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Post by nellieoleson on Feb 28, 2018 9:44:27 GMT -6
Ladies!
Here is a new thread. Do your thing. š
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Post by kcrkcs on Feb 28, 2018 11:53:16 GMT -6
Hi! Still battling illness here. I am so over this. Hope everyone else's week has started out well.
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Post by dizzycooks on Feb 28, 2018 12:17:28 GMT -6
Weāve finally got some warmer weather (30s) and Iām loving it! I also took the younger two to an indoor play space today. So needed. They are crashed out hard right now. Unfortunately I have to wake them in just over an hour. I am at the point with this pregnancy that I just canāt do more than clean one bathroom OR Mop OR change a bed, but cannot do all of that in one morning. I am so tired. Itās going to be a long few weeks.
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Post by nellieoleson on Feb 28, 2018 14:21:37 GMT -6
The dds went roller skating for the first time today. Dd2 lasted about 15 minutes with skates on and spent the rest of the time running around the rink in her shoes. The toddler skate time kind of encroached into her nap time, so I think that dampened her enthusiasm for skating a bit, but overall it was pretty fun
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Post by nellieoleson on Feb 28, 2018 14:22:30 GMT -6
Hi! Still battling illness here. I am so over this. Hope everyone else's week has started out well. Oh man. Hope you guys turn a corner soon. Sending healthy vibes your way!
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Post by dizzycooks on Feb 28, 2018 16:24:23 GMT -6
The dds went roller skating for the first time today. Dd2 lasted about 15 minutes with skates on and spent the rest of the time running around the rink in her shoes. The toddler skate time kind of encroached into her nap time, so I think that dampened her enthusiasm for skating a bit, but overall it was pretty fun Iām impressed. I canāt imagine talking dd3 skating!
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Post by nellieoleson on Feb 28, 2018 19:31:48 GMT -6
The dds went roller skating for the first time today. Dd2 lasted about 15 minutes with skates on and spent the rest of the time running around the rink in her shoes. The toddler skate time kind of encroached into her nap time, so I think that dampened her enthusiasm for skating a bit, but overall it was pretty fun Iām impressed. I canāt imagine talking dd3 skating! I had my H with me so he held onto dd2 the whole time to keep her up, and I helped dd1. We (the adults) didnāt have skates on. It was pretty fun, actually. They have skating for kids 5 and under every Tuesday and Wednesday mornings. They do a little movement activity in the middle of the session, do the hokey pokey, and then give them all animal crackers and milk in the snack bar area. It would have been hellish without another adult there to help, though.
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Post by lollipop on Feb 28, 2018 20:11:53 GMT -6
nellieoleson I'm super impressed. Even if they had help. I can't roller skate to save my life. I've tried a couple of times, and nearly knocked myself out trying to keep my balance. For some weird reason I do not have the same issues with inline skates.
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Post by scorpioscuba on Feb 28, 2018 22:57:40 GMT -6
OMG I adore her nellieoleson!! Are those hedgehogs on her shirt too? š roller skating sounds so fun. Iāll have to see if our rink does something similar! Take it easy dizzycooks! And congrats on passing your test!!!!! šššwhatās next?? Hope you are all feeling better soon kcrkcs. Iām finally feeling better myself. But now DSās cough has flared up again. I swear itās always something. Weāve had some cold rainy weather which Iām enjoying for once.
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Post by crimsonandclover on Mar 1, 2018 7:56:08 GMT -6
I'm super stressed. We're looking for a new job for DH because the environment he's in is toxic. They have had a huge fluctuation over the past few years, and it doesn't surprise me one bit. His boss criticizes him for missing little details in the work he does, then turns around and criticizes him for being too thorough in his work instead of finishing things faster, then says that he wants his managers to manage and yet gets mad when DH makes (little!) decisions without running them past him first.
To add another stress factor, the preschool teachers and DD1's special class teacher are all concerned about her. She gets exhausted so quickly and they all say she looks pale with dark circles under her eyes. I have also been concerned because she stood on the scale a few weeks ago and hadn't gained anything since May, but the pedi reassured me that that was probably because she had just been sick and we would check again in the spring. But now with everyone involved with her concerned, I put in another call to the pedi and want to look into possible causes sooner. I'm going to throw Celiac's into the room to see what she says because a lot of DD1's symptoms would fit. I'm thinking of eliminating gluten for a few weeks and seeing if that helps, but I also need to know how long I would need to eliminate to realistically see any change if that is the cause.
