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Post by robinanne on Oct 7, 2019 6:41:59 GMT -6
Happy Monday !! 🤣 (this is me today!)
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Post by friendofdobby on Oct 7, 2019 11:18:56 GMT -6
Haha robinanne! So true. DS turned 5 yesterday and DD is 2 months today. Where does time go? DS has a blast at his party so it was a great weekend.
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Post by rachacha on Oct 8, 2019 9:00:37 GMT -6
Ha, DS1 almost missed the bus this morning. Baby went to daycare with some spit up on his shirt, but it is what it is. Getting two kids ready and out the door in the morning is taking some adjusting.
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Post by elodin on Oct 8, 2019 15:36:23 GMT -6
That the most accurate thing ever. I lost my mind on Friday morning.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 8, 2019 15:49:34 GMT -6
I had my first PT appointment today and I didn’t score well. She drew an illustration of my pelvic floor muscles and the inner left side was squiggly lines. 😢
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Post by beenthere on Oct 8, 2019 18:15:33 GMT -6
Oh man @kore I'm so sorry!
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Post by cookswithwine on Oct 9, 2019 9:26:40 GMT -6
I had my first PT appointment today and I didn’t score well. She drew an illustration of my pelvic floor muscles and the inner left side was squiggly lines. 😢 Ouch! I hope the PT fixes you up!
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Post by friendofdobby on Oct 10, 2019 8:40:14 GMT -6
@kore eventually I’ll be going back to PT for my pelvic floor and I fear mine will be a long road to recovery.
DS is in fall break for a few days. All he wants to do is build LEGO sets which require my help and all the baby wants to do is nap on me without being put down.. so it’s been interesting.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2019 11:30:52 GMT -6
friendofdobby : Liked for commiseration, not because I like you having pain. cookswithwine : The fact that I have no pain throws me off. The muscles on my right side are ridiculously tight due to mild scoliosis so I expect a minor difference. But I could feel how week they were when she poked me. I started PT years ago for dyspareunia so it's very weird to have the opposite issue now. Also I hope you all are going (or went) to see a pelvic floor PT, even if you only go once and never again if he/she says you're pretty good. My sister went because I told her too and yesterday said she probably wouldn't do it again because it's awkward. I told her I would make the appointment and drag her there myself. Your pelvic floor is crucial to your physical, and sometimes even emotional, health!
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Post by beenthere on Oct 13, 2019 19:26:25 GMT -6
I can't believe my baby turns 3 months old on Tuesday.
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Post by cookswithwine on Oct 15, 2019 6:43:35 GMT -6
Both my babies have been such light sleepers. Vacuum when the baby sleeps... yea right!
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Post by robinanne on Oct 15, 2019 6:58:51 GMT -6
I guess the thing about having 3 kids (and a husband) is once one of them gets sick, you’re not going to sleep for about 12 days until it runs through everyone! 😆
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Post by rachacha on Oct 15, 2019 7:25:05 GMT -6
I guess the thing about having 3 kids (and a husband) is once one of them gets sick, you’re not going to sleep for about 12 days until it runs through everyone! 😆 Oh no! I hope everyone is feeling better quickly!
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Post by robinanne on Oct 15, 2019 20:14:14 GMT -6
I guess the thing about having 3 kids (and a husband) is once one of them gets sick, you’re not going to sleep for about 12 days until it runs through everyone! 😆 Oh no! I hope everyone is feeling better quickly! Thanks!
