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Post by goldenlove on Jun 29, 2017 5:47:35 GMT -6
Seriously is this week going slow as balls for anyone else?
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Post by waitwhat on Jun 29, 2017 6:07:08 GMT -6
Of course it is goldenlove. It's a long holiday weekend so it's going to feel like it's taking 484858373 years to get here. |
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Post by waitwhat on Jun 29, 2017 6:13:58 GMT -6
Question. Most of you know I'm the MOH in a wedding in October. The bridal shower is July 16. On the invites, I said to kindly respond to me by July 1st. As of right now, I'm waiting for 30 responses still. Like WTF. I'm sort of shocked how high that number is. So my question is, is it my responsibility to hunt these 30 people down and get an answer? The bride is hinting that it is by asking me if my MOH for my wedding called people she didn't hear from. Honestly, I think all my people fucking responded. But whatever. I don't have anyone's phone numbers, just their addresses obviously so I'd have to get all of them from the bride. Not to mention it's a holiday weekend so I don't feel like I want to be doing this all weekend. I have plans and I'm sure others do as well.
What do you guys think? Any thoughts?
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Post by goldenlove on Jun 29, 2017 6:20:36 GMT -6
waitwhat We had a lot of people not respond and my MIL and mom contacted people when we were approaching the RSVP date. I don't know if it's YOUR responsibility but that's how it worked out for us. It's really annoying that people don't respond. Is the 1st a hard date or do you have a few days to wait? Maybe the bride can post on FB (is that tacky?) or someone from her family can reach out to people.
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Post by waitwhat on Jun 29, 2017 6:25:56 GMT -6
waitwhat We had a lot of people not respond and my MIL and mom contacted people when we were approaching the RSVP date. I don't know if it's YOUR responsibility but that's how it worked out for us. It's really annoying that people don't respond. Is the 1st a hard date or do you have a few days to wait? Maybe the bride can post on FB (is that tacky?) or someone from her family can reach out to people. no it's not a hard date. We wanted 2 weeks to get last minute stuff done so I guess we do have some leniency there. I'm just salty about the fact people haven't responded. I think it's sort of rude. The mother of the bride is pretty useless (long story) so she would not be of any help. I think a good majority are actually friends of the bride so I thought about FB but wasn't sure if it's tacky either haha. |
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Post by danib on Jun 29, 2017 6:34:02 GMT -6
Could you create a FB event and have the bride add them all? Either way she would need to provide their contact info so this way it's at least easier and less awkward than phoning a bunch of strangers.
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Post by goldenlove on Jun 29, 2017 6:35:57 GMT -6
waitwhat We had a lot of people not respond and my MIL and mom contacted people when we were approaching the RSVP date. I don't know if it's YOUR responsibility but that's how it worked out for us. It's really annoying that people don't respond. Is the 1st a hard date or do you have a few days to wait? Maybe the bride can post on FB (is that tacky?) or someone from her family can reach out to people. no it's not a hard date. We wanted 2 weeks to get last minute stuff done so I guess we do have some leniency there. I'm just salty about the fact people haven't responded. I think it's sort of rude. The mother of the bride is pretty useless (long story) so she would not be of any help. I think a good majority are actually friends of the bride so I thought about FB but wasn't sure if it's tacky either haha. I mean they're tacky for not responding so *shrug*. And it is absolutely rude not to respond! I missed an RSVP date once and I was horrified at myself, but it turned out that a lot of the RSVPs got lost anyway. And just recently my aunt sent an invitation for my cousin's graduation party and it said regrets only. She still texted me to ask if I was coming. I again felt horrified that maybe I missed the RSVP date and apologized to her and she said it was ok because no one responded. I looked later and was like uhh wtf. |
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Post by tallb on Jun 29, 2017 6:37:06 GMT -6
Question. Most of you know I'm the MOH in a wedding in October. The bridal shower is July 16. On the invites, I said to kindly respond to me by July 1st. As of right now, I'm waiting for 30 responses still. Like WTF. I'm sort of shocked how high that number is. So my question is, is it my responsibility to hunt these 30 people down and get an answer? The bride is hinting that it is by asking me if my MOH for my wedding called people she didn't hear from. Honestly, I think all my people fucking responded. But whatever. I don't have anyone's phone numbers, just their addresses obviously so I'd have to get all of them from the bride. Not to mention it's a holiday weekend so I don't feel like I want to be doing this all weekend. I have plans and I'm sure others do as well. What do you guys think? Any thoughts? What about getting email addresses from the bride and BCC everyone. People are used to that with evites I think. They will hopefully respond quickly since often I look at an invite and if I don't respond immediately, I forget the rsvp date. It's annoying though. EtA: I wouldn't do a FB event. Those things do seem tacky to me. Also fb messenger screens out messages from non friends, so people may not get a message unless they look closely. After my mom fell I found several messages weeks later from her friends that I wasn't friends with as well. I felt awful. |
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Post by goldenlove on Jun 29, 2017 6:37:25 GMT -6
Sooo I just posted the 8 month check in. Has anyone started to seriously plan a birthday party yet? Should we start a thread?
