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Post by ArielMermaid on May 19, 2018 15:39:17 GMT -6
cooperation I feel you. My toddler has become a nightmare. I don’t think she’s listened to a word I’ve said since the baby was born. It’s turned us both into monsters and I’m not sure how to deal with it.
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Post by cooperation on May 19, 2018 16:41:04 GMT -6
cooperation I feel you. My toddler has become a nightmare. I don’t think she’s listened to a word I’ve said since the baby was born. It’s turned us both into monsters and I’m not sure how to deal with it. Yes! This is the kid that my friends called a unicorn bc he was so agreeable, well-behaved and good natured. In the past week, he has hit me, thrown toys in defiance and whines about evvvvvverrry thing. Ugh. I am so scared for summer when I have three kids at home full time.
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Post by gldnbearz on May 19, 2018 17:09:25 GMT -6
How is it that kids' whining voices can have a pitch or frequency that naturally makes me feel like smacking them into silence? It's a very knee jerk reaction. And my 3.5 years old has been doing this for the past few weeks.
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Post by leatherpants on May 19, 2018 19:08:25 GMT -6
How is it that kids' whining voices can have a pitch or frequency that naturally makes me feel like smacking them into silence? It's a very knee jerk reaction. And my 3.5 years old has been doing this for the past few weeks. Whining is one of my triggers. Like I cannot stand it. And crying and clutter in my house and anyone who is or isn’t sleeping and I think they should it shouldn’t be. I’m a treat.
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Post by ArielMermaid on May 19, 2018 21:17:53 GMT -6
How is it that kids' whining voices can have a pitch or frequency that naturally makes me feel like smacking them into silence? It's a very knee jerk reaction. And my 3.5 years old has been doing this for the past few weeks. Whining is one of my triggers. Like I cannot stand it. And crying and clutter in my house and anyone who is or isn’t sleeping and I think they should it shouldn’t be. I’m a treat. Twins.
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on May 20, 2018 1:39:16 GMT -6
Add me to the hate whining club. So so grating. The fake cry too, so forced and irritating.
Daniel Tiger has been a big help over here as DS1 gets used to baby. I bought the books to go with the episodes about baby coming and being a helper on Book Depository.
It’s bloody hard though, toddlers are... something.
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Post by sweetc129 on May 20, 2018 7:03:06 GMT -6
cooperation I feel you. My toddler has become a nightmare. I don’t think she’s listened to a word I’ve said since the baby was born. It’s turned us both into monsters and I’m not sure how to deal with it. Yes! This is the kid that my friends called a unicorn bc he was so agreeable, well-behaved and good natured. In the past week, he has hit me, thrown toys in defiance and whines about evvvvvverrry thing. Ugh. I am so scared for summer when I have three kids at home full time. This is us too. My oldest is 4 and always so calm and never even had terrible twos, but now it’s tantrums all the time. I had to call DH to Walmart to help drag her out screaming. He said he heard her as soon as he walked in. I was wearing J and had a 2 year old who wanted to run so when she went limp and started screaming I was SOL. She has a year before she’s even in Kindergarten, so I have all theee full time. I signed the 4 and 2 year old up for a couple summer camps and my Step Mom comes on Fridays to do fun things (well go to the park or museum or zoo type fun stuff). She’ll start 3 days a week pre-k next year and that’ll help. I’m newly SAH and she misses being at daycare with her friends. It’s so hard. Especially with a shitty sleeper I’m exhausted and I’m yelling more than I like and it makes it worse. ((Hugs to all)) ETA: she isn’t a whiner but when I punish her or raise my voice she laughs at me, and that triggers me hard core
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Post by clementine on May 20, 2018 8:07:12 GMT -6
You guys are scaring me for the toddler years ahead.
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Post by gldnbearz on May 20, 2018 13:10:10 GMT -6
I was warned that if we escaped without the terrible twos, we might get caught with a threenager. It wasn't exactly true until we added a sibling.
Now we get shifty eyes and silence when she is called out.
