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Post by charlotte on Aug 10, 2017 9:23:35 GMT -6
How are you, really?
What's something going on your life that's really positive? What's the one thing dragging you down?
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Post by charlotte on Aug 10, 2017 9:28:04 GMT -6
The good: DS is talking more and more, and saying the sweetest things. I want to squeeze him! I also started a new job last week which provide me with some more $ and work experience but...
The bad: I have cried basically every day since I started and I feel really down about it. I think it's just that feeling of being the new person and not doing anything quite right. I've been feeling self-conscious and flustered since I started, which is causing more mistakes. I'm sure it'll get better within the next few weeks.
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Post by stringy on Aug 10, 2017 10:23:26 GMT -6
Good: my sister and her family are coming for a visit this weekend. Bad: caring for twins is HARD and I'm feeling anxious and on edge and not like myself. I feel like nobody in this house is handling the transition to a family of 5 well. Hugs Willy. Seriously I'm still adjusting to the addition of one baby -14mnths later. Also anxious. Just the other Day M said hey remember before P was in our family when we used to x and y!? Sorry we ruined your life kid. Ask for help when you need it. Both practically and like, mentally.
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Post by stringy on Aug 10, 2017 10:24:26 GMT -6
Similar to Willy: bad- anxiety.
Good: actually getting help. Also "vacation" again next week.
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Post by milano on Aug 10, 2017 10:52:09 GMT -6
First of all, I have to give creepy internet hugs to all 3 of you stringy charlotte and @willyh19. EtA: I mean @criscosalad, old habits.
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Post by piccyami on Aug 10, 2017 11:00:49 GMT -6
Good: my sister and her family are coming for a visit this weekend. Bad: caring for twins is HARD and I'm feeling anxious and on edge and not like myself. I feel like nobody in this house is handling the transition to a family of 5 well. Hugs, twins are HARD. You can do it. Ask for help. It gets better. The early days were hard, but it does get better. And talk to your doctor about the anxiety. I waited until they were almost 8 months before I said anything. I started meds, and things are so much better for me.
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Post by milano on Aug 10, 2017 11:04:26 GMT -6
Good: My kids. J is hilarious. I get so much joy out of talking to him and doing stuff with him, I just love the little person he is turning into. His imagination is amazing and I love watching him play. And M is such a pleasant little meatball and I love snuggling on her all day. Watching the two of them interact makes my heart explode constantly. Except when J is rough and makes her cry, that makes my head explode. But that doesn't belong in the Good section.
Bad: MH's schedule keeps having these pockets of craziness where he is gone like all the time and he is getting almost zero sleep for sometimes 48 hrs at a time so he is cranky and I get exhausted from being solo with the kids for days and days on end. And it's hard on J not seeing him regularly. And then we bicker about stupid things. It's just really effing hard lately. I wish I could just take off and go to my parents or something during these longer stretches of call but then I have to take the dogs with me and it just makes it a stressful fiasco since the one is 170 lb and so I can't go anywhere and then I feel like I resent the dogs and MH because I'm stuck here. Which isn't fair to them.
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Post by piccyami on Aug 10, 2017 11:04:52 GMT -6
Good: I'm so glad I started a new job. It's so much better to be autonomous and go to work on my own. Z is making huge strides right now.
The bad: My sister checked herself into the psych ward on Tuesday, and we had no idea until the middle of the day, after she missed a custody hearing because her husband wants a divorce. She's supposed to be getting out today with supervision and on new meds, so we're all pretty worried about how she's going to handle things.
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Post by pbandj714 on Aug 10, 2017 11:04:53 GMT -6
Good: The kiddos are relatively easy to handle these days. There are of course good and bad days, but I feel like we have a really good rhythm right now and they're showing so much development. I'm amazed every day.
Bad: I'm really behind at work. And then my anxiety about being behind turns me into a scatterbrain or I'll just sit and stare at the computer screen freaking out about how much I have to do instead of actually doing it. It's a vicious cycle that I need to get out of like yesterday.
@criscosalad, twins ARE hard. No doubt about it. And I'm sure it sounds so cliche, but seriously. It gets so much easier. I swear. Twins will always make simple things like going out to the store or solo bedtime or even dinner more challenging, but it will continue to get easier than it is right now. Hang in there.