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Post by waitwhat on Jun 29, 2017 6:54:05 GMT -6
danib and tallb both good suggestions. I'll see what this weekend brings and go from there. I'm hoping maybe people will think "isn't there an event I have to attend in July? Oh I should RSVP to that. " goldenlove I almost just put on the invite rsvp regrets only but then I was afraid people wouldn't respond but also not show up. I thought making everyone rsvp no matter what was the best way to go. Clearly I was wrong!
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Post by dashook on Jun 29, 2017 6:59:19 GMT -6
Lol goldenlove, are balls slow? But yes. Well, yes and no. I have a depo this morning and I feel like I had no time to prepare this week because things are so crazy at work. But once the depo is over I'm on easy street until the 10th. waitwhat it is definitely rude not to RSVP. I like the email and bcc suggestion above. It would save you a lot of time. DNW to call a bunch of people I don't know. Ugh, what a shitty position to be in. Re: birthday party, yes, I have started planning. It's pretty easy because her birthday falls on a Saturday so I have the date, and I have the theme already, so yeah. Getting my Pinterest board up and running this week  |
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Post by kleigh on Jun 29, 2017 7:02:34 GMT -6
waitwhat I don't know if it's a regional thing or a family thing or what but that's been my experience for years... when I threw my sisters' showers' and friends etc, ALWAYS the majority of people don't RSVP until either the exact date or days after. With my baby shower my sister said that half of Hs family never even RSVPd (and bc their English is limited it wasn't an option for her to call them and try to explain who she was etc)... and they all just showed up and there wasn't nearly enough food. It was really rude if you ask me. For the showers I've thrown, yes, I've always collected phone numbers in addition to addresses so that I could call those who didn't RSVP on time. And my experience has been that at least half those people were Yes so if I hadn't called I would've ended up short on things.
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Post by waitwhat on Jun 29, 2017 7:07:58 GMT -6
waitwhat I don't know if it's a regional thing or a family thing or what but that's been my experience for years... when I threw my sisters' showers' and friends etc, ALWAYS the majority of people don't RSVP until either the exact date or days after. With my baby shower my sister said that half of Hs family never even RSVPd (and bc their English is limited it wasn't an option for her to call them and try to explain who she was etc)... and they all just showed up and there wasn't nearly enough food. It was really rude if you ask me. For the showers I've thrown, yes, I've always collected phone numbers in addition to addresses so that I could call those who didn't RSVP on time. And my experience has been that at least half those people were Yes so if I hadn't called I would've ended up short on things. That is my fear. It's at a country club so the coordinator needs a headcount 3 days before. I DNW people showing up that I haven't heard from. Because then there won't be enough food. |
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Post by waitwhat on Jun 29, 2017 7:08:38 GMT -6
Sooo I just posted the 8 month check in. Has anyone started to seriously plan a birthday party yet? Should we start a thread? yes let's start a thread. I am blanking on ideas! |
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on Jun 29, 2017 7:33:20 GMT -6
waitwhat, I guess I've had crappy hosts, but for any shower thrown for me I've been the one to track down RSVPs. I'll admit it got kind of annoying. Both that people weren't RSVPing and also that I had to be the one to reach out to them. I would give it until after the 4th and then try and reach out to everyone who hasn't responded via email like tallb suggested. I personally have no problem with FB invites or evites, most people I know use those over paper invites. I actually don't remember the last time I got a paper invite for something.
