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Post by dizzycooks on Sept 18, 2017 12:25:52 GMT -6
It's a new week. Sleep complaints go here.
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Post by dizzycooks on Sept 18, 2017 12:27:19 GMT -6
lollipop I hate when that happens. I told dh I was going to bed last night, I shut the light out and he calls "I'll be right there!" So, stupidly, I turn the light on. And wait. For 20 minutes. Completely my fault, but seriously dude, get to bed if you say you're coming. Also, I have a cold and it sucks. And it's pouring rain and cold here today.
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Post by lollipop on Sept 18, 2017 12:36:17 GMT -6
I also apparently can't sleep unto he comes to bed anyway... It's too quiet. White noise machine is on my list
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Post by crimsonandclover on Sept 18, 2017 12:41:23 GMT -6
Bizarre playground moment today.
DD1 (6) just learned how to ride a bike and was practicing on a bike lot close to our house. I'm trying to keep an eye on her while also teaching DD2 (4) how to ride a bike - running along behind her holding on. And at the same time, trying to keep an eye on DD3, who is wandering all over even though there are some boys aged 10ish doing tricks and high speed chases all around the lot. So, as you can imagine - rather chaotic and I was a bit stressed.
This older lady who I think was there with her grandson tried to talk to me as I was jogging past her with DD2 and this was our conversation:
Her: Are they twins?
Me: (used to this question by now) Nope! 2 years apart!
Her: Oh, because they're dressed the same. (they weren't)
Me: ?? ? (continues jogging past) (yells at DD1 to stop sliding down the skateboarding ramp on her butt)
Her: (looks back and forth between the two) Oh, I guess maybe not.
Me: ?? ? (yells at DD3 to stop trying to get on DD1's parked bike before it falls over on her) (still jogging to keep up with DD2)
And then every time I kind of jogged past her, she was asking me questions (how old is she? etc). I mean, thank you for being nice, but seriously, pick a better conversation partner. If I'm sitting on a bench in the park staring off into space while my kids play quietly in the sand next to me, by all means try to engage me in conversation. When I am jogging after one kid and trying to keep an eye on two others wandering all over the place, I am close to losing my mind. Please just leave me alone.
No point to that story other than to say that people are weird. Or is it me? Would you have talked to her? Maybe I just missed out on a potential new (older) friend...
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Post by dizzycooks on Sept 18, 2017 12:51:31 GMT -6
crimsonandclover definitely weird. I hate when I am obviously engaged and someone starts taking my ear off. Honestly, I also hate it when I'm clearly zoned out and alone (finally) and someone starts talking to me. This includes the bench at swim lessons, trying to zip through a workout at the gym or the playground bench I rarely get to actually sit on.
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Post by lollipop on Sept 18, 2017 13:29:34 GMT -6
Add me to the "leave me alone" club. It would be easier if my children weren't social butterflies that talk to literally everyone. It's like people assume that just because my kids say hi, I want to talk. No. I don't. My kids just talk constantly.
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Post by scorpioscuba on Sept 18, 2017 14:19:39 GMT -6
crimsonandclover, I really hate when people have no situational awareness, which clearly that lady lacked. dizzycooks, I'm sorry you have a cold on top of everything else you are dealing with 1st tri wise. 
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Post by nellieoleson on Sept 18, 2017 15:59:23 GMT -6
I also apparently can't sleep unto he comes to bed anyway... It's too quiet. White noise machine is on my list I can't sleep without white noise. We take it with us when we travel. I took one with me to the hospital to have the dds. crimsonandclover - I've been getting the "are they twins?" thing a lot lately too. It always surprises me because *to me* dd2 is clearly still a baby and dd1 is clearly a preschool age child. But they are pretty much the same size, so I guess that's the only thing people notice. |
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Post by lollipop on Sept 18, 2017 16:28:00 GMT -6
nellieoleson I always needed noise as a baby, and as I got older I couldn't sleep without music, white noise didn't work. I only stopped listening to music all night when I started sleeping over with H, because it kept him awake. I didn't realize that I still needed it, until last week when I went to bed before him and it was way too quiet. Apparently his breathing was enough. If I'm going to bed before him on the regular I'm going to need something. And I think I have to, because otherwise I'm a straight up zombie all day lol
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Post by kcrkcs on Sept 18, 2017 18:05:03 GMT -6
I hate when hubs come to bed late and wants to talk to me while I am clearly sleeping/turns on the light really just breathes.
I also hate white noise. Background noise/white noise are the opposite of relaxing to me. It's like nails on a chalkboard. Weirdo...I am.