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Post by Dramaphile on Aug 10, 2017 11:30:52 GMT -6
The Good: Going to visit my In-Laws this weekend to celebrate their 25th anniversary (J's dad and step-mom who he calls Mom). I'm looking forward to seeing my nephews and I actually like hanging out at their house, which is usually pretty peaceful. And Nugget, for all her toddler brattiness, has been really sweet and cute at times. Last night we snuggled on the couch and watched part of Brave before she went to bed and she pointed out the Bear a million times and kept saying "Uh oh!" whenever there was danger. And when i put her to bed last night, after I nurse her and snuggled for a minute and put her in her crib, she said "thank you."
The Bad: Two days ago I found out that a friend and former president of our soccer organization was in an accident and ended up with a traumatic head injury. Last night his family shared that his injuries were too severe and they are taking him off life support today. I wasn't that close with him, but we chatted at events sometimes, and I have many friends from the group who were much closer who are mourning. Just feels really surreal. He was only in his early 40's, sucks that life is so short.
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Post by mathrun on Aug 10, 2017 11:36:08 GMT -6
Good: Things at work are going really well. I'm getting to use my skills and am learning a lot lately. At home D tests for his 2nd degree black belt in karate this weekend and then he's taking a break from that for a while. So no more running him to 2-3 classes a week!!
Bad: Dh and I are just not on the same page at all lately. We get along fine talking about the boys, but our visions of where we want to be 3-5 years from now are completely different. It's causing us both stress which is making things in our relationship even more strained. Gah marriage is so tough.
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Post by mc13 on Aug 10, 2017 11:51:37 GMT -6
Good: We are in such a good daily rhythm. I've reached a level of confidence that I'll now doing just about anything by myself with all 3 girls. Also, can't believe I'll have two 1 year olds in 2 weeks!
Bad: Inlaws/going on "vacation" with inlaws. Last weekend was so rough with them. They just don't get it. They think they're helping but in reality, they basically tell me what to do with my kids all day. It made me so overwhelmed I freaked out on everyone while waiting for the metro. DH tried to manage both sides but said things like I'm "too rigid" with the girls schedule and that I "don't know how to accept help with them." In reality, I don't want help with them and they need a schedule to function. I can handle them just fine by myself and +DH when he's not working. But he's also trying to make his parents and sister feel involved with the girls when they're just too young still. So frustrating.
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Post by stringy on Aug 10, 2017 11:53:56 GMT -6
pbandj714, that sounds like me at work. so overwhelmed I do nothing but read the politics thread. and then panic about nuclear war... charlotte, what your going through is a reason I'm too scared to try a new job. Sticking with what is comfortable. Except I'm sure in a month it will be better and you'll be loving it like piccyami, - just keep swimming.
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Post by charlotte on Aug 10, 2017 13:05:02 GMT -6
mc13 I can't believe they're about to be one. You've survived your first year with all three AND moved to a new house! I'm exhausted just thinking about it.
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Post by mc13 on Aug 10, 2017 14:36:42 GMT -6
mc13 I can't believe they're about to be one. You've survived your first year with all three AND moved to a new house! I'm exhausted just thinking about it. I can't tell if it's been the fastest or slowest year of my life. Basically, it's just been a blur.
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Post by brandiewine11 on Aug 10, 2017 19:23:04 GMT -6
This is my first week flying solo with 2 kids. It's hard, but better than I expected. R is awesome with T.
I'm struggling with the lack of connection with DH right now. I know it will get better but it sucks right now. And sometimes I want to strangle him. Tonight he got home at 7:30, didn't help at all with bedtime, and complained about being hungry and tired for the 5 minutes I asked him to hold T. Who had been screaming since 4pm. I held a crying t while putting r to bed. Then spent almost 90 minutes getting t to sleep.
I finally grabbed a glass of wine and head to the living room, hoping for a few minutes of adult conversation. What does he do? Gets up and goes to bed. WTF.
Oh, and did he bother to fold the laundry or clean up the kitchen? Nope.
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