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Post by misskilljoy on Sept 30, 2017 5:05:40 GMT -6
I'll be the weirdo turning down all cervical checks until I think I'm in labour. No one needs to go down there until there's something happening. My OB doesn't even do the GBS swab himself - they leave you in a room with the swab and some instructions on how to do it on your own. I much prefer it that way. I don't think it's weird to refuse the cervical checks. They kind of seem unnecessary. I turned down the first one (at 36 weeks, I think??) with DD1). This is weird but my OBs hands are small, it hurtnlike a bitch when she tries to reach my cervix. Ugh I'm dreading it and now thinking about turning it down. They are unnecessary, I believe, unless there's a concern that you may be at risk for pre-term labour (which some women here are, I know). You can walk around dilated for WEEKS and not be in labour or you can be closed up tight and have your water break hours later, so I just feel like a cervical check wouldn't help my brain at all. If I had one and he said I was 2 cm dilated, I'd be on pins and needles overreacting to everything, not going anywhere because OMG what if I go into labour, etc. I'm not good at being patient. Or calm. XD
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Post by bethkate on Sept 30, 2017 5:14:23 GMT -6
After having a record breaking heat wave for two and half weeks, we're under a frost advisory now. Better cover all those flowers *insert eye roll here* I’ll take it! We’re going to be hovering around 60-70 for a high for the next several days, and I love it! Even the 40s for a low at night is welcomed compared to the humid nastiness we had all week.
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Post by jules1614 on Sept 30, 2017 6:03:41 GMT -6
I definitely want sex but I'm being overly cautious not to do anything that miiiiight encourage an early labor. I absolutely don't want this baby to come until at least 38w (we close on the house at 36w). It's silly and ridiculous because I had all the sex all the time with my first and never went into labor on my own and went 2w overdue. But alas, it where I'm at. Also, DNW to have sex living at my parents house- maybe if they weren't home....
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Post by beefinch on Sept 30, 2017 6:24:00 GMT -6
My face when H asks if I want to 'cuddle' H I am not stupid, I know EXACTLY what you mean by cuddle. Go back in your corner until 37 weeks and then I'll let you help induce labour. He still takes every opportunity to rub himself against my bum each time I bend down (rare these days) and I have to just roll my eyes as that's the most he's getting
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Post by icedcoffee on Sept 30, 2017 6:31:18 GMT -6
TMI... I was reading the FFFC in General Discussion...and I realized I am now in the phase where I cannot fathom having sex. Like, the thought of anyone touching me makes me cringe. And I've been on pelvic rest for like 2 months now...not really missing it. We had sex at some point in my mid second tri and not again since. H is pretty anti pregnancy sex once the belly shows up and I don't miss it at all right now. I'm kinda glad to read this. Mine is super not for it either. He tries to make other excuses lol but I was like its okay to admit it. I missed it for a lil bit but now I'm at the point where I'm just too big to even think how that would work and be enjoyable.
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Post by icedcoffee on Sept 30, 2017 6:39:16 GMT -6
Speaking of cervical checks, with my first two they started checking me early. I had issues (different ones) with both that led to them inducing me but before that they were concerned about pre term labor. This time around I asked about when this doctors office starts cervical checks, and she looked kind of surprised and said not until like 38 weeks on. I was so relieved lol. It definitely is not the most comfortable thing!
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Post by cdnfarmgirl on Sept 30, 2017 8:32:32 GMT -6
I'll be the weirdo turning down all cervical checks until I think I'm in labour. No one needs to go down there until there's something happening. My OB doesn't even do the GBS swab himself - they leave you in a room with the swab and some instructions on how to do it on your own. I much prefer it that way. I turn down cervical checks till im overdue. lol. I wish I could do the swab myself! That would be way better.
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Post by bazi on Sept 30, 2017 8:44:56 GMT -6
Speaking of cervical checks, with my first two they started checking me early. I had issues (different ones) with both that led to them inducing me but before that they were concerned about pre term labor. This time around I asked about when this doctors office starts cervical checks, and she looked kind of surprised and said not until like 38 weeks on. I was so relieved lol. It definitely is not the most comfortable thing! Honestly I remember it being one of the most painful parts of labor the first time around! I'm not looking forward to it either.
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Post by AnnPerkins on Sept 30, 2017 8:54:02 GMT -6
Lol, beefinch. It seems our DH's have similar methods of seduction.
