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Post by ArielMermaid on Apr 13, 2019 6:27:30 GMT -6
It’s birthday party day and my oldest woke up with a cold. I’m still throwing the stupid party. If nobody comes 🤷♀️
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Post by polson on Apr 13, 2019 8:26:27 GMT -6
i hope all the babes who are sick are feeling better soon. i feel like early spring is sometimes worse for germs?
h is taking dd1 to swimming this morning and then to his parents for nap after so it’s just me and dd2 today. i’ve got the bathroom cleaned and 2 loads of laundry done. i’m folding and eating banana bread while she naps. we are going out to dinner tonight for h’s birthday. it’s been a long couple of weeks and i’m excited for grown up time. i’m finally at a place where i’m not having anxiety about leaving the girls.
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Post by mrsmonogrammed on Apr 13, 2019 20:27:41 GMT -6
We hosted Owen’s party and could not have asked for a better day! It’s was 55 and sunny so the kids were able to play outside and H did an awesome job grilling hotdogs and burgers. There were about 40 people at the house and I was a little worried how they were all going to fit if it was rainy or cold😅 O loved opening presents and was more than happy to dive in to the smash cake for the 3rd time in his life🤣
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Post by alwayscheese on Apr 13, 2019 20:59:38 GMT -6
It’s birthday party day and my oldest woke up with a cold. I’m still throwing the stupid party. If nobody comes 🤷♀️ I hope your day went well!
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Post by ArielMermaid on Apr 13, 2019 21:02:08 GMT -6
Everyone came. It was a good but long day!
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Post by alwayscheese on Apr 13, 2019 21:08:28 GMT -6
I am looking at AirBNB in Panama City for August. It's been 1 1/2 years since I've been on a beach. 😒
I've been lurking around different places on the forum and for some reason got me thinking about DS and TTC#2. Every time I see someone's comment about something they did with their toddler I'm like OMG yes I want to do that with DS without a baby dragging us down. LOL. The supposed "ideal" age gap is 2 years(no I don't think it matters, it's just that's the number usually given) and I just don't think so. DS is still a BABY. Cannot imagine wanting/trying to have another baby besides him. He doesn't even walk for pete's sake. Maybe in a month and a half he'll be walking and I'll be ready to TTC LOLOLOL. I am very sceptical but I see many people doing it so I keep trying to imagine it.
Tldr: rambling thoughts on age gap and TTC#2
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Post by dizzycooks on Apr 13, 2019 21:16:34 GMT -6
dizzycooks, my son made strange with everyone between 5 months and 9 months, but by 1 he had outgrown it. DD is actually getting worse over time. When did you find your DD2 outgrew it? Honestly she’s still very quiet around new people. It probably improved around 2 1/2 though. It was rough. We got kicked out of a gym bc she couldn’t handle the daycare. She did do ok at regular daycare if she was with her sister or regular staff, but forget about subs. However, we is thriving in prek and has no worries about kinder.
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Apr 14, 2019 2:06:07 GMT -6
I am looking at AirBNB in Panama City for August. It's been 1 1/2 years since I've been on a beach. 😒 I've been lurking around different places on the forum and for some reason got me thinking about DS and TTC#2. Every time I see someone's comment about something they did with their toddler I'm like OMG yes I want to do that with DS without a baby dragging us down. LOL. The supposed "ideal" age gap is 2 years(no I don't think it matters, it's just that's the number usually given) and I just don't think so. DS is still a BABY. Cannot imagine wanting/trying to have another baby besides him. He doesn't even walk for pete's sake. Maybe in a month and a half he'll be walking and I'll be ready to TTC LOLOLOL. I am very sceptical but I see many people doing it so I keep trying to imagine it. Tldr: rambling thoughts on age gap and TTC#2 DS1 didn’t walk until 20 months! Runs in my family apparently lol. We started ttc for number 2 when he was 21 months- 2 early losses later then successful pregnancy and there’s a 2 year 10 month gap between my two. It’s a good gap first pregnancy was easy for me, second was rough and with a toddler too my gosh.
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Post by mintyblueair on Apr 14, 2019 10:18:19 GMT -6
dizzycooks , my son made strange with everyone between 5 months and 9 months, but by 1 he had outgrown it. DD is actually getting worse over time. When did you find your DD2 outgrew it? Honestly she’s still very quiet around new people. It probably improved around 2 1/2 though. It was rough. We got kicked out of a gym bc she couldn’t handle the daycare. She did do ok at regular daycare if she was with her sister or regular staff, but forget about subs. However, we is thriving in prek and has no worries about kinder. Wow, so we could potentially be dealing with this for a while longer lol. I'm guessing part of it with N is just a shy/wary personality. I'm glad your DD is thriving in school now!
