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Post by dragonflyinn on Dec 6, 2017 12:33:06 GMT -6
easternshoregirl most of the meal trains here are set up through church/religious community or close family. I did not have one for either of my kids but one of my friends who had her first shortly before me complained about the inconvenience of people bringing her food (and got some major side-eye from me for it, but whatever). If people want to do it for you I think that is great and wonderful! Personally I just freeze some meals ahead of time and am gracious with myself after baby comes about getting takeout or doing easy crockpot meals :-) What is inconvenient about someone bringing you a meal you don't have to cook?!?! I also need to start putting some meals together (or at least entrees) for our deep freezer but I'm #lazy and have not put any real thought or planning into it. My Mom will be coming up and staying a few days after Faith is born and I know she will help out with meals (plus laundry, cleaning and whatever else needs done). She is also planning on taking some days off to make 3 days weekends or maybe take a few days mid-week to help out as I figure out how to keep a tiny human alive on my own. MIL will be coming up too but while she is sweet she doesn't seem like the type to jump in and do something that needs to be done. Her self-esteem is so low she would be too worried about doing laundry wrong, or loading the dishwasher different than I do. She would probably cook for us, but who knows... I could have written this myself haha, especially the part about MIL. I had more meals ready before DD but this time I’m like whatever haha. Part of it is we are much more settled here with friends etc than where we lived when DD was born so I know a lot of people will bring food. And my mom is coming to do ALL THE THINGS because she is so awesome like that. MIL is sweet but not helpful at all. She waits for me to ask bc she doesn’t want to overstep or do it wrong. I’m like “please just do something.”
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Post by sunfrogger on Dec 6, 2017 12:35:08 GMT -6
Hi,
I didn't get the job I was angling for. I'm still processing and ultimately really surprised and upset. So I might be a little ghost -y. But I'm here. Hugs, all.
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Post by ajetter on Dec 6, 2017 12:42:23 GMT -6
My BP was 160/95 this morning. No bueno. They want me to go to the hospital for monitoring but I’m not really in a position to do so today. Waiting to hear back from the nurse. Hoping getting there at 7am tomorrow would suffice. Baby girl has still been moving plenty.
I’m just stressing out. I don’t know what the end game is here. I’ve never had significant issues this early in the pregnancy or developed pre-e. Just gestational hypertension around 36 weeks. Induced by 38. Not a big deal. I assume the goal would be to stay pregnant until 37 weeks. I’d like to do that at my house. 😬😬😬
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Post by amesie on Dec 6, 2017 12:55:51 GMT -6
We’re on our way home from our mini vacation... we were originally going to stay until Friday but we were all getting antsy. We had a herd of elephants staying above us 🙄😠 and we were just over it and wanted to get Home. The novelty of vacation wore off for DD and she was starting to be a little shit. There wasn’t much to do either except the pool, which was awesome! But there’s only so much pool we can take.
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Post by amesie on Dec 6, 2017 13:00:32 GMT -6
Random question...how do you all feel about "meal trains?" The whole idea of them kind of annoys me, but let me explain. I love the idea of helping out families with new families or those enduring hardships. What I don't love is the online sign-ups. It just seems forced to me and less genuine if I go to some website to see what all of the instructions are....I know, it is a good way to organize everything and have it in one place and so the family doesn't have to coordinate but still. It just doesn't seem personal to me. Do any of you think your friends will set one up? I am secretly hoping nobody does for us, I'd rather just talk to people that want to help and see what they can do for us....it has been sort of common in my group of friends though. I think if someone suggests doing it, I will politely decline. I love the mealtrain. I hate asking for help so I get uncomfortable when people ask me if they can make me a meal, what I want, and when I want it. It’s just easier if someone asks me all that stuff and sets up the meatrain so people can sign up if they want. I see nothing forced or ingenuine about it. It’s just a more organized way of doing it so that you’re not stuck coordinating it all yourself and ending up with multiple meals on one night. My church does the meatrain thing and I will most likely have one set up for me again by my moms group I am apart of through my church.