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Post by nellieoleson on Mar 1, 2018 9:26:46 GMT -6
crimsonandclover - donāt remove gluten from her diet before they test for celiac. There needs to be exposure to gluten for the antibody levels to be high enough to detect in a blood test, and if you remove gluten beforehand you could have a false negative. We just had dd1 tested for celiac, anemia, and thyroid stuff because she was always tired, cold, and sometimes pale with dark circles under her eyes. Everything came back normal, and she seems to have improved a bit, so who knows. I hope you find some answers and she starts feeling better soon.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 1, 2018 12:00:19 GMT -6
nellieoleson, that pic is so cute! THat sounds like a fun day! dizzycooks, hope you can get some rest. when are you due again? crimsonandclover, sorry for the added stress. i hope your dh finds a job he loves. having a positive work environment can be so beneficial. i am sorry for your worries regarding your daughter. does she feel bad? i hope you can get some reassurances from the doctors.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 1, 2018 12:04:35 GMT -6
my parents are coming up this weekend, which will be fun! DH and i are going to try to go to a film festival or at least get out of the house and see black panther. hope everyone has a great weekend!
i had my first full-blown toddler meltdown in public at the park the other day where i had to carry dd kicking and screaming through the whole park and she didn't calm down for 15 minutes (crying and saying no mommy!). she kept running around with her little friend and having fun then we went to the playground area and she kept running off. me stopping her led to the major breakdown. any advice for when this happens? She didn't really start this until about a month ago but it's happening more often now. i notice it happens before bed and nap more so trying to move up her bedtime and get her more sleep. when she's tired, little things just set her off and get her so upset. example, dh changes her diaper and she wants me to do it. i don't want to give in but it's so much easier then dealing with a huge tantrum. i'm going to read eas.y to love, diff.icult to dis.cipline and i got a few other books on hold at the library but i'm open to any advice! I just feel like i need a game plan so i can be consistent with her.
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Post by crimsonandclover on Mar 1, 2018 13:15:46 GMT -6
@kelltothekell, pick your battles. The tantrums are exhausting, but normal. Holding your ground is important, but so is keeping your sanity.
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Post by scorpioscuba on Mar 1, 2018 19:34:23 GMT -6
@kelltothekell when you can, give dd options. Do you want daddy or mommy to change your diaper? Do you want to wear the pink shirt or the purple one? If she feels like she has some sense of control over things it might help.
With the running off I would tell DD that she needs to stay where Mommyās eyes can see her or she will have to leave the park. Let her know what will happen and then follow through. Yes she will cry the first time. Next time she might listen. Or it might take a few tries to sink in.
You can also start using a timer and getting her used to knowing whatās going to happen soon, like leaving the house, the park, taking a bath, bedtime, etc. āDd, you have 5 more minutes to read your book (or insert other activity) and then itās time to take a bath (or whatever).ā I use the duck noise on my timer on my phone. The kids love it and it gives them the time to wrap up what they are doing and start to adjust to knowing what is happening next and it isnāt so sudden to them in their mind. If they know whatās coming they seem to handle it better even if it means stopping something fun! š
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Post by scorpioscuba on Mar 1, 2018 19:44:13 GMT -6
crimsonandclover glad to hear heās looking for a new job. It seems that Place has been toxic for some time. But it is hard and stressful to be on the job hunt. š I hope he finds something amazing, quickly! And Iām sorry about dd but Iām glad you mentioned something here. Sounds like Nellie has some good insight. Hopefully you can get some testing done and get some answers.
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Post by dizzycooks on Mar 2, 2018 17:14:15 GMT -6
crimsonandclover Iām sorry the job didnāt work out, I know that was a big change a few years back. Hopefully something new and great comes along. My dh is going to be looking come summer as well, but we need to wait until this baby gets here and bonuses are given. Down side is the new job heās looking at is 40% travel. As far as Iām concerned Iām staying home indefinitely if heās traveling half the month. eff that. Although Iām not sure itās much different than working 12 hour days plus a commute... Kids are gone for the night. We have no real plans and I just want to sleep. We are so boring.