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Post by bubbles on Sept 30, 2017 9:15:11 GMT -6
I don't think it's weird to refuse the cervical checks. They kind of seem unnecessary. I turned down the first one (at 36 weeks, I think??) with DD1). This is weird but my OBs hands are small, it hurts like a bitch when she tries to reach my cervix. Ugh I'm dreading it and now thinking about turning it down. They are unnecessary, I believe, unless there's a concern that you may be at risk for pre-term labour (which some women here are, I know). You can walk around dilated for WEEKS and not be in labour or you can be closed up tight and have your water break hours later, so I just feel like a cervical check wouldn't help my brain at all. If I had one and he said I was 2 cm dilated, I'd be on pins and needles overreacting to everything, not going anywhere because OMG what if I go into labour, etc. I'm not good at being patient. Or calm. XD I definitely understand the need for them if there's a risk for pre-term labor. I hope I didn't come across as insensitive to those who are high risk.
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Post by icedcoffee on Sept 30, 2017 9:20:56 GMT -6
I'm pretty sure I've always been allowed to do my own swabs as well
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Post by misskilljoy on Sept 30, 2017 9:53:58 GMT -6
They are unnecessary, I believe, unless there's a concern that you may be at risk for pre-term labour (which some women here are, I know). You can walk around dilated for WEEKS and not be in labour or you can be closed up tight and have your water break hours later, so I just feel like a cervical check wouldn't help my brain at all. If I had one and he said I was 2 cm dilated, I'd be on pins and needles overreacting to everything, not going anywhere because OMG what if I go into labour, etc. I'm not good at being patient. Or calm. XD I definitely understand the need for them if there's a risk for pre-term labor. I hope I didn't come across as insensitive to those who are high risk. I don't think you did. I'll make the same apology if I came across that way too, though!
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Post by bethkate on Sept 30, 2017 9:56:23 GMT -6
I'm pretty sure I've always been allowed to do my own swabs as well I haven’t done it yet, but I was told this week that I’ll be doing it myself at my next appointment.
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Post by laurensc927 on Sept 30, 2017 10:01:26 GMT -6
misskilljoy I'm getting this pains too. They're on and off at the moment so hopefully they stay that way. AnnPerkins that sounds like something MH would say. Us too with the weather bethkate I love it! beefinch MH does something similar or pokes me in the butt. Really you think that's seducing me lol
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Post by thatgolfb on Sept 30, 2017 10:35:26 GMT -6
I say yes to cervical checks because I am super curious as to how dilated I am. I know that's weird. Lol.
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Post by thatgolfb on Sept 30, 2017 10:36:36 GMT -6
Just an anecdote, I did have my membranes swept at my last appt. And then my water broke less than 24 hours later. Not sure if that was just coincidence though, since I did have extra fluid that would cause my water to break.
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Post by snuff9861 on Sept 30, 2017 10:48:05 GMT -6
We do our own swabs at 35 or 36 weeks. I will be doing mine at my 36 week appointment as I tend to go late and they're only predictive for about 5 weeks (though if my water breaks on it's own I will be getting a quick strip test done at the hospital). I say yes to cervical checks because I'm nosy and want to know how dilated I am. I refuse membrane sweeps though because they do nothing.
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Post by bethkate on Sept 30, 2017 10:52:11 GMT -6
My H basically forced me to buy this for our newborn photos. He’s kind of obsessed with it. lol
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Post by AnnPerkins on Sept 30, 2017 11:24:58 GMT -6
I have no swabbing experience. Third trimester is somewhat of a mystery to me. It's all very exciting.
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Post by grumpycat on Sept 30, 2017 11:30:06 GMT -6
Just an anecdote, I did have my membranes swept at my last appt. And then my water broke less than 24 hours later. Not sure if that was just coincidence though, since I did have extra fluid that would cause my water to break. Up to 48 hours or so after a sweep is usually attributed to the sweep I had mine swept at my 37 week appt (I was 2 cm, 80% effaced, and idk what station but ds was in my pelvis). My ob was like ... you are gonna have him in the next few days anyway and it had been a long, rough journey of PTL/hospital stays, etc. I was done. She did the sweep and my water broke 3 days later so on the cusp of being from the sweep. They can be effective if you are already heading in that direction or they can be a messy, painful nuisance that does nothing lol. Eta I won't do a sweep until 39 weeks this pregnancy. It's been a totally different pregnancy and I'm happy to let baby hang out. But 39 weeks, I'm getting a sweep if appropriate and scrubbing my house. Maybe soliciting sex from dh. Alright now I have to try to wrestle ds away from my in laws so I can get him to nap. Le sigh.
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Post by pootsen on Sept 30, 2017 11:36:57 GMT -6
I've never had a membrane sweep or a cervical check but I suppose I wouldn't be opposed to either after 38w or so. I have no strong feelings either way lol
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Post by pootsen on Sept 30, 2017 11:39:02 GMT -6
Ugh I think I overdid it this morning... I did a few loads of laundry, general cleaning/straightening up, and took DS to kohls and the grocery store. I felt kind of faint and clammy while checking out and now I keep having BH. We are home now and I drank a bunch of water and ate some food. But there's a counter full of groceries that need to be put away and I don't wanna.
