It's the Weekend, Right?

[starbuck]

I haven't seen MH in an hour. He's in the house somewhere. Not here.

[danib]

Sept 30, 2017 11:45:04 GMT -6 starbuck said:

Sept 30, 2017 11:35:09 GMT -6 danib said:

Just your kids starbuck, or like are you ending up left with everyone's kids?

I'm the only one here with kids, so just mine.

I'm probably extra salty today but it's bugging me.

awwww gotcha. Ya that sucks. Feels extra isolating (for me anyway).

I was just wondering if it was that or id yoi were getting stuck "babysitting"

[starbuck]

Sept 30, 2017 11:55:17 GMT -6 danib said:

Sept 30, 2017 11:45:04 GMT -6 starbuck said:

I'm the only one here with kids, so just mine.

I'm probably extra salty today but it's bugging me.

awwww gotcha. Ya that sucks. Feels extra isolating (for me anyway).

I was just wondering if it was that or id yoi were getting stuck "babysitting"

Ya that's it exactly. Since having the twins I feel very alone. I'm usually alone with the kids. And when when I have people around they don't hang around very long because there's something they would rather be doing.

This is H's family. My family doesn't do this to me, I've noticed that difference. H's family also would never leave him alone with all three. The choreograph very carefully to make sure he doesn't have to do this alone.

It's not their job. I know that. I just...I dunno. And MH needs to just fucking be present and quit assuming I have nothing to do but mother, mother, mother.

[flamingo]

Hi all.

Sorry I've been MIA this week, I feel out of the loop!

My parents left yesterday so I was looking forward to a normal weekend, but DH came home early yesterday and announced his squadron is being sent to Puerto Rico 'indefinitely', so he's been getting ready for that and is in a foul mood. They head down tomorrow so quick turn-around.

I'm currently watching the Gators play while C naps and B watches a show. C is *this close* to walking which is kind of fun but mostly 😬😬😳😳.

[flamingo]

sophiegrace In addition to the places some of the other ladies have rec'ed, you might want to try Gymboree. They usually do cute holiday things.

If you're into smocking/more traditional things, let me know and I can send you a comprehensive list of my sources

[danib]

starbuck I have recently come to the conclusion that the ILs respond much difderently when things are perceived as ME needing help/babysitter vs DH needing it. Which pisses me off royally.

[dashook]

starbuck that happens to me all the time. Especially with my ILs. When I'm at my parents' it's slightly better, maybe because they don't get to see the kids as much so my mom kinda smothers them (especially DS). And oftentimes when I'm down there my sister is also visiting and she and her fiance are much more helpful. But even then they'll just take off randomly to go get coffee or whatever and I'm just sitting there like "K."

I feel bad getting annoyed by it because I know, like you said, it's not their job, but I also don't think I should have to be the only one that gets saddled that way. And, unsurprisingly, this never seems to happen to MH either.

[elle]

Sept 30, 2017 12:20:12 GMT -6 flamingo said:

sophiegrace In addition to the places some of the other ladies have rec'ed, you might want to try Gymboree. They usually do cute holiday things.

If you're into smocking/more traditional things, let me know and I can send you a comprehensive list of my sources

Are you willing to share with others? 😊

starbuck I generally get stuck too, even when around my family, but I only have the one. I can't imagine how much my irritation would compound if I had more and was always the default child supervisor. 

[tgrimes]

Hi, from my iPhone 8!

[Cheshie6]

starbuck, I wonder if they don’t trust him to be by himself! Not that he couldn’t take care of the kids by himself but I feel like it’s different when your son/boy takes care of the kids versus when you/mom takes care of the kids. Kind a like how we all get that they don’t understand the mental load, I wonder if his mom understands he doesn’t understand the mental load!?!

ETA: not fair just what I’ve heard about new BIL SIL2 is doing everything and he’s all thumbs, but his mom is super helpful!?! I haven’t heard about MIL so I wonder if she’s just distant even with her own daughter.

[dashook]

H is going to pick up dinner to bring home for me for after sundown. I'm definitely feeling comfort food. Trying to decide if I want to get spaghetti and meatballs or go full on Fatty McFatterson and get the carbonara.

Help me!

Eta they also have chicken domenico (alfredo sauce, smoked ham, peas).

[hangry]

Give me the run down tgrimes!

Mmmmmmm carbonara dashook

So I bought a dress today only to find out when I show H that's it's the same color as his groomsman tie. He didn't see the problem. BECAUSE that's probably the bridesmaid color dingbat! So I will probably need to go shopping again.

[flamingo]

DH is eating crackers for me today. He's been in a mood--understandable, I guess--and I think it's rubbing off on me. He went to Pita Pit to get us lunch and I wanted a chicken caesar pita...he instructed them to not put lettuce in it. WTF. Then he volunteered to go to the grocery store since he needs some stuff for PR; he came back with basically spoiled bananas (they are already at almost max ripeness, a couple very bruised, etc) and all low-fat cheese. We don't eat low-fat anything.

I realize this are all incredible FWP's; I probably need to chill and have some wine.

[danib]

flamingo I'd be annoyed. But still have some wine. Actually all the more reason to have the wine.

