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Post by rebeccabunch on Jul 27, 2017 7:50:39 GMT -6
I know pregsomnia is a real thing but I can't seem to get a rested nights sleep.
Between the crazy dreams, needing to pee, temperature changes etc I wake up feeling like I barely slept.
I also have been feeling amped up for a while now, before I even got pregnant with my miscarriage before this one. I'll lay down to go to sleep and my heart will race. I talked to my PCP about it and suggested exploring meds but I have been a high performing type A my whole life and I knew I wanted to get pregnant and thought I'd chill out. I don't get stressed at work or even day to day kid issues it's more when I stop and I'm doing nothing.
Anyone relate but have tips to combat? I really do nothing to focus on relaxing besides vegging out to tv after the boys go to bed.
This kind of took a turn!
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Post by sarahh on Jul 27, 2017 7:53:59 GMT -6
I am right there with you. I feel like I get no sleep. I usually fall asleep on the couch before DD goes to bed and DH wakes me up to go to bed. Last night that was at 12 and I played on my phone for 2 hours. I feel like I got up every few hours to pee and was up for the day at 6:30 before my alarm. I feel like the insomnia started with this pregnancy as soon as I turned a test. With my last I don't remember any insomnia before close to the end of the 3rd tri and only because I couldn't get comfortable.
I need to do something to catch up on my sleep before the baby is here!
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Post by aprilz81 on Jul 27, 2017 8:06:39 GMT -6
I don't have the anxious feelings or heart racing but my sleep isn't the best these days either. Crazy insane dreams and temperature swings (I thought it was just me) are the main culprit, but getting up to pee is creeping in.
Have you tried listening to soothing music (classical, new age, etc.) as you get ready for bed and while you fall asleep? Sometimes that helps calm my mind.
I also know a lot of people find Yoga relaxing (I've not done much) and I've seen routines for "nightime yoga" that might help stretch and calm you.
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Post by marygracerich on Jul 27, 2017 8:12:32 GMT -6
Ok. I will start by saying I have been an insomniac my entire life. The earliest I remember not being able to sleep is maybe 7yo or so. I have had the worst time sleeping since getting pregnant. Worse than usual. Last night G woke me up at 11:20 because she cried. She went right back to sleep. I was up until after 2. Then I was up for the day at 6:30. My biggest problem right now is not being able to get comfortable and worrying that I am harming the baby with the way I sleep. I am generally a stomach sleeper. On the days when I wake up spotting, I feel it's because at some point I laid on my stomach and maybe that caused damage. I try to sleep on my side but it's just not comfortable so I don't stay sleeping. Then as soon as I wake up because I am uncomfortable, I have to pee. It's the worst. The few insomnia tips I have are: 1)Do nothing in your bed besides sleep and/or sex. No tv, no reading. Over time it programs your body into thinking that is the only thing your bed is 4. 2)Try and have some air flow in your bedroom like a fan. It helps you sleep calmer and you have less chance of waking yourself up. 3) I no longer keep the baby monitor on in my room. Every little noise that G made over the monitor used to wake me up. We share a wall. If she is truly upset/crying I will hear it without the monitor. If I think of anything else, I will post it.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Jul 27, 2017 8:21:15 GMT -6
It's nice to know I'm not a lone and these are some good tips! marygracerich H and I used to watch TV downstairs but since I got pregnant I hibernate and watch in our room. I think I may need move that back downstairs. I'm also going to try a no phone within an hour of bed. I think looking at my phone messes with me. For your stomach sleep thing, I know you are a few head of me, but I'm a stomach sleeper too. I found if I put a pillow under me like half way and then roll over it I'm able to sleep on my stomach still. I figured this out with my second and it helped me. It gets to a point where it no longer works but that's not for a while. aprilz81 the soothing sounds thing is a good idea. I've been told meditating really helps but I'm clueless and somewhat skeptical. Someone that meditates come in!
