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Post by waitwhat on Sept 15, 2017 18:09:05 GMT -6
dashook what did you decide to do tonight? Sleep or drink?
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on Sept 15, 2017 18:10:56 GMT -6
I don't know what to do with DS1.
He's still getting upset when it's time to go to school. I guess he spends the day crying off and on. He's only had 3 days of school, so I know it'll take time but now he's getting upset at the gym and grocery store play places when he never had issues before. MH took him to the store just now and he freaked out when he tried to take him to the playplace. I took him with me to the gym twice this week and both times he was really excited when we got there but when I went to pick him up he was crying. The lady both times said he cried off an on for the whole hour.
We have books about going to school, but I don't know if there's something we should be doing to help him transition easier? I just feel so bad for him.
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kleigh
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Post by kleigh on Sept 15, 2017 18:20:25 GMT -6
jubilantsquirrel I have no clue what I'm talking about but my first thought was to stay with him once or twice and then tell him that he can tell you when you can leave but only this time and then next time it's your turn to say when you have to leave. So like First time: "J were both gonna go to the playplace while daddy grocery shops ok" and do it while YH picks up something simple like milk and bread but next time mommy has to go Second time: "Ok J mommy will stay with you until you say I can go". He prob won't say you can go but maybe try and if he doesn't so be it, both leave together after a couple minutes Third time: "Ok J now it's mommy's turn to say when she has to go" and stay for a minute or two. Who knows if that would work but if you're at a loss I figured I'd throw out a suggestion. Make myself more useful than a blue cheese olive.
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Post by tgrimes on Sept 15, 2017 18:22:33 GMT -6
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Post by tgrimes on Sept 15, 2017 18:26:29 GMT -6
tgrimes it's Marlborough, from NZ. Really good. I can find it at most grocery stores and Target; Fresh Market carries it but charges several dollars more/bottle than the other places. Mmmm. I'm drinking oyster bay Sauvignon blanc from that region right now.
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Post by tgrimes on Sept 15, 2017 18:29:51 GMT -6
I can't deal with this cheese hate. Y'all must not like it because you haven't paired the correct red wine with it. One of my favorite things to do is try new cheeses with different red wines. Take a bite of cheese and before you swallow it you sip a bit of red. The two combinations can be amazing. I...uh... I don't like red wine...
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Post by tjanca22 on Sept 15, 2017 18:30:03 GMT -6
jubilantsquirrel I'm sorry this is rough on him, just remember it's a phase and it will pass. E has had some rough dropoffs lately and what we've been doing is just talking it up big time. Like super excited and super positive about how he's going to have a TON of fun. "Buddy you're going to get to play with the big ball and you get to see your friends and play basketball. Doesn't that sound soooo cool?!" He still cries when we had him off, but I always keep dropoffs short or else I think it confuses them. He gets one hug, one kiss and then I walk out crying or not.
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Post by tgrimes on Sept 15, 2017 18:34:14 GMT -6
Now a days it's wine. Pre dating MH, I pretty much only drank vodka. #dancerdiet He's the one that turned me on to wine...and food in general. lol. When we go out, I love a good martini pre dinner though. red or white? Both. But it depends on the time of year too. If it's hot then it's usually a white but if we're eating pasta, steak or lamb for dinner it will be red. I don't care for most merlots and I don't like Riesling.
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Post by Cheshie6 on Sept 15, 2017 19:04:19 GMT -6
Fffc: I don't like blue cheese!
Plus one to trying cheese and wine, chocolate and wine pairings!
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Post by danib on Sept 15, 2017 19:06:28 GMT -6
jubilantsquirrel C had a really hard time when he first started going to daycare. He would cry so hard. It took a few weeks for him to finally settle in. Even then he would still have days where he would cry at drop off. They just reassured him that I would be back and did their best to distract him.
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Post by starbuck on Sept 15, 2017 19:16:22 GMT -6
Guys. MH asked me if I wanted to have relations tonight.
I said nothing about the word relations makes me want to have relations.
So then he asked if we could "be intimate."
I asked if I was allowed to show ankle. I think I felt my vagina try to crawl into my body after these questions. The phrasing just makes me think of sex with clothes on. I was actually contemplating on my own but that was such a turn off...
Like can you try not to be so damn polite about wanting to bang.
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Post by starbuck on Sept 15, 2017 19:21:00 GMT -6
Anyways, I hooked up to my breast pump.