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Post by mintyblueair on Apr 14, 2019 10:25:01 GMT -6
On the topic of TTC:
I love the close age gap between my kids and I am SO ready to try for a 3rd. My maternity leave from school was due to end May 1 and I got in touch with my supervisor a few weeks ago to tell him I was not coming back... But then he talked me into giving myself a few more weeks to think about it, and in the meantime we emailed a bit and I re-read some of my work from just before N was born, and I started to get excited about finishing my degree again. So I've extended my mat leave to September because I'm too frazzled by our big move to start up in May, and I'm planning on starting a schedule of reading/writing to ease myself back into it over the summer.
But this means putting TTC on hold. So some days I'm still thinking maybe it's better for our family to just go for a 3rd now. I'm flip-flopping. But I'm trying to convince myself that I can use the prospect of TTC #3 as an incentive to finish as quickly as possible, and that way I can compromise with myself and my competing desires lol.
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Apr 14, 2019 16:10:59 GMT -6
There’s a part of me that would like a third. But H pointed out we’d pretty much have to TTC now and I really need a break from being pregnant and or breastfeeding. I have been pregnant or breastfeeding since 2014!
Plus the thought of starting over with a brand new baby... eek.
Other consideration is my pelvic prolapse and now hernia too. And my boobs are so so sad now. I was a nice D before babies and now I’m I think a not full at all B at best.
So yeah. I think for now we are 95% done.
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Post by snowmoon on Apr 14, 2019 16:26:03 GMT -6
There’s a part of me that would like a third. But H pointed out we’d pretty much have to TTC now and I really need a break from being pregnant and or breastfeeding. I have been pregnant or breastfeeding since 2014! Plus the thought of starting over with a brand new baby... eek. Other consideration is my pelvic prolapse and now hernia too. And my boobs are so so sad now. I was a nice D before babies and now I’m I think a not full at all B at best. So yeah. I think for now we are 95% done. I have also been pregnant or breastfeeding since '14 and my boobies are so, so sad. I'd really love a third too, but I think we are done just because our bank accounts can't handle the cost.
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Post by snowmoon on Apr 14, 2019 16:42:04 GMT -6
Also hiii. I don't think I've checked in yet much this month. We're still adjusting to our new routine since I've been at work.
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Post by ArielMermaid on Apr 14, 2019 17:29:49 GMT -6
I am so done. You could not pay me to have a third.
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Apr 14, 2019 17:34:31 GMT -6
There’s a part of me that would like a third. But H pointed out we’d pretty much have to TTC now and I really need a break from being pregnant and or breastfeeding. I have been pregnant or breastfeeding since 2014! Plus the thought of starting over with a brand new baby... eek. Other consideration is my pelvic prolapse and now hernia too. And my boobs are so so sad now. I was a nice D before babies and now I’m I think a not full at all B at best. So yeah. I think for now we are 95% done. I have also been pregnant or breastfeeding since '14 and my boobies are so, so sad. I'd really love a third too, but I think we are done just because our bank accounts can't handle the cost. Oh yes the cost aspect! Currently two in daycare is half my take home pay. If we have a third, by the time I went back to work it would be two in daycare, one in after school care and yikes $$$
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Post by auri on Apr 14, 2019 18:15:54 GMT -6
I thought I wanted a third. Until I was pregnant with J and had to go to the hospital twice for dehydration along with horrible morning sickness until the day he got evicted. You couldn’t pay me enough to possibly go through that again.
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Post by leatherpants on Apr 14, 2019 19:17:06 GMT -6
I’m just going to vicariously live through you guys for a third baby. My heart wants one but my head knows my heart is a lunatic.
I just want to snuggle a newborn again.
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Post by alwayscheese on Apr 14, 2019 19:22:39 GMT -6
I was also just thinking about how in my 20s and younger I thought oh maybe when I got to this stage of life I'd just have like 4 babies right after the other and then be done. I was like "we'll see when we get there I might not actually want that" That idea is ludicrous to me now haha. Why would I want to get the baby stage over with?? And again my next one might be a hard baby and I'll feel differently lol. But I can't imagine in this was my last, I'll be so sad lol. Or maybe I won't 🤷. Ok I'm rambling again.
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Post by alwayscheese on Apr 14, 2019 19:23:31 GMT -6
I thought I wanted a third. Until I was pregnant with J and had to go to the hospital twice for dehydration along with horrible morning sickness until the day he got evicted. You couldn’t pay me enough to possibly go through that again. Oh ya I would feel the same as you if I've been through that. You SURVIVED!!!
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Post by mintyblueair on Apr 14, 2019 19:41:40 GMT -6
I was also just thinking about how in my 20s and younger I thought oh maybe when I got to this stage of life I'd just have like 4 babies right after the other and then be done. I was like "we'll see when we get there I might not actually want that" That idea is ludicrous to me now haha. Why would I want to get the baby stage over with?? And again my next one might be a hard baby and I'll feel differently lol. But I can't imagine in this was my last, I'll be so sad lol. Or maybe I won't 🤷. Ok I'm rambling again. Lol, I've had two easy babies and I want the baby stage over with! That's my main motivation in wanting close age gaps.
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Post by mintyblueair on Apr 14, 2019 21:00:07 GMT -6
I think N is having a delayed reaction to her MMR-Var vaccine. She's had a low fever yesterday and today, and is being very cuddly. I'm praying it's the vaccine and not the start of a cold.
