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Post by allthekristys on Jun 14, 2024 17:15:17 GMT -6
Hi! For the first time in my life, I bought a dress way ahead of an event. I knew I had a black tie wedding this upcoming October. This past January I bought a dress for it. I just found out itโs an all-black black tie wedding ๐๐๐ I cannot return it as Macys return policy is only 30 days. The dress was expensive and I love it. But itโs purple. Has anyone ever attempted to dye a gown? Itโs 95% polyester and 5% spandex. Is this a stupid idea? Any tips on dying? What to use? How to handle all the different cuts and layers of the dress? Tell me your thoughts. Here are pics of the dress.
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Post by icedcoffee on Jun 14, 2024 17:40:57 GMT -6
I've never done it so I'm no help but I hope you can! I love it too
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Post by beenthere on Jun 14, 2024 17:42:06 GMT -6
Rit DyeMore synthetic graphite Wet it all the way through before you put it in the boiling dye
Long gloves and cheap tongs you can throw away but not plastic because boiling water
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Post by allthekristys on Jun 14, 2024 18:16:26 GMT -6
Rit DyeMore synthetic graphite Wet it all the way through before you put it in the boiling dye Long gloves and cheap tongs you can throw away but not plastic because boiling water Oh geez I didnโt realize boiling water, I need to find a pot big enough. Originally I was thinking of using like a tote but I canโt put boiling water into that.
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Post by origami on Jun 14, 2024 18:39:12 GMT -6
Rit DyeMore synthetic graphite Wet it all the way through before you put it in the boiling dye Long gloves and cheap tongs you can throw away but not plastic because boiling water Oh geez I didnโt realize boiling water, I need to find a pot big enough. Originally I was thinking of using like a tote but I canโt put boiling water into that. Goodwill near me usually has really big pots. Or you could put boiling water in your bathtub....but then your bathtub might turn black lol
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Post by beenthere on Jun 14, 2024 20:06:15 GMT -6
Oh geez I didnโt realize boiling water, I need to find a pot big enough. Originally I was thinking of using like a tote but I canโt put boiling water into that. Goodwill near me usually has really big pots. Or you could put boiling water in your bathtub....but then your bathtub might turn black lol I absolutely would not do this. If you can't find a big pot at goodwill, get a heavy duty Rubbermaid tub. Asian markets will usually have large pots for pho making as well if you have one near you.
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Post by lucilleaustero on Jun 14, 2024 21:37:23 GMT -6
Hey. Regular clothes dyer here. Black rit dy is meant to be used on light fabrics and often will not turn a non light base black. Your best bet is to use color theory. Using the color wheel, find the color opposite the color of your dress. The photo reads a our ly maroon so your best bet would be mixing a darker green/ yellow dye with the black.
You can also double the strength of black, but the red/ purple will not be completely cancelled out, but the darkness may make that a moot point.
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Post by sweptaway on Jun 15, 2024 5:07:44 GMT -6
Honestly I wouldn't mess with it if you love it. Wear it as is (I hate such explicit wedding dress codes and it's close enough to black. You won't be the only one) or resell it somewhere and buy a black dress.
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Post by allthekristys on Jun 15, 2024 7:00:04 GMT -6
Honestly I wouldn't mess with it if you love it. Wear it as is (I hate such explicit wedding dress codes and it's close enough to black. You won't be the only one) or resell it somewhere and buy a black dress. I def wonโt wear it as is. I wouldnโt dare not wear all black. I have thought about reselling it, or just keeping it and maybe being able to wear it at some point in the future. I just figured that dying it might help make it wearable, knowing it might not. This dress comes in black, I just wish I could exchange it ๐ซ Also, I might just go out and get a new one anyway. My gf needs to shop for a dress for herself so Iโll be going out anywaysโฆ
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Post by coconutbacon on Jun 15, 2024 7:54:50 GMT -6
Is the dress still in the store? It might be worth it to take it in and see if it could be exchanged, even though itโs past the 30 days. A lot of times managers can use their discretion with return policies. Since itโs clearly unworn and youโre looking to exchange not return, they may be willing. Especially if youโre there in the store and potentially will spend some additional money on accessories, another item, etc.
