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Post by elle on Mar 7, 2023 19:34:22 GMT -6
These Dominion drops are certainly something.
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Post by elle on Mar 7, 2023 19:53:48 GMT -6
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Post by imapenguin on Mar 7, 2023 20:02:07 GMT -6
I’m seeing a bunch of threads on Twitter about how kids aren’t as ambitious as they used to be- caring less about grades because they are asking what is the point in the state of the world they will be inheriting and also standardized tests and outdated expectations/skills, AND that Covid has lead to less engaged kids. All seemingly unrelated- anyone notice if something sparked that? This is especially of interest to me with DD1 and grades being absolutely meaningless to her and it really hasn’t occurred to us that this might be more of a generational thing. Social media would be my hypothesis. I’d need to think more to flesh out the why, but there was a big attitude difference between me and my brother, who is 10 years younger than me, as far as grades and what they meant to us and still in how we define success individually. I graduated in 2004 and him in 2014. ETA, none of my kids are of the grade receiving age yet.
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Post by gymngemini on Mar 7, 2023 20:08:38 GMT -6
I’m seeing a bunch of threads on Twitter about how kids aren’t as ambitious as they used to be- caring less about grades because they are asking what is the point in the state of the world they will be inheriting and also standardized tests and outdated expectations/skills, AND that Covid has lead to less engaged kids. All seemingly unrelated- anyone notice if something sparked that? This is especially of interest to me with DD1 and grades being absolutely meaningless to her and it really hasn’t occurred to us that this might be more of a generational thing. Well this is super relevant as my H and I just got finished talking to our oldest about her grades. Her issue is more in that she just doesn't turn things in. Everything that gets graded are basically all A's, but multiple missing assignments in all academic classes. It's been an ongoing thing, but ebbs and flows as to how much is missing. In our case I think they have really backed off hard deadlines so she doesn't feel that need to turn in on the due date. She did say she didn't care when she said she had turned in an assignment that was listed as incomplete and that a bit alarming. It's hard to know how or where/when to push. She's in 7th grade and our district doesn't do letter grades until the 5th/6th building so some of this still feels pretty new. I'm trying to help her understand to learn the time management piece and taling to teachers and advocating for yourself now when everyone is still learning these things vs. high school when it can have some longer term effects. It's hard to say that she's less engaged though. She does have a lot of extra curricular, by her choice, and all of her teachers talk about her class participation, adds her thoughts to discussions, etc. So it's more like she doesn't think she should need to do work outside of school if that makes sense? Which, I can't completely disagree with in a broad sense, but we also have to work in the world we actually live in as well. I'm reeling a bit from the conversation so I apologize if this is rambling and doesn't make sense.
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Post by jaygee on Mar 7, 2023 21:37:53 GMT -6
I had searched for something recently on Reddit and it led me to a teacher sub and now I see a lot of it in my feed. I keep trying not to click on the posts so it goes away but the headlines are always grabbing me. Anyways, granted it’s a bunch of disgruntled teachers but they pretty much all say these kids don’t want to do anything and want everything to happen in the classroom and spoon fed to them. I’d say most of the posts like this are high school and middle school teachers. It’s a bit alarming especially because I’m not there yet and I usually disregard these things as “all previous generations shit on the generations behind them”. But there might be something to it.
We are not in the letter grades realm right now but my son is only moderately interested in reviewing his report cards. He also will tell you that the very minimal amount of homework he has is ruining his life which scares me for middle school. And he already says he’s not going to college when the slightest mention of doing well in school comes up. So fun times ahead!
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Post by beaf12 on Mar 7, 2023 22:42:16 GMT -6
My DD is in 9th and high school has been way better than middle school re: caring about assignments. She is in an AP Environmental science class that she loves and while her math is challenging, she likes the teacher, so she works hard. She has a couple teachers she dislikes, but she is concerned with her overall grades, so she does the required work, but doesn’t participate in class unless necessary.
DS1 is in 7th and it’s a slog. He is keeping up with assignments better now than at the beginning of the year. He has a class that is just for getting work done, like a study hall, but with guidance from a teacher. But he did apparently get very frustrated today with “the idiots in the hallway”. He says kids just are in the hallways making TikTok’s and using swear words and that bothers him. (He is autistic, so rules are a thing). Today he said sometimes he just doesn’t want to live in a world with a bunch of idiots. So I think the hopelessness is pervasive at that age. He does go to therapy and we had a good conversation about how this feeling of hopelessness is a phase and it will get better. We also need this long gloomy winter to subside. By this time every year it seems winter will never end, but then by the end of April we are wearing shorts!
