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Post by lahdeedah on Dec 3, 2021 10:10:13 GMT -6
I’m over this week. My boss wants a meeting with my old boss to argue the pricing on something I told her was standard and that there’s not much more we can do to save money. But she thinks it can be cut in half. It’s part of city code so good luck. What ever came of the meeting last week about what position was right for you?? Anything good?
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Post by lahdeedah on Dec 3, 2021 10:11:14 GMT -6
Morning! G, L and A's PCR tests were positive so that's fun. G doesn't believe it so is retesting them? Ok dude... Dammit. I’m sorry. Sometimes it’s hard for people to believe without the presence of symptoms.
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Post by chrisy01 on Dec 3, 2021 10:13:14 GMT -6
I’m over this week. My boss wants a meeting with my old boss to argue the pricing on something I told her was standard and that there’s not much more we can do to save money. But she thinks it can be cut in half. It’s part of city code so good luck. What ever came of the meeting last week about what position was right for you?? Anything good? My director says he has seen my skills improve (they really haven’t he just actually sees me) and wants to promote me but their hands are tied. I’m post in the private board later about it.
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Post by lahdeedah on Dec 3, 2021 10:16:03 GMT -6
I took today off. MH went to a concert last night and is still asleep. Wtf. I got both kids ready and took them to school. Thanks for the help dude. Can I TP him? You are the one that just had a boob surgery.
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Post by tallb on Dec 3, 2021 10:18:42 GMT -6
Oh man wineallthetime sorry they are positive. How are you feeling today?
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Post by lahdeedah on Dec 3, 2021 10:22:21 GMT -6
Morning.
Home today. I have some picking up around the house to do. Not much else happening except working out and waiting for packages to roll in. I might go to a few places to look for us a Charlie Brown tree. I don’t think I want to do a full tree this year in our small space. Simple is my goal while we’re in this place.
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Post by peachsmama on Dec 3, 2021 10:23:11 GMT -6
Lola feels better and she is driving me insane because she is bored but since she can't run or jump, there's not much to do about it. I am just hoping the day passes fast. The sedative is doing nothing right now. My neighbor Clark Griswolded their house and our house looks so boring next to there's so I am going to get a few more lights today. Just so it doesn't look so bland. So I have become addicted to the frosted sugar cookies at the supermarket. I keep buying them but I need to stop. My pants are definitely tighter since I started getting them often two weeks ago. They are so damn good though. Frosted sugar cookies are my weakness too. They are the absolute best.
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Post by peachsmama on Dec 3, 2021 10:25:39 GMT -6
Just sent the below email to our principal and I'm trying very hard not to drive to the school and punt a 7 year old child.......... I edited out names.
Last night I was made aware of an ongoing situation with my son, Matthew, and a classmate, K. I have copied Teacher since it is her classroom. I’ve been aware that K tells Matthew daily that she hates him and has been telling him to bring her things and she won’t hate him anymore. I’ve been working with him on how friendship works and she’s being unkind.
But last night I was told by Matthew that she is telling him daily “you’re a brat, you should just die, you’re not worth living” according to Matthew this is happening at recess. He said Teacher has talked to both him and K about it multiple times but it is still happening.
Matthew is okay. He told me it doesn’t bother him and we talked about how untrue it is and that she is wrong for talking that way. My concern now, other than I desperately want her to stop telling him these things, is if she is telling other children this and that they may not respond as well. And where she is getting this, someone speaking to her that way at home or something?
Please let me know where we go from here. This is my first encounter with any issue like this and I don’t know how this works with the school. It just breaks my heart that he is being told these things and I need it to stop.
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Post by wineallthetime on Dec 3, 2021 10:25:48 GMT -6
Oh man wineallthetime sorry they are positive. How are you feeling today? Better! Craving some actual food and not as tired!
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Post by peachsmama on Dec 3, 2021 10:28:05 GMT -6
Last night was Matthew's 2nd grade Christmas program and he did so great. He sang with all of the 2nd graders on the stage and then at the microphone with 3 other kids for a "solo" We went for ice cream after and his favorite classmate was there with his mom and grandma so I was able to exchange numbers so hopefully they can hang outside of school.
MJ threw up in her carseat after taking the boys to school this morning so we're homebound. Car seat is drying now.
I need to invoice today and make a few calls.
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Post by chrisy01 on Dec 3, 2021 10:33:18 GMT -6
I hope the principal does something. That’s not ok. [mention]peachsmama [/mention]
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Post by chrisy01 on Dec 3, 2021 10:34:07 GMT -6
I’m sorry about the puke [mention]peachsmama [/mention] Hopefully it’s one and done.
