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Post by gallagher on Jun 20, 2024 8:58:50 GMT -6
I know this isn't ethical but it will work...
Buy the same dress in black. Return it online and say they sent you the wrong color. Send back the purple. I could see if you wore the purple dress but just missing the 30 day window justifies this for me.
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Post by allthekristys on Jun 20, 2024 11:54:19 GMT -6
Thanks everyone!! I think I was talked into not dying this gown, keeping it and hoping I have somewhere to wear it to, eventually. And going out and finding a different gown. While I wish I knew it was an all black black tie before buying this, it is what it is and I will most definitely NOT show up in anything other than all black. While I am sure there may be some people who don't abide by the dress code request, I really do think that, for the most part, people will abide by it. This wedding is more of an 'event' then a wedding really. I believe there are around 300 people attending. It is at a VERY fancy place and the family that is throwing the wedding is very known for being very elaborate in everything they do. No one invited expects anything less from them. So this makes total sense. The brides are just going with it for the most part. I am VERY excited for the wedding, and to be super dressed up, the night away, etc. I will circle back and show y'all what I end up with. Now I will take some store recommendations...Macys and Nordstroms. Also small boutiques. Anyone have any other recs on places to check out for gowns? I am in the Philly area, so if you also are in this area and have boutique recs let me know! How about renting? Or lulus www.lulus.com/categories/2106_8241/black-tie-wedding-guest-dresses.html?c=114&subsite=bridalYeah I will consider RTR for sure. Thanks for the Lulus link, they have some cute stuff! |
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Post by allthekristys on Jun 20, 2024 11:55:33 GMT -6
I know this isn't ethical but it will work... Buy the same dress in black. Return it online and say they sent you the wrong color. Send back the purple. I could see if you wore the purple dress but just missing the 30 day window justifies this for me. Yeah I also thought about ordering the black and switching the tags....I just don't think I could do it.
30 day return policy is really not great, and I will keep that in mind with Macys in the future for sure.
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Post by AmyG on Jun 20, 2024 12:08:53 GMT -6
I know this isn't ethical but it will work... Buy the same dress in black. Return it online and say they sent you the wrong color. Send back the purple. I could see if you wore the purple dress but just missing the 30 day window justifies this for me. Yeah I also thought about ordering the black and switching the tags....I just don't think I could do it.
30 day return policy is really not great, and I will keep that in mind with Macys in the future for sure.
Just leave the tags on. They sent the wrong color in the box. Oops |
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Post by bearfootzcontinued on Jun 20, 2024 12:10:01 GMT -6
I know this isn't ethical but it will work... Buy the same dress in black. Return it online and say they sent you the wrong color. Send back the purple. I could see if you wore the purple dress but just missing the 30 day window justifies this for me. Yeah I also thought about ordering the black and switching the tags....I just don't think I could do it.
30 day return policy is really not great, and I will keep that in mind with Macys in the future for sure.
If there's an option still available in another color then I would for sure contact/go to the store to ask about exchange options. Good luck! |
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Post by allthekristys on Aug 15, 2024 6:17:35 GMT -6
Alright, so I’ve purchased another dress! Now I need help accessorizing. What shoes would you wear? Jewelry? Purse/bag? How would you get your hair done? I have some general ideas, but would love others input too!  |
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Post by piratecat on Aug 15, 2024 8:01:38 GMT -6
allthekristys, I'm no help but I love the dress and you look beautiful in it!
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Post by Sweetjane on Aug 15, 2024 9:05:57 GMT -6
Love the dress! I would do long soft curls swept to the side. (The shoulder opposite the bow)
Shoes, hot pink or emerald green come to mind. I have no idea why.