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Post by nellieoleson on Sept 18, 2017 20:09:06 GMT -6
My H is currently working on an Abercrombie and Fitch commercial. At this very moment he is on a tugboat full of models. I am at home looking haggard, wearing comfy pants, and smelling like children's Motrin. I would be a little insecure about this situation if I wasn't too tired to care.
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Post by nellieoleson on Sept 18, 2017 20:14:02 GMT -6
Also, I just read that hurricane Maria made landfall in Dominica as a category 5 storm. I have been there before and it is an absolutely lovely place full of warm, amazing people. I am really hoping things are okay there tonight.
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Post by dizzycooks on Sept 18, 2017 20:16:47 GMT -6
nellieoleson the commercial situation made me lol. I'm sorry. Maybe he'll score some cozy hoodies?? kcrkcs I'm with you, I can sleep anywhere, but don't start talking to me if I'm trying to sleep. I actually turned dd3s sound machine down tonight bc the other girls don't have one and I don't plan on putting one in there when she moves in. I suppose I could, but I'd rather she not depend on it to sleep.
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Post by dizzycooks on Sept 18, 2017 20:17:21 GMT -6
The hurricanes make me so sad. I love the Caribbean and this is so devastating.
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Post by scorpioscuba on Sept 18, 2017 21:55:07 GMT -6
This hurricane season is so heartbreaking. The Caribbean is one of our favorite places too. I feel like there will be nothing left.  |
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Post by scorpioscuba on Sept 18, 2017 22:01:08 GMT -6
I have been on Wellbutrin for 3-4 weeks now I think? I'm really feeling a difference. I have more patience with DS and in return his behavior has improved. We had a very busy weekend and what would have normally sent me into a tailspin on Saturday I was able to handle with ease and didn't revert to my comfort zone of hibernation when I'm feeling overwhelmed. I'm handling work issues better. Oh and I started my couch to 5k program again! I did day 3 tonight after DD went to bed. I never have the energy to do anything beyond laying in bed after the kids go to sleep. I have a long way to go but celebrating a few positive steps.
I sincerely appreciate all the feedback each of you gave me and the push to do something about it!! 😍
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Post by kcrkcs on Sept 19, 2017 0:37:28 GMT -6
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Post by crimsonandclover on Sept 19, 2017 0:46:05 GMT -6
I hate when hubs come to bed late and wants to talk to me while I am clearly sleeping/turns on the light really just breathes. I also hate white noise. Background noise/white noise are the opposite of relaxing to me. It's like nails on a chalkboard. Weirdo...I am. This is me. Both parts. I can't really listen to background music bc it just makes my mind hurt. I need silence sometimes. At my mom's house she usually has the tv on in the background and it's like Chinese water torture to me. Dh loves listening to opera and will listen while he's baking or doing other things. It drives me nuts. |
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Post by nellieoleson on Sept 19, 2017 8:17:48 GMT -6
I hate when hubs come to bed late and wants to talk to me while I am clearly sleeping/turns on the light really just breathes. I also hate white noise. Background noise/white noise are the opposite of relaxing to me. It's like nails on a chalkboard. Weirdo...I am. This is me. Both parts. I can't really listen to background music bc it just makes my mind hurt. I need silence sometimes. At my mom's house she usually has the tv on in the background and it's like Chinese water torture to me. Dh loves listening to opera and will listen while he's baking or doing other things. It drives me nuts. My H has to have background noise at all times. Music or tv. Even if we go outside he puts on music. It drives me crazy, but I'm pretty used to it at this point. He finds it weird that I don't need it, though. Sometimes he comes home after the girls go to bed, the house is totally quiet and I'm sitting on the couch reading. He's like "is everything okay???" |
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Post by dizzycooks on Sept 19, 2017 8:34:20 GMT -6
crimsonandclover opera while baking?? Omg. I'd die. I treasure silence. It's so rare. For some reason today the fact that dh and I are basically alone on the childcare journey is really hurting me. I dropped dd1 at school and saw several grandparents walking kids to school and then I walked into work and saw another grandparent bringing a toddler into childcare and I just want to ask the parents if they have any idea how lucky they are. I hope they do. I think combined with reading a few articles about childcare costs and median incomes and how pressed the middle class is due to childcare it just set me off. I don't know why it needs to be this hard. Obviously we are choosing to have 4 kids in a state that has the 2nd highest home care rates in the country and I guess that's the consequence we pay. I just wish people got it. I honestly doubt the 3 grandparents we have who do t work have any idea that we spend what we spend on childcare.
