47 GMT -6
Also, I'm definitely not making the mistake of letting something like this go again. When I had only been at this job about a year and was pregnant with Cass one of the docs sent me a couple gross emails about how hot he finds pregnant women. It was full-on sexual harassment. I'd already been in the DoD system for a while at that point and seen the pathetic approach they take to addressing these matters and thought I'd be more annoyed by turning this guy in, their lack of action, then the odd dynamic of still having to work with him. They sung his praises like he was the greatest thing since sliced bread. He left a long time ago thankfully, but the DoD can go screw themselves with just throwing more annual training in people's faces but not doing much to offenders.
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