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Post by angelashly on Aug 15, 2024 9:19:48 GMT -6
I love the dress and honestly minimal jewelry I think. Maybe just a bracelet or something because I love the neckline alone
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Post by angelashly on Aug 15, 2024 9:20:15 GMT -6
Love the dress! I would do long soft curls swept to the side. (The shoulder opposite the bow) Shoes, hot pink or emerald green come to mind. I have no idea why. Yes a bright color with the black |
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Post by allthekristys on Aug 15, 2024 12:44:57 GMT -6
Love the dress! I would do long soft curls swept to the side. (The shoulder opposite the bow) Shoes, hot pink or emerald green come to mind. I have no idea why. Yes a bright color with the black While I do love the idea of a bright pop of color, it’s an all-black black-tie affair, so I’ll want to stick to black shoes. I feel like my shoes will be pretty hidden most of the time, so I might go more for utility than look. Meaning, a heel high enough to keep the dress the right length, but not stress too much about what it looks like and make sure it’s comfortable. |
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Post by allthekristys on Aug 15, 2024 12:45:48 GMT -6
I love the dress and honestly minimal jewelry I think. Maybe just a bracelet or something because I love the neckline alone I’m with you here. I think I’ll leave the neckline alone because I love it, and I feel like my tattoo adds a lot too. Any big bracelet suggestions? Gold preferably. |
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Post by angelashly on Aug 15, 2024 12:46:08 GMT -6
Yes a bright color with the black While I do love the idea of a bright pop of color, it’s an all-black black-tie affair, so I’ll want to stick to black shoes. I feel like my shoes will be pretty hidden most of the time, so I might go more for utility than look. Meaning, a heel high enough to keep the dress the right length, but not stress too much about what it looks like and make sure it’s comfortable. Ahh then yes I wouldn’t spend a bunch of time there |
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Post by angelashly on Aug 15, 2024 12:47:21 GMT -6
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Post by Sweetjane on Aug 15, 2024 15:05:06 GMT -6
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Post by trueblue on Aug 15, 2024 15:47:40 GMT -6
I love it! Since you want to respectful of the black tie theme I would add in jewel toned pops of color through accessories. I am usually not a beaded handbag kind of person but a fun peacock inspired one would pull in all the right colors and not scream for attention. a.co/d/2bCH8uyPeacock inspired earrings: a.co/d/9KcTHcXa.co/d/a8m8Kl4 |
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Post by trueblue on Aug 15, 2024 15:47:40 GMT -6
I love it! Since you want to respectful of the black tie theme I would add in jewel toned pops of color through accessories. I am usually not a beaded handbag kind of person but a fun peacock inspired one would pull in all the right colors and not scream for attention. a.co/d/2bCH8uyPeacock inspired earrings: a.co/d/9KcTHcXa.co/d/a8m8Kl4Hair would be a classic updo or side swept curls with a hair comb: a.co/d/iL65KM4And I would do a chunky faux bangle stack cuff because I love the look but an Actual stack is sensory overload for me. a.co/d/89Ug36wIf you needed a wrap for later in the evening/after party I would go with a jewel colored wrap sweater (as long as the shoulder with the sleeve didn’t sit weird underneath). |
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Post by sweptaway on Aug 16, 2024 10:48:09 GMT -6
This wedding is a strict plane.
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Post by notblanche on Aug 16, 2024 17:27:32 GMT -6
This wedding is a strict plane. I agree lol. But allthekristys that dress is 🔥 |
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Post by allthekristys on Aug 19, 2024 9:10:07 GMT -6
I was thinking chunky heels too! I love these shoes! Putting them in my amazon cart to save for potential purchase! |
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Post by allthekristys on Aug 19, 2024 9:10:31 GMT -6
I love it! Since you want to respectful of the black tie theme I would add in jewel toned pops of color through accessories. I am usually not a beaded handbag kind of person but a fun peacock inspired one would pull in all the right colors and not scream for attention. a.co/d/2bCH8uyPeacock inspired earrings: a.co/d/9KcTHcXa.co/d/a8m8Kl4I love that purse!! |
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Post by allthekristys on Aug 19, 2024 9:11:19 GMT -6
I am totally leaning into the whole theme for this wedding. It very well may be the fanciest thing I attend in my life. So...why not lean all the way in and have fun with it!
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Post by rachers on Aug 26, 2024 17:57:33 GMT -6
The first dress is gorgeous and I’m glad you didn’t try to dye it. But that second dress is fire on you!
I’d do statement earrings and a chunky bracelet and cocktail ring.
Heels I’d go for comfort since you’re right, you basically won’t see them.
Hair I would do big curls but side swept to one side so the earrings show.
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