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Post by whatsit on Apr 14, 2019 21:37:05 GMT -6
I think N is having a delayed reaction to her MMR-Var vaccine. She's had a low fever yesterday and today, and is being very cuddly. I'm praying it's the vaccine and not the start of a cold. A had a crazy delay for hers - she developed a rash 11 days after she got it. H was freaking out a bit but I called healthlink and they said the time for reactions could be anywhere up to 12 days after.
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Post by snowmoon on Apr 15, 2019 7:08:16 GMT -6
I think N is having a delayed reaction to her MMR-Var vaccine. She's had a low fever yesterday and today, and is being very cuddly. I'm praying it's the vaccine and not the start of a cold. A had a crazy delay for hers - she developed a rash 11 days after she got it. H was freaking out a bit but I called healthlink and they said the time for reactions could be anywhere up to 12 days after. Our doctor said the same thing.
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Post by cornpop on Apr 15, 2019 7:12:18 GMT -6
auri, LT for commiseration. I'd love a third in theory but cannot deal being pregnant again. I went on a yoga retreat this weekend. I was super anxious about it because while half of the women do go to my buti classes, its not like we're super close. But everyone was super welcoming and sweet and we had the best time. We did like 7 yoga classes in 3 days and my body is dying but it was so fun. Now I think I have food poisoning from something. Welcome home! haha.
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Post by polson on Apr 15, 2019 8:48:35 GMT -6
cornpop glad you had a good time at your retreat. i hope you feel better soon. mintyblueair i hope the rash clears up quickly and she recovers quickly. that had to have been alarming - i had no idea there could be that much of a delayed reaction
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Post by mintyblueair on Apr 15, 2019 9:08:42 GMT -6
I think N is having a delayed reaction to her MMR-Var vaccine. She's had a low fever yesterday and today, and is being very cuddly. I'm praying it's the vaccine and not the start of a cold. A had a crazy delay for hers - she developed a rash 11 days after she got it. H was freaking out a bit but I called healthlink and they said the time for reactions could be anywhere up to 12 days after. I'd heard this was a possibility! Her fever started on day 8 so the vaccine must be the culprit. Also thanks polson, she only had a fever the past two days but this morning she woke with fever again and a fine red rash on her chest and forehead. I'm hoping it clears up quickly, too.
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Post by polson on Apr 15, 2019 9:45:17 GMT -6
i kind of feel like a lunatic for wanting a 3rd only because i always thought that 2 would be a hard line for me. i am surprised with my feelings. i am still trying to work through the logistics (space and timing issues) but i know we could swing it. i think i’d have regrets if we didn’t.
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Post by whatsit on Apr 15, 2019 14:07:04 GMT -6
A had a crazy delay for hers - she developed a rash 11 days after she got it. H was freaking out a bit but I called healthlink and they said the time for reactions could be anywhere up to 12 days after. I'd heard this was a possibility! Her fever started on day 8 so the vaccine must be the culprit. Also thanks polson, she only had a fever the past two days but this morning she woke with fever again and a fine red rash on her chest and forehead. I'm hoping it clears up quickly, too. It took 2-3 days for As to clear up which was in line with healthlink too. ( just to give you an idea ) hope it clears up soon!
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Post by cp3 on Apr 15, 2019 21:20:55 GMT -6
mintyblueair L had a delayed reaction to the MMR as well. She was so grumpy for a week after and then had low grade fevers and finally had a rash on day 12. It cleared up in a few days but it was rough while we were going through it. I hope N is feeling better soon. Poor girl.
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Post by cp3 on Apr 15, 2019 21:36:14 GMT -6
Hi ladies. I said in the AW birthday thread but I've been the worst at keeping up with here. Happy belated birthdays to all the babies!
Life has been so busy here and I'm hoping things will slow down soon. We've been dealing with some issues with D1 and it's been exhausting. She's starting bi-weekly therapy appointments this week for anxiety and will be starting speech therapy for a severe tongue tie we only recently discovered. And we are on a few waitlists to get in with an occupational therapist for sensory issues. It's so hard to find specialists that work specifically with kids that don't have huge waitlists. She has a follow up with her ENT tomorrow for minor hearing loss due to scar tissue from ear tubes but her audiologist cleared her for 6 months and I'm hoping her ENT does as well.
L has been doing great being dragged to all of the doctor's appointments. She started walking a week before she turned one and is practically running now. We've been dealing with tear duct issues since she was born that haven't fully resolved so we are seeing a pediatric optometrist next week. Her eyes still water a lot especially if we are outside for a while. Her pediatrician also put in a referral for EI for her for speech. She doesn't talk and is just now starting to babble more. I'm sure it's nothing but I figure an evaluation won't hurt anything and with everything we've been dealing with D1 I just want to know. We missed the EI cutoff for her so if L needs any services I want to start now.
And this got super long. I'm off to catch up on some other threads and promise to stick around this time.
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