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Post by stringy on Oct 25, 2017 9:07:47 GMT -6
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Post by ovenrack on Oct 25, 2017 9:46:35 GMT -6
WTF, driver? My kids and I were crossing in the crosswalk after pushing the button for flashy blinky lights. All other cars were stopped.
You somehow seem to think it's fine to just NOT EVEN SLOW AND SIMPLY SWERVE AROUND MY CHILD?! What the actual hell. I hope the "WHAT THE EFF" I shouted at you, which your passenger could clearly see, was passed right on to you.
Also, I wrote down your license plate. I hope you're local.
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Post by ovenrack on Oct 25, 2017 10:04:00 GMT -6
Also, WTF, people in my life. Stop saying you don't have time.
Say it isn't a priority.
Seriously, try replacing "I'm too busy to ___" or "I don't have time to ____" with "_____ isn't a priority for me right now."
Because that is indeed what's happening. It really is.
It's called being a grown up. I know it is hard. But. Ya know, figure it out.
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Post by tj on Oct 25, 2017 10:05:14 GMT -6
Wtf H.
I'm sorry that your job brings home money and mine just keeps everyone alive and healthy and happy and chauffeured to all their various places and fed and clothed and saves us all the daycare costs.
But that does not mean that you do "real" work and I don't.
I'm also sorry that you are busy and stressed. So am I. That doesn't make your busy-ness or your stress more important than mine.
I am also a person and a valuable member of this team. Quit being a jerk.
Sincerely,
Your hard working (yeah, REAL work) wife
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Post by Dramaphile on Oct 25, 2017 10:05:16 GMT -6
Can I WTF myself? I was distracted trying to get out the door this morning and thought my dog came back inside (usually he follows me around or goes back to bed with J) so I closed the back door before I left. J called me when he got up to tell me that I'd locked the dog outside. Poor little guy, luckily it wasn't rainy or too chilly.
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Post by tj on Oct 25, 2017 10:05:57 GMT -6
Hugs ovenrack. Glad you guys were safe despite that asshole. |
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Post by stringy on Oct 25, 2017 10:08:38 GMT -6
Wtf H. I'm sorry that your job brings home money and mine just keeps everyone alive and healthy and happy and chauffeured to all their various places and fed and clothed and saves us all the daycare costs. But that does not mean that you do "real" work and I don't. I'm also sorry that you are busy and stressed. So am I. That doesn't make your busy-ness or your stress more important than mine. I am also a person and a valuable member of this team. Quit being a jerk. Sincerely, Your hard working (yeah, REAL work) wife He better not have said you don't do real work. WTF Mr. TJ. |
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Post by grumpycakes on Oct 25, 2017 10:10:17 GMT -6
Also, WTF, people in my life. Stop saying you don't have time. Say it isn't a priority. Seriously, try replacing "I'm too busy to ___" or "I don't have time to ____" with "_____ isn't a priority for me right now." Because that is indeed what's happening. It really is. It's called being a grown up. I know it is hard. But. Ya know, figure it out. This is a super pet peeve of mine as well. |
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Post by stringy on Oct 25, 2017 10:14:01 GMT -6
Also, WTF, people in my life. Stop saying you don't have time. Say it isn't a priority. Seriously, try replacing "I'm too busy to ___" or "I don't have time to ____" with "_____ isn't a priority for me right now." Because that is indeed what's happening. It really is. It's called being a grown up. I know it is hard. But. Ya know, figure it out. This is a super pet peeve of mine as well. I'm sure I say this all the time. I could argue that I literally don't have time unless I de-prioritize work and kid caring but... I make time for ovenrack so she's probably not speaking of me  |
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Post by ovenrack on Oct 25, 2017 10:15:40 GMT -6
Also, WTF, people in my life. Stop saying you don't have time. Say it isn't a priority. Seriously, try replacing "I'm too busy to ___" or "I don't have time to ____" with "_____ isn't a priority for me right now." Because that is indeed what's happening. It really is. It's called being a grown up. I know it is hard. But. Ya know, figure it out. This is a super pet peeve of mine as well. Like, time management is hard. I get it. I don't mind some complaining. But it really comes down to you making decisions on how to spend your time. Everyone has certain things that MUST be done. Sleep. Work. Toileting. After that, it's really just a series of decisions. Make lunch, or buy lunch? Visit your niece, or go to the store? Exercise, or sit on the couch and rest a bit? Half-assed dinner, or three course meal? Sure, it's hard to get into the habits you want. But. Like. Come ON. |
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Post by ovenrack on Oct 25, 2017 10:17:04 GMT -6
This is a super pet peeve of mine as well. I'm sure I say this all the time. I could argue that I literally don't have time unless I de-prioritize work and kid caring but... I make time for ovenrack so she's probably not speaking of me Not speaking of you. But it's true, everyone has time to choose what they do, outside kid care and work. And even within kid care. I just don't understand how people can blame "lack of time" on everything. Everyone has the same time. |
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Post by ovenrack on Oct 25, 2017 10:17:22 GMT -6
Obviously I'm overreacting. Lol. But REALLY PEOPLE.