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Post by aprilz81 on Dec 6, 2017 13:03:48 GMT -6
What is inconvenient about someone bringing you a meal you don't have to cook?!?! I also need to start putting some meals together (or at least entrees) for our deep freezer but I'm #lazy and have not put any real thought or planning into it. My Mom will be coming up and staying a few days after Faith is born and I know she will help out with meals (plus laundry, cleaning and whatever else needs done). She is also planning on taking some days off to make 3 days weekends or maybe take a few days mid-week to help out as I figure out how to keep a tiny human alive on my own. MIL will be coming up too but while she is sweet she doesn't seem like the type to jump in and do something that needs to be done. Her self-esteem is so low she would be too worried about doing laundry wrong, or loading the dishwasher different than I do. She would probably cook for us, but who knows... I could have written this myself haha, especially the part about MIL. I had more meals ready before DD but this time I’m like whatever haha. Part of it is we are much more settled here with friends etc than where we lived when DD was born so I know a lot of people will bring food. And my mom is coming to do ALL THE THINGS because she is so awesome like that. MIL is sweet but not helpful at all. She waits for me to ask bc she doesn’t want to overstep or do it wrong. I’m like “please just do something.” Yes, MIL almost solely communicates with me now, not DH, you know, her SON?!?! She asked if it was "okay" that she wore black shoes with navy pants an hour before the shower. She has some lingering neuropathy from her chemo and she can't wear dress shoes so it was either the black shoes or tennis shoes. 1) I DGAF what shoes she wears and no one will notice 2) If I had said it was not okay we were an hour from the start of the shower and the only other option was her white tennis shoes, what did she expect me to do?!? Mom cross stitched a HUGE family tree for me/Faith and MIL didn't know the maiden name of her grandmother and great grandmother and didn't even bother to search out the info. Mom tried to involve her in the shower planning and even when Mom asked "Do you want to do X? I want it to look like this (sends picture)" she would say yes but then still not do it until the last minute and not do it "right". She pretty much asked permission if I minded that she left to go back home (2 1/2 hour drive) straight from church instead of coming back to our house first. She seeks my approval for EVERYTHING and it is so annoying. She doesn't have a mean bone in her body but OMG she needs to make a decision and own it. She actually told me before she left "Now, if we can't get there before the baby is born you go ahead and go, don't wait for us to get there. Don't cross your legs or anything, it's okay." WTF?!?! Yeah, no, I'm not "waiting" (like I have a choice?!?) for them to drive 2 1/2 hours to start pushing, especially since she doesn't want to be in the delivery room anyway. There is a very small chance she was joking, but her expression was dead serious so I don't think she was. She has been through childbirth before, she should no there is no "let's wait until my in-laws get here"...
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Post by snowyowl on Dec 6, 2017 13:04:16 GMT -6
Tempting! People who think they are being funny get a snarky response. But some of them are actually just trying to be enthusiastic and it comes out wrong. There is one woman who is super nice, probably in her mid-60s. She sees me at least once a day, and EVERY day she is blown away anew. “Oh my goodness! When are you due again? February, really?! You are ready to pop!” Literally I get this daily. She really does mean it in a “how exciting” way but is expressing it in a “you are enormous” way instead 😒
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Post by amesie on Dec 6, 2017 13:05:26 GMT -6
Oh no ajetter!! I hope you and the dr are able to come up with a plan you both are comfortable with. Have they talked about putting you on anything to bring down your BP?
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Post by marygracerich on Dec 6, 2017 13:07:47 GMT -6
Tempting! People who think they are being funny get a snarky response. But some of them are actually just trying to be enthusiastic and it comes out wrong. There is one woman who is super nice, probably in her mid-60s. She sees me at least once a day, and EVERY day she is blown away anew. “Oh my goodness! When are you due again? February, really?! You are ready to pop!” Literally I get this daily. She really does mean it in a “how exciting” way but is expressing it in a “you are enormous” way instead 😒 You are much nicer than I am. 😊 I don’t care how sincere or excited people act, I don’t take comments on size very well. My usual response is nope, I’m just fat. Or not ready yet I am just big but thanks for reminding me.
