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Post by westiemom on Oct 12, 2017 7:41:48 GMT -6
baymare that’s a tough call! I would probably try to do it as soon as possible and just really focus on losing the remaining weight. For me, if I put things off I loose motivation so that’s why I would go that route! Plus blizzards sound scary! Keep us posted!
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Post by scrang on Oct 12, 2017 8:16:01 GMT -6
baymare, I agree with westiemom, I would go for it. The good thing about dieting is that you lose the most when you first start and have the motivation! And yes, I did test again yesterday and got a clear dark line.
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Post by danib on Oct 12, 2017 8:37:02 GMT -6
So DH and I always wanted a big family (3-4) kids. I definitely still want another, and he does too but he's hesitant at the moment (he was the same way until C turned a year old). H will be a year at the end of this month, which is bringing me back to wanting to TTC again.
Here's where the dilema is (my feelings). If we have a 3rd we will need a bigger house and vehicle. We are about a year and a half away from that being possible. Which means we really shouldn't TTC for at least another year. I've had 3 pregnancies. The first took 4 years. The second happened the very first cycle but ended in a miscarriage. The third took 22 cycles after my mc. So I feel like we shouldn't start ahead of time on the chance that I have another quick one. But then there's also the chance it could take another 4 years, which when you add the time TTA it could really be 5 years from now. On top of IF issues, I have some other health issues that put my pregnancies as high-risk. Because of this, I wouldn't be comfortable adding AMA to my list of risks.
So TL;DR I feel like I have a really small window of time to realistically TTC. I'm afraid that if we wait to start, I'm going to hit my "cut-off" age and have to make the decision to stop. But I know that we need to wait in order to provide the best care we can for our kids. I keep talking myself in circles.
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Post by westiemom on Oct 12, 2017 12:23:05 GMT -6
So DH and I always wanted a big family (3-4) kids. I definitely still want another, and he does too but he's hesitant at the moment (he was the same way until C turned a year old). H will be a year at the end of this month, which is bringing me back to wanting to TTC again. Here's where the dilema is (my feelings). If we have a 3rd we will need a bigger house and vehicle. We are about a year and a half away from that being possible. Which means we really shouldn't TTC for at least another year. I've had 3 pregnancies. The first took 4 years. The second happened the very first cycle but ended in a miscarriage. The third took 22 cycles after my mc. So I feel like we shouldn't start ahead of time on the chance that I have another quick one. But then there's also the chance it could take another 4 years, which when you add the time TTA it could really be 5 years from now. On top of IF issues, I have some other health issues that put my pregnancies as high-risk. Because of this, I wouldn't be comfortable adding AMA to my list of risks. So TL;DR I feel like I have a really small window of time to realistically TTC. I'm afraid that if we wait to start, I'm going to hit my "cut-off" age and have to make the decision to stop. But I know that we need to wait in order to provide the best care we can for our kids. I keep talking myself in circles. Hugs! No wisdom but it’s definitely hard to decide when the time is right.
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Post by moto on Oct 12, 2017 20:47:42 GMT -6
danib - even if you got pregnant right away, you'd be pregnant for 9ish months, right? And then a newborn could stay in your bedroom with you for at least a couple months. So seems like you wouldn't need a new house for at least a year. And worst case you'd just have to squish into a small house for a while, which is not the end of the world when kids are so little. So if I were you, I think I'd figure out exactly how much time I needed to save up for a new car, and start TTC when I was about 9 months out from that goal. That way if you did get pregnant right away, you'd have enough time to get the car by the birth and then get the house as soon as possible after that. But if it took a while to get pregnant, you'd be saving towards your plan, but also not "wasting" any TTC time. But I admit I'm biased and I tend to prioritize more babies over everything, for better or worse.
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Post by moto on Oct 12, 2017 20:52:13 GMT -6
baymare - can you shoot for November and keep December as a back-up in case you don't lose enough weight? Fifteen pounds in 6 weeks is probably possible, but it sounds challenging so I would want a back-up plan. I personally would probably try for Nov or Dec rather than wait until spring. But I was always in a hurry to cycle!
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Post by danib on Oct 13, 2017 4:52:41 GMT -6
moto we already have one of the boys in our bed so that would be rough. But you do make a good point about having those 9 months. We don't necessarily have to wait until it's all completed to start TTC, just make sure we are close enough that we'd be ready by the time a potential baby is born.
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