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Post by robinanne on Oct 15, 2019 20:17:07 GMT -6
Do you find that no one ever really asks how you’re doing? I mean, new baby and all but no one actually considers everything you’re doing or what it might be like for you. I’m not wording this well, but I guess I’m feeling lonely or overlooked. (?? Idk)
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Post by rachacha on Oct 16, 2019 5:56:26 GMT -6
Do you find that no one ever really asks how you’re doing? I mean, new baby and all but no one actually considers everything you’re doing or what it might be like for you. I’m not wording this well, but I guess I’m feeling lonely or overlooked. (?? Idk) I know exactly what you mean. Everyone wants to squee over the baby but forgets about the mom. I'm sorry you are feeling lonely. I know this is going to get long, so feel free to skip. I know I didn't go into much about what happened after I had T, but the last few months have been really hard. He had some complications at birth that were scary - breathing issues and dangerously low blood sugar so he was on a CPAP to regulate his breathing and had to have an IV to bring his sugar up. His bilirubin levels were also very high and he had to have blood drawn everyday for a week to check it. I had some issues as well. The day after we came home from the hospital I ended up back in the hospital because I felt like I was suffocating. Turns out, all of the swelling I complained about for months was causing my heart and liver to fail and my chest was full of fluid. It was terrifying and I couldn't sleep for days because every time I fell asleep, I would wake up moments later choking. T has also had some significant digestive issues and ended up hospitalized for several days when he was around 7 weeks old. We've had lots of appointments and insurance run arounds and it's exhausting. Thankfully, he is doing much better now. During all this, no one has really checked in on me. I know it might be selfish, but between the stress and hormones I have been a mess and it would be nice for people to show they cared or were even just thinking about me. Or acted like they gave a shit that I almost died. Sorry, I guess I really needed to vent, lol.
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Post by robinanne on Oct 16, 2019 8:47:40 GMT -6
rachacha I’m sorry you had all that going on! I can so relate because I was in the hospital with liver problems with my first pregnancy. I learned that liver issues make you feel so so sick. So hard that you had to deal with everything plus a sick baby!!! 🙁 But yeah, that feeling that no one cares is just kind of tough. It’s even making me check in on a couple pregnant friends more often so they know someone cares!
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Post by friendofdobby on Oct 16, 2019 9:49:46 GMT -6
@rachcha that sounds horribly scary and I’m sorry you guys have been dealing with all of that. I’m glad to hear things are a little better and I’m sending hugs your way. Newborn and post partum is hard enough without the rest of those complications added on. All the vibes coming at you for smooth sailing here on out for you and baby. robinanne I can relate as well to feeling lonely. Long story short I wish my mom were more present with me and checking in.. I feel like she’s basically checked out since she started a new job in August. She’s someone I consider as a part of my main support system (which is a very small number to start with) and it does feel lonely.
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Post by robinanne on Oct 16, 2019 10:18:38 GMT -6
@rachcha that sounds horribly scary and I’m sorry you guys have been dealing with all of that. I’m glad to hear things are a little better and I’m sending hugs your way. Newborn and post partum is hard enough without the rest of those complications added on. All the vibes coming at you for smooth sailing here on out for you and baby. robinanne I can relate as well to feeling lonely. Long story short I wish my mom were more present with me and checking in.. I feel like she’s basically checked out since she started a new job in August. She’s someone I consider as a part of my main support system (which is a very small number to start with) and it does feel lonely. I lost my mom 5 years ago, and it’s a huge part of the problem for me too! There’s no one who can fill the space of your mom! I’m sorry yours is acting so distant, how sad.
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Post by friendofdobby on Oct 16, 2019 10:20:09 GMT -6
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Post by robinanne on Oct 20, 2019 20:52:51 GMT -6
How’s baby sleep going for everyone? Are you swaddling still, bassinet vs crib... ?
We just moved our girls into a room together so we could set up our crib again. I’ve been starting him in there but it’s a joke so far. He lasts an hour or two, then I end up sleeping with him. It’s just easier, I don’t have the stamina to get up and put him back to bed a few times each night. I do miss sleeping alone sometimes though!! Still swaddling, but I feel it has to go soon. He’s really focused on rolling, but he’s really only done it a few times. It makes me nervous that he isn’t in our room anymore. Not looking forward to the no swaddle transition though!
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Post by rachacha on Oct 21, 2019 5:54:26 GMT -6
robinanne , I was worried about the transition from swaddle to sleepsack, but he did pretty well with it. He is still in the bassinet in our room and I plan to keep him in there until probably around 6 months or so. He actually sleeps really well and I'm afraid to do anything that will ruin it.
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Post by cookswithwine on Oct 21, 2019 11:41:34 GMT -6
robinanne we still swaddle. He can roll from tummy to back but not the other way. He’s still in a pack and play in our room. By this time I had already moved DS1 to his own room. But DS2’s floppy airway makes me nervous. Also I feel like his sleep is getting worse not better!