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Post by critter015 on Oct 25, 2017 10:24:14 GMT -6
Wtf H. I'm sorry that your job brings home money and mine just keeps everyone alive and healthy and happy and chauffeured to all their various places and fed and clothed and saves us all the daycare costs. But that does not mean that you do "real" work and I don't. I'm also sorry that you are busy and stressed. So am I. That doesn't make your busy-ness or your stress more important than mine. I am also a person and a valuable member of this team. Quit being a jerk. Sincerely, Your hard working (yeah, REAL work) wife AMEN! |
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Post by mimsy on Oct 25, 2017 10:25:48 GMT -6
Wtf A's cousin with his kiddo at story time. Sorry I'm not a helicopter parent like you. If my kid doesn't want to share, she doesn't. I can't make her. Also, when forced to share, that's when she starts pushing people who are physically trying to take something out of her hands. I know it's not nice, but she is also being corrected for that. Stop giving me dirty looks.
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Post by stringy on Oct 25, 2017 10:26:56 GMT -6
Obviously I'm overreacting. Lol. But REALLY PEOPLE. I'm trying to find the time to think about it (Ha!). ^^^ I just got this in an email from a coworker about a project she and I are working on together. No time to think??? COME ON! THAT I HAVE TIME FOR. In the shower, in bed, driving... |
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Post by ovenrack on Oct 25, 2017 10:30:46 GMT -6
Wtf A's cousin with his kiddo at story time. Sorry I'm not a helicopter parent like you. If my kid doesn't want to share, she doesn't. I can't make her. Also, when forced to share, that's when she starts pushing people who are physically trying to take something out of her hands. I know it's not nice, but she is also being corrected for that. Stop giving me dirty looks. UGH I struggle with this so much. And I just read this. Which I feel like WOAH. visiblechild.wordpress.com/2014/12/19/the-myth-of-sharing/ |
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Post by mimsy on Oct 25, 2017 10:35:25 GMT -6
Wtf A's cousin with his kiddo at story time. Sorry I'm not a helicopter parent like you. If my kid doesn't want to share, she doesn't. I can't make her. Also, when forced to share, that's when she starts pushing people who are physically trying to take something out of her hands. I know it's not nice, but she is also being corrected for that. Stop giving me dirty looks. UGH I struggle with this so much. And I just read this. Which I feel like WOAH. visiblechild.wordpress.com/2014/12/19/the-myth-of-sharing/Add in to everything she's acting out because of all of the new activities we are throwing at her. She's just a mess. And I'm a paranoid mess. |
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Post by stringy on Oct 25, 2017 10:35:32 GMT -6
Wtf A's cousin with his kiddo at story time. Sorry I'm not a helicopter parent like you. If my kid doesn't want to share, she doesn't. I can't make her. Also, when forced to share, that's when she starts pushing people who are physically trying to take something out of her hands. I know it's not nice, but she is also being corrected for that. Stop giving me dirty looks. UGH I struggle with this so much. And I just read this. Which I feel like WOAH. visiblechild.wordpress.com/2014/12/19/the-myth-of-sharing/I'm in a new playgroup with P and the "share" prompts are rampant and I want to run away. I'm like - meh - she doesn't seem to care that your kid took her toy. And if she did, she'd be yanking it and screaming. |
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Post by mimsy on Oct 25, 2017 10:42:23 GMT -6
Forced sharing seems to be a common thing we all mostly dislike.
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Post by piccyami on Oct 25, 2017 10:44:08 GMT -6
I'm sure I say this all the time. I could argue that I literally don't have time unless I de-prioritize work and kid caring but... I make time for ovenrack so she's probably not speaking of me Not speaking of you. But it's true, everyone has time to choose what they do, outside kid care and work. And even within kid care. I just don't understand how people can blame "lack of time" on everything. Everyone has the same time. If MIL would just stop complaining about how she doesn't have time to do things, she'd be able to accomplish so much. |
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Post by stringy on Oct 25, 2017 10:46:17 GMT -6
Forced sharing seems to be a common thing we all mostly dislike. Its really really hard to not go along with it though, especially with strangers or people you are trying to meet. At a party with..I'd say "acquaintances bordering in on friends" of ours last weekend - the mom of a 4 yo was doing this, particularly around his behavior around P. Like he had a remote control car and was deliberately driving it into her - which she found funny. And she'd occasionally pick it up - cuz she's 1 - and he'd go take it from her and put it down and keep driving, and she'd move on to something else. And mom would swoop in and be all "You have to give her a turn, she wants to play with it" - and after this and 5 other similar occurances I said to her "she is really used to getting things taken from her by her sister, and trust me, if she was mad and wanted it, we'd know it." But she was still all "he has to know he can't do that." (he's an only child). So I just left the room and left P to fend off the 4 yo's on her own. She did fine. Mom did not stop though. And I like her. Just...ugh. |
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Post by charlotte on Oct 25, 2017 10:52:49 GMT -6
I am not into the forced sharing but yeah, it’s really hard when you’re around others you don’t know well. DS had a daycare event earlier this week and all the parents were there. There were a couple of times I felt so torn on whether to intervene in a situation because of judgey parents. But they don’t force sharing at DC sooo *shrug*.