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Post by hangry on Sept 15, 2017 19:34:00 GMT -6
I can't deal with this cheese hate. Y'all must not like it because you haven't paired the correct red wine with it. One of my favorite things to do is try new cheeses with different red wines. Take a bite of cheese and before you swallow it you sip a bit of red. The two combinations can be amazing. I love cheese. Just not blue. I love a good cheese and chocolate pairing with red wine. ^^ This.
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Sept 15, 2017 19:38:13 GMT -6
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Post by dashook on Sept 15, 2017 19:38:13 GMT -6
Remember when you could just go out whenever you felt like it? No planning involved. No babysitters needed. No.
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Post by hangry on Sept 15, 2017 19:39:36 GMT -6
Omg starbuck, I laughed because I just asked H yesterday if he wanted to get back on the "wagon" this weekend. It's been... a while. Maybe I should have gone with something more direct?
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Post by dashook on Sept 15, 2017 19:40:40 GMT -6
dashook what did you decide to do tonight? Sleep or drink? I'm sure this surprises no one. And tgrimes Oyster Bay is my next bottle! It's chilling currently. I also really like Nobilo for an affordable sauv blanc.
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Post by tgrimes on Sept 15, 2017 19:43:49 GMT -6
dashook what did you decide to do tonight? Sleep or drink? I'm sure this surprises no one. And tgrimes Oyster Bay is my next bottle! It's chilling currently. I also really like Nobilo for an affordable sauv blanc. I had nobilo a couple days ago. It was okay but. It my favorite. My last 3 days of wine. My coworkers friend is collecting wine corks & wine bottles for her wedding decorations. I am her only supplier. I had an embarrassing amount of wine corks...
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Post by dashook on Sept 15, 2017 19:44:04 GMT -6
Guys. MH asked me if I wanted to have relations tonight. I said nothing about the word relations makes me want to have relations. So then he asked if we could "be intimate." I asked if I was allowed to show ankle. I think I felt my vagina try to crawl into my body after these questions. The phrasing just makes me think of sex with clothes on. I was actually contemplating on my own but that was such a turn off... Like can you try not to be so damn polite about wanting to bang. I'm dying. MH's favorite is to ask me if I want to "do stuff." Well yes actually. I want to paint my nails, watch some TV, reread Harry Potter for the 900th time, change the Brita filter...that's stuff, right? FFS dude. I swear he had so much game when we met 🙄
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Post by starbuck on Sept 15, 2017 19:51:31 GMT -6
Guys. MH asked me if I wanted to have relations tonight. I said nothing about the word relations makes me want to have relations. So then he asked if we could "be intimate." I asked if I was allowed to show ankle. I think I felt my vagina try to crawl into my body after these questions. The phrasing just makes me think of sex with clothes on. I was actually contemplating on my own but that was such a turn off... Like can you try not to be so damn polite about wanting to bang. I'm dying. MH's favorite is to ask me if I want to "do stuff." Well yes actually. I want to paint my nails, watch some TV, reread Harry Potter for the 900th time, change the Brita filter...that's stuff, right? FFS dude. I swear he had so much game when we met 🙄 MH has never had game. Ever. And i kind of like that because it makes the thought of him stepping out hilarious. But I'd take a "wanna do it?" Over this prim and proper way of asking.
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Post by tgrimes on Sept 15, 2017 20:01:43 GMT -6
I'm dying. MH's favorite is to ask me if I want to "do stuff." Well yes actually. I want to paint my nails, watch some TV, reread Harry Potter for the 900th time, change the Brita filter...that's stuff, right? FFS dude. I swear he had so much game when we met 🙄 MH has never had game. Ever. And i kind of like that because it makes the thought of him stepping out hilarious. But I'd take a "wanna do it?" Over this prim and proper way of asking. MH just says, "it's been awhile since we did it." I say, "Try again tomorrow. It's after 10."