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Post by kcrkcs on Mar 2, 2018 22:22:41 GMT -6
crimsonandclover I think you are smart to get Dd checked out and bloodwork etc. with that being said, big time anecdote coming, from my personal experience all of those things can mean nothing. Again I think it is well worth getting checked out and keeping an eye on all those "little" things long term. Sorry about the upheaval with DHs work situation. While stressful now I hope that a change will bring you guys more stability peace and happiness. Side note I am looking at having a German working student/au pair this summer! I am excited to practice my German have her teach the girls some German and, and, and!
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Post by nellieoleson on Mar 4, 2018 10:47:39 GMT -6
WWJ16D - dd1 has 9 kids in her class, 5 of them are girls. Would it be okay to invite only the girls to her birthday party? She would happily have all the kids there, but she wants her party at this nickel arcade near our house and we are limited by the size of the party package.
Iām just worried the boy parents are going to be offended they didnāt get invited and I donāt want to feel like a jerk when we are handing out invitations at drop off.
The other option is to just invite her best friend from class and no other kids from school.
Help!
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Post by dizzycooks on Mar 4, 2018 10:52:34 GMT -6
nellieoleson I think you probably need to check the schools policy. Do you have the girls contact info? If so Iād just contact them outside of school and assume youāre fine.
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Post by dizzycooks on Mar 4, 2018 10:56:15 GMT -6
I was going to take the kids to a gigantic sandbox today, but they got so whiny and sassy I decided not to. Iām trying to embrace the idea of them being bored and figuring out what to do. I complete agree with the research that says kids need time like that, but it might make me crazy. Dd1 layed in the couch a bit and then offered to clean. Sheās currently washing doors and windows. Not well Iām sure, but itās got to be better than what I was doing about them which was nothing right? Iām exhausted and they need to figure it out. Itās also raining here today so outside isnāt really an option unfortunately. So how do you encourage boredom and allow them to just ābeā? We have a playroom, art supplies, etc but they still wander aimlessly, especially if I sit down.
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Post by nellieoleson on Mar 4, 2018 10:56:39 GMT -6
nellieoleson I think you probably need to check the schools policy. Do you have the girls contact info? If so Iād just contact them outside of school and assume youāre fine. Good idea. Iāll ask her teacher. I only have contact info for the one girl we do play dates with, but maybe getting info and then inviting outside of school time would be better. Just more of a hassle for me! This is all new for us. First ārealā birthday party!
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Post by scorpioscuba on Mar 4, 2018 20:22:21 GMT -6
nellieoleson I think you probably need to check the schools policy. Do you have the girls contact info? If so Iād just contact them outside of school and assume youāre fine. Good idea. Iāll ask her teacher. I only have contact info for the one girl we do play dates with, but maybe getting info and then inviting outside of school time would be better. Just more of a hassle for me! This is all new for us. First ārealā birthday party! +1 itās a hassle but when you are limited on numbers you typically have to find a way to contact outside of class. Sucks I know. šŖ
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Post by scorpioscuba on Mar 4, 2018 20:27:40 GMT -6
Today was kind of nice. H ended up taking the kids to a friends house who has horses and a goat. They stayed way longer than they planned because they were having so much fun. Then he took them out to lunch. I had time to grocery shop and do some cleaning and just chill. I was a little annoyed he blew DDās nap by 90 minutes but he came home and miraculously was able to put her right down. So then I took a nap.
When she woke up we all hung out for a bit and then he took them to another friends house to help him hook up some stereo equipment. I had time to prep dinner in peace and take the dog for a walk. We had dinner and then enjoyed playtime on the patio. I suppose I should reward him for this later but heās got a nasty cold so itāll have to wait. š·
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Post by dizzycooks on Mar 5, 2018 9:50:59 GMT -6
scorpioscuba that sounds like an amazing day. I would love a day like that. Iām trying to convince dh to take the kids to his parents house for a weekend, but heās pretty irritated with them (with reason) and doesnāt want to. Itās a snow day for dd1 today so we are hanging near home. Hoping for some rest this afternoon. I think we will watch a movie after nap if they dont want to go out and play.