[waitwhat]

flamingo love pita pit. I thought it was just a local thing but I’m guessing not?

dashook carbonara for sure! Are you feeling better?

[starbuck]

flamingo time to make banana bread! Sorry YH is in such a mood.

[dashook]

Sept 30, 2017 16:31:21 GMT -6 waitwhat said:

flamingo love pita pit. I thought it was just a local thing but I’m guessing not?

dashook carbonara for sure! Are you feeling better?

So-so. I ended up eating very little today and I forewent coffee as my "fast" so I'm kinda lethargic and have a headache, but my stomach has been a bit better. Thanks for asking!

H is on his way home now so I'm excited to put my munchkins to bed and stuff my face with some pasta!

[starbuck]

H came up as I was getting the twins ready for bed and offered to take them to the basement for a while. I told him that sitting in a dark basement while they scream at the TV was probably not going to be the best environment for them. TN is getting spanked which means my FIL is probably over drinking and cursing his ass off.

He got pissed at me? I really don't care. Maybe I should have taken him up on the offer but for real. They were having fun, we were having tickle fights. So he went back down and I can hear them yelling at the TV and like...why would I send the babies into that? I wanted to get W out of there, but I figured that would start shit.

[hangry]

Man flamingo, I know know sucks personally to have DH shipped off, but I'm really happy something is being done for PR. Thank him for his service.

starbuck YH just wanted to feel like the saviour for offering to "help" and then when you wouldn't let him, he couldn't feel good about himself. Maybe he should figure out when a Good time to offer help would be. Like, when all the kids are screaming, or when all other people are adult socializing and you're stuck in kid world.

[dashook]

starbuck fwiw I wouldn't have sent them into that environment either, especially right before bedtime.

[dashook]

So MH was bitching this morning that his stomach is bothering him too. Since he got home 15 minutes ago he's made a big show of groaning in pain every so often. AYFKM dude?

How much do you want to bet he still manages to make his golf outing in the morning? 🙄🙄🙄

[flamingo]

Man, bad weekend for husbands around here, lol

Act right, guys!

[danib]

dashook you need to do what I do when C fakes a bellyache "well I guess you're too sick for desert/the park/etc"

[kleigh]

starbuck YES. My mom never ever ever ever ever does this to me. My ILs omg yes. They would never do it to H though in fact if they know he’s home alone with the babies it’s like the bat signal goes out and all hands are on deck. We go over there on sundays and it’s such a pain in the ass. Watching two of them is hard enough in my house that is gated and has toys for them etc. At their house there’s all kinds of hazards, brick fireplace, coffee table thing, island stools etc and no toys. Every damn Sunday it goes like this.... walk in, FIL takes one baby, MIL takes the other baby, I go to the bathroom and come out (thatsmy break). FIL gives one baby to H while he goes downstairs to his office. H passes off this baby to me and goes and bothers his sister who is usually locked herself in her room doing teenager things. Then MIL hands me baby two so she can “take the dogs out” (aka go smoke and sit outside in her Adirondack chair). So there I am wrestling two babies from getting hurt while trying to keep them entertained and ensuring neither dog licks AB since he’s allergic. Like, guys, can’t I just stay home - at least comfort of my own home and my kids are entertained.

flamingo Thank you to YH but I’m sorry he’s being grumpy. I don’t know what pita pit is but it sounds amazing.

dashook I hope you feel better

hangry You have to share pictures, I love fancy dress up time.

[tgrimes]

Sept 30, 2017 15:40:13 GMT -6 hangry said:

Give me the run down tgrimes!

Mmmmmmm carbonara dashook

So I bought a dress today only to find out when I show H that's it's the same color as his groomsman tie. He didn't see the problem. BECAUSE that's probably the bridesmaid color dingbat! So I will probably need to go shopping again.

So far it’s good. The screen is a little bigger than my 5.

[dashook]

Sept 30, 2017 17:57:41 GMT -6 danib said:

dashook you need to do what I do when C fakes a bellyache "well I guess you're too sick for desert/the park/etc"

😂 This is perfect.

[waitwhat]

Sept 30, 2017 18:07:36 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Sept 30, 2017 15:40:13 GMT -6 hangry said:

Give me the run down tgrimes!

Mmmmmmm carbonara dashook

So I bought a dress today only to find out when I show H that's it's the same color as his groomsman tie. He didn't see the problem. BECAUSE that's probably the bridesmaid color dingbat! So I will probably need to go shopping again.

So far it’s good. The screen is a little bigger than my 5.

did you get the plus? I don’t even know what iPhone I have. Is that bad?

[tgrimes]

Sept 30, 2017 18:16:53 GMT -6 waitwhat said:

Sept 30, 2017 18:07:36 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

So far it’s good. The screen is a little bigger than my 5.

did you get the plus? I don’t even know what iPhone I have. Is that bad?

No. Want to joe why? I couldn’t fit it in the pocket in my purse.

[jubilantsquirrel]

flamingo, I would have been annoyed too. Also I love Pita Pit, haven't been there in ages!

I'm sorry starbuck, I would also be very irritated with all of that.

[waitwhat]

Anyone drinking? Or just me?

K.