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Post by sifl on Mar 8, 2023 1:10:05 GMT -6
Well as my kid’s therapist said “School is terrible for children.” (Referring to regular public school.) It’s just a training ground to churn out obedient worker bees, and stamp out nonconformity. Maybe the kids are just realizing it’s all bullshit. I mean they have eyes and ears, they saw society disintegrate during Covid. 🤷🏼♀️
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Post by lizblue on Mar 8, 2023 4:31:06 GMT -6
Well as my kid’s therapist said “School is terrible for children.” (Referring to regular public school.) It’s just a training ground to churn out obedient worker bees, and stamp out nonconformity. Maybe the kids are just realizing it’s all bullshit. I mean they have eyes and ears, they saw society disintegrate during Covid. 🤷🏼♀️ What is the non-terrible alternative to “regular public school?”
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Post by dc2london on Mar 8, 2023 6:29:44 GMT -6
I’m seeing a bunch of threads on Twitter about how kids aren’t as ambitious as they used to be- caring less about grades because they are asking what is the point in the state of the world they will be inheriting and also standardized tests and outdated expectations/skills, AND that Covid has lead to less engaged kids. All seemingly unrelated- anyone notice if something sparked that? This is especially of interest to me with DD1 and grades being absolutely meaningless to her and it really hasn’t occurred to us that this might be more of a generational thing. Interesting. I haven't seen that in my kids but one wants to get into TJ so he knows hid grades have to be stellar and one is a people pleaser so he wants the praise that comes with doing his best. DD is too young to really "get" grades but we'll see what she's like as she grows.
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Post by dc2london on Mar 8, 2023 6:32:40 GMT -6
My DD is in 9th and high school has been way better than middle school re: caring about assignments. She is in an AP Environmental science class that she loves and while her math is challenging, she likes the teacher, so she works hard. She has a couple teachers she dislikes, but she is concerned with her overall grades, so she does the required work, but doesn’t participate in class unless necessary. DS1 is in 7th and it’s a slog. He is keeping up with assignments better now than at the beginning of the year. He has a class that is just for getting work done, like a study hall, but with guidance from a teacher. But he did apparently get very frustrated today with “the idiots in the hallway”. He says kids just are in the hallways making TikTok’s and using swear words and that bothers him. (He is autistic, so rules are a thing). Today he said sometimes he just doesn’t want to live in a world with a bunch of idiots. So I think the hopelessness is pervasive at that age. He does go to therapy and we had a good conversation about how this feeling of hopelessness is a phase and it will get better. We also need this long gloomy winter to subside. By this time every year it seems winter will never end, but then by the end of April we are wearing shorts! My oldest has a study hall type period where they can go to any of their classes for extra support as needed and it is amazing. He rarely has to do homework at home bc he gets it all done there or on the bus, and the extra time with his teacher helped him catch up in honors algebra after he was in quarantine.
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Post by bugglesbee on Mar 8, 2023 6:55:07 GMT -6
My DD is in 9th and high school has been way better than middle school re: caring about assignments. She is in an AP Environmental science class that she loves and while her math is challenging, she likes the teacher, so she works hard. She has a couple teachers she dislikes, but she is concerned with her overall grades, so she does the required work, but doesn’t participate in class unless necessary. DS1 is in 7th and it’s a slog. He is keeping up with assignments better now than at the beginning of the year. He has a class that is just for getting work done, like a study hall, but with guidance from a teacher. But he did apparently get very frustrated today with “the idiots in the hallway”. He says kids just are in the hallways making TikTok’s and using swear words and that bothers him. (He is autistic, so rules are a thing). Today he said sometimes he just doesn’t want to live in a world with a bunch of idiots. So I think the hopelessness is pervasive at that age. He does go to therapy and we had a good conversation about how this feeling of hopelessness is a phase and it will get better. We also need this long gloomy winter to subside. By this time every year it seems winter will never end, but then by the end of April we are wearing shorts! My DS is also in 9th and has had a similar experience. Middle school was a struggle. He really didn't seem to understand that it all mattered - the whole Covid thing was also a factor. Now in 9th he has straight A's. DD is in 8th grade and she has always had a harder time - she is trying but missing work is an issue for sure.