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Post by lollipop on Mar 5, 2018 9:58:14 GMT -6
I was going to take the kids to a gigantic sandbox today, but they got so whiny and sassy I decided not to. Iām trying to embrace the idea of them being bored and figuring out what to do. I complete agree with the research that says kids need time like that, but it might make me crazy. Dd1 layed in the couch a bit and then offered to clean. Sheās currently washing doors and windows. Not well Iām sure, but itās got to be better than what I was doing about them which was nothing right? Iām exhausted and they need to figure it out. Itās also raining here today so outside isnāt really an option unfortunately. So how do you encourage boredom and allow them to just ābeā? We have a playroom, art supplies, etc but they still wander aimlessly, especially if I sit down. I've just never gone out of my way to entertain them. They have toys, they have crayons and colouring books, and they usually have control of the tv. Plus S has his tablet and phone (my mom got him a free iPhone last week so he can make stikbot videos) and he knows how to run Netflix. We have the tv on all day, but they almost never just sit and watch, they always play while using it as background noise. If S starts whining about being bored we find shores for him to do, usually cleaning the playroom or something like that. M doesn't complain about being bored yet. And now that S is learning to read I can send him off to do that if he complains about having nothing to do now too.
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Post by lollipop on Mar 5, 2018 10:02:50 GMT -6
Both kids have colds. I'm pretty sure M caught it from a kid at dance class last week, and S caught it from her. So we're all staying home today. I have to call the school for S and book a makeup class later this week for M. I think I slept weird, because my neck and shoulders are killing me.
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Post by crimsonandclover on Mar 5, 2018 10:36:44 GMT -6
dizzycooks, when I'm trying to encourage them to figure out what to do on their own, whenever they whine "But what can I dooooooo?" I suggest a chore. It drives them nuts, but eventually they stop asking. I also throw in an, "I am not your entertainment director" every now and then.
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Post by nellieoleson on Mar 5, 2018 13:02:26 GMT -6
dizzycooks - my girls are pretty good about keeping themselves entertained if Iām busy cleaning or cooking, but if I sit down to do anything else they immediately start hovering around and refuse to play on their own. Most of the time Iāll set them up with coloring or another easy craft that doesnāt require too much assistance and sit at the table with them while I read or whatever else Iām trying to do. I know a lot of people recommend setting up āinvitations to playā where there are activities for them to discover and play with on their own (a dollhouse with a scene already set up, some kind of craft, a motor skill activity, etc). I did that a little bit when dd1 was younger and it definitely helped, but it takes energy and time to think of those things and pull them off in advance - and energy and time are two things Iām always short on. I also let them have some tv time while they have a snack every afternoon because I think down time is as important for kids as it is for adults. I canāt expect them to be DOING all day. I usually use that time to clean up, but will sometimes cuddle up on the couch with them, and they love that.
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Post by scorpioscuba on Mar 5, 2018 16:06:54 GMT -6
dizzycooks - my girls are pretty good about keeping themselves entertained if Iām busy cleaning or cooking, but if I sit down to do anything else they immediately start hovering around and refuse to play on their own. Most of the time Iāll set them up with coloring or another easy craft that doesnāt require too much assistance and sit at the table with them while I read or whatever else Iām trying to do. I know a lot of people recommend setting up āinvitations to playā where there are activities for them to discover and play with on their own (a dollhouse with a scene already set up, some kind of craft, a motor skill activity, etc). I did that a little bit when dd1 was younger and it definitely helped, but it takes energy and time to think of those things and pull them off in advance - and energy and time are two things Iām always short on. I also let them have some tv time while they have a snack every afternoon because I think down time is as important for kids as it is for adults. I canāt expect them to be DOING all day. I usually use that time to clean up, but will sometimes cuddle up on the couch with them, and they love that. All of this. And I canāt handle having the tv on all day. It overstimulates me so I canāt imagine what it must do to kids. I prefer music. They certainly have their share of tv in the morning while Iām getting them ready for the day or after school with a snack to decompress but then itās outside, playtime, etc. Sick days though? All bets are off! š Movies all day long....
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