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Post by vvvvvfee on Aug 24, 2017 8:14:14 GMT -6
For the purposes of this check-in, we will define extended breastfeeding as breastfeeding beyond 1 year. Questions are repeated and suggestions are appreciated! 1. How old is your LO? 2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? 3. Have you had to give up any foods while nursing due to allergies in your LO? 4. Does the thought of weaning make you sad or would it be a relief? Or somewhere in between? Pregnant & BFing Moms: How are you doing this week? Any issues with supply, pain, aversion? Questions for other moms? Tandem Nursing Moms: How are you doing this week? Any current challenges? Questions for other moms? Non-BFing question of the week: What fun summer activities are you trying to fit in before the end of the season?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2017 11:28:36 GMT -6
Almost 20 months - 2-5 during day and overnight. -nope -all kinds of sads.. I try not to think about it. I'm delaying ttc because of it. - pool time. We are going to play in a creek with a friend Friday. Looking forward to it.
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Post by vvvvvfee on Aug 24, 2017 11:52:17 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? 2 2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? 3 3. Have you had to give up any foods while nursing due to allergies in your LO? No 4. Does the thought of weaning make you sad or would it be a relief? Or somewhere in between? I am kinda over it, TBH. I don't want to take it away from DS2 since he still enjoys it... but I wonder if he would sleep later if he didn't cry to nurse first thing in the morning. I wonder if I should try to cut out nursing before bed because he's not super-enthusiastic about nursing at that time, anyway. I have to pay more attention to where I'm the one initiating it out of habit or if he is- I think most nights it's me.
Non-BFing question of the week: What fun summer activities are you trying to fit in before the end of the season? I'd like to get DS1 to the pool a few more times to practice swimming, but the weather here is supposed to be on the cooler side for the next couple of weeks, so that may be a no-go. We want to take DS1 to a small church fair so he can go on rides. And we've been enjoying going to the beach in the evenings on the weekend. We brought a picnic last weekend and I want to try to do that again.
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Post by sunfrogger on Aug 25, 2017 6:12:41 GMT -6
Hi all, I think this is my last check in here... But hopefully I'll be back once this new LO is born and turns 1! My DD is 21mo tomorrow. We nursed yesterday morning. Before that it had been two days. She doesn't ask often for it and I'm not offering. She goes to bed just fine without nursing for me now. I think this is the end of our journey I gave up most exposure to peanut and have just avoided my DDs other potential allergies. I am in between on weaning. I think because I am pg and the latch is really, really painful I feel a little relieved. But I have a lot of feelings about it too. I sobbed yesterday morning over it and so when my DD asked for milk I gladly obliged. I have lots of feels. I'm sure being pg doesn't help that either. I also really want to thank you ladies for all of your support through our journey. I don't know where I'd be without your support especially through extended nursing and weaning. Love and luck to you all through the rest of your journeys ❤️❤️❤️
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Post by melody330 on Aug 25, 2017 6:26:45 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? 13 months
2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? Anywhere from 2-5. I'm starting work again next week so I have a feeling that number will go down
3. Have you had to give up any foods while nursing due to allergies in your LO? Nope
4. Does the thought of weaning make you sad or would it be a relief? Or somewhere in between? This is most likely my last baby, so I think I'll be more sad. However, if he's anything like his brother we will have at least a year left of BFing.
Non-BFing question of the week: What fun summer activities are you trying to fit in before the end of the season? We did A few theme parks this week. Next week is the last week of break so I'm sure we will be at the beach everyday.
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Post by vvvvvfee on Aug 25, 2017 8:23:05 GMT -6
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Post by valiente on Aug 25, 2017 8:28:30 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? 3 and 1.5 2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? 3x 3. Have you had to give up any foods while nursing due to allergies in your LO? No 4. Does the thought of weaning make you sad or would it be a relief? Or somewhere in between? Somewhere in between. It makes me sad to lose the closeness but I can appreciate their growing up.
Tandem Nursing Moms: How are you doing this week? Any current challenges? Questions for other moms? Doing good! I had a weird convo last night where a wife of a coworker 'disclosed' to me that she BF for 9mos. So I opened up that I extended BF both of mine. And then she asked until how old and then I got "but, teeth" "but the big one is taking the little one's milk" "I could never do that. Poor you" and on... Dang, thought I may have found an IRL BFing friend. By the end I was like, "My kids are 1.5 and 3, sitting right over there. They're fine. I'm fine."
