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Post by benandjerrys on Sept 14, 2017 7:19:24 GMT -6
I posted a long time ago about taking a vacation with friends of ours who recently had a late term loss and are not pregnant again (as far as I know). I'm imagining they are having trouble since they implied they were going to try again right away.
Anyway we leave tonight for a week with them. Besides not bringing up the pregnancy, what else should I do or not do? Should I be worried about anything my two year old might do triggering her? What do I do if she keeps bringing the pregnancy up?
Other advice?
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bassa
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Post by bassa on Sept 14, 2017 8:04:47 GMT -6
Others may have better advice, but if I were you I wouldn't overthink it. Just (as you said) don't bring it up, and follow her lead if she wants to talk about things.
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aprilz81
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Post by aprilz81 on Sept 14, 2017 8:19:05 GMT -6
I would just take your cues from her. Try to avoid bringing up your pregnancy, if she wants to talk and ask questions participate in the conversation as much as you are comfortable doing so.
There is no point in worrying about your 2 year old triggering her, because NOTHING you do is going to stop a 2 year old from doing/saying what he/she feels like doing or saying.
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sarahh
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Post by sarahh on Sept 14, 2017 8:47:39 GMT -6
I agree with the others. Don't overthink it and I'm sure it will be fine. If she wants to talk about it, great, if not, don't force the issue and definitely don't ask if they are TTC. I got a lot of that after my last miscarriage but mostly from people that didn't know and it was hard to come up with the right response.
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Post by smores on Sept 14, 2017 10:13:08 GMT -6
I wouldn't worry about your 2 y/o being a trigger, mostly because there's really nothing you could do to mitigate that.
I will also just be an echo chamber to PP and recommend following her lead in bringing up your current pregnancy. I had a best friend get pregnant a month after my loss. When I felt strong on good days I would ask her about how her pregnancy was going because I truly was happy for her and wanted to know. So don't feel bad answering if she brings it up. On bad days, though, I appreciated that she was never the first introduce the topic. Also, I would just be a little... gentle, I guess... with your wording of things when she does ask. For instance, if she asks how your feeling and you happen to be feeling like shit that day (nausea, RLP, etc.) I wouldn't go into detail complaining. I mean, of course be honest, but I would definitely gloss over details of your "bad" symptoms and such. KWIM?
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