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Post by maddisonrose on Oct 11, 2017 13:03:53 GMT -6
Had a bit of drama this morning already. Yesterday when I was picking up D from daycare the lady came up to me and said "Declan might tell you that I pulled his hair today. I did pull his hair because he was pulling so and so's hair. I pulled his hair and asked him how he liked it. Sometimes it's the only way kids learn that their behaviour is wrong." I was really shocked at first and left the daycare extremely uncomfortable but then got ragey pretty quickly and called the director. I am a firm positive parenting person and never use physical disciplinary techniques at home so the fact that this happened at the daycare when it's mandated by law not to happen really upset me. The director asked me to come in this morning and sit down with the lady to figure out what really happened. I knew then it was just going to be pretty useless. I definitely expected them to play it down and what not (which they did as soon as we sat down) but they had no suggestions or a policy in place as to what happens next. Told me I need to keep bringing my son here to "heal these wounds" and that I could sit here with him to make sure it's okay. I had to go back and ask my question over and over again but they couldn't give me a solid reason or strategy to begin to rebuild trust.
So now I'm in a bind and have to find a new daycare which is pretty much impossible.
Sorry for the long post. I have all the angry momma feels
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Post by bassa on Oct 11, 2017 13:11:48 GMT -6
maddisonrose Um...what? The daycare teacher pulled your son's hair?? That is absurd. I don't see how anyone could think that was appropriate.
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Post by dragonflyinn on Oct 11, 2017 13:11:53 GMT -6
It was her first appointment! She LOVED every second of it haha. She is like that about everything though, she loves the doctor, loves her haircuts, etc. She’s a very emotional girl in the best way— everything is SO FUN and SO AWESOME to her lol.
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Post by marygracerich on Oct 11, 2017 13:19:09 GMT -6
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Post by aprilz81 on Oct 11, 2017 13:21:31 GMT -6
Faith's quilt is finished!!!!!!!!
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Post by pinkcat on Oct 11, 2017 13:46:47 GMT -6
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Post by ajetter on Oct 11, 2017 14:24:25 GMT -6
maddisonrose so we used that sort of technique when DD2 was very into pinching as her means of showing anger and what not. It was a last resort. HOWEVER, I would never ever freaking think that was ok to do in a childcare setting. It was my own freaking kid. And I hated it every time but after a few days it worked. I’m sorry that happened, that is completely unacceptable. I wish I had advice on what to do or what should be expected but I’m ragey for you.
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Post by smores on Oct 11, 2017 14:32:30 GMT -6
marygracerich Happy Birthday!! maddisonrose I would be stunned and livid if that happened to DD at her preschool. That response from the director is unacceptable and, unless they change their tune drastically, I think you are making the right decision to switch DCPs. Since they seem to think that kind of discipline is acceptable, would also be reporting them to whoever I could.
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Post by marygracerich on Oct 11, 2017 14:33:19 GMT -6
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Post by amesie on Oct 11, 2017 14:34:39 GMT -6
Thanks!! I already bought it and it just came yesterday and love it. I’m gonna return it and rebuy it with the new code!
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Post by amesie on Oct 11, 2017 14:42:15 GMT -6
Hi everyone! I’ve been MIA lately, chiming in here and there as I can. I’m starting my new job tonight!! It’s all just boring facility-wide paperwork, but I’m still very excited to get started. Aaaanyway, happy hump day! I’ll have to get caught up later, but here’s my 25w bump, team pink! And my DD, 2.5yr old, hugging her new giant Minnie Mouse
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Post by sarahh on Oct 11, 2017 14:46:29 GMT -6
amesie, you may want to call to see if they will price adjust so save you the wait. I think I've gotten price adjustments in the past - I forget what the window is.
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Post by sunfrogger on Oct 11, 2017 15:02:22 GMT -6
Hi all! Hbd marygracerich !! The dogs bandage comes off today. Eep. Well finally see the wound from the amputation. Nothing too new today. I'm pretty much done with work so .. Here's my bump day! On the left is me at 8mo pg with DD and on the right is me now at 21wtoday .
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Post by stephne on Oct 11, 2017 15:07:55 GMT -6
So stupid question...If I create a target registry for myself and keep it secret will I still get the completion coupon? We are sneaky team green and will not be having another shower but I would hate to have a boy registry out there if for some reason family would get nosy and find it.
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Post by aprilz81 on Oct 11, 2017 15:19:28 GMT -6
So stupid question...If I create a target registry for myself and keep it secret will I still get the completion coupon? We are sneaky team green and will not be having another shower but I would hate to have a boy registry out there if for some reason family would get nosy and find it. You should still get the completion discount... I don't imagine why not.