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Post by snowyowl on Dec 6, 2017 13:10:20 GMT -6
sunfrogger I’m so sorry to hear that, I hope you find some good opportunities soon. ajetter Good luck, I hope they are able to help you get your BP down so you can spend more time at home. Thinking of you!
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Post by pippiann on Dec 6, 2017 13:11:31 GMT -6
sunfrogger hugs, hopefully a even better job will come along! ajetter fx they can get your BP down!
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Post by dragonflyinn on Dec 6, 2017 13:11:36 GMT -6
Ugh I’m sorry for y’all who are getting rude comments. With DD my FIL would always comment on how big I was getting bc he had no filter & no clue that wasn’t a good thing to say to a pregnant lady lol. This time I told H to tell his dad I wanted ZERO comments about my weight gain or my belly or how I looked. So far so good haha. Other than that the only people who comment are other teachers at school & they just say I’m super cute. So they’re basically my favorite people lol.
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Post by dragonflyinn on Dec 6, 2017 13:12:21 GMT -6
I did have a 3.5yo tell me today that I must have a baby in my tummy which is why it’s so fat lol. One of DDs friends haha...her mom felt so bad but I thought it was funny.
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Post by amesie on Dec 6, 2017 13:16:24 GMT -6
DD made a comment to my BIL a couple days ago that he had a baby in his tummy 🤦🏼♀️ He laughed it off but I felt so bad
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Post by pippiann on Dec 6, 2017 13:18:14 GMT -6
L just took a massive poop fx none got on me! And of course I dropped the call button! Lol
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Post by tiffrobot on Dec 6, 2017 13:18:53 GMT -6
sunfrogger I’m sorry ajetter yikes, hope nothing bad is happening and things can settle down for you.
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Post by ajetter on Dec 6, 2017 13:29:29 GMT -6
Oh no ajetter!! I hope you and the dr are able to come up with a plan you both are comfortable with. Have they talked about putting you on anything to bring down your BP? I’ve been on baby aspirin but other than that nothing has been mentioned. They called back and I’m just going in the office at 10am tomorrow for a BP check and labs and stuff. Hopefully we’ll come up with a better plan then! For now I’m trying to convince myself not to do ALL THE THINGS before tomorrow morning.
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Post by ajetter on Dec 6, 2017 13:30:21 GMT -6
L just took a massive poop fx none got on me! And of course I dropped the call button! Lol I originally read that as you just took a giant poop and none got on you. Lololol.
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Post by dragonflyinn on Dec 6, 2017 13:31:57 GMT -6
DD made a comment to my BIL a couple days ago that he had a baby in his tummy 🤦🏼♀️ He laughed it off but I felt so bad Lol, DD says that to H sometimes. I don’t care bc he could lose a few pounds and he knows it lol. Every time she says it, the next day he is going to the gym hahaha
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2017 13:32:19 GMT -6
Hi, I didn't get the job I was angling for. I'm still processing and ultimately really surprised and upset. So I might be a little ghost -y. But I'm here. Hugs, all. I am so sorry. I just went through this last week. Let yourself be mad. And eat your feelings if you have to, haha. It helped me a little bit. Sending love your way. Those ass hats don't know what they are missing out on!!
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Post by sunfrogger on Dec 6, 2017 14:24:58 GMT -6
Tempting! People who think they are being funny get a snarky response. But some of them are actually just trying to be enthusiastic and it comes out wrong. There is one woman who is super nice, probably in her mid-60s. She sees me at least once a day, and EVERY day she is blown away anew. “Oh my goodness! When are you due again? February, really?! You are ready to pop!” Literally I get this daily. She really does mean it in a “how exciting” way but is expressing it in a “you are enormous” way instead 😒 I'm getting this too. Your not alone. My mom even told me this weekend. That was... Not pleasant.