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Post by marygracerich on Jul 27, 2017 8:23:18 GMT -6
I will try that rebeccabunch thanks. I have tried many pillow combos and so far haven't found anything that has worked. 😞
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Post by aprilz81 on Jul 27, 2017 8:28:02 GMT -6
rebeccabunch, for me when I can't sleep the music helps distract my mind. I focus on the music instead of whatever is racing through my mind. My favorite is music that doesn't have a specific rhythm to it (nature sounds or new age music) because then I start tapping my toes or paying attention to the rhythm. The former band geek inside of me even conducts the music with my fingers or toes a lot of the times. But it is certainly worth a shot. If you have Amazon prime they have a music app where you can download some free music and create playlists. I have several "nighttime" lists.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Jul 27, 2017 8:32:29 GMT -6
rebeccabunch, for me when I can't sleep the music helps distract my mind. I focus on the music instead of whatever is racing through my mind. My favorite is music that doesn't have a specific rhythm to it (nature sounds or new age music) because then I start tapping my toes or paying attention to the rhythm. The former band geek inside of me even conducts the music with my fingers or toes a lot of the times. But it is certainly worth a shot. If you have Amazon prime they have a music app where you can download some free music and create playlists. I have several "nighttime" lists. I do! Thank you!!
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Post by maddisonrose on Jul 27, 2017 10:02:54 GMT -6
I am not currently struggling with sleep typically right now, but on the stressful/anxious days this happens to me. I get the sped up heart rate and just over all jitterness from being on the adrenaline edge.
After I had my son I was diagnosed with panic disorder and generalized anxiety disorder so I am definitely no stranger to anxiety. I am also a very type A, and have perfectionist tendencies and clearly having babies does not support those well. But here nor there I have come up with a few strategies that help me with these things (although I am no expert!), I have a strict rule of no phones while in bed, the blue light from the screen increases awakeness and other things that inhibit restorative sleep. I have turned my bedroom into a sanctuary of sorts, we dont hang out in there unless it's to wind down or relax for bed. I diffuse essential oils and while i'm not sure if it's a placebo or real effect, it works for me. I always drink a cup of tea while we watch tv on the couch as part of my routine and also drink this Magnesium Citrate Calm supplement to restore the body. Another avenue that I have tried to take is mindfulness meditation but I fail horribly at making the time to do it enough.
Above all of these things I think it's crucial to be kind to yourself and do as many self care activities as you can possibly fit in. Pregnancy is an extremely hard and stressful time so it should only be natural to struggle in some areas, and it certainly doesn't make you a bad person or mean that your incapable of keeping up with everything. You are definitely not alone, and I send you alll the hugs and hope that you can find some things that work for you
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Post by benandjerrys on Jul 27, 2017 10:21:56 GMT -6
My biggest problem is the peeing. I asked my midwife about it and she recommended leaning forward while peeing. I'm usually able to get a bit more out that way. Just something to try. I keep meaning to drink more in the morning and less at night but it's really hard.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Jul 27, 2017 11:00:11 GMT -6
maddisonrose thank you for taking the time to write that. I feel like there's similarities between the two of us here. Thanks for letting me know about your adjustments and how they have worked. I'm going to do no phone after 8 beginning tonight + tv downstairs and tea early.
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Post by watermelonseed on Jul 27, 2017 11:07:45 GMT -6
Just wanted to say thanks for these tips! I be implementing some right away.
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Post by dragonflyinn on Jul 27, 2017 11:17:27 GMT -6
Thanks for this thread!! I wake up every day feeling as if I haven't slept at all. I'm also having bits of anxiety surrounding my 2yo DD, like I get spun out about possible scenarios of her in danger, etc. for no reason at all (none of those things have happened to her).
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Post by notmoose on Jul 27, 2017 12:27:55 GMT -6
I have struggled with insomnia since my pregnancy with DD (almost 10 years now). When I'm not pregnant I take OTC sleeping pills (generic unisom), but usually cut them out until 3rd tri. So I pretty much don't sleep while pregnant. I wake up feeling so sore and tired every morning.