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Post by allthekristys on Jun 15, 2024 8:17:40 GMT -6
Is the dress still in the store? It might be worth it to take it in and see if it could be exchanged, even though itโs past the 30 days. A lot of times managers can use their discretion with return policies. Since itโs clearly unworn and youโre looking to exchange not return, they may be willing. Especially if youโre there in the store and potentially will spend some additional money on accessories, another item, etc. I tried already. They offered me an $80 paper check that would be sent in the mail that I could only use in the store. I opted to not do that. I still could go back and try that, I assume.
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Post by AmyG on Jun 15, 2024 9:09:58 GMT -6
I've had bad luck dying things not cotton. Of course the dye specifically for the fabric it's made of should give reasonable results I'm not sure reasonable is what you want here. I'd hate to ruin it
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Post by sweptaway on Jun 15, 2024 10:29:13 GMT -6
Honestly I wouldn't mess with it if you love it. Wear it as is (I hate such explicit wedding dress codes and it's close enough to black. You won't be the only one) or resell it somewhere and buy a black dress. I def wonโt wear it as is. I wouldnโt dare not wear all black. I have thought about reselling it, or just keeping it and maybe being able to wear it at some point in the future. I just figured that dying it might help make it wearable, knowing it might not. This dress comes in black, I just wish I could exchange it ๐ซ Also, I might just go out and get a new one anyway. My gf needs to shop for a dress for herself so Iโll be going out anywaysโฆ Have you tried actually going to the store and asking for an exchange? If the tags are still on you might get a sympathetic manager willing to bend policy especially if they still carry it
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Post by sweptaway on Jun 15, 2024 10:29:47 GMT -6
Oh I see. Sorry!
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Post by snowyowl on Jun 15, 2024 11:06:29 GMT -6
Honestly I wouldn't mess with it if you love it. Wear it as is (I hate such explicit wedding dress codes and it's close enough to black. You won't be the only one) or resell it somewhere and buy a black dress. I def wonโt wear it as is. I wouldnโt dare not wear all black. I have thought about reselling it, or just keeping it and maybe being able to wear it at some point in the future. I just figured that dying it might help make it wearable, knowing it might not. This dress comes in black, I just wish I could exchange it ๐ซ Also, I might just go out and get a new one anyway. My gf needs to shop for a dress for herself so Iโll be going out anywaysโฆ If keeping it and getting a different dress for the wedding is an option, I think you should. Thatโs a great color on you (Iโm a red-head with similar coloring and I LOVE that shade of purple with my hair).
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Post by brux on Jun 15, 2024 12:14:14 GMT -6
Is the dress still in the store? It might be worth it to take it in and see if it could be exchanged, even though itโs past the 30 days. A lot of times managers can use their discretion with return policies. Since itโs clearly unworn and youโre looking to exchange not return, they may be willing. Especially if youโre there in the store and potentially will spend some additional money on accessories, another item, etc. I tried already. They offered me an $80 paper check that would be sent in the mail that I could only use in the store. I opted to not do that. I still could go back and try that, I assume. i would try again in store, maybe at a different location. And explain the story and hopefully some kind worker will find a way to help you exchange it.
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Post by Yogurt on Jun 15, 2024 12:23:09 GMT -6
Ugh this is a very annoying situation to me. A wedding dress code like that would not make me happy.
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Post by Eagles on Jun 15, 2024 12:26:50 GMT -6
I'm spiteful so if someone told me that I had to wear a black gown as a guest, I'd roll up in blue or green. Or not go.
This is not helpful, I'm just an asshole.
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Post by Yogurt on Jun 15, 2024 12:44:40 GMT -6
I'm spiteful so if someone told me that I had to wear a black gown as a guest, I'd roll up in blue or green. Or not go. This is not helpful, I'm just an asshole. It just says "bridezilla" to me. I acknowledge that this is not the point of this post. Let people come celebrate without being so controlling
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Post by daisy on Jun 15, 2024 12:51:04 GMT -6
This situation kind of stinks, but I would save the dress for another event, and buy a different black dress. Iโd be too worried about the dye not coming out right. And also, itโs a really nice color as it is right now.
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Post by trueblue on Jun 15, 2024 13:22:24 GMT -6
Do you have any formal wear consignment/resale shops around? Maybe you could mitigate the financial hit by selling your dress and getting one in one transaction?
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Post by Wtfshouldmynamebe on Jun 15, 2024 15:30:01 GMT -6
I'm spiteful so if someone told me that I had to wear a black gown as a guest, I'd roll up in blue or green. Or not go. This is not helpful, I'm just an asshole. 100% chance people will wear other colors. And dresses with one color mixed with black.