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Post by sunfrogger on Dec 6, 2017 14:27:14 GMT -6
Hi, I didn't get the job I was angling for. I'm still processing and ultimately really surprised and upset. So I might be a little ghost -y. But I'm here. Hugs, all. I am so sorry. I just went through this last week. Let yourself be mad. And eat your feelings if you have to, haha. It helped me a little bit. Sending love your way. Those ass hats don't know what they are missing out on!! Thanks. It's been a struggle. I'm very thankful DD1 was sick this morning and i couldn't send her to DC bc I would have spent the rest of the day holed up in an empty office. I'm just really down right now in general. ❤️ hugs your way too.
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Post by helloerrbody on Dec 6, 2017 15:01:53 GMT -6
Random question...how do you all feel about "meal trains?" The whole idea of them kind of annoys me, but let me explain. I love the idea of helping out families with new families or those enduring hardships. What I don't love is the online sign-ups. It just seems forced to me and less genuine if I go to some website to see what all of the instructions are....I know, it is a good way to organize everything and have it in one place and so the family doesn't have to coordinate but still. It just doesn't seem personal to me. Do any of you think your friends will set one up? I am secretly hoping nobody does for us, I'd rather just talk to people that want to help and see what they can do for us....it has been sort of common in my group of friends though. I think if someone suggests doing it, I will politely decline. I'm the opposite - I'm hoping someone sets one up for me lol!
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Post by helloerrbody on Dec 6, 2017 15:05:01 GMT -6
Trying this again...
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Post by hiimjamie on Dec 6, 2017 15:59:46 GMT -6
Happy Birthday dragonflyinn! easternshoregirl I know what you’re talking about. I wouldn’t want random people showing up with meals. No one even bought anything from our registry this time and no one made meals for us last time so i doubt they will this time! 😂 I’m sorry about the job sunfrogger! Hugs! ajetter keep us posted! FX they help you find a way to keep it down so you can relax at home. aprilz81 LOLLL sounds like someone needs a chill pill. Why yes MIL, I’ll cross my legs to keep the baby in until you arrive! 😂
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Post by hiimjamie on Dec 6, 2017 16:04:52 GMT -6
Hello! I’m so tired. DS woke up at 1:45am for the day. FOR. THE DAY. NO. NOT OK, KID. Idk what his deal is. It’s making me really worried about having 2. So when I go to bed tonight I’ll have almost been up for 24 hours. Zzzz... I had a chai tea this morning and now I’m drinking a coke, sorry LO. I’m definitely over 100mg today. At lest i don’t make a habit of it. 34 weeks today! I chopped off 6 inches of hair last Friday. Wild beast Aaaaand he passed out the second we got in the car. This was him all drooly when we got to daycare.
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Post by tiffrobot on Dec 6, 2017 18:25:22 GMT -6
I’ve gotten the “twins?” Comment every. Single. Pregnancy. Heck I even heard “is there 3 in there?” This time.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Dec 6, 2017 18:30:57 GMT -6
benandjerrys helloerrbody thank you! I started seeing a Webster chiro a few weeks ago. I will definitely look into acupuncture too! I am willing to try just about anything! I personally would still do a version but my SIL who is a very experienced L&D nurse said she would not when her baby was breach. Her baby moved around 34 weeks but it stuck with me that with all her experience she said she wouldn’t. She seen too many babies go into distress and then have early Cs. Talk to your provider and get their take. I’d still do it though do not sure why I’m sharing random stranger opinions with you.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2017 18:51:18 GMT -6
I’ve been getting a lot of the you really popped comments too. It makes me feel huge. I had a chiropractor appointment to help with my sciatic so that I can walk more. And DS is making me super stressed to add a baby to the mix with his behavior lately.
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