I don't have much advice unfortunately. Exercise does help my insomnia some.
Sorry you're dealing with it too. Not being able to sleep and not getting good quality sleep sucks.
Eta: I have a fan and a white noise machine in my room. I'm a really light sleeper too, so if I don't have those going every little sound will bother me.
One trick that I do when I'm having a really hard time sleeping is I will think about an old memory and basically relive it in my mind. I'll go step by step what happened and remember the details, I can almost always put myself to sleep that way.
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Post by easternshoregirl on Jul 27, 2017 12:52:27 GMT -6
I totally relate! I will post some strategies when I get on my laptop later.
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Post by easternshoregirl on Jul 27, 2017 12:52:51 GMT -6
I totally relate! I will post some strategies when I get on my laptop later.
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Post by easternshoregirl on Jul 27, 2017 12:53:01 GMT -6
I totally relate! I will post some strategies when I get on my laptop later.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Jul 27, 2017 14:30:31 GMT -6
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Post by rebeccabunch on Jul 27, 2017 14:32:41 GMT -6
I have struggled with insomnia since my pregnancy with DD (almost 10 years now). When I'm not pregnant I take OTC sleeping pills (generic unisom), but usually cut them out until 3rd tri. So I pretty much don't sleep while pregnant. I wake up feeling so sore and tired every morning. I don't have much advice unfortunately. Exercise does help my insomnia some. Sorry you're dealing with it too. Not being able to sleep and not getting good quality sleep sucks. Eta: I have a fan and a white noise machine in my room. I'm a really light sleeper too, so if I don't have those going every little sound will bother me. One trick that I do when I'm having a really hard time sleeping is I will think about an old memory and basically relive it in my mind. I'll go step by step what happened and remember the details, I can almost always put myself to sleep that way. That's some serious insomnia! I'm sorry notmoose! Great tip on the memory thing. I sleep w an eye mask and ear plugs each night (if H is home and we don't hv a baby) so I feel you on the sleep aids!
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Post by wolowizard on Jul 28, 2017 4:55:35 GMT -6
I knew I was pregnant before my missed period because of the insomnia. With DS it didn't start until after I found out I was pregnant. This one started immediately when the egg dropped I feel like. My Fitbit used to register over an hour of deep sleep and now I'm lucky to get 20 minutes. I was waking up for hours MOTN but luckily that's stopped and I just have shitty sleep now. It went away for me in 2nd tri last time so fingers crossed it happens again.
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Post by marygracerich on Jul 28, 2017 5:53:02 GMT -6
I was up from 2:30-5:30 this morning. Needless to say, I'm tired.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Jul 28, 2017 5:55:41 GMT -6
I knew I was pregnant before my missed period because of the insomnia. With DS it didn't start until after I found out I was pregnant. This one started immediately when the egg dropped I feel like. My Fitbit used to register over an hour of deep sleep and now I'm lucky to get 20 minutes. I was waking up for hours MOTN but luckily that's stopped and I just have shitty sleep now. It went away for me in 2nd tri last time so fingers crossed it happens again. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk I got a Fitbit specifically to track my crappy sleep a few years ago but it ended up stressing me out to see exactly how crappy it was so I stopped wearing it at night.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Jul 28, 2017 5:57:30 GMT -6
I was up from 2:30-5:30 this morning. Needless to say, I'm tired. I followed some suggestions and went to sleep easy and was on my until DS2 had an awful night terror that took from 12:30-3 to combat. Kids! I'm really bummed bc I needed a restful night. You too!