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Post by lollipop on Sept 19, 2017 8:51:46 GMT -6
I need background noise/music. If I'm reading I have music going, or whatever the kids are watching on tv. If I'm cooking, I read and listen to music while I do it. Silence makes me anxious. I think hearing every little noise the house makes freaks me out, I always think someone is sneaking around or trying to get in, and as long as I can't hear the noises, I can be more rational and remember that there is no one sneaking around in my house, and the doors are locked, and we live in an extremely low crime neighbourhood.
I drove the neighbour girls to school today because it's pouring rain and freezing. I figure if I'm going that way anyway, why not make someone's day a little easier? M was thrilled. They kept talking to her, and when we parked and were waiting for it to be time to go in, they played with her, she loved the attention. If it's not raining later, S is going to walk home with them and their mom.
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Post by lollipop on Sept 19, 2017 8:53:39 GMT -6
dizzycooks I do realize how lucky we are to have family that's willing to watch our kids. We don't have anyone that could/would do full time for us, but we've never paid for a sitter for a date night. Daycare costs are the main reason I SAH.
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Post by scorpioscuba on Sept 19, 2017 9:08:42 GMT -6
H would prefer to have the tv on all the time. I either want it off (enjoying the silence) or I'll put music on while the kids are playing and I'm making dinner. Many many days I drive home from work in complete silence. It's the best.
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Post by lollipop on Sept 19, 2017 14:08:17 GMT -6
Remember how I said it was rainy and cold? Well when I left less than 2 hours later, it was snowing. Full on blizzard. 2 hours after that it was just drizzling and cold. Gotta love that Alberta weather 😂
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Post by kcrkcs on Sept 19, 2017 18:51:26 GMT -6
Remember how I said it was rainy and cold? Well when I left less than 2 hours later, it was snowing. Full on blizzard. 2 hours after that it was just drizzling and cold. Gotta love that Alberta weather 😂 Oh man you win. We get an early snow but not usually until the end of October. Not thank you to mid September! |
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Post by kcrkcs on Sept 19, 2017 18:52:39 GMT -6
L has learned how to undo her car seat harness. HALP!
Seriously though any words of wisdom? Saying no or stop is just fuel for the fire.
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Post by lollipop on Sept 19, 2017 20:24:01 GMT -6
Remember how I said it was rainy and cold? Well when I left less than 2 hours later, it was snowing. Full on blizzard. 2 hours after that it was just drizzling and cold. Gotta love that Alberta weather 😂 Oh man you win. We get an early snow but not usually until the end of October. Not thank you to mid September! I was not impressed. I opened the door to leave and just went WHAT. THE. FUCK. M laughed at me. And like I said, it didn't stick, but still, it's technically summer! As for L, can you put a hoodie or jacket on over her straps, maybe backwards? |
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Post by nellieoleson on Sept 19, 2017 21:43:54 GMT -6
L has learned how to undo her car seat harness. HALP! Seriously though any words of wisdom? Saying no or stop is just fuel for the fire. Oh dear. Here are some ideas... thecarseatlady.com/houdini/ |
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Post by dizzycooks on Sept 20, 2017 6:00:39 GMT -6
kcrkcs I've never had a kid do that this young, it sounds awful. I agree with lollipop is try wrapping something around it after it's buckled. I've heard of people velcroing a cover over the clip? That would be an invite for my kid to undo it, but maybe it would work? Honestly when my dads went through that stage they were a bit older and I'd bring the car to a screeching halt. Like scary fast stop and wait until they fixed their clip. It happened about two times and they finally stopped.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 20, 2017 9:54:49 GMT -6
scorpioscuba glad to see your update! glad you are feeling better. kcrkcs, wow! that is pretty amazing. sorry that is an issue though. hope you find something that works/ it's a short phase i had my bday this week  the actual day kind of sucked becuase i worked about 12 hours... wah. but i'm going to have a do-over and do some fun stuff with DD tomorrow. i planned to have lasik tomorrow but decided not go (chickened out). DH did great and got me a wonderful suprise bday present - a telescope. i'm really excited. DD has been asking to sit on the potty and then she wipes with tp and is so proud. it's really cute to see them emulating behavior and being so proud. she also tries to put diapers on her babies. melts my heart.
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the actual day kind of sucked becuase i worked about 12 hours... wah. but i'm going to have a do-over and do some fun stuff with DD tomorrow. i planned to have lasik tomorrow but decided not go (chickened out). DH did great and got me a wonderful suprise bday present - a telescope. i'm really excited.