Non-BFing question of the week: What fun summer activities are you trying to fit in before the end of the season? BBQs!
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Post by vvvvvfee on Aug 25, 2017 9:04:34 GMT -6
omg valiente , how did you stop yourself from rolling your eyes right in front of her.
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Post by zyna on Aug 25, 2017 9:27:32 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? 2
2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? 2, more on weekends
3. Have you had to give up any foods while nursing due to allergies in your LO? No
4. Does the thought of weaning make you sad or would it be a relief? Or somewhere in between? At this point it will be a relief. We've had a lovely journey, but I feel like my own feelings towards nursing are starting to lean towards more negative than positive. I really want to wean but don't know how to do it without it being a huge battle. My LO loves nursing, and gets really upset when I turn her down or try to end a session too early. I've had some success recently saying "you can have milk later" when she asks for it outside of our usual times of first thing in the morning or right after work, but I'm not sure how I'm going to drop either of those sessions, or which one to tackle first. The morning one is the one that bothers me the most, so maybe we will work on that somehow.
Non-BFing question of the week: What fun summer activities are you trying to fit in before the end of the season? I'd like to go to the beach some more and it would be fun to go camping, but nights are starting to get cold so I don't think we will get around to that this year.
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Post by vvvvvfee on Aug 25, 2017 9:49:37 GMT -6
zyna, there are some good tips here: 8 tips for breastfeeding with boundariesif you're trying to cut a session, pick the one that your DD is least attached to (my DS2 is definitely most attached to the after-work one). i'd either try counting up to a certain number or singing a particular song and then say you're done. if she protests this, i'd try to add in a substitute activity- like she gets warm WCM with honey or another snack, or you cuddle for a few minutes, or read a book. then hopefully you can transition away from the nursing part and just do the substitute activity at the time when she'd normally be nursing. once she's adjusted to dropping the first session, then i'd wait a little while and begin the same process with the 2nd session. for the morning session, if you are going in to get her when she wakes, you could send your SO in instead and make that the new routine-- that she just immediately goes downstairs and has breakfast or goes to play or whatever.
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Post by valiente on Aug 25, 2017 9:53:13 GMT -6
omg valiente , how did you stop yourself from rolling your eyes right in front of her. It was really really hard. She's possibly going to have more in the future so I was trying to stay positive and educate a bit. I really wanted to tell her, "Your kid is 11mos and mine are 3 and 1.5. And you think you know better how to raise my babies? Come back in a couple years and I'll finish this conversation with you."
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Post by Deleted on Aug 25, 2017 13:58:35 GMT -6
sunfroggerCongrats on your journey! You are awesome!
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Post by lily on Aug 25, 2017 19:48:08 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? - almost 2.5 years
2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? - 2-4
3. Have you had to give up any foods while nursing due to allergies in your LO? - nope. His first month or so he would make faces at me if I ate raw jalapeño, which was kinda funny cause that was the only food that made me vomit the last month of pregnancy.
4. Does the thought of weaning make you sad or would it be a relief? Or somewhere in between? - I realized today I can't remember the last time DS asked to nurse randomly during the day (as opposed to his typical wake up / pre nap / post nap / bedtime.) In a way I'm glad because it seems his actual first move toward self weaning, but on the other hand... that sweet, conversational type nursing session; that check in how ya doing type nursing session; that I'm overwhelmed help me momma type nursing session... I'm a little sad if that truly is over.
Non-BFing question of the week: What fun summer activities are you trying to fit in before the end of the season? - as many trips to the lake as possible
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Post by lily on Aug 25, 2017 19:51:32 GMT -6
sunfrogger congrats on 21 months! See you in the Newborn Check in when the new LO arrives <3 valiente ughhh sorry the conversation ended up going that direction. 🙄
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Post by valiente on Aug 25, 2017 20:10:42 GMT -6
I love what you wrote in response to the weaning question, lily. It really speaks to me.
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Post by valiente on Aug 25, 2017 20:16:02 GMT -6
Dear diary, I sent the kids home from the BBQ without nursing and then nursed only DD in the morning because I was exhausted and MH let me sleep in. And tonight no one asked. I'm getting... feelings...I'm going to be a leaky mess by morning.