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Post by dashook on Sept 15, 2017 20:01:52 GMT -6
I'm dying. MH's favorite is to ask me if I want to "do stuff." Well yes actually. I want to paint my nails, watch some TV, reread Harry Potter for the 900th time, change the Brita filter...that's stuff, right? FFS dude. I swear he had so much game when we met 🙄 MH has never had game. Ever. And i kind of like that because it makes the thought of him stepping out hilarious. But I'd take a "wanna do it?" Over this prim and proper way of asking. So this is probably classic private board stuff but MH was actually a legendary player when we met. His last name (now mine, ha) was a verb, as in, you could get [H]'d. Thing is, when we met, I was similar so we were kind of a perfect fucked up match, until we realized we actually really liked each other and both retired from the hot slutty mess lifestyle in order to be together 😁 And apparently it was at that moment that he lost all of his game entirely lol
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on Sept 15, 2017 20:04:35 GMT -6
Thank you kleigh, tjanca22 and danib! I'm hoping it passes quickly. We talk about school everyday and each night he'll ask "school tomorrow?" I think he wants to go but he's just having a hard time with the separation. kleigh, that's a good idea. Parents aren't allowed in the play area, but maybe I can just hang out in the front so he can still see me. tjanca22, MH does drop off, he said that it's hard to just drop and go because the door is open so DS just runs out after him. He has to wait for the teacher to come over and hold him so MH can leave. danib, I figured it would take a little bit of time, especially since we're only going 2 days a week. I just feel bad for him.
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Post by dashook on Sept 15, 2017 20:04:53 GMT -6
Btw I'm way too far behind to join the Parenting drinking thread at this point so you guys will have to deal with my drunk ramblings. It's still another hour til H's friends arrive.
I wondered for half a second if I should put on something nicer than a Patriots t-shirt and NYU gym shorts I've had since college. But then I was like, um no, I'm hosting (in not-my-house), fuck em if they don't like it.
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on Sept 15, 2017 20:05:44 GMT -6
I'm dying. MH's favorite is to ask me if I want to "do stuff." Well yes actually. I want to paint my nails, watch some TV, reread Harry Potter for the 900th time, change the Brita filter...that's stuff, right? FFS dude. I swear he had so much game when we met 🙄 MH has never had game. Ever. And i kind of like that because it makes the thought of him stepping out hilarious. But I'd take a "wanna do it?" Over this prim and proper way of asking. YH is cracking me up! MH has no game either and often says "wanna do it". He also has a way with words that just make my panties drop.
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Post by dashook on Sept 15, 2017 20:08:20 GMT -6
Welcome. Get on my level.
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Post by dashook on Sept 15, 2017 20:09:08 GMT -6
^Hm. On second thought, a little makeup couldn't hurt.
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Post by goldenlove on Sept 15, 2017 20:14:16 GMT -6
I'm dying starbuck! H doesn't even ask. He just rubs my back in an annoying way for way too long. It's like.. I know what you're trying to do dude, just get on with it.
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Post by goldenlove on Sept 15, 2017 20:15:05 GMT -6
I had one beer and I'm about to pass out. We're going out tomorrow night. I don't know how I'm going to make it past 10pm.
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Post by flamingo on Sept 15, 2017 20:22:15 GMT -6
I don't know what to do with DS1. He's still getting upset when it's time to go to school. I guess he spends the day crying off and on. He's only had 3 days of school, so I know it'll take time but now he's getting upset at the gym and grocery store play places when he never had issues before. MH took him to the store just now and he freaked out when he tried to take him to the playplace. I took him with me to the gym twice this week and both times he was really excited when we got there but when I went to pick him up he was crying. The lady both times said he cried off an on for the whole hour. We have books about going to school, but I don't know if there's something we should be doing to help him transition easier? I just feel so bad for him. The Kissing Hand is a nice little book. I agree with others about keeping drop-off short, sweet and to the point. Lingering makes it way worse. The teacher should move in quickly to comfort and help distract him (I remember B's first teacher kept a thing of bubbles handy and that worked well with a lot of the kids). Does he have a lovey he can take for a bit? B's first teacher would let him sip water when he got upset during the day and cuddle his Guff for a minute. Really, the first few weeks are the worst. It took B a good month or two that first year (going 2 mornings/week) to get comfortable. I know it's tough to leave them crying and to hear they're a bit homesick during the day, but I promise it gets better.
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Post by flamingo on Sept 15, 2017 20:24:23 GMT -6
MH has never had game. Ever. And i kind of like that because it makes the thought of him stepping out hilarious. But I'd take a "wanna do it?" Over this prim and proper way of asking. MH just says, "it's been awhile since we did it." I say, "Try again tomorrow. It's after 10." 10 is the magic number around here, too. I'm the worst; if I'm not in the mood, I will just get super silly and bust out laughing at random stuff, and there's no going back. The other night DH was trying to put the moves on and I was being ridiculous and he was like, "Wow, I'm *so* turned on right now. What are you going to do next?" (<--sarcasm). And then I accidentally drooled on him. Whatever mood might have been left, was killed.
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