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Post by marygracerich on Oct 11, 2017 17:06:08 GMT -6
So stupid question...If I create a target registry for myself and keep it secret will I still get the completion coupon? We are sneaky team green and will not be having another shower but I would hate to have a boy registry out there if for some reason family would get nosy and find it. Yes. The coupon is an automatic send so you should get it.
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Post by amesie on Oct 11, 2017 17:12:20 GMT -6
maddisonrose woooowwww I would be ALL sorts of ragey if I were you. I would 100% be reporting them to the state. It is never ok for them to put their hands on your kid for ANY reason, especially discipline. I don’t blame you for not sending your DS back there. I wouldn’t either!! It would constantly be in my head, “well, if they thought that was acceptable, what else would they do?” Sorry you’re in such a bind now. I hope you’re able to figure it out soon!
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Post by watermelonseed on Oct 11, 2017 17:19:27 GMT -6
maddisonrose I’m very sorry he had to deal with that. I feel that is absolutely unacceptable. I’d probably switch all together if possible or at least rooms.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Oct 11, 2017 17:52:42 GMT -6
maddisonrose Absolutely not ok. If a kid hits another kid, do they hit the offending kid? This is absurd. I think you are at a professional Center. Anything short of the Director suspending the DCP and moving you to another room would not be enough for me. It’s ok if you go back to them tomorrow and let them know you were so caught off guard that you hadn’t collected your thoughts but you need to talk again. I’m really sorry. No one wants to deal with this.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Oct 11, 2017 17:55:17 GMT -6
aprilz81 you are so talented! I’m eyeing a Scarlett O’Hara twin size quilt on Etsy because I’ve officially gone off the rails and think I should have the baby’s bedding ready for the way down the road twin bed transition. Is $165 a lot for a handmade quilt of this size? I didn’t think so but I wouldn’t know.
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Post by pippiann on Oct 11, 2017 19:04:43 GMT -6
Ugh... I totally typed out all these responses and it got deleted! Booo
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Post by pippiann on Oct 11, 2017 19:07:58 GMT -6
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Post by marygracerich on Oct 11, 2017 19:58:59 GMT -6
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Post by sunfrogger on Oct 11, 2017 20:20:53 GMT -6
benandjerrys I love this coat. It's literally prefect. excuse my mess af house. We emptied the 3rd bedroom so we could paint.
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Post by helloerrbody on Oct 11, 2017 20:22:49 GMT -6
Happy birthday marygracerich!! rebeccabunch I have noooo idea how you’re keeping that a secret!!! Even if I tried, I know I’d slip and refer to baby as “she.” tiffrobot, strep sucks but I’m the same way if I feel those symptoms. Rather it be strep so there’s a fix! maddisonrose OMG I would be LIVID!! If I were you I would report this!!! I’m so sorry!! Beautiful, @aprilz18! We had a great day. Taught barre this morning, then took DS with me to the grocery, and then went to a pumpkin patch with friends this afternoon. Here’s my latest bump shot:
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Post by benandjerrys on Oct 11, 2017 20:29:41 GMT -6
benandjerrys I love this coat. It's literally prefect. excuse my mess af house. We emptied the 3rd bedroom so we could paint. It looks great! I love the color!
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Post by sunfrogger on Oct 12, 2017 4:22:46 GMT -6
benandjerrys I love this coat. It's literally prefect. excuse my mess af house. We emptied the 3rd bedroom so we could paint. It looks great! I love the color! I know you were worried about it being too big. I ordered a lg which is my usual size and while there is def room in the belly, it's not too crazy!
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Post by aprilz81 on Oct 12, 2017 7:14:13 GMT -6
aprilz81 you are so talented! I’m eyeing a Scarlett O’Hara twin size quilt on Etsy because I’ve officially gone off the rails and think I should have the baby’s bedding ready for the way down the road twin bed transition. Is $165 a lot for a handmade quilt of this size? I didn’t think so but I wouldn’t know. That actually sounds cheap if it is hand made! I have about $80 in materials alone and this is a throw size quilt. Twin would be about double the size and material can be expensive depending on the quality.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Oct 12, 2017 7:54:28 GMT -6
aprilz81 you are so talented! I’m eyeing a Scarlett O’Hara twin size quilt on Etsy because I’ve officially gone off the rails and think I should have the baby’s bedding ready for the way down the road twin bed transition. Is $165 a lot for a handmade quilt of this size? I didn’t think so but I wouldn’t know. That actually sounds cheap if it is hand made! I have about $80 in materials alone and this is a throw size quilt. Twin would be about double the size and material can be expensive depending on the quality. This is kind of what I was thinking, that is sounded reasonable. I think I’m going to do it. Thanks for your expert opinion!
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