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Post by waitwhat on Jun 29, 2017 8:04:13 GMT -6
waitwhat, I guess I've had crappy hosts, but for any shower thrown for me I've been the one to track down RSVPs. I'll admit it got kind of annoying. Both that people weren't RSVPing and also that I had to be the one to reach out to them. I would give it until after the 4th and then try and reach out to everyone who hasn't responded via email like tallb suggested. I personally have no problem with FB invites or evites, most people I know use those over paper invites. I actually don't remember the last time I got a paper invite for something. I think I will wait until middle of next week. And I also don't want to make the bride hunt down these people, I don't think it's her responsibility. I'm just annoyed about this whole situation. Remind me never to be in a wedding again k? |
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 29, 2017 8:15:49 GMT -6
waitwhat , I guess I've had crappy hosts, but for any shower thrown for me I've been the one to track down RSVPs. I'll admit it got kind of annoying. Both that people weren't RSVPing and also that I had to be the one to reach out to them. I would give it until after the 4th and then try and reach out to everyone who hasn't responded via email like tallb suggested. I personally have no problem with FB invites or evites, most people I know use those over paper invites. I actually don't remember the last time I got a paper invite for something. I think I will wait until middle of next week. And I also don't want to make the bride hunt down these people, I don't think it's her responsibility. I'm just annoyed about this whole situation. Remind me never to be in a wedding again k? I contacted all the people for my shower that hadn't rsvp'd but I did it after the date had passed. It always amazes me that people don't rsvp. It's so rude. |
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 29, 2017 8:17:10 GMT -6
I'm dragging ass today. M was a bear this morning to get ready for school. I was trying to be patient because I know she's just tired from getting home so late last night, but damn. H was up a million times last night from his cough/cold. Poor thing had dried snot completely covering both of his nostrils.
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Post by waitwhat on Jun 29, 2017 9:02:20 GMT -6
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Post by waitwhat on Jun 29, 2017 9:03:54 GMT -6
tgrimes poor H. That poor kid needs a break. PS how was lion king?
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 29, 2017 9:13:46 GMT -6
tgrimes poor H. That poor kid needs a break. PS how was lion king? It was awesome! Once it started M did fine. They added a bunch of stuff and it was ridiculously long, so she fell asleep 1/2 way through the 2nd act. Everyone should go see it for the costumes alone. They are amazing. |
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on Jun 29, 2017 9:47:13 GMT -6
Spicy Chicken Tenders Platter Half-pound chicken breast tenders with spicy seasoning. Served with creamy slaw, a soft roll and BBQ dipping sauce. I can't wait!! |
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Post by goldenlove on Jun 29, 2017 9:49:06 GMT -6
There's a supplier tech show going on right now. It's usually boring and the same thing every year, but they bring cookies. We're going after our staff meeting. There better still be cookies.
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Post by waitwhat on Jun 29, 2017 10:00:34 GMT -6
Spicy Chicken Tenders Platter Half-pound chicken breast tenders with spicy seasoning. Served with creamy slaw, a soft roll and BBQ dipping sauce. I can't wait!! Want. I'm such a fried chicken whore! |
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Post by vino on Jun 29, 2017 10:01:23 GMT -6
Spicy Chicken Tenders Platter Half-pound chicken breast tenders with spicy seasoning. Served with creamy slaw, a soft roll and BBQ dipping sauce. I can't wait!! OMG this sounds delicious |
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Post by vino on Jun 29, 2017 10:04:15 GMT -6
Morning.
I'm exhausted. J was a mess all night, I think she's getting a cold. I fell asleep about 2am listening to her scream, homegirl wanted nothing to do with me or anything under the moon. And of course she wakes up 40 minutes into her first nap. No, sleep baby you need it.
So the plan today is to just survive. Ugh, I hate days like this.
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Post by classymrsa on Jun 29, 2017 10:20:48 GMT -6
I can't find the board on Tapa anymore so I had to find it by other means. But here I am.
We've been really busy since we've been back so I haven't been around much. I've missed you guys!! Yesterday we took a day trip to Victoria and went to the little zoo they have there. We also had bbq and got cupcakes. It was fun except for when Lillian got the runs and pooped all over herself and dh. Fun times.
Today I went for a run, cleaned the garage, and cleaned out my car. We're going to have lunch with my mom soon and then take Lillian to the splash pad.
Tomorrow we're starting potty training.... I also need to seriously sleep train Lilah. Naps are great, but nighttime sleep is awful. Not sure when approach to take though.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 29, 2017 10:41:21 GMT -6
vino OMG I'm so sorry. I hope the day goes by quickly.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 29, 2017 11:19:37 GMT -6
TAPATALK WORKS AGAIN!
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Post by aggiebug on Jun 29, 2017 11:32:22 GMT -6
Hugs vino those are the days my girls Ariel, Elsa and Moana help me out. Well my old dog woke us up this morning and I thought today was going to be the day I put him to sleep. Not a good start to the day. Thankfully I was wrong and right now we are ok, but I am still concerned how much longer he will be ok in this house and all it's stairs. |
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