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Post by jt2378 on Oct 20, 2017 12:39:18 GMT -6
addymac, I’m sorry your top choice nanny didn’t work out. I know it’s hard not to stress about YH and it will be tough at first but he will get into a groove. You just do because you have no choice. Sorry to say there is no recommended sleep training at this age. I mean there are suggestions like trying to start routine, bath, pjs, white noise etc but not real sleep training methods like CIO or Ferber. Those aren’t really recommended till between 4-6 months. Lack of sleep really sucks I’m sorry. king26, great update! Glad your having a good week with J and getting out. It definitely helps you mentally
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 20, 2017 12:41:19 GMT -6
jexxa, how’s crib napping going today? I was going to try but I had to just put her in the swing for a couple mins this morning and then she continued sleeping so there went that idea 😂 Today was a fail 😣 I had to go back in there 5 times in 20 minutes so I gave up. She is pretty gassy though and she hasn’t pooped yet today so I wonder if that’s why. Sorry yeah I’m sure it will be up and down for awhile
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Post by cali on Oct 20, 2017 12:45:53 GMT -6
muscari, I hope yh is able to get off early and be there. It sucks that his co-workers aren't more willing to help out when he is always volunteering to help them out!
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Post by cali on Oct 20, 2017 13:13:14 GMT -6
addymac, I'm sorry the nanny didn't work out,that sucks. But it sounds like this in home day care is pretty nice. You should maybe let Been start practicing getting N ready in the mornings before you go back to work. That way he'll be used to it when the time comes. I know MH is slow as fuck too, so it would definitely be a challenge for him if he had to take M to daycare. But Ilmaybe if it just becomes routine for yh it will go more smoothly. Also, I'm right there with you on the sleep stuff. I haven't slept more than a few hours all week! It's the worst! I don't think there is any way to sleep train at this age though 😥
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Post by cali on Oct 20, 2017 13:14:36 GMT -6
king26, welcome back! I'm glad the time away helped! I'm also glad your doc is staying on top of your meds. I really think getting out of the house with the baby is a life saver, even if it's just for a short time, it really helped me!
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Post by cali on Oct 20, 2017 13:16:58 GMT -6
jexxa, I've been trying to get M to nap in her crib for the past two weeks and so far I've only had one success where she napped for almost an hour. Every other time she's been up within 10 minutes! Ugh! She's currently napping very comfortably on my chest but I may try to put her in the co-sleeper so I can get a few minutes rest too! FX she doesn't wake up when I move her! 🤞
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Post by jexxa on Oct 20, 2017 13:20:43 GMT -6
Good luck cali! I just put P down in the RnP, let’s see how long she lasts 😆
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Post by jexxa on Oct 20, 2017 13:36:56 GMT -6
She lasted 10 minutes guys 😆
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 20, 2017 13:39:57 GMT -6
She lasted 10 minutes guys 😆 Uuugghhh M is just staring at me giving me side eye in the swing 😂
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Post by cali on Oct 20, 2017 13:56:22 GMT -6
20 minutes in the co-sleeper. :-(
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Post by kristyw on Oct 20, 2017 13:56:47 GMT -6
I'll join the baby only sleeping on me train. I got 10 min with her in the swing. 😂
Hoping to take the kids to the playground after DS wakes up. It's beautiful today. And possibly going to the zoo this evening. They have late hours and pumpkins lit up, etc.
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Post by cali on Oct 20, 2017 13:57:24 GMT -6
She lasted 10 minutes guys 😆 Ugh!!!! 😫😫😫
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Post by jexxa on Oct 20, 2017 14:04:49 GMT -6
Those were all likes of solidarity jt2378 cali kristyw 😆 Tomorrow’s a new day I guess. Except it’s the weekend and we have plans both days so who knows what the heck naps will look like 😣
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Post by king26 on Oct 20, 2017 14:21:07 GMT -6
Yep we tried the crib today and lasted 7 miniyes. We get about 40 minutes to an hour in the RNP but if one of us has so.ething that has to get done the other holds the baby. He will sleep 1.5_2 hours on someone. But at least he will sleep for a time in the rnp. He naps great in the carseat too. We only do that when he has actually been in the car but we ran errands for an hour then he slept another hour in the carseat when we took him out.
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Post by muscari on Oct 20, 2017 15:22:35 GMT -6
So are mine! 😊 and while it sucks our babies all refuse to nap - i said it before but will say it again - i am glad to see we are all struggling with the same shit as it makes me feel less crazy!