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Post by robinanne on Oct 21, 2019 20:08:15 GMT -6
robinanne we still swaddle. He can roll from tummy to back but not the other way. He’s still in a pack and play in our room. By this time I had already moved DS1 to his own room. But DS2’s floppy airway makes me nervous. Also I feel like his sleep is getting worse not better! Ours is getting worse too! What the heck, babies?!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 22, 2019 6:04:02 GMT -6
How’s baby sleep going for everyone? Are you swaddling still, bassinet vs crib... ? We only use the SwaddleUp swaddle since he can roll tummy to back so if he somehow rolled the other way, he can lift up a bit. Bassinet was returned to my sister as he never took to it and DH reassembled the crib in our room. Occasionally he naps on his tummy, unswaddled, in the crib for 1-3h in the AM. We get 3h at from bedtime if I time it right or he isn’t feeling like a bottomless pit. I’m also too tired to put him back in the MOTN so between that and the growth spurt we haven’t tried too hard to transition him.
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Post by robinanne on Oct 22, 2019 7:26:27 GMT -6
How’s baby sleep going for everyone? Are you swaddling still, bassinet vs crib... ? We only use the SwaddleUp swaddle since he can roll tummy to back so if he somehow rolled the other way, he can lift up a bit. Bassinet was returned to my sister as he never took to it and DH reassembled the crib in our room. Occasionally he naps on his tummy, unswaddled, in the crib for 1-3h in the AM. We get 3h at from bedtime if I time it right or he isn’t feeling like a bottomless pit. I’m also too tired to put him back in the MOTN so between that and the growth spurt we haven’t tried too hard to transition him. That’s a good morning nap! He likes all his naps to be on me... So this morning I’m home alone with him until preschool is over and I’m just going to sit here and read my book for 2 hours. Don’t tell my H I accomplished nothing this morning 😉
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Post by friendofdobby on Oct 22, 2019 12:00:43 GMT -6
We just transitioned from the bassinet to the crib over the weekend. Crib is in our room, so she’s still in the same room as us. She’s still using the SwaddleUp swaddles and has shown no indication of rolling anytime soon.
Sleep has been about the same in crib as it was in the bassinet. Most of the time we have one wake up around 3-4am. There have been about 3 nights that she’s slept all the way through.
Long term plan (maybe around 6 months?) is to move her into the same room with DS so that we can reclaim our bedroom. Possibly in a PNP or we will move her whole crib there.
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Post by friendofdobby on Oct 22, 2019 12:01:28 GMT -6
We only use the SwaddleUp swaddle since he can roll tummy to back so if he somehow rolled the other way, he can lift up a bit. Bassinet was returned to my sister as he never took to it and DH reassembled the crib in our room. Occasionally he naps on his tummy, unswaddled, in the crib for 1-3h in the AM. We get 3h at from bedtime if I time it right or he isn’t feeling like a bottomless pit. I’m also too tired to put him back in the MOTN so between that and the growth spurt we haven’t tried too hard to transition him. That’s a good morning nap! He likes all his naps to be on me... So this morning I’m home alone with him until preschool is over and I’m just going to sit here and read my book for 2 hours. Don’t tell my H I accomplished nothing this morning 😉 Same boat here with naps. She’s asleep on me right now. It’s really hard to get her to stay asleep for naps if I set her down.
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Post by beenthere on Oct 24, 2019 13:00:56 GMT -6
We swaddle with those large knit swaddles from copper pearl. He loves them.
Link got his tongue tie released on Monday. I was really really hesitant to do it, but already he's spitting up less and hates his car seat less, and they said it likely would have affected his speech, and since DS1 is speech delayed already, I decided it was time. He hates the stretches but after I'm done he is back to his happy smiley self.
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Post by robinanne on Oct 30, 2019 16:53:27 GMT -6
Every time I turn around, there’s another thing in my house that really needs a deep clean. I’m keeping up with the normal everyday stuff, but I can’t go above and beyond right now. Feeling discouraged because the baby (and other kids) needs so much attention!!! All the time!!! Ahh!!
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