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Post by LED on Aug 25, 2017 23:35:15 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? 15 months
2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? 10+
3. Have you had to give up any foods while nursing due to allergies in your LO? Nope, just meds.
4. Does the thought of weaning make you sad or would it be a relief? Or somewhere in between? Somewhere in between. I've just recently started thinking about maybe possibly kind of maybe trying to wean. My goal was to get through this winter and let her self wean, but I don't know.
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Post by sunfrogger on Aug 26, 2017 14:52:17 GMT -6
sunfrogger congrats on 21 months! See you in the Newborn Check in when the new LO arrives <3 valiente ughhh sorry the conversation ended up going that direction. 🙄 I will certainly be there! And hopefully full of help this time
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Post by tomato on Aug 27, 2017 5:18:04 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? 12 months
2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? ~6
3. Have you had to give up any foods while nursing due to allergies in your LO? I gave up milk and soy for a while to help with the terrible gas DD had. She gets them now but I limit her dairy because it makes her constipated. I'm reluctant to introduce WCM for that reason.
4. Does the thought of weaning make you sad or would it be a relief? Or somewhere in between? Mostly sad. I don't really have anyone around me that is supportive of extended breastfeeding so I'm feeling a lot of pressure to wean now. I hear a lot about how I need to night wean her so she'll sleep better, she doesn't need to eat at night, it's bad for her teeth. And how I need to leave her more so she'll be more independent so I should stop nursing. DH also really wants me to night wean and really wants us to go out more without DD. His mom has been trying to get me to let her take DD overnight for a long time and he's annoyed that I won't let her. I would love to let her self-wean but I know I will end up encouraging DD to nurse less because I can't deal with all the pressure to wean. I caved to all the pressure to sleep train and I still have mixed feelings about it.
Non-BFing question of the week: What fun summer activities are you trying to fit in before the end of the season? I want to get some more beach days in and I want to take DD camping in the mountains before it gets too cold at night.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 27, 2017 19:37:56 GMT -6
tomato hello! You can find support here! I still nurse dd at night (20 months) and it works for us. I know all the comments are hard to hear, I get them some too, but you can't let it bug you. Do what feels right for you and your family. We still nurse often and it's great for us. You are doing a great job!
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Post by lily on Aug 28, 2017 7:31:58 GMT -6
tomato all that weaning pressure from people you love & trust is awful. I'm sorry. I don't understand this need to rush away the baby days our culture seems to have. This group of ladies is amazing support. It is so reassuring to not feel alone. I also strongly recommend finding your local La Leche League. Thankfully DS and I had a pretty easy time BF so I didn't even start to go to meetings until he was almost 1, and then I went because I was feeling really alone. Never knew anyone who'd nursed longer than six months. Even if meetings can't work into your schedule, a phone call with your Leader can be nearly therapeutic.
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Post by jewels on Aug 28, 2017 11:07:22 GMT -6
Hey guys - I have posted a few times here but never joined in on the check ins. I've reached a year so thought I would join...
1. How old is your LO? 12.5 months 2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? 2 - just morning and night. Sometimes if I am going to be out at night on a weekend I'll nurse in the afternoon so he gets the same amount. 3. Have you had to give up any foods while nursing due to allergies in your LO? no 4. Does the thought of weaning make you sad or would it be a relief? Or somewhere in between? Somewhere in between. This is 100% my last baby so I'll never do it again. With my first I only nursed for 11 months, so this is unchartered territory for us. I'm happy that I'm not as "tied" to home, and if I'm out he can just have a snack, but sad that this whole experience is coming to an end. He doesn't really ever ask for it, and is fine when we've skipped, so it's really up to me now, how long I want to keep going.
Non-BFing question of the week: What fun summer activities are you trying to fit in before the end of the season? I want to do something fun with my older son (3.5). I feel like the summer flew by and we didn't do anything out of the ordinary. There's a little amusement park/water park about an hour away that's geared towards preschoolers so I might try that.