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on May 20, 2018 14:50:32 GMT -6
Mine didn’t really do terrible twos- he turns three in two weeks so naturally I’m expecting threenager times 1000.
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Post by mintyblueair on May 20, 2018 15:27:38 GMT -6
My son will be two in July and so far he's been a unicorn child. I'm hoping he skips the terrible twos but I'm probably going to pay for how easy he's been at some point 😬
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Post by woodenshoes on May 20, 2018 17:43:45 GMT -6
DS1 is 4 and it has been a struggle. He has at least one meltdown a day and whined constantly. It is super frustrating. He can turn the simplest task into a battle. My patience for him is low especially with the little sleep I am functioning on. Sorry that so many of us are struggling with the big sibs.
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Post by woodenshoes on May 20, 2018 18:01:50 GMT -6
Who else has babies in the crappy sleeper club? Mine will sleeps okay if being held but the moment you set him down he wakes right up. We slept good in Florida a week ago, I don’t know why, but now we are back to max 2 hour stretches at night unless being held and naps rarely last longer than 20 minutes. I would love to have a routine of some sort but I can’t when I can’t get him to stay asleep...he is so overtired. I am hoping daycare will help some when he starts on the 29th. I am extremely exhausted and stressed because of this and it is not helping my relationship with DH and DS1. We are very isolated where we are at so getting help from others doesn’t happen much.
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Post by ArielMermaid on May 20, 2018 18:34:13 GMT -6
My baby is a great day time sleeper. At night she forgets what sleep is.
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Post by auri on May 20, 2018 18:52:42 GMT -6
Mine wants to be held during the day for naps. So far swaddling seems to be helping. Hoping it’ll keep working and he’ll figure out how to nap once he’s no longer able to be swaddled.
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on May 20, 2018 20:23:18 GMT -6
Mine sleeps ok at night usually, except it’s hard to get him back to sleep after a feed. At the moment he’s struggling with gas so spends hours grunting and wriggling which I cannot sleep through. He wriggles out of the swaddle too and then gets cold.
Also frequently wets through out the side of his diaper. I don’t know how he does it sometimes. So much changing, screaming and washing.
During the day naps are a complete shit show. I’m feeling v v frustrated by it and emotional today.
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on May 20, 2018 20:45:33 GMT -6
We have decent (for a BF newborn) night sleep but naps are... something. Once they start they are great but getting her to settle down is miserable. She will pretty much only nurse to sleep and requires the worlds loudest white noise and you are FUCKED if you miss the 30 second long window where she is fire enough to sleep but not overtired and can’t relax enough to fall asleep.
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on May 20, 2018 22:41:48 GMT -6
So. Much. Poop. Today.
The baby let go of two days worth today of course while we were out. The not yet toilet trained hurry up and toilet train please toddler went twice in pull ups.
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Post by whatsit on May 20, 2018 23:54:08 GMT -6
We’re in a hotel room and G will.not.fall.asleep. It’s almost midnight. What the hell child?!
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Post by yianna on May 21, 2018 1:23:17 GMT -6
Baby is sooo snotty.
I think I have a cold so we are sharing it I guess.
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Post by gldnbearz on May 21, 2018 3:19:28 GMT -6
Sleep solidarity to my fellow mommas.
+1 to grunting and squirming with gas. +1 to being held for day naps and /or sleeping on a parent. +1 to nursing to sleep.
And also hates being flat on his back. Ergo hates the PNP in our bedroom.
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Post by ArielMermaid on May 21, 2018 4:30:33 GMT -6
FUCK. GAS. SO TIRED.
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Post by filingjointly on May 21, 2018 6:32:45 GMT -6
Add me to the club with babies that don’t sleep. Or at least won’t sleep anywhere but with me. I’ve given up and am embracing bedsharing for now. She actually does pretty well that way.
If I didn’t have to be up and functioning with a 4yo, 2yo, and baby the next day I’d probably try harder to get her to sleep elsewhere.