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Post by easternshoregirl on Jul 28, 2017 5:57:53 GMT -6
I went through major sleep anxiety after DS was born. I couldn't sleep unless I knew he was sleeping. This was like, the whole time we were nursing...until almost 18 months! I'm hoping things are better for me with #2. I highly recommend ear plugs and an eye mask, I see that was already mentioned. And even use white noise on top of that if you can. When it was really bad, I would use some relaxation recordings to try to help me drift off to a nap, which often worked. I liked some of these: www.dartmouth.edu/~healthed/relax/downloads.htmlDo not keep your phone in the bedroom, if possible. Set it to "do not disturb" if you have to keep it in the room and maybe try to not have it within reach. Definitely don't use it during the night. For me, reading a little bit before bed definitely helps me to wind down. I need to find something to start again, I try to keep it pretty light and the book I just started is way too serious/violent for my bedtime reading! Just experiment and see what helps get you a good night. Sometimes a warm shower helps me wind down too, and a cup of tea but those are not part of my regular routine right now. Not sure if any of this helps but I've also been a "bad" sleeper for as long as I can remember, no wonder my kid hates sleep!
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Post by marygracerich on Jul 28, 2017 5:59:38 GMT -6
I was up from 2:30-5:30 this morning. Needless to say, I'm tired. I followed some suggestions and went to sleep easy and was on my until DS2 had an awful night terror that took from 12:30-3 to combat. Kids! I'm really bummed bc I needed a restful night. You too! I fell asleep around 10:30 so I did get 4 solid hours of sleep. When I got up, I couldn't get comfortable again and then G woke up crying. She fell back to sleep but I couldn't. She has HFM and has had a few rough nights so I expected her to get up. I hope you get some sleep tonight.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Jul 28, 2017 6:01:57 GMT -6
I followed some suggestions and went to sleep easy and was on my until DS2 had an awful night terror that took from 12:30-3 to combat. Kids! I'm really bummed bc I needed a restful night. You too! I fell asleep around 10:30 so I did get 4 solid hours of sleep. When I got up, I couldn't get comfortable again and then G woke up crying. She fell back to sleep but I couldn't. She has HFM and has had a few rough nights so I expected her to get up. I hope you get some sleep tonight. Tonight's our night!
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Post by helloerrbody on Jul 28, 2017 6:17:25 GMT -6
I followed some suggestions and went to sleep easy and was on my until DS2 had an awful night terror that took from 12:30-3 to combat. Kids! I'm really bummed bc I needed a restful night. You too! I fell asleep around 10:30 so I did get 4 solid hours of sleep. When I got up, I couldn't get comfortable again and then G woke up crying. She fell back to sleep but I couldn't. She has HFM and has had a few rough nights so I expected her to get up. I hope you get some sleep tonight. Ugh yours has HFM, too? All my sympathies. It really sucks and I'm over it.
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Post by marygracerich on Jul 28, 2017 6:25:31 GMT -6
I fell asleep around 10:30 so I did get 4 solid hours of sleep. When I got up, I couldn't get comfortable again and then G woke up crying. She fell back to sleep but I couldn't. She has HFM and has had a few rough nights so I expected her to get up. I hope you get some sleep tonight. Ugh yours has HFM, too? All my sympathies. It really sucks and I'm over it. Yeah. She started with a fever two days ago. Then yesterday a rash showed up on her hands, feet and butt. She is barely eating and I found a sore in her mouth. She thankfully didn't get blisters on her hands and feet but I think her mouth really hurts her. I hope your little one feels better soon. My kid is so miserable.
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Post by easternshoregirl on Jul 28, 2017 10:50:29 GMT -6
I got a Fitbit specifically to track my crappy sleep a few years ago but it ended up stressing me out to see exactly how crappy it was so I stopped wearing it at night. We have a sleep number bed that "rates" your night of sleep 1-100....I stopped looking at it during my first pregnancy, it was just depressing!
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Post by marygracerich on Jul 29, 2017 5:27:46 GMT -6
I actually slept last night. I didn't sleep great but it was more than that 4 hours a night I've been getting so I will take it.
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