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Post by Eagles on Jun 15, 2024 16:11:32 GMT -6
I'm spiteful so if someone told me that I had to wear a black gown as a guest, I'd roll up in blue or green. Or not go. This is not helpful, I'm just an asshole. It just says "bridezilla" to me. I acknowledge that this is not the point of this post. Let people come celebrate without being so controlling It's because they care more about their photos looking Pinterest worthy than their actual guests.
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Post by Bookshelves on Jun 15, 2024 16:32:11 GMT -6
Add a black pashmina or wrap, since itโs October, and call it a day!
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Post by roselab on Jun 16, 2024 6:31:00 GMT -6
I would definitely try taking it with you to the store, explaining the situation and asking to exchange it for the black version of the dress. If the store is close by, I would probably try multiple times with multiple cashiers if the 1st tells you no. I would no try dying the dress because the chance of it turning out badly and ruining the dress is high. If you don't have luck exchanging the dress, I would prob. wear something else and either try to sell the dress or save it for another occasion.
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Post by cricketnoise on Jun 16, 2024 14:45:48 GMT -6
If you absolutely adore it (and it IS really cute on you! You look great!), and depending on how much it was originally, you can spend the money to dye it professionally. I did that recently for something I didn't want to risk trying to home dye. www.alteriaonline.com/servicesMine was a few hundred dollars to dye. For me, worth it, because it was a custom dress and would have been twice as expensive to remake in the color I needed.
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Post by allthekristys on Jun 17, 2024 8:56:49 GMT -6
Thanks everyone!! I think I was talked into not dying this gown, keeping it and hoping I have somewhere to wear it to, eventually. And going out and finding a different gown.
While I wish I knew it was an all black black tie before buying this, it is what it is and I will most definitely NOT show up in anything other than all black. While I am sure there may be some people who don't abide by the dress code request, I really do think that, for the most part, people will abide by it. This wedding is more of an 'event' then a wedding really. I believe there are around 300 people attending. It is at a VERY fancy place and the family that is throwing the wedding is very known for being very elaborate in everything they do. No one invited expects anything less from them. So this makes total sense. The brides are just going with it for the most part. I am VERY excited for the wedding, and to be super dressed up, the night away, etc. I will circle back and show y'all what I end up with.
Now I will take some store recommendations...Macys and Nordstroms. Also small boutiques. Anyone have any other recs on places to check out for gowns? I am in the Philly area, so if you also are in this area and have boutique recs let me know!
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Post by beenthere on Jun 17, 2024 10:57:41 GMT -6
I support your plan of not dyeing it and just buying new. It sounds like a worthwhile event to buy a second new dress for. Maybe you and your wife need to plan a second fancy date night to wear the maroon ๐
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Post by microworm on Jun 17, 2024 12:14:34 GMT -6
It just says "bridezilla" to me. I acknowledge that this is not the point of this post. Let people come celebrate without being so controlling It's because they care more about their photos looking Pinterest worthy than their actual guests. I know it's not the point of the post but I just went through this. There was a "dress code palette" with a few colors which in the end I chose not to abide by and I was in good company. All black is easier but still annoying (to me).
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Post by angelashly on Jun 19, 2024 13:33:37 GMT -6
Thanks everyone!! I think I was talked into not dying this gown, keeping it and hoping I have somewhere to wear it to, eventually. And going out and finding a different gown. While I wish I knew it was an all black black tie before buying this, it is what it is and I will most definitely NOT show up in anything other than all black. While I am sure there may be some people who don't abide by the dress code request, I really do think that, for the most part, people will abide by it. This wedding is more of an 'event' then a wedding really. I believe there are around 300 people attending. It is at a VERY fancy place and the family that is throwing the wedding is very known for being very elaborate in everything they do. No one invited expects anything less from them. So this makes total sense. The brides are just going with it for the most part. I am VERY excited for the wedding, and to be super dressed up, the night away, etc. I will circle back and show y'all what I end up with. Now I will take some store recommendations...Macys and Nordstroms. Also small boutiques. Anyone have any other recs on places to check out for gowns? I am in the Philly area, so if you also are in this area and have boutique recs let me know! How about renting? Or lulus www.lulus.com/categories/2106_8241/black-tie-wedding-guest-dresses.html?c=114&subsite=bridal
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