Worst case scenario I’ll sleep train her butt out of my bed at 6 months.
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Post by dizzycooks on May 21, 2018 12:48:37 GMT -6
Add me to the club with babies that don’t sleep. Or at least won’t sleep anywhere but with me. I’ve given up and am embracing bedsharing for now. She actually does pretty well that way. If I didn’t have to be up and functioning with a 4yo, 2yo, and baby the next day I’d probably try harder to get her to sleep elsewhere. Worst case scenario I’ll sleep train her butt out of my bed at 6 months. I’m loling at this thinking we should bookmark it for about 4 months from now I keep telling myself the same thing.
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Post by snowmoon on May 21, 2018 13:43:14 GMT -6
Who else is dealing with an mspi baby? I thought E had the never-ending cold because she was so congested, but then I realized that she had a lot of other symptoms too- mucous-y bms, excessive spit-up, general discomfort, etc . I've been off dairy for 3 or 4 days but it's really hard and I'm struggling. It doesn't seem like it's making a difference yet, though I know it's still early.
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Post by cp3 on May 21, 2018 14:22:30 GMT -6
I've been dairy free for about 4 weeks now snowmoon. She showed the symptoms you mentioned and I figured it wouldn't hurt to try. I noticed a small difference in spit up a few days out but it took about a week or so to really see a difference. She is so much happier and her spit up has decreased significantly. I was mostly eating yogurt and using milk in shakes with occasional cheese so it wasn't too hard for me to eliminate it/make dairy free substitutions. What are you struggling with? I'd love to share what substitutions I've been making.
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Post by snowmoon on May 21, 2018 14:31:21 GMT -6
I've been dairy free for about 4 weeks now snowmoon. She showed the symptoms you mentioned and I figured it wouldn't hurt to try. I noticed a small difference in spit up a few days out but it took about a week or so to really see a difference. She is so much happier and her spit up has decreased significantly. I was mostly eating yogurt and using milk in shakes with occasional cheese so it wasn't too hard for me to eliminate it/make dairy free substitutions. What are you struggling with? I'd love to share what substitutions I've been making. I already avoid milk and yogurt and cream but I'm desperately missing cheese. And it's ice cream season. It's mostly just trying to avoid the hidden dairy in packaged foods. I need to get better about reading labels and really just avoid them all together. I've never been a very healthy eater so it's just new and hard to get used to.
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Post by cp3 on May 21, 2018 17:11:40 GMT -6
I'm sorry snowmoon. Cheese is hard. Have you tried any dairy free cheese? We have a Sprouts here that is similar to whole foods that my mom said started selling almond or coconut milk cheese in different flavors (swiss, mozzarella, etc.). I haven't tried them yet so I don't know if they are good. A few people on GD said Kite Hill makes a good dairy free cream cheese too. For ice cream, SO Delicious makes really good dairy free ice cream. I got some cashew milk salted caramel ice cream bars and they are really good. I know what you meaan about ice cream season though and missing out on that. And I would really love a piece of cheezy pizza. D1 is allergic to dairy so I already had an idea of what tastes good/making dinner a little different for her but it's still hard. Our pediatrician said I could try reintroducing dairy at 4 months since her gut will be more developed. Sorry for the novel. I'm here to commiserate with you about missing dairy.
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Post by ArielMermaid on May 21, 2018 17:48:19 GMT -6
Wrong thread.
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Post by filingjointly on May 21, 2018 20:11:53 GMT -6
Add me to the club with babies that don’t sleep. Or at least won’t sleep anywhere but with me. I’ve given up and am embracing bedsharing for now. She actually does pretty well that way. If I didn’t have to be up and functioning with a 4yo, 2yo, and baby the next day I’d probably try harder to get her to sleep elsewhere. Worst case scenario I’ll sleep train her butt out of my bed at 6 months. I’m loling at this thinking we should bookmark it for about 4 months from now I keep telling myself the same thing. I’m sure I’ll have a very very valid reason I can’t move her just yet 😂
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