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Post by Radley on Nov 26, 2017 19:12:46 GMT -6
Want to rant? Want to brag? Want to chat? Let it out.
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NamasteBirches
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Nov 27, 2017 6:42:13 GMT -6
Post by NamasteBirches on Nov 27, 2017 6:42:13 GMT -6
Sorry I've been MIA here but I've been taking on more jobs than when I first started subbing so I didn't know if I was still "sah" material but honestly, not much has changed. I make my own hours & when I do work, it's in between DS' school schedule so I'm still dealing with all his shenanigans. This past week I didn't work at all so because of the lack of consistent hours, I still feel like I did before. If anything, things are more chaotic.
Anyways, my grandmother on my dad's side is in the hospital & it's not looking good. I'm feeling some type of way about things. A brief history is that distance has separated us through the years. We don't live near anyone. We're a state away from our families & she has bounced back from FL to NYC for as long as I can remember. Most recently though she moved back to NYC for good because it's closer to my parents (about 1.5-2hrs.) We haven't talked in years, she hasn't seen DS since he was like 2ish I wanna say. It was a gathering at my parents' place that she was there for. She's a world traveler & it has rubbed me the wrong way each & every time I've heard about her going this place & that place vs her taking a measly 2 hour flight to come visit us. She has seriously gone to Israel a handful of times, Italy, & countless other places. I'm not exaggerating. So now she's unconscious & they don't know if she's going to survive & if she doesn't make it, she never got to 'meet' DS in his current state. Like that really sucks for her & in her irrational mind I'm sure (& my family's, this is somehow my fault.) Like no, we don't travel the world. We don't have those funds. She made the decision to do other things vs see us. Like idk, I'm feeling some type of way, like I said. I'm not overly emotional it's more like I just dumbfounded like why isn't my little family good enough for anyone? & I feel like I have to make DS' childhood 10x better than the average person because he has a crappy outside family that doesn't make the effort to gaf. Ugh. End rant.
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Post by Radley on Nov 27, 2017 7:48:16 GMT -6
NamasteBirches eh I think you’re still welcome here. It’s not like it’s a huge group or anything. Plus at one point about a year ago I was working 1-3 days a week and still considered my self pretty much stay at home. As for your grandmother, I’m so sorry you are in that position. It was definitely on her to put forth more effort, especially since it sounds as though she was more capable of travel for various reasons. If it helps, I definitely have had a struggle with my in laws about not putting forth the effort and then being blamed. The blame is annoying, but the desire to protect the kids from realizing that everything else seems to take priority over them from their own family is hard and overwhelming. Just remember, all your kiddo needs is loving parents. Anything else is a bonus, fun but unnecessary.
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NamasteBirches
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Nov 27, 2017 8:45:20 GMT -6
Post by NamasteBirches on Nov 27, 2017 8:45:20 GMT -6
Thanks Radley . I mean, here I am posting from home today. Lol I would feel weird posting on the Working Parents board since my schedule is up in the air on a daily basis & I have often turned down jobs for various reasons as well so I've been home a lot, it's still pretty part time. Anyways, with my grandma.. thanks. Your last sentence really resonates with me. I tell myself that a lot & usually say "they're the ones that are missing out." My parents are the same way as well. They haven't been out here since his 4th birthday. We've seen them this year because we've been out that way for DH's grandma's funeral but it's like what if that didn't happen. It's always like we're at a stalemate with everyone. If we don't go out there, no one comes this way. It's always "we moved away".. like this isn't new. DH & I first started moving away farther & farther away in our early 20s. We always said we weren't going to stick around. Sorry we stuck to our word? I just don't understand these people. I know plenty of peoples' parents that travel by plane on a regular basis to see their grandkids & to my family we're just this oddball situation like no, you're the weird ones. I'm just over it & now with this, like we were actually planning a trip to NYC for a visit to show DS the city & a joint thing to see my grandma since she was never going to come see us because in reality she is getting old & then this happens. Like great.
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Nov 27, 2017 19:23:39 GMT -6
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Post by lildiamondeyes on Nov 27, 2017 19:23:39 GMT -6
I started working for MIL again so I had cut back on my posting. I feel like I'm so busy lately but not with anything super important. Is this SAHing? Radley I finally got to check out Target's leggings and was majorly disappointed. Maybe because it was back Friday but I couldn't find anything. I will go look again this week. Maybe I will go check out Walmart.
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Post by Radley on Nov 30, 2017 17:45:46 GMT -6
NamasteBirches I think it’s great that your work schedule allows you to be so flexible. I’m really sorry about that whole situation. People are terrible about boundaries and about selfishness. I wish I knew what to say, but parent guilt is the worst and even when logically we know there is nothing we can do, we still feel guilty about it. You have done nothing wrong though and your kiddo will understand the situation one day. lildiamondeyes well that’s disappointing! Thanks for checking back in.
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