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Post by cdnfarmgirl on Sept 30, 2017 12:09:29 GMT -6
Speaking of cervical checks, with my first two they started checking me early. I had issues (different ones) with both that led to them inducing me but before that they were concerned about pre term labor. This time around I asked about when this doctors office starts cervical checks, and she looked kind of surprised and said not until like 38 weeks on. I was so relieved lol. It definitely is not the most comfortable thing! Honestly I remember it being one of the most painful parts of labor the first time around! I'm not looking forward to it either. They suck. I remember my first one with my OB, I was like wincing in awful pain. She looked at me and said "it's going to be way worse when you deliver" quite harshly. I never liked her
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Post by bethers on Sept 30, 2017 12:36:30 GMT -6
Honestly I remember it being one of the most painful parts of labor the first time around! I'm not looking forward to it either. They suck. I remember my first one with my OB, I was like wincing in awful pain. She looked at me and said "it's going to be way worse when you deliver" quite harshly. I never liked her I had one with DS around 40 weeks to try to prevent induction (spoiler alert - did not work for me). I didn't want to go back to work or sit (or stand). In my opinion, the membrane sweep hurt more than labor.
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Post by cnf on Sept 30, 2017 12:50:37 GMT -6
We had sex at some point in my mid second tri and not again since. H is pretty anti pregnancy sex once the belly shows up and I don't miss it at all right now. I'm kinda glad to read this. Mine is super not for it either. He tries to make other excuses lol but I was like its okay to admit it. I missed it for a lil bit but now I'm at the point where I'm just too big to even think how that would work and be enjoyable. I missed it for a while too, but now I don't care one bit. Thankfully my H is pretty up front about just not wanting pregnancy sex. I coerced him more last time. This time I just kind of didn't bother trying. But if I'm still pregnant at like 38w he's going to have to buck up and perform because I refuse to be 40w pregnant. I just can't do it.
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Post by cnf on Sept 30, 2017 12:54:42 GMT -6
I started getting cervical checks at 32w last time due to issues with contractions and since I was weekly at 32w, I got one every week because I was a pre term risk. I was still closed, firm, and posterior at 36+2. My water exploded the very next day at 36+3, so it really doesn't mean crap. I've already had one manual check this pregnancy at 30w and they checked it at my sono last week. I like knowing, but I remember crying after my 36w appointment last time because my contractions were so ridiculous for so long and doing absolutely nothing. It was so frustrating. I suspect I'm on a similar trajectory at this point too. Sigh.
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Post by cdnfarmgirl on Sept 30, 2017 13:26:56 GMT -6
They suck. I remember my first one with my OB, I was like wincing in awful pain. She looked at me and said "it's going to be way worse when you deliver" quite harshly. I never liked her I had one with DS around 40 weeks to try to prevent induction (spoiler alert - did not work for me). I didn't want to go back to work or sit (or stand). In my opinion, the membrane sweep hurt more than labor. I had two sweeps done with each pregnancy. Both didn't work for either kid. I honestly don't think I'll get one this time around. I'll just wait and know I'll probably be induced anyways.
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Post by grumpycat on Sept 30, 2017 13:55:42 GMT -6
Got ds done for a nap and he's actually sleeping. Yay! So I took a nap too and feel somewhat human.
I saw my neighbor earlier and she told me how I'm all baby. They have a daughter a couple years younger than us and no grandkids yet. I definitely see them being in a pseudo grandparent role. Also a new family moved in on our street and the woman is super pregnant! Baby will have a contemporary. DS has two other kids in our neighborhood who are the same age and they play all the time. I'm hopeful for the same thing for this baby!
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Post by cnf on Sept 30, 2017 14:23:40 GMT -6
I just had to reschedule my maternity photos I was supposed to go to in an hour. H got absorbed in another fucking project that's taking him infinitely longer then he claimed it would, like it ALWAYS does. And the photographer emailed me this morning asking to push the time back a bit because she has a twin newborn shoot that will run into my time slot otherwise. I didnt see it earlier because I stayed off my phone all day because otherwise MIL would get mad that we're not bonding and of course i was with her all freaking day. So I told her to just forget and pencil me in another weekend. Now I'll be 34w, which is when I had them done last time too and it was too late, my face is grossly puffy in all my photos from last time. And now they will be again.
I just angry scrubbed a full face of makeup off. First time I've worn a full makeup probably since my last maternity photos. Waste of my efforts.
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Post by icedcoffee on Sept 30, 2017 14:54:41 GMT -6
cnf I told mine the same thing!! Once we hit 38 weeks its on to get this baby moving so I will require those services 😂 Sorry about the maternity shoot though
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