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Post by king26 on Oct 20, 2017 16:04:06 GMT -6
Oh my poor baby. He was crying while he ate and I couldn't figure what was wrong. I looked down and his toe was all weird in his sock. I took the sick off and it was red and floply. I thought I broke it. I cried but thankfully after about 10 minutes it formed up and isn't red anymore. I was so scared. Moral...watch the socks when you put them on
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Post by muscari on Oct 20, 2017 16:22:26 GMT -6
Ohh king26 so sorry for that! Poor babe and poor you. Glad it was nothing like you feared!
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Post by muscari on Oct 20, 2017 16:25:53 GMT -6
I feel like such a bitch towards MH at times.. Don't mean to be but find myself impatient or short with him when there really isn't a real reason to be. I hate it and try to reign myself in but can't help it at the same time.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 20, 2017 16:44:47 GMT -6
I feel like such a bitch towards MH at times.. Don't mean to be but find myself impatient or short with him when there really isn't a real reason to be. I hate it and try to reign myself in but can't help it at the same time. Hugs, it’s hard to not be snippy when your exhausted with no break
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Post by cali on Oct 20, 2017 18:33:04 GMT -6
king26, oh so scary! I had Mariah's leg turn a weird way one time when I was nursing her and switching sides. She screamed and it scared me so bad I was sure I hurt her but within a couple seconds she was kicking it and seemed fine but it was terrifying! muscari, I feel like I'm always a bitch to MH. I feel guilty about it after but I can't help it. He never says anything about it so I'm assuming he knows it's because I'm exhausted and I don't mean it!
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Post by happyfeet9 on Oct 20, 2017 19:16:00 GMT -6
Sigh. The in home nanny didn’t work. We offered her the topest top of our budget and she wanted more 😒 so ugh. So we went with an in home quasi- daycare who is awesome but she’s not bilingual and we have to take N to her place, which is going to add a whole level of stress for Ben in the morning. But we had to make a decision bc she had other offers for kids (she’s only taking two kids plus her son) and we didn’t want to lose a great person for *possibly* finding someone else to in home- but everyone else we interviewed sucked. Now I’m panicking because I don’t know how Ben is going to get ready in the morning himself and then get N ready, changed, fed, and out the door, then down the street to her place in the dead of winter and make it to work on time. He’s slow as fuck in the morning and having to get N ready means waking up even earlier - and if N is sleeping as terribly as he is now (which, spoiler alert, is terrible this week) Ben is never going to get any sleep and it’s going to be a disaster. Also- how do you sleep train a baby? I’m having a mini meltdown Sorry the in home nanny didn't work out. YH will find a way to make it work. It will suck for a while, but MH (who is also notoriously slow in the mornings) now manages to get our DS1 up and ready in the morning and get to work on time. It will likely mean prepping more the night before (clothes, bottles, etc) but it will become routine soon enough.
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Oct 20, 2017 19:48:18 GMT -6
Oh my poor baby. He was crying while he ate and I couldn't figure what was wrong. I looked down and his toe was all weird in his sock. I took the sick off and it was red and floply. I thought I broke it. I cried but thankfully after about 10 minutes it formed up and isn't red anymore. I was so scared. Moral...watch the socks when you put them on Awww king26. That's so sad. I'm glad it looks better now. Baby h kept fussing today and I realized there was a sharp plastic tag I accidently left in his sock, poking his sweet little foot. Tricky socks.
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Post by muscari on Oct 21, 2017 1:52:03 GMT -6
Okay I can't figure out whether D. is awake or not. Lately she will often fall asleep with a scream. Like one cry or scream out of the blue and she is out. But now she has been doing the same while sleeping ... or waking up? She gives one scream then is quiet again and sleeps on for few minutes then another. But she keeps eyes closed and if i leave her be seems to sleep on again till the next cry - and tis goes on for a while? She had the same MOTN and I ended up gettig her out of bed to check her daiper and it took a while for her to really wake up. I am so confused! Dont want to get her out of bed to soon but also don't want her to feel I don't respond to her cries. She usually sleeps longer then the 1h15m she had after her last feed.. Halp?