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Post by starbuck on Mar 8, 2023 7:19:02 GMT -6
Well as my kid’s therapist said “School is terrible for children.” (Referring to regular public school.) It’s just a training ground to churn out obedient worker bees, and stamp out nonconformity. Maybe the kids are just realizing it’s all bullshit. I mean they have eyes and ears, they saw society disintegrate during Covid. 🤷🏼♀️ This view of the public school system irritates me to no end. I went to public school. I'm sending my kids to public school. Is it perfect? No. But I'm not sending my kids to school just to get them churned out into obedient conformists. What a dismissive reading of the choice parents make. And so, so privileged. It does align with the way my evangelical family members dismiss public schools. Just throw the word "godless" in there and bingo.
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Post by gymngemini on Mar 8, 2023 8:03:39 GMT -6
bugglesbee and beaf12 I appreciate hearing that at least for some kids things turn around in high school. I'm hoping we'll get there too. And she is a really good kid. I think it really boils down to not feeling like she should have to do work outside of school.
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Post by AmyG on Mar 8, 2023 8:08:21 GMT -6
Well as my kid’s therapist said “School is terrible for children.” (Referring to regular public school.) It’s just a training ground to churn out obedient worker bees, and stamp out nonconformity. Maybe the kids are just realizing it’s all bullshit. I mean they have eyes and ears, they saw society disintegrate during Covid. 🤷🏼♀️ This view of the public school system irritates me to no end. I went to public school. I'm sending my kids to public school. Is it perfect? No. But I'm not sending my kids to school just to get them churned out into obedient conformists. What a dismissive reading of the choice parents make. And so, so privileged. It does align with the way my evangelical family members dismiss public schools. Just throw the word "godless" in there and bingo. Yeah without our govt taxed public schools can you imagine the level of chaos our government and society would be in now? Way worse shape than we have now. The alternatives? some are good like my kids dual enrolled public charter school, but again the $ came from govt taxes. Private schools? So many heavy religious or with not so standardized instruction, hey let's teach Latin to make us look good but we don't need art music or pe(there's a couple private schools around here like that) and high tuition costs. Home school? So hit or miss. So your kid comes out of high school with a good education. Or your kid not ever really having history govt economics, having welding jewelry making and super minimal science math and English not the 4 yrs they should have of those classes. Then parent signs off they "graduated" and followed az curriculum standards for az. (That's stb dil her parents homeschooling was wacko)
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Post by AmyG on Mar 8, 2023 8:19:11 GMT -6
bugglesbee and beaf12 I appreciate hearing that at least for some kids things turn around in high school. I'm hoping we'll get there too. And she is a really good kid. I think it really boils down to not feeling like she should have to do work outside of school. There's a lot of burnout associated with the always on culture in jobs. Do your 8 hrs and then you get the late emails and calls at home so you are always thinking of work. You know how that sucks for adults? There's kids who get to feeling the same way about school. School was so reliant on technology during covid and kids were doing a lot of it so for some school felt like always on. some schools are still continuing a lot of extra technology as well as lots and lots of push to get every kid "caught up" There's a lot of pressure. And kids push back on that understandably.
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Post by AmyG on Mar 8, 2023 8:27:19 GMT -6
I think for all kids always they always go thru a stage of don't give a fuck about grades. It might be early to mid elementary or maybe high school where they do the math to determine exactly how much they can miss and still get their target grade that will allow them to fly high enough to not get in trouble with teacher or parent.
Social media for so many kids is way too much. Lots if get rich quick don't go to college it costs too much(neither of mine every thought we could afford college and that was before all the talk of the costs are too high and student loans are a scam crock of shit)
On adult side Right now a voice of a teacher or a handful of teachers commenting on a social media platform about how the kids dont give a care and we think all the kids dont give a care. And freak out that our kids will be failures.
I mean there are the people pleaser kids who it takes a look or small comment and they realize grades do have importance. And adjust.
But most kids have a year or 3 here or there where the idea of grades meaning anything is meh. And honestly, there's years where the grades literally mean nothing in the big picture of the kids life.