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Post by Dramaphile on Aug 28, 2017 13:50:08 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? 21 months old 2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? 2 on weeknights, 3+ on weekends. Mostly when I get home from work and at bedtime, and on the weekend mornings. 3. Have you had to give up any foods while nursing due to allergies in your LO? Nope, I eat what I want. Probably wouldn't have lasted as long if I had to deal with giving up foods. 4. Does the thought of weaning make you sad or would it be a relief? Or somewhere in between? I guess somewhere in between. I'm seriously thinking about starting the weaning process. I've been nursing her to sleep if she wakes MOTN because it's so much quicker, but as of last night, I'm cutting out any nursing after bedtime. Last night I went in twice when she woke and cuddled her and she did finally go to sleep after some fussing. Hopefully it will get better over time. We're probably going to TFAS at the end of the year, and I'd like to have my body back for at least a little while before I get pregnant again. Cutting out the bedtime nursing is going to be the hardest, she's very attached to her milk before book time.
Non-BFing question of the week: What fun summer activities are you trying to fit in before the end of the season? We need to use our pool more, and get a sprinkler for Nugget, she loves when I spray her with the hose. We've been doing a lot this summer, so I'm happy to stay home and enjoy the backyard.
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Post by sunfrogger on Aug 28, 2017 17:18:21 GMT -6
tomato I found a lot of support for extended bf here. Really. They are hard to hear but you just have to power thru. Hugs.
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Post by tomato on Aug 28, 2017 18:06:09 GMT -6
Thanks for the encouragement. The hardest part is not having DH completely on board. It creates a lot of tension between us especially on nights she wakes up a lot.
I thought about going to some kind of breastfeeding group but I was worried that it would be all moms with tiny babies.
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Post by vvvvvfee on Aug 29, 2017 8:38:19 GMT -6
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Post by jewel on Aug 29, 2017 10:15:07 GMT -6
I think this maybe my last check in as well. Will see you back in the newborn check in in 30 weeks or so!
1. How old is your LO? 18 months 2. How many times per day does your LO nurse? 0-1 3. Have you had to give up any foods while nursing due to allergies in your LO? No 4. Does the thought of weaning make you sad or would it be a relief? Or somewhere in between? Mostly relief but I am a little sad. Getting down to 2x a day was so hard but going down from there to 0 has really been very easy and LO seems pretty ready for it as well, although I definitely feel like I steered her towards weaning, I just let her close us out, I guess. It's a relief to not always have to do naps and bedtime, and so far she still seems fairly attached to me, so all in I think we were ready. I am really proud to have made it 18 months!
Pregnant & BFing Moms: How are you doing this week? Any issues with supply, pain, aversion? Questions for other moms? I started having a lot of bleeding problems with my one nipple and that I think kinda sealed the end deal for us. My milk is almost dry as well between pregnancy hormones and that we were only nursing one side once a day (meaning each boob only got used every other day)
Non-BFing question of the week: What fun summer activities are you trying to fit in before the end of the season? I kinda feel like summer is no where near over here since it will be hot probably through November and we aren't in school. But can't wait for it to cool down a bit so we can get back outside!
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Post by byjove on Aug 30, 2017 8:11:00 GMT -6
1. 20 months 2. A lot 3. YES!! My LO has a rare type of food allergy called FPIES. She's reacted through breastmilk since birth and I started a elimination diet at a few weeks old and moved on to a modified TED. At 1 month old she vomited to shock (unresponsive) 2x. I've been able to add back a few things to my diet that she can't tolerate directly, but the long list is: dairy, soy, eggs, beef, wheat/gluten, rice (also tested IgE pos. allergy for this at one point too), oats, corn, fish, shellfish, peanuts, beans/legumes/lentils/peas/green beans. It has been no small feat. 4. Heavier on relief, but mixed feelings for sure. Because of the limited diet of my LO and her picky eating, I know BFing is still really important for her. But she has wanted to nurse so much and is so clingy (2 yo molars are half way in), that I am touched out and just want space and sleep.
QOTW: we just got back from our big summer vacation so it feels like we've done everything. One more trip to the pool if the hot weather stays!
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Post by tomato on Aug 30, 2017 13:28:19 GMT -6
I don't really want to night wean, but I wouldn't mind if she woke up less at night. Everyone keeps telling me it's my fault she still wakes up because I let her eat at night so I feel guilty about not wanting to wean.
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Post by vvvvvfee on Aug 30, 2017 13:53:46 GMT -6
tomato, you can use the dr. jay gordon night weaning method (linked above) to reduce the amount of night wakings- pick which night feeding you want to keep and then work to eliminate the rest.
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