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Post by addymac on Oct 21, 2017 2:22:32 GMT -6
Okay I can't figure out whether D. is awake or not. Lately she will often fall asleep with a scream. Like one cry or scream out of the blue and she is out. But now she has been doing the same while sleeping ... or waking up? She gives one scream then is quiet again and sleeps on for few minutes then another. But she keeps eyes closed and if i leave her be seems to sleep on again till the next cry - and tis goes on for a while? She had the same MOTN and I ended up gettig her out of bed to check her daiper and it took a while for her to really wake up. I am so confused! Dont want to get her out of bed to soon but also don't want her to feel I don't respond to her cries. She usually sleeps longer then the 1h15m she had after her last feed.. Halp? I’d probably try to wait until she has multiple cries? Or opens her eyes and cries? Or fusses around so much. Idk it’s hard, N gets so fussy and moves around so much sometimes it’s like are you awake or no???
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Post by muscari on Oct 21, 2017 2:29:29 GMT -6
Okay i feel like a bad mom now. I was like you cant be hungry it cant be your diaper. But she kept giving a scream at random -no real crying tho- so I got her out anyway and checked her daiper. It was FULL and almost spilled over (just pee luckily lol). So now I feel bad for letting her wait and fuss for 30-45min while she kept telling me sthing was up 😕
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Post by muscari on Oct 21, 2017 2:32:52 GMT -6
addymac I still think they should make babies with a display with easy to read error msges hahaha
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Post by king26 on Oct 21, 2017 6:05:59 GMT -6
thinkchocolate05, I know doesn't it stink when you find something like that and know they were fussing because of us? muscari J is so noisy and fussy after his 2nd wake up in the MOTN and I have a hard time figuring out if he is up or not. I usually wait until he actually starts crying or his eyes are open but sometimes if he's been fussing for like 30 minutes I just get him up because I'm up and staring at him. I think J is a little grumpy today. He woke up happy, he ate, he played a little, then I tried to put him down and he cried for like 15 minutea. He normally cries when he is tired but only for a few minutes . He cried himself to sleep on my shoulder today. I'm not sure if he was overtired or if he was bored?
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Post by addymac on Oct 21, 2017 6:47:08 GMT -6
Okay i feel like a bad mom now. I was like you cant be hungry it cant be your diaper. But she kept giving a scream at random -no real crying tho- so I got her out anyway and checked her daiper. It was FULL and almost spilled over (just pee luckily lol). So now I feel bad for letting her wait and fuss for 30-45min while she kept telling me sthing was up 😕 You’re not s bad mom! Pee isn’t going to hurt her, she’s ok 🙂
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Post by addymac on Oct 21, 2017 6:53:45 GMT -6
cali your h sounds so nice to not say anything when you are bitchy. Ben lately acts so butthurt and pissy if I snap at him 🙄 like dude cut me some slack and let. It. Go. It’s so annoying. ESP bc while still pregnant I TOLD him I’d be snippy when we were in the middle of this awful sleep shit and he’s working so much bc I am a cranky bitch when I get little sleep. I warned him. And he still gets all huffy about it. Like, please bitch. I don’t have time to deal with you and the baby. 😒 happyfeet9 you’re right. I know DH will figure it out, I’m just having a lot of feels about not being around to help and not being there at night or in the morning. I feel like I’m never going to see my baby now. Unfortunately since my schedule varies week to week and I never am certain I’ll work the same days, a nanny share isn’t an option bc the other family would be like uh what? Oh well. It is what it is. I’m wondering about sleep training not for me, but bc I’m also panicking about DH needing to sleep at night before waking up early to get them out the door. I tried to start a routine last night, we will see if doing it tonight goes better. I’m so freakin tired He slept from 10ish til 230, but then was up at 4,530,7. Sigh. And I pumped after the 239 feed so I went to sleep at 3:30- so I got about 4 hours and then just cat naps since. Sigh. king26! Awww his poor little toe. I would have cried too. I’m glad he’s okay. N whacked his head into my face the other day, and it really hurt me- he slammed into my mouth so my lip was hurting from my teeth and he started SCREAMINGGGG like it hurt his head. I felt awful but also, don’t whack your head into me kiddo!!
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Post by addymac on Oct 21, 2017 7:00:37 GMT -6
Ok so N has a diaper rash and I’m freaking out bc I’m scared it’s goingti get worse and bleed like I see with my kids at work. I’ve been putting desitin on with 40% zinc oxide but it didn’t seem to prevent the rash so now I’m putting aquaphor and then desitin on top. Anyone have other suggestions for what to do to help it? Im also changing his diaper within five min of hearing him poo and am constantly checking for poop if I hear any farting.
Unfortunately my FIL is here this weekend so I can’t just lay around with him without a diaper on to let it air out but once he leaves on Sunday, that’s my plan.
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