School-aged Check-in (6/13)

[hawkward]

Tell us what's happening with your big kid and how you are?

QOTW: What is your kid's favorite game?

[hawkward]

DS1 is okay. He's been in trouble a lot at home lately. I had him help me come up with a plan for discipline, and so far it's working a little better. I'm trying to be patient with him because I know a lot of it is acting out about all the upheaval, but my goodness. I was at my wits' end Saturday, and a friend offered to watch the boys for the evening so H and I could go to a get-together by ourselves. The time to ourselves/with our friends was refreshing.

I just accomplished a bunch of moving stuff in the last couple of days that was a big hurdle. DS1 and I both have special health considerations that we had to get cleared before we can get official orders. Everything else (like housing and an actual timeline) are all dependent on these official orders, so that was a big relief to get done.

QOTW: He likes board games, specifically LIFE. His favorite sport is soccer.

[oldbaylover1024]

hawkward - Good luck with the move. You guys have been on my mind.



Five is not treating J kindly. I think a lot of it is stress-related, but my goodness... it's challenging. She's "grounded" right now because she took a marker/pen/pencil to a ton of stuff in her playroom (toys, shelves, WALLS). It wouldn't have been a 'thing' if this hadn't been a 'thing' a few weeks ago. We've also had some #2 streak issues, which haven't been a problem in a long time. Sigh... I'm tired. She's tired. We're all just trying to be positive over here.

BUT graduation this week was adorable and she's on to K in the fall!

I'm not great. My mom's health situation is getting worse and we've had a lot of personal WTF issues lately. MH and I are at our whit's end with the universe at the moment.

QOTW: She loves board games, too, especially Candyland. She loves all outdoor-related sports, specifically running. Lots of running.

[addymac]

oldbaylover1024, I'm sorry about your mom's health situation and the universe. I hope the universe shapes up <3

[hawkward]

oldbaylover1024 I don’t know if this is exactly helpful, but five was ROUGH for DS1 too. He was either fantastic or evil and nothing in between. Hopefully she grows out of it and moves on to a new phase soon!

I’m sorry your mom’s health is worsening.

[oldbaylover1024]

Jun 13, 2018 13:47:16 GMT -6 hawkward said:

oldbaylover1024 I don’t know if this is exactly helpful, but five was ROUGH for DS1 too. He was either fantastic or evil and nothing in between. Hopefully she grows out of it and moves on to a new phase soon!

I’m sorry your mom’s health is worsening.

That does help. She's pleasant and kind and friendly all the time, but the listening skills... OMG. It's like she's forgotten all the rules and just blindly does dumb stuff! Like she knows not to color on the furniture and it's never been a real issue. But now she's intentionally doing it and OBVIOUSLY upset when we find out, so she OBVIOUSLY knows it's not appropriate. IDK... I'm at a loss.

And thanks to you and addymac for the mom well-wishes.

[hawkward]

Jun 13, 2018 13:56:45 GMT -6 oldbaylover1024 said:

Jun 13, 2018 13:47:16 GMT -6 hawkward said:

oldbaylover1024 I don’t know if this is exactly helpful, but five was ROUGH for DS1 too. He was either fantastic or evil and nothing in between. Hopefully she grows out of it and moves on to a new phase soon!

I’m sorry your mom’s health is worsening.

That does help. She's pleasant and kind and friendly all the time, but the listening skills... OMG. It's like she's forgotten all the rules and just blindly does dumb stuff! Like she knows not to color on the furniture and it's never been a real issue. But now she's intentionally doing it and OBVIOUSLY upset when we find out, so she OBVIOUSLY knows it's not appropriate. IDK... I'm at a loss.

And thanks to you and addymac for the mom well-wishes.

YES. It's like they just. can't. help. themselves. Something that works (sometimes) with DS1 is having him set the consequence for himself. DS2 is a honeybadger about it though.