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Post by tgrimes on Dec 3, 2021 10:37:47 GMT -6
wineallthetime, oh man. I hope they feel ok. tgrimes WTF! I can't even believe he went to a concert. What does your MIL think about his behavior? Since she is so amazing it shocks me when he is inconsiderate like this. I have no idea. She definitely wouldn’t share her thoughts with me when it’s about her son.
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Post by tgrimes on Dec 3, 2021 10:39:50 GMT -6
peachsmama Car seat vomit is the worst. I’m sorry.
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Post by guster on Dec 3, 2021 10:59:23 GMT -6
I'm very surprised that the teacher did not take it more seriously, @peach. And I'm also very sorry that M had to deal with such hateful language. We had a situation very similar to yours last year and the little boy's parents were contacted by the teacher the morning after the "I hate you" note came home. They immediately reached out to us apologizing and had their son not only apologize to Josie in person but they also gave her a little gift and a hand written note. Thankfully, nothing else came from it and the two actually remained friends throughout the year. I hope there's a similar resolution for M.
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Post by peachsmama on Dec 3, 2021 11:08:26 GMT -6
I'm very surprised that the teacher did not take it more seriously, @peach. And I'm also very sorry that M had to deal with such hateful language. We had a situation very similar to yours last year and the little boy's parents were contacted by the teacher the morning after the "I hate you" note came home. They immediately reached out to us apologizing and had their son not only apologize to Josie in person but they also gave her a little gift and a hand written note. Thankfully, nothing else came from it and the two actually remained friends throughout the year. I hope there's a similar resolution for M. I'm very surprised and frustrated by that. I wish I had known weeks ago that this was going on.
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Post by guster on Dec 3, 2021 11:09:24 GMT -6
I'm very surprised that the teacher did not take it more seriously, @peach. And I'm also very sorry that M had to deal with such hateful language. We had a situation very similar to yours last year and the little boy's parents were contacted by the teacher the morning after the "I hate you" note came home. They immediately reached out to us apologizing and had their son not only apologize to Josie in person but they also gave her a little gift and a hand written note. Thankfully, nothing else came from it and the two actually remained friends throughout the year. I hope there's a similar resolution for M. I'm very surprised and frustrated by that. I wish I had known weeks ago that this was going on. Absolutely! I'm so sorry you're going through this.
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Post by mwhip on Dec 3, 2021 11:14:43 GMT -6
lahdeedah We ended up buying a small 3.5' tree to use, thinking we would have our house for sale this month. We got ours at Lowe's but that was a month or so ago. They did have some smaller options at that time. wineallthetime I'm glad you're feeling a little better! peachsmama You handled that well. If E told me someone said those things to her, I wouldn't be letting the school handle it...I'd be in the drop off or pick up line, ready to talk. Kids can be such assholes. Yes, I get the irony in my statement!
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Post by inthekitty on Dec 3, 2021 11:19:13 GMT -6
wineallthetime , ugh. I'm sorry. I hope it stays mild for the kids. Eye roll to a second test. chrisy01 , eye rolls all around today apparently. Eye roll to your boss. tgrimes and eye roll to your husband. I guess since he had balls of steal it didn't even cross his mind.
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Post by inthekitty on Dec 3, 2021 11:23:40 GMT -6
peachsmama, what a crappy situation. If the behavior is still continuing the teacher isn't doing enough and I'd elevate it to the principal. That kind of behavior and talk is not acceptable at school.
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Post by chrisy01 on Dec 3, 2021 11:24:19 GMT -6
[mention]lahdeedah [/mention] and [mention]inthekitty [/mention] I posted in the private board about the meeting and what’s happening with my job
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Post by jewels on Dec 3, 2021 11:31:28 GMT -6
wow peachsmama I'm so sorry that happened to M. I hope it's taken seriously and they figure out why the child is behaving that way.
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Post by nam2013 on Dec 3, 2021 12:05:25 GMT -6
peachsmama first of all I’m so sorry this is happening. Seriously I’d be heartbroken. As a parent I’d want to know if the teacher had reached out to the other parents too. And what the course of action would be from this point on. And they’re 7/8yo, they cannot fully grasp what consequences are of their actions, but they can and should be taught that words can hurt people. And that they’re are better ways to interact with people around you. As a professional I’m a little concerned about a young child using that kind of language, especially as a means to get what she wants…
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Post by inthekitty on Dec 3, 2021 12:07:07 GMT -6
PDQ
Re: My work situation with my boss in which he send out a message to the whole staff complaining about me and starting it out with "fuck."