Some kids catch onto the grades need to be high enough to pass and not lose TV or extra curricular at home or whatever but that nobody but teachers and moms care if you got an A in 6th grade social studies once you get older.
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Post by AmyG on Mar 8, 2023 8:28:09 GMT -6
Woke early from fire alarm beeping low battery. ^all posts pre coffee. So read with that in mind lol
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Post by byjove on Mar 8, 2023 8:33:39 GMT -6
I’m seeing a bunch of threads on Twitter about how kids aren’t as ambitious as they used to be- caring less about grades because they are asking what is the point in the state of the world they will be inheriting and also standardized tests and outdated expectations/skills, AND that Covid has lead to less engaged kids. All seemingly unrelated- anyone notice if something sparked that? This is especially of interest to me with DD1 and grades being absolutely meaningless to her and it really hasn’t occurred to us that this might be more of a generational thing. Social media would be my hypothesis. I’d need to think more to flesh out the why, but there was a big attitude difference between me and my brother, who is 10 years younger than me, as far as grades and what they meant to us and still in how we define success individually. I graduated in 2004 and him in 2014. ETA, none of my kids are of the grade receiving age yet. I'm not saying that social media isn't a factor, but at least at the ES age, I would say that specific influence would be limited, at least from what I can tell in my area.
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Post by byjove on Mar 8, 2023 8:35:01 GMT -6
I’m seeing a bunch of threads on Twitter about how kids aren’t as ambitious as they used to be- caring less about grades because they are asking what is the point in the state of the world they will be inheriting and also standardized tests and outdated expectations/skills, AND that Covid has lead to less engaged kids. All seemingly unrelated- anyone notice if something sparked that? This is especially of interest to me with DD1 and grades being absolutely meaningless to her and it really hasn’t occurred to us that this might be more of a generational thing. Well this is super relevant as my H and I just got finished talking to our oldest about her grades. Her issue is more in that she just doesn't turn things in. Everything that gets graded are basically all A's, but multiple missing assignments in all academic classes. It's been an ongoing thing, but ebbs and flows as to how much is missing. In our case I think they have really backed off hard deadlines so she doesn't feel that need to turn in on the due date. She did say she didn't care when she said she had turned in an assignment that was listed as incomplete and that a bit alarming. It's hard to know how or where/when to push. She's in 7th grade and our district doesn't do letter grades until the 5th/6th building so some of this still feels pretty new. I'm trying to help her understand to learn the time management piece and taling to teachers and advocating for yourself now when everyone is still learning these things vs. high school when it can have some longer term effects. It's hard to say that she's less engaged though. She does have a lot of extra curricular, by her choice, and all of her teachers talk about her class participation, adds her thoughts to discussions, etc. So it's more like she doesn't think she should need to do work outside of school if that makes sense? Which, I can't completely disagree with in a broad sense, but we also have to work in the world we actually live in as well. I'm reeling a bit from the conversation so I apologize if this is rambling and doesn't make sense. Not rambling at all. This seems to be a very relevant topic though.
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Post by byjove on Mar 8, 2023 8:36:54 GMT -6
Well as my kid’s therapist said “School is terrible for children.” (Referring to regular public school.) It’s just a training ground to churn out obedient worker bees, and stamp out nonconformity. Maybe the kids are just realizing it’s all bullshit. I mean they have eyes and ears, they saw society disintegrate during Covid. 🤷🏼♀️ While there are a lot of problems with public schools generally, I don't agree with the blanket statement of school is terrible for children.
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Post by byjove on Mar 8, 2023 8:39:01 GMT -6
I appreciate all of the anecdotes- this has been really interesting to read! I'm going to keep me eye out for research on this.
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Post by imapenguin on Mar 8, 2023 8:54:57 GMT -6
Social media would be my hypothesis. I’d need to think more to flesh out the why, but there was a big attitude difference between me and my brother, who is 10 years younger than me, as far as grades and what they meant to us and still in how we define success individually. I graduated in 2004 and him in 2014. ETA, none of my kids are of the grade receiving age yet. I'm not saying that social media isn't a factor, but at least at the ES age, I would say that specific influence would be limited, at least from what I can tell in my area. I missed the age group, but I think social media can affect kids even if they aren’t on it just because it affects the way most humans interact with each other now and they’re learning from that whether they’re part of the platforms or not.