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Post by piccyami on Oct 25, 2017 10:55:33 GMT -6
Wtf A's cousin with his kiddo at story time. Sorry I'm not a helicopter parent like you. If my kid doesn't want to share, she doesn't. I can't make her. Also, when forced to share, that's when she starts pushing people who are physically trying to take something out of her hands. I know it's not nice, but she is also being corrected for that. Stop giving me dirty looks. UGH I struggle with this so much. And I just read this. Which I feel like WOAH. visiblechild.wordpress.com/2014/12/19/the-myth-of-sharing/This really helped me since we're starting the fighting over toys and everyone around me wants them to "share" toys. My usual response is to distract the one taking the toy when the other gets upset because telling them to share or take turns just doesn't make sense to such little kids. |
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Post by snowmoon on Oct 25, 2017 10:58:32 GMT -6
Wtf J. Why would you drop $400 on a gaming console without asking me? Especially so close to Christmas? That's a lot of money. We already talked about it and I asked you to wait a few months. It was super sneaky and I don't like that. You already spend a lot of money on little things and all of my extra money goes to savings or kid stuff. You sure as shit won't be sitting around playing video games and ignoring housework.
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Post by mc13 on Oct 25, 2017 11:03:39 GMT -6
WTF E and A. One 1-hour nap is not enough daytime sleep. It makes for a very long day for us. Maybe if you napped longer, we wouldn’t have to have a 530pm bedtime.
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Post by stringy on Oct 25, 2017 11:06:56 GMT -6
WTF E and A. One 1-hour nap is not enough daytime sleep. It makes for a very long day for us. Maybe if you napped longer, we wouldn’t have to have a 530pm bedtime. Oh, I see they've been talking to P! |
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Post by mapleme on Oct 25, 2017 11:29:13 GMT -6
Forced sharing seems to be a common thing we all mostly dislike. Its really really hard to not go along with it though, especially with strangers or people you are trying to meet. At a party with..I'd say "acquaintances bordering in on friends" of ours last weekend - the mom of a 4 yo was doing this, particularly around his behavior around P. Like he had a remote control car and was deliberately driving it into her - which she found funny. And she'd occasionally pick it up - cuz she's 1 - and he'd go take it from her and put it down and keep driving, and she'd move on to something else. And mom would swoop in and be all "You have to give her a turn, she wants to play with it" - and after this and 5 other similar occurances I said to her "she is really used to getting things taken from her by her sister, and trust me, if she was mad and wanted it, we'd know it." But she was still all "he has to know he can't do that." (he's an only child). So I just left the room and left P to fend off the 4 yo's on her own. She did fine. Mom did not stop though. And I like her. Just...ugh. I always feel so negligent and judged at playgroups/library. I get so excited when I hear a parent say to their kid, “No honey, I won’t play with you. Remember, you need to spend the first while finding your own things to play with, then we can play.” I’m all, “YAAASSSSS!” Fortunately my kids are more of the takee than the taker. And they mostly don’t care. |
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Post by critter015 on Oct 25, 2017 11:59:45 GMT -6
WTF lawnmower. Really? We're doing this again? It's my damn fault, I do everything right, but when it first tries to start I let off the starter too soon and it fails to start. On subsequent tries it is like it is flooded. Why can't I ever get it right? DH could walk up right now and bam, it would start for him!
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Post by mimsy on Oct 25, 2017 12:17:51 GMT -6
I react when S is being grabby and tell her it's not okay to take something someone else is using right now.
I only really ever encourage sharing when she and another child are both playing with the same toy- like blocks or something that has multiple pieces.
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Post by nikkipal on Oct 25, 2017 14:18:18 GMT -6
WTF daycare? I go back in to get coffee, which they don't have on the one day I run out of coffee. Then the director says she needs to chat with me about M's behavioral issues this afternoon. I'm trying not to worry, but it's been causing me anxiety all day. I don't know how she could do it any better, I just want to bitch about it.
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