I was expecting an awkward interaction with him yesterday of him coming to me with a sheepish apology. Nope. The fucker didn't even show up to work even though it was a day he's supposed to be in the office. That all-so-important meeting? The sound didn't work on my computer and I couldn't hear any of it. I typed that in twice and my boss ignored it. Then all the sudden the meeting ended and he never responded to me that he'd give me the info later from the meeting or anything. Never apologized to me. Nothing. I'm pissed. The least he could have done is apologized because what he did was shitty and inappropriate. My boss literally does almost nothing for his job so he gets a fat paycheck to sit on his ass.
Some background: I used to be friends with my boss. Before he was in this position we would chat, mostly about TV shows, and he'd regularly visit with me. That stopped entirely when he got this position, but he still regularly chats with my work friend. He's the connection I have with the Nevada NG that I'm thinking of switching to in a year and has recommended me to them. He's done several shitty things to me over the years and his go-to approach with supervising is to threaten people. Even though he only supervises 12 people he always emails everyone to bitch about not doing xyz because he's too lazy to figure out who didn't do it and just email them so I constantly don't know if he's tracking me appropriately for xyz because he's too lazy to contact just those who it pertains to. He walks on egg shells around certain employees because he is afraid of them but acts like he can push me around. I am by far the most productive member of my team (I currently have ~14 reports pending whereas the next closest has ~32). He is completely oblivious to my performance because he does what he can to pay as little attention as possible to our workplace and what goes on around here. My team fully self-manages themselves and ensures appropriate clinic-coverage without his involvement. The few things we've asked of him to make our jobs go smoother he won't do.
I'm considering turning him into HR. It's a gov't position so I know at worst he would get a slap on the wrist and maybe a write-up in his file. Mostly I want leverage and to knock him down a few pegs. We work hard and most of his interactions with us are just plain rude with never acknowledging what we do which all makes him look good. I know this would likely change our relationship but it's already changed for the negative.
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Post by lahdeedah on Dec 3, 2021 12:31:27 GMT -6
lahdeedah We ended up buying a small 3.5' tree to use, thinking we would have our house for sale this month. We got ours at Lowe's but that was a month or so ago. They did have some smaller options at that time. wineallthetime I'm glad you're feeling a little better! peachsmama You handled that well. If E told me someone said those things to her, I wouldn't be letting the school handle it...I'd be in the drop off or pick up line, ready to talk. Kids can be such assholes. Yes, I get the irony in my statement! I as just at Target for a return and checked out their stuff and they have a little 3ft tree for like $20. If I don’t find anything elsewhere, I’ll pick that one up tomorrow.
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Post by lahdeedah on Dec 3, 2021 12:51:18 GMT -6
peachsmama I hope the issue is resolved soon because baby if it isn’t, I wouldn’t be so nice about it. inthekitty I don’t think you will regret it. That dipshit deserves to be called out about his unprofessional behavior. Please include receipts and then at least you know you tried if something doesn’t change. He needs a wake up call or to at least be demoted.
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Post by chrisy01 on Dec 3, 2021 12:53:11 GMT -6
[mention]inthekitty [/mention] as someone who just finished their harassment training you need to report him. Because he is definitely in the wrong.
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Post by nam2013 on Dec 3, 2021 12:54:48 GMT -6
inthekitty what an incredibly crappy situation to be in. I’m so sorry.
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Post by peachsmama on Dec 3, 2021 13:04:05 GMT -6
peachsmama I hope the issue is resolved soon because baby if it isn’t, I wouldn’t be so nice about it. inthekitty I don’t think you will regret it. That dipshit deserves to be called out about his unprofessional behavior. Please include receipts and then at least you know you tried if something doesn’t change. He needs a wake up call or to at least be demoted. Oh I'm nearly there. Principal responded and had added the counselor because she was aware of the situation and was going to look into it. So it had already been escalated past the teacher and I still wasn't notified.
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Post by mwhip on Dec 3, 2021 13:41:39 GMT -6
inthekitty I would talk to HR as well. As a manager, he should treat all his employees equally, which he isn't. If there is an issue with you or your performance that is causing his behavior towards you, then there should be a discussion. Hopefully getting it out in the open will help. I'm sorry you have to deal with this bullshit.
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