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Post by gymngemini on Mar 8, 2023 9:00:39 GMT -6
bugglesbee and beaf12 I appreciate hearing that at least for some kids things turn around in high school. I'm hoping we'll get there too. And she is a really good kid. I think it really boils down to not feeling like she should have to do work outside of school. There's a lot of burnout associated with the always on culture in jobs. Do your 8 hrs and then you get the late emails and calls at home so you are always thinking of work. You know how that sucks for adults? There's kids who get to feeling the same way about school. School was so reliant on technology during covid and kids were doing a lot of it so for some school felt like always on. some schools are still continuing a lot of extra technology as well as lots and lots of push to get every kid "caught up" There's a lot of pressure. And kids push back on that understandably. AmyG you make a lot of good points in both of your posts. I'm still processing through a lot of it. I know my district has dropped a lot of homework specific policies (basically things can be turned in at any point until the grading period ends, most work is expected to be completed during school time). I do wish they had a study hour like some other posters have talked about. I feel like that would help a lot. During her fall sport season they had a study hall time between school and practice. It was helpful. We would definitely approach it differently if we felt like she was struggling with the material as well. For us, she's always been a kid that doesn't want to do anything if it's not fun. So that plays a role. We're not trying to drive out her spirit or turn her into a conformist worker bee, but sometimes life tasks aren't fun. I don't find laundry fun, but we need clean clothes, etc.
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Post by Minerva on Mar 8, 2023 9:13:17 GMT -6
Well as my kid’s therapist said “School is terrible for children.” (Referring to regular public school.) It’s just a training ground to churn out obedient worker bees, and stamp out nonconformity. Maybe the kids are just realizing it’s all bullshit. I mean they have eyes and ears, they saw society disintegrate during Covid. 🤷🏼♀️ While there are a lot of problems with public schools generally, I don't agree with the blanket statement of school is terrible for children. I look back at my years in public school (ES and MS) and remember them as incredibly nurturing and enriching. I was a bit of an oddball nerdy girl who didn’t always fit in as a kid, but my teachers really cared about us and my school had a thriving PTA that supported them (we were a poor rural school, so not a lot of money, but the school formed the foundation of the community). Considering we were in a rural hilltown, the core group of my peers at public school was also a very tolerant and inquisitive crew. The school definitely served as a safety net for kids who were struggling with problems at home or depression/anxiety. I do think that the pandemic has a lot to do with the current situation in MS and HS. I’ve heard the same things from teachers that students are more disengaged than they were 5 years ago. These kids went through a traumatic experience that truly ripped apart the social fabric of their communities. Virtual learning definitely has an impact on so many - it was easier for kids to fall through the cracks and disengage from school without in person connections with peers and teachers. Many parents (myself included, at times) de-emphasized the importance of the routine of school during the pandemic because keeping up with the demands of virtual school was just too much for families. I know my DS needed constant support from me to be able to fully participate and realistically that couldn’t always happen. And the mental health if so many kids and adults was absolutely shredded. Anxiety and depression are a natural barrier to being able to fully engage with school. And now, at least in NOVA, schools are seriously understaffed. So many teachers left during the pandemic to attend to the fires in their own homes and to avoid being in unsafe working conditions. Classes are being taught by long term subs and teachers without any teaching background who are in the process of getting provisional licenses. At a time when students need way more support than usual, they are instead ending up with teachers without the comprehensive training and experience needed to deal with the current challenges. byjove, I think that a lot of these problems can be exacerbated at the mega-huge middle and high schools that we have in NOVA. It’s something I definitely worry about for my kids since they both have IEPs. There are so many opportunities offered for kids who are engaged and who are advanced academically, but it’s also easier for kids to fall through the cracks if they have learning differences or struggle with mental health. It takes a lot of parent involvement to liaise with the school and keep kids afloat in those situations and realistically, not all families have the time and resources to make it work. 😔
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Post by notblanche on Mar 8, 2023 9:27:27 GMT -6
To be fair, student loans are a scam.
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Post by notblanche on Mar 8, 2023 9:33:46 GMT -6
My kid cares about his grades, and he does get letter grades, but he's only in first grade. He's also already asking for a phone and he asked me yesterday when he could get on TikTok. Not anytime soon, child. You're six. But I'm learning a lot from y'all sharing your experiences with older kids.
He went to private kindergarten and now he's in public school in an under-performing urban district. I went to public school in two under-performing rural districts, and I spent a couple of years in private school k-2. I would choose public school for my family every time.
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Post by AmyG on Mar 8, 2023 9:36:33 GMT -6
I'm not saying that social media isn't a factor, but at least at the ES age, I would say that specific influence would be limited, at least from what I can tell in my area. I missed the age group, but I think social media can affect kids even if they aren’t on it just because it affects the way most humans interact with each other now and they’re learning from that whether they’re part of the platforms or not. Yeah because of social media how parents are looking at their kids has changed. Some good some bad. I think all kids always they all go thru a stage of don't give a fuck about grades. Because it's not like direct money or chocolate or power or knowledge they crave, it might be the grunt work they all have to slog through that's bogged down their inborn quest for knowledge. Right now a voice of a teacher or a handful of teachers commenting on a social media platform about how the kids dont give a care and now we worry all the kids dont give a care. there are the people pleaser kids who it takes a look or small comment and they realize grades do have importance. And adjust. But most kids have a year or 3 here or there where the idea of grades meaning shit is meh. And honestly, there's years where the grades literally mean nothing in the big picture of the kids life. Some kids catch onto the grades need to be high enough to pass and not lose TV or extra curricular at home or whatever but that nobody but teachers and moms care if you got an A in 6th grade social studies once you graduate.
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Post by AmyG on Mar 8, 2023 9:39:38 GMT -6
But if not friend why friend shaped? That is certsinly an age old question. Dh loves all cats and we believe his last words if he could like go to Africa would be here kitty kitty to big wild lion, with murder mittens.
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Post by willow on Mar 8, 2023 10:15:55 GMT -6
Woof what a thing to say about public schools. I imagine the educators on this board would feel pretty strongly about being insulted like that.
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Post by dc2london on Mar 8, 2023 10:53:11 GMT -6
While there are a lot of problems with public schools generally, I don't agree with the blanket statement of school is terrible for children. I look back at my years in public school (ES and MS) and remember them as incredibly nurturing and enriching. I was a bit of an oddball nerdy girl who didn’t always fit in as a kid, but my teachers really cared about us and my school had a thriving PTA that supported them (we were a poor rural school, so not a lot of money, but the school formed the foundation of the community). Considering we were in a rural hilltown, the core group of my peers at public school was also a very tolerant and inquisitive crew. The school definitely served as a safety net for kids who were struggling with problems at home or depression/anxiety. I do think that the pandemic has a lot to do with the current situation in MS and HS. I’ve heard the same things from teachers that students are more disengaged than they were 5 years ago. These kids went through a traumatic experience that truly ripped apart the social fabric of their communities. Virtual learning definitely has an impact on so many - it was easier for kids to fall through the cracks and disengage from school without in person connections with peers and teachers. Many parents (myself included, at times) de-emphasized the importance of the routine of school during the pandemic because keeping up with the demands of virtual school was just too much for families. I know my DS needed constant support from me to be able to fully participate and realistically that couldn’t always happen. And the mental health if so many kids and adults was absolutely shredded. Anxiety and depression are a natural barrier to being able to fully engage with school. And now, at least in NOVA, schools are seriously understaffed. So many teachers left during the pandemic to attend to the fires in their own homes and to avoid being in unsafe working conditions. Classes are being taught by long term subs and teachers without any teaching background who are in the process of getting provisional licenses. At a time when students need way more support than usual, they are instead ending up with teachers without the comprehensive training and experience needed to deal with the current challenges. byjove, I think that a lot of these problems can be exacerbated at the mega-huge middle and high schools that we have in NOVA. It’s something I definitely worry about for my kids since they both have IEPs. There are so many opportunities offered for kids who are engaged and who are advanced academically, but it’s also easier for kids to fall through the cracks if they have learning differences or struggle with mental health. It takes a lot of parent involvement to liaise with the school and keep kids afloat in those situations and realistically, not all families have the time and resources to make it work. 😔 My oldest is at one of the biggest schools in the county and if this gives you any peace of mind, they take a lot of steps to keep the close tabs on kids like a smaller school can. I hear from his counselor and homeroom teacher routinely, the lines of communication are wide open with all of his teachers, and we have full visibility into the grade books so I can keep an eye on his progress as much as I want to. Even though the school itself is enormous, he